FabSwingers.com forum: Left unread...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello all

I hope you are all having a great evening.

Since joining 90% of the messages I send remain unread or deleted. I always make sure I read profiles and if I can, include something in the message to show this.

Am I missing a trick that more experienced fab members might be able enlighten me with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I haven't read it, it means I forgotten about it

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

If mine are unread I just haven't gotten to it normally or my inbox is really full and being made its way through

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I haven't read it, it means I forgotten about it"

Thank you for your reply.

So It needs to be more interesting? What would make someone not forgettable to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If mine are unread I just haven't gotten to it normally or my inbox is really full and being made its way through"

TY for replying, I will try be more patient then too

I always worry I'm missing someone thing, or not saying the right things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happens to the other 12% of you messages Op ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happens to the other 12% of you messages Op ?"

* your

* 14%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested "

Thats very interesting, thank you...

Maybe it's the beard? Haha

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested "

this every time ... i never read a message with out a look at the profile ..crap profile no reply ...ill leave them a little while then delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So.. I often glance. Unread. Coke back later. Don’t miss replying. That may happen several times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important "

I spat my tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What happens to the other 12% of you messages Op ?

* your

* 14%"

It would be 10%, some are successful interesting conversations, others don't work out sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important "

All of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

Thats very interesting, thank you...

Maybe it's the beard? Haha"

the pics dont make sense ones a scalp the other you say is a beard ?? looks weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

this every time ... i never read a message with out a look at the profile ..crap profile no reply ...ill leave them a little while then delete"

Give them false hope, good thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important "

Hahaha!! A very interesting insight ty

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important

I spat my tea

Thank fuck it wasn't gin, can't be wasting it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important

I spat my tea

Thank fuck it wasn't gin, can't be wasting it! "

I never waste good alcohol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

Thats very interesting, thank you...

Maybe it's the beard? Haha

the pics dont make sense ones a scalp the other you say is a beard ?? looks weird

Okay, thank you very much

Maybe I'll show my dad bod figure Instead haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

this every time ... i never read a message with out a look at the profile ..crap profile no reply ...ill leave them a little while then delete

Give them false hope, good thinking "

hows that false hope ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cpls and single fems recieve a rediculous amount of messages every single day. Most of us bulk delete as there is no way we can reply to everyone. There is nothing personal in doing this. We just cannot keep up. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important

I spat my tea

Thank fuck it wasn't gin, can't be wasting it!

I never waste good alcohol "

Agreed haha.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"They can't be arsed.

They checked out your profile before opening the message and already decided they weren't interested.

They lost their reading glasses.

They still couldn't be arsed.

They read a few messages and most of them were from disrespectful spunkwazzocks so decided they'd had enough message reading for one day.

They sharted and the clean up project was more important

I spat my tea

Thank fuck it wasn't gin, can't be wasting it!

I never waste good alcohol "

How about spunk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

Thats very interesting, thank you...

Maybe it's the beard? Haha

the pics dont make sense ones a scalp the other you say is a beard ?? looks weird

Okay, thank you very much

Maybe I'll show my dad bod figure Instead haha"

nothing wrong with a dad bod alot of women on fab like them

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The best thing you can do OP is stop checking your sent messages to see if they've been read or not, or better still delete them from your sent box - it helps save the angst over whether a message has been read or not - which you'll never know anyway as messages can be marked "unread" after reading them.

As has been mentioned a lot of people will read your profile before even opening a message and decide if there is interest based on that - so make sure your profile and pics are as appealing as you can make them.

Then remember this - if you walk down the street, you're probably attracted to around 10% of the people you encounter, and of that 10% probably 5% will be similarly attracted to you - it's no different here.

Also dependent on whether they use filters or not, some ladies here can get hundreds of messages a week - so it's understandable how yours may not get read or how you may get overlooked given the wealth of potential choice.

Finally, messaging profiles "blind" isn't the only approach to the site - the chat rooms and forums are a good way to get to know people and get yourself known, and COVID aside when they're running again group socials and clubs are another option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I check profiles first and never open a message if not interested

this every time ... i never read a message with out a look at the profile ..crap profile no reply ...ill leave them a little while then delete

Give them false hope, good thinking

hows that false hope ?? "

Tough crowd tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a pretty tough gig on here for single guys OP. Obviously it ultimately comes down to whether someone fancies you to get a reply, but the pointers I'd give to at least getting the message read are attach a pic (ideally face) and lead with something intriguingly. If there's no attachment and the preview line shows it just says something basic, there's not much point opening it. Also, bear in mind people shouldn't be meeting just now so maybe people are just neglecting their Fab-min a bit

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