FabSwingers.com forum: Could do better / will go far

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Were you ever told this at school?

And did you, eventually 'do better' ..not just better, but better beyond the wildest dreams of the teachers that were exasperated with you, whilst at school?

On the other hand, were someone who was expected to 'go far', only to find you didn't? Or, at least, not as far as you hoped?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

The less said about my schooldays the better tbh

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I was once told that I set myself low standards and fail to live up to them.

I was told to start looking for work as soon as I leave school because I wouldn't get into a university. Surprisingly, I went to university straight after leaving school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did incredibly well at school until my final year.

All the shit I'd been bottling up finally exploded in my brain and I went off the rails a bit, drinking, drugs, stopped bothering with coursework or revision...

I was always met with high praise from my teachers and told I'd go far...but that final year I fucked up horribly and my exam results showed it.

I tried to make up for it with a levels but failed miserably...

I used to regret it...but realise now it was never a choice, I was mentally ill and needed help.

The teachers were wrong...i could go far...but I wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always an over achiever, always great grades, great reports, mt teachers loved me.

Not much has changed. But at a cost. I beat myself up if my academic performance is less that what I deem perfect. And now my self worth is linked to how well I'm performing. Which isn't great.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did incredibly well at school until my final year.

All the shit I'd been bottling up finally exploded in my brain and I went off the rails a bit, drinking, drugs, stopped bothering with coursework or revision...

I was always met with high praise from my teachers and told I'd go far...but that final year I fucked up horribly and my exam results showed it.

I tried to make up for it with a levels but failed miserably...

I used to regret it...but realise now it was never a choice, I was mentally ill and needed help.

The teachers were wrong...i could go far...but I wouldn't

It's unfortunate really how much stock is placed in final year exams, as a such a determining factor of life, at such a young age.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was always an over achiever, always great grades, great reports, mt teachers loved me.

Not much has changed. But at a cost. I beat myself up if my academic performance is less that what I deem perfect. And now my self worth is linked to how well I'm performing. Which isn't great. "

Perfectionism: it's a common condition, I believe - particularly, among high-achievers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was always an over achiever, always great grades, great reports, mt teachers loved me.

Not much has changed. But at a cost. I beat myself up if my academic performance is less that what I deem perfect. And now my self worth is linked to how well I'm performing. Which isn't great.

Perfectionism: it's a common condition, I believe - particularly, among high-achievers.

Yepp, that's what my eating disorder therapist used to tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My school reports always said the same thing.

*Has the potential but doesn't use it*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was all ways could do better. The frustration some of my teachers had was pretty obvious. My frustration was, unbeknown to me, all consuming only to be discovered later in life along with ADHD, OCD and dyslexia. If I think about it too much it really pisses me off, especially all the "he's lazy" comments when at least one of them should've spotted something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did incredibly well at school until my final year.

All the shit I'd been bottling up finally exploded in my brain and I went off the rails a bit, drinking, drugs, stopped bothering with coursework or revision...

I was always met with high praise from my teachers and told I'd go far...but that final year I fucked up horribly and my exam results showed it.

I tried to make up for it with a levels but failed miserably...

I used to regret it...but realise now it was never a choice, I was mentally ill and needed help.

The teachers were wrong...i could go far...but I wouldn't

It's unfortunate really how much stock is placed in final year exams, as a such a determining factor of life, at such a young age. "

Totally agree!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

My high school teachers were all convinced i'd either go into politics or become a high powered lawyer. They were a bit surprised when they discovered I went into healthcare instead

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

My report allways said works to the best of her ability lol x

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I was always could do better.

Took my O levels a year early, failed most of them and then was diagnosed with dyslexia.

Went into a fairly mundane industry but have done pretty well for myself.

I always tell the children, as long as they do their best I am happy.

If they try hard but don't do well in exams, it's not the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes spent the whole of my school life being told I was a failure. Left handed and actually received physical punishment several times a day for using my left hand for the first 3 years, they then give up trying to force me to be right handed, my schooling lagged and I hated the whole school experience.

Joined the army at 16, never looked back, several promotions during a 24y career and returned to civvy street a much more productive member of society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The less said about my schooldays the better tbh

Mine too

Worst days of my life!

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Mine once said (if he wasn’t trying to be the school gigolo he would do well)

I had to ask my mum what a gigolo was so they may of had a point!!!

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