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Safe sex and STD's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you have safe sex with a person you were attracted to (looks and personality) who told you they had an STD?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what watch she’s wearing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what watch she’s wearing. "

Lmfao, very funny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

No thanks x....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Antibiotics don't take that long to work do they. I'll wait.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

No I wouldn't - but then if it was the kind of person I tend to meet, they'd also have told me the treatment they were taking for it and when it would be safe to resume at a later date

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree with you guys as well, it's a no for me as well. I think it's unfortunate ppl contact these diseases especially if it's not there fault like cheating partners, a condom slipped or something of the sort.

But yea I'm not into risking my sexual health. It makes no sense to have a good body, mind and risk contracting an STD to be honest with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you guys as well, it's a no for me as well. I think it's unfortunate ppl contact these diseases especially if it's not there fault like cheating partners, a condom slipped or something of the sort.

But yea I'm not into risking my sexual health. It makes no sense to have a good body, mind and risk contracting an STD to be honest with you."

All sexual contact is risky to an extent though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had.. Or had had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you guys as well, it's a no for me as well. I think it's unfortunate ppl contact these diseases especially if it's not there fault like cheating partners, a condom slipped or something of the sort.

But yea I'm not into risking my sexual health. It makes no sense to have a good body, mind and risk contracting an STD to be honest with you."

Unless you abstain, you are risking your sexual health. Not everything has symptoms nor is stopped by condoms

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Had.. Or had had? "

Yes the exact wording of the last comment by the OP makes it seem like this is a response to a comment I made on another post. I was responding to someone saying they wouldn't have sex with someone who had ever had an STI at any time in their life. I didn't mean I would sleep with someone who told me they had an active sexually transmitted infection . Not waiting for it to be treated is just foolish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had.. Or had had?

Yes the exact wording of the last comment by the OP makes it seem like this is a response to a comment I made on another post. I was responding to someone saying they wouldn't have sex with someone who had ever had an STI at any time in their life. I didn't mean I would sleep with someone who told me they had an active sexually transmitted infection . Not waiting for it to be treated is just foolish. "

Agreed Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s a follow up question though.. for everyone please.

Would you sleep with someone who is HIV+, but they are undetectable and they have good adherence to their medication? Now when I say sleep with, I mean that as two questions. Would you safe? Would you bare?

Got your answer?

Is it no? Ok.. so if I was to then tell you there is 0% chance of catching HIV from that person, no matter what kinky shit you get up to, and that sleeping with someone who has HIV and is

Undetectable is much safter than someone who gets tested ever 3 months.

PrEP is also 0% chance. If you swing and you’re not on PrEP yet? Why not? £30 a month on private prescription and should be coming out IV the NHS at some point (Covid delayed it) and we’re all considered high risk to qualify.

Evidence is all here. Read it or don’t read it. Believe it or believe it. Whatever you choose to do. But the great thing about facts is that they are true whether or not you choose to believe them. We landed on the moon. Australians aren’t actors. Donald trump lost the election and Jeffery Epstein didn’t kill himself.

To answer your question though I would say, Why the fuck does it matter? As long as they are informing you if are going to be at risk (psst, they’re not required to by law to inform you of any medical conditions as they make reasonable attempts for your safety I.e. a condom. If it breaks, it’s not their fault. legally speaking) or they no longer putting you at risk; you’re fine.

Fuck me. That’s two sensible posts I’ve made in a row.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger. Forgot the link https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/about-hiv/viral-load-and-being-undetectable

(Please Mr/Mrs moderator don’t get rid of the link. If anything you should be promoting the shit out of undetectable and PrEP

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Bugger. Forgot the link https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/about-hiv/viral-load-and-being-undetectable

(Please Mr/Mrs moderator don’t get rid of the link. If anything you should be promoting the shit out of undetectable and PrEP"

Whilst I agree with much of what you've said and it does come down to undeniable facts - there's an element missing from the decision process which may be completely subjective, and that's trust that they actually were on it, and were taking it as prescribed - so my answer would entirely depend on that - if a random person on here told me they were on PrEP it would take me a lot more than a couple of messages and a meet suggestion to agree to have sex with them, certainly unprotected and possibly protected too.

Now I *know* that same trust comes into play, or should do, regardless of whether someone is on PrEP or not but it's just another trust factor added into the mix - I also *know* that the risk of HIV transmission through oral is minimal so that would be taken into consideration too but either way it would still come down to weighing up the risks and levels of trust.

So the short answer would be "it depends"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the short answer would be "it depends""

If I could use a GIF.. *inserts inglorious basterds that’s a bingo GIF*

It depends. Is always the right answer.

PrEP or HIV undetectability are just for HIV. And although that will eventually wipe out the virus which is fucking awesome, The other stuff is still there. The stuff twill never go away once you have it. The stuff that currently goes away, but once our antibiotics become useless won’t.

At no point am I saying we have PrEP for fuck it. Don’t need comdoms now, because you do. Or might. Fill out your little risk assessment each time. Friend who bubbled with you during 2nd (and probably 3rd) lockdown and hasn’t been with anyone else, on PrEP and tested? Sure.

Someone you meet in a suana on Vauxhall? Yeah.... about that. Put it on.

But I think it’s unfair to say a blanket no if they’re ever had anything in the past because it’s shows they don’t care. Failure is always an option. Mistakes will be make. I once saw Steps live (which I can understand would have a similar response with a blanket ‘no’) it sucked. But don’t judge all my other music taste on a bad choice (twice. Ok. I saw them twice. Two bad choices).

People are embarrassed when stuff goes wrong down there. They probably don’t need that embarrassment carrying over like some permanent record. You won’t catch Gonorrhoea off me, why? Because I was 19yo when I had it. I used to and still get tested every 3 months. I booked myself in as soon as symptoms show. I took antibiotics and it was gone too no one week, and refrain from sex for 2 weeks and in fact, I didn’t go out clubbing in that time (london gay scene when you’re 19. It’s a big part of you’re life!) as that was sensible.

Now.. If anyone thinks that because of that which happened 16yrs back that they wouldn’t sleep with me, meh. Have a good day.

All I would say is, keep an open mind. I not saying fuck every-time bare. Just take facts and evidence to create your own risk assessment.

Besides. Some UTIs could be considered as an STI. Sand if we went down there that route too, a lot of ladies would also be ‘unavailable’.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Nope. There are some on here who clearly would though

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