FabSwingers.com forum: Would you...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on why I thought they would bore me.

Are they a plane spotter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab has ruined you lol!!!

You could end up bored and wanting the exciting ‘fab lifestyle’

Why not try sending a risky message and see how he reacts? Maybe he is a dark horse?

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By *av_55Man
over a year ago

Tried it once. pof date

I climbed out toilet window and left her

Turn out she plagiarised other peoples profiles (like happens on fab at times )

She was beautiful but when I asked her who her heroes where ? She said and I quote

‘Jordan ‘ not the racing driver one

And she didn’t like kissing

Hated it and never done vanilla date since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

Listen young lady, I told you this was to be kept in private between us!!!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

Worth a whirl imho.

Many of us have darker sides we just want letting out. Maybe this person is the same?

Worst outcome, you could have a new friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would yes.

Maybes they aren't boring, but just a bit shy?

You won't know till you try.

Schrödingers Cat

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

with my wicked sence of humour, i would keep your friend smiling, just saying from a friend of a friend,

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By *ilentnoiseMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Tried it once. pof date

I climbed out toilet window and left her

Turn out she plagiarised other peoples profiles (like happens on fab at times )

She was beautiful but when I asked her who her heroes where ? She said and I quote

‘Jordan ‘ not the racing driver one

And she didn’t like kissing

Hated it and never done vanilla date since "

Lol

I think Fab has ruined me too in the sense that I now find conventional dating boring. Since being with my ex who got me into swinging, I’ve not been able to date non-swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you worried they might bore you sexually or just in general?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would yes.

Maybes they aren't boring, but just a bit shy?

You won't know till you try.

Schrödingers Cat

Ohhh....anyone you had in mind as the boring one initially?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would yes.

Maybes they aren't boring, but just a bit shy?

You won't know till you try.

Schrödingers Cat

Ohhh....anyone you had in mind that appeared to be boring at first?

Schrödingers Cat teaches us that if we aren't sure about something, we won't know until we try.

Worst case scenario he's not for you, but you had a nice meal and a night out.

Best case scenario you hit it off and who knows what the future will bring.

But you won't know unless you give it a shot

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"...but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

That’s quite a strong feeling! If you would just go along because it’s flattering to be asked then maybe give it a miss. If you think it might turn into something fun then go for it.

For the price of a coffee and some cake it’s a cheap way of taking up an hour or so.

Don’t go for a meal because that’s more difficult to cut short whereas you can down a coffee in 5 minutes if you have to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m not talking just sexually (though that would be an issue) but more personality wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would yes.

Maybes they aren't boring, but just a bit shy?

You won't know till you try.

Schrödingers Cat

Ohhh....anyone you had in mind that appeared to be boring at first?

Schrödingers Cat teaches us that if we aren't sure about something, we won't know until we try.

Worst case scenario he's not for you, but you had a nice meal and a night out.

Best case scenario you hit it off and who knows what the future will bring.

But you won't know unless you give it a shot

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!"

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!"

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

I'm a Trekkie, send him my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

Glad we could help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea go for it, nothing to loose

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

It doesn’t really matter if he prefers Captain Kirk over Picard but the fact that he’s lacking self awareness like that could be an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

It doesn’t really matter if he prefers Captain Kirk over Picard but the fact that he’s lacking self awareness like that could be an issue

Prefers who to who? Zzzzzzz

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

I'm a Trekkie, send him my way

I did not know that

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I would yes.

Maybes they aren't boring, but just a bit shy?

You won't know till you try.

Schrödingers Cat

Ohhh....anyone you had in mind that appeared to be boring at first?

Schrödingers Cat teaches us that if we aren't sure about something, we won't know until we try.

Worst case scenario he's not for you, but you had a nice meal and a night out.

Best case scenario you hit it off and who knows what the future will bring.

But you won't know unless you give it a shot

Yep,got to be worth a couple of hours of your time

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

In normal times, I used to do Costa random meets. I'd put up a loaded question for a topic I'm interested in and meet for a cuppa on my status

Met some non sexual very interesting people with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would. Give them one chance I say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

I'm a Trekkie, send him my way

I did not know that

She doesn't look the sort, does she? Changes my image of a Trekkie entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urghhh.....but he might be boooriiiing!!!

Exactly, that's the cat in the box

But until you open it, you won't know

Urghhhhh......but I'm not staying when he starts talking about Star Trek!

Well, that’s it. He talks about Star Trek a lot

I'm a Trekkie, send him my way

I did not know that

I'm Queen of the nerds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I would. Give them one chance I say!

But, you don't UNDERSTAND....Star Tr zzzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal times, I used to do Costa random meets. I'd put up a loaded question for a topic I'm interested in and meet for a cuppa on my status

Met some non sexual very interesting people with that

Interesting. That's a really good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I would. Give them one chance I say!

But, you don't UNDERSTAND....Star Tr zzzzzzzzzz"

I’m quite the Trekkie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

The only way you’ll find out is by going on a date! People express them self better face to face than via message and you can get a better feedback from the expressions and eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal times, I used to do Costa random meets. I'd put up a loaded question for a topic I'm interested in and meet for a cuppa on my status

Met some non sexual very interesting people with that

On here? I love that.

Most seem to agree to a social then hint at sex though.

In the beforetimes. BC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

Go for it! What have you got to lose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be inclined to go on the date. They may even surprise you with their hidden depths. If they bore you, you can just Google the Klingon for "no thanks" if they ask for a second date

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Don't confuse quiet or shy with boring.

Also, I had two nice socials with someone who decided she didn't fancy me. It was a shame but we still had fun.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

If I wasn't enjoying the conversation then I probably wouldn't go on a date. If the conversation was interesting, he seemed a good laugh and I liked him but wasn't sure I fancied him I'd go for coffee.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Go on a date (a ‘normal’ date, not talking fab here) with someone that seems pleasant enough and you have a few things in common with, but who you fear is going to bore the life out of you?

I’m thinking maybe they aren’t as boring in person...

Or maybe fab has ruined me

Um, asking for a friend. "

I'd give the person a chance as people can, in fact, surprise you now and again. It's just a date. If you don't feel like there's room for further progression after, that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re not feeