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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset

So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance? "

You’re very young. That probably affects it quite a lot

HC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance? "

Some people have their heads stuffed firmly up their a-hole.

We answer EVERY message according to how much our profile's been read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance? "

Covid

Oh and Christmas

People on here are real people

Theyre busy. Lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Take a look in the mirror fab is a tiny part of your life

We have had a bad year the virus etc you are gorgeous very handsome be selective and pick wisely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you say to them in your message?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What did you say to them in your message?

"

Fancy a fuck

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

What made your message stand out from the dozens of others that will have arrived in all of those inboxes on the same day OP?

Personally, I'd take one look at your age and delete straight away because you're way younger than my lower age limit.

If by some miracle I had looked at your profile before responding then your profile wording would have put me off and resulted in a deleted message also.

In my opinion you're an attractive guy OP...there are lots of threads offering advice to single guys if you search the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? If you’d have messaged us, a) it’d be a week I too I hit to it and b) we wouldn’t have been attracted to you. That said, for that Brea’s on we don’t allow men to contact us, but we do still still and wink at them (because everyone loves winks) or message.

But if you work out time, people. Etc there would be some people we wanted to meet but just wouldn’t have time to meet everyone we wanted.

Sorry if that sounds bad. Sorry, sugar coating isn’t my thing. It’s just the law of averages. It’s exactly why as a man in tinder I even bother looking at the screen as I swipe. There’s just no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck "

Yes please!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please! "

Not us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“I’d destroy you” was one we got. Not with what we had he wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck "

Straight to the point & humouress with it

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Straight to the point & humouress with it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please!

Not just us"

Like an orgy then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side. The experiment proved that fabswingers still work in the same way as it always has done.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please!

Not just us

Like an orgy then? "

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please!

Not just us

Like an orgy then?

No"

Is this like when no means no?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please!

Not just us

Like an orgy then?

No

Is this like when no means no?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did you say to them in your message?

Fancy a fuck

Yes please!

Not just us

Like an orgy then?

No

Is this like when no means no?"

Like I'm not hungry I don't want chips ----- can I have one of your chips....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like when you make a very important choice to either come across as twat or try not to follow the stereotype that causes us to block men and delete messages.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

OP are you reading the replys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?"

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

What does “I’m very optimistic with sex” on your profile mean OP? (Not commenting on your profile, just confused)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you reading the replys"

That’s why you probably didn’t get replies. Imagine hundreds like that a week.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

"

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does “I’m very optimistic with sex” on your profile mean OP? (Not commenting on your profile, just confused) "

“I think I can. I think I can. I think I can” is what came to

Mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right."

Tiger print microthong?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? "

tutt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt"

Tell me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you use a personalised message for each couple or lady or did you just use copy and paste ? .

Going by the amount of people you messaged in one night I’m thinking copy and paste which may be why you got deleted .

Other possibility is age or crap messages .

It’s the same for most SINGLE guys on here . If you ain’t bringing a “ bottle” to the party you prob ain’t getting an invite if you catch my drift lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me! "

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Jesus where to start?

Pandemic

Xmas

Can't be arsed

Didn't like your profile pic.

Didn't like your profile bio.

Were having a shit and needed to waddle to get a fresh loo roll so thought they'd come back to it later but forgot.

Sooooo many reasons beyond your control that they may not have responded.

Things you CAN control:

The content of your message.

Who you send it to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you "

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later...."

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He chose poorly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

No"

I KNOW you want my chips!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

No

I KNOW you want my hole;-) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

No

I KNOW you want my hole;-)

"

That wasn't a no....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

No

I KNOW you want my hole;-)

That wasn't a no...."

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP are you ready for an orgy?

I'm gonna buy some gorgeous knickers today guess the colour get it right.

Tiger print microthong? tutt

Tell me!

You know I get emails from people saying I love the way you and him flirt no I'm not telling you

Sexual chemistry, right?

Even better, show me later....

No

I KNOW you want my hole;-)

That wasn't a no....

Maybe "

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

S t a l l I o n

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"S t a l l I o n"

*l

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

As Princess Peach says - control the things you can control.

Good grammar and language are valued by people, so ensure your profile (and presumably messages) have these. Whilst not the worst I've read there are quite a few things you could correct.

I'd suggest "I can be picky but this is rare" doesn't give a great impression.

Obviously you will only mail profiles that appeal to you, but try and choose profiles that appear compatible with yours in terms of age, geographical location and desires.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, a few things to consider...

Profile name: That's going to put people off. For some, that's the first check. It's why people with user names like "MingeHunter69" are still... hunting.

Age: Not everyone want a young lad. Nothing you can do about that.

Image: It's not just about how you look, but how you project. You may be writing to people that are not a good fit for you.

Can you accommodate? If you can't, the conversation can, and often does, stop. Are you local? How far away are you from each other? Is it practical? Are you too close to home?

There are lots of reasons OP... if your message is read, consider it a bonus if anything becomes of it. The reality is most messages are not read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple really, the ratio!

Imagine you was on a site where women greater out numbered men, would you answer all your messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you wrote an engaging first message which was related to my profile, I'd view your profile first before reading it.

I'd delete without reading since you're way too young for me, and your bio and dick photos put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if you wrote an engaging first message which was related to my profile, I'd view your profile first before reading it.

I'd delete without reading since you're way too young for me, and your bio and dick photos put me off."

Presumably though, if he'd read your profile he'd only have written to you because he was within your preferences, wouldn't he?

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

You’re very young. That probably affects it quite a lot

HC "

I am a little young to some I agree but even the age range I messaged was 18-50 x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

Some people have their heads stuffed firmly up their a-hole.

We answer EVERY message according to how much our profile's been read."

Wow I wish people was more like you! And I totally agree x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Take a look in the mirror fab is a tiny part of your life

We have had a bad year the virus etc you are gorgeous very handsome be selective and pick wisely xx"

Thank you, yeah I agree but not even to reply?!

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"What did you say to them in your message?

"

All the messages were different as it was custom to their profile and Interests

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"What made your message stand out from the dozens of others that will have arrived in all of those inboxes on the same day OP?

Personally, I'd take one look at your age and delete straight away because you're way younger than my lower age limit.

If by some miracle I had looked at your profile before responding then your profile wording would have put me off and resulted in a deleted message also.

In my opinion you're an attractive guy OP...there are lots of threads offering advice to single guys if you search the forum. "

Wow I didn’t realise my profile wording was bad as well! Maybe I just need a do over but I find it hard to write a decent profile without all the info, you know?

Perhaps my age does ruin most things on fab

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Honestly? If you’d have messaged us, a) it’d be a week I too I hit to it and b) we wouldn’t have been attracted to you. That said, for that Brea’s on we don’t allow men to contact us, but we do still still and wink at them (because everyone loves winks) or message.

But if you work out time, people. Etc there would be some people we wanted to meet but just wouldn’t have time to meet everyone we wanted.

Sorry if that sounds bad. Sorry, sugar coating isn’t my thing. It’s just the law of averages. It’s exactly why as a man in tinder I even bother looking at the screen as I swipe. There’s just no point. "

Ok thank you for your feedback x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"What does “I’m very optimistic with sex” on your profile mean OP? (Not commenting on your profile, just confused) "

So I was trying to say that I’m very open minded when it comes to sex. I’m up for anything and love trying new things and ideas. That what I thought it meant anyway

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By *uietly torturedCouple
over a year ago

walkden


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance? "

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us. "

Point taken, and I would think along the same lines. But, he is probably in tier 1 and he doesn't detail meeting how and for what, so maybe benefit of the doubt.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us. "

And reporting

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Did you use a personalised message for each couple or lady or did you just use copy and paste ? .

Going by the amount of people you messaged in one night I’m thinking copy and paste which may be why you got deleted .

Other possibility is age or crap messages .

It’s the same for most SINGLE guys on here . If you ain’t bringing a “ bottle” to the party you prob ain’t getting an invite if you catch my drift lol

"

When I say night I meant a good couple hours reading profile last and messaging away. I don’t copy and paste and yes its just a reason to be deleted perhaps it’s my profile and my age

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Jesus where to start?

Pandemic

Xmas

Can't be arsed

Didn't like your profile pic.

Didn't like your profile bio.

Were having a shit and needed to waddle to get a fresh loo roll so thought they'd come back to it later but forgot.

Sooooo many reasons beyond your control that they may not have responded.

Things you CAN control:

The content of your message.

Who you send it to.

"

Thank you for your Feedback perhaps I need a profile makeover

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By *uietly torturedCouple
over a year ago

walkden


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us.

And reporting "

Was giving him the benefit of doubt since he doesn't actually say meet now. That one little word would have indeed meant a report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you use a personalised message for each couple or lady or did you just use copy and paste ? .

Going by the amount of people you messaged in one night I’m thinking copy and paste which may be why you got deleted .

Other possibility is age or crap messages .

It’s the same for most SINGLE guys on here . If you ain’t bringing a “ bottle” to the party you prob ain’t getting an invite if you catch my drift lol

When I say night I meant a good couple hours reading profile last and messaging away. I don’t copy and paste and yes its just a reason to be deleted perhaps it’s my profile and my age "

The first few pics ain’t doing you any favours , dick pics ain’t appreciated as much as you would think amigo plus you say in profile that you are picky but then state that’s very rarely an issue , so that’s confusing and makes it sound like you will sleep with anyone .

Yeah prof needs some work dude

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"As Princess Peach says - control the things you can control.

Good grammar and language are valued by people, so ensure your profile (and presumably messages) have these. Whilst not the worst I've read there are quite a few things you could correct.

I'd suggest "I can be picky but this is rare" doesn't give a great impression.

Obviously you will only mail profiles that appeal to you, but try and choose profiles that appear compatible with yours in terms of age, geographical location and desires.

"

Thank you buddy, I think my profile needs to be changed

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Okay, a few things to consider...

Profile name: That's going to put people off. For some, that's the first check. It's why people with user names like "MingeHunter69" are still... hunting.

Age: Not everyone want a young lad. Nothing you can do about that.

Image: It's not just about how you look, but how you project. You may be writing to people that are not a good fit for you.

Can you accommodate? If you can't, the conversation can, and often does, stop. Are you local? How far away are you from each other? Is it practical? Are you too close to home?

There are lots of reasons OP... if your message is read, consider it a bonus if anything becomes of it. The reality is most messages are not read."

Yeah these are really good points, everyone’s got some great points

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Even if you wrote an engaging first message which was related to my profile, I'd view your profile first before reading it.

I'd delete without reading since you're way too young for me, and your bio and dick photos put me off."

Ok thank you, it’s a hard one with dick pics and that bc I never used to but I got a few messages saying I should put them on my profile as it’s what this site is for, so I did it maybe I should take them off

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us. "

Ok thanks guys for the feedback

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us.

And reporting

Was giving him the benefit of doubt since he doesn't actually say meet now. That one little word would have indeed meant a report. "

Exactly, no body meets without actually chatting first right? The status I put was aimed for people who were up for meeting when we was allowed, assuming people who see this message would message me that they were up for meeting when safe to do so....

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Did you use a personalised message for each couple or lady or did you just use copy and paste ? .

Going by the amount of people you messaged in one night I’m thinking copy and paste which may be why you got deleted .

Other possibility is age or crap messages .

It’s the same for most SINGLE guys on here . If you ain’t bringing a “ bottle” to the party you prob ain’t getting an invite if you catch my drift lol

When I say night I meant a good couple hours reading profile last and messaging away. I don’t copy and paste and yes its just a reason to be deleted perhaps it’s my profile and my age

The first few pics ain’t doing you any favours , dick pics ain’t appreciated as much as you would think amigo plus you say in profile that you are picky but then state that’s very rarely an issue , so that’s confusing and makes it sound like you will sleep with anyone .

Yeah prof needs some work dude "

Thanks buddy for the feed back

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

The fact that your status is "Anyone up for meeting?" in the middle of a pandemic would be enough for us to delete the message unread probably block as well if you'd sent it to us.

And reporting

Was giving him the benefit of doubt since he doesn't actually say meet now. That one little word would have indeed meant a report.

Exactly, no body meets without actually chatting first right? The status I put was aimed for people who were up for meeting when we was allowed, assuming people who see this message would message me that they were up for meeting when safe to do so...."

Ohhhhhh, I'd have thought if you were looking to chat then you'd have asked if anybody wanted a chat. Fuck me I can be dense at times.

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By *aulj69Man
over a year ago

dunstable

Hi, I've been around this scene as both a couple and more recently a single guy in an open relationship, I once had a body like you, Lol. As a bisexual guy feel I can comment here, yes as said you are young so generally this maybe an issue for some and single guys tend to be lower down everyone's wants?. But I honestly think your profile is good as are your choice of photos, the one thing I might change is the use of 'I am Handsome' may seem a bit cocksure. Keep trying, update your status regular without being too crude or desperate and keep posting new threads on the forums. I've had replies and chat from them. Hope I've given you some useful tips.Oh and if you were slightly older,slightly nearer and gay/ bi then YES PLEASE X. Paul

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

You’re very young. That probably affects it quite a lot

HC

I am a little young to some I agree but even the age range I messaged was 18-50 x"

Is that the ages of the profiles you messaged? Or the preferences of the profiles you messaged? There’s an important difference. I’m in the 18-50 age range, but my preference is 28-45.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

OP it's a numbers game, in normal times on here.

During a pandemic all bets are off.

You're an attractive man and I've seen worse profiles so just keep trying and stay positive.

Take some the advice given above on board and don't take this place or yourself too seriously.

Good luck!

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By *uietly torturedCouple
over a year ago

walkden


"

Exactly, no body meets without actually chatting first right? The status I put was aimed for people who were up for meeting when we was allowed, assuming people who see this message would message me that they were up for meeting when safe to do so...."

With some people possibly being a bit trigger happy with reports (due to the number of single guys messaging asking for meets. They really do no chat first or anything)

Means it's best for sensible guys like you to be very clear about things.

By the way if you're ever in Manchester I sure if you were in the same club as us the quiet one would be giving me the signal to invite you to join us.

Best of luck stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can offer a new angle. This is a swingers site ( or should be) so why is there so many single guys using?? Its free. Simple as that.

But the lucky fucker relaxing in the Carribesn on your 5 quid memberships is loving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may not be what they’re looking for

Simple

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"Hi, I've been around this scene as both a couple and more recently a single guy in an open relationship, I once had a body like you, Lol. As a bisexual guy feel I can comment here, yes as said you are young so generally this maybe an issue for some and single guys tend to be lower down everyone's wants?. But I honestly think your profile is good as are your choice of photos, the one thing I might change is the use of 'I am Handsome' may seem a bit cocksure. Keep trying, update your status regular without being too crude or desperate and keep posting new threads on the forums. I've had replies and chat from them. Hope I've given you some useful tips.Oh and if you were slightly older,slightly nearer and gay/ bi then YES PLEASE X. Paul"

Thank you I really appreciate that x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"So a couple of nights ago I decided to message around 25-30 different users, couples and females. Now to my “surprise” 17 to 18 profiles I messaged just deleted my message with no response and the others either have left me on read or haven’t opened my message.

Can I seriously be that unattractive and uninteresting that I’m just constantly deleted?!

I don’t understand why this site is so hopeless for talking to people or meeting people?! I’m very genuine and always relate my messages to their profile, so what can be the cause of this constant delete and ignorance?

You’re very young. That probably affects it quite a lot

HC

I am a little young to some I agree but even the age range I messaged was 18-50 x

Is that the ages of the profiles you messaged? Or the preferences of the profiles you messaged? There’s an important difference. I’m in the 18-50 age range, but my preference is 28-45."

Yeah it’s in their age preference x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"OP it's a numbers game, in normal times on here.

During a pandemic all bets are off.

You're an attractive man and I've seen worse profiles so just keep trying and stay positive.

Take some the advice given above on board and don't take this place or yourself too seriously.

Good luck!"

Thank you x

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By *tallion6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

somerset


"

Exactly, no body meets without actually chatting first right? The status I put was aimed for people who were up for meeting when we was allowed, assuming people who see this message would message me that they were up for meeting when safe to do so....

With some people possibly being a bit trigger happy with reports (due to the number of single guys messaging asking for meets. They really do no chat first or anything)

Means it's best for sensible guys like you to be very clear about things.

By the way if you're ever in Manchester I sure if you were in the same club as us the quiet one would be giving me the signal to invite you to join us.

Best of luck stay safe "

Wow thank you very much guys xx

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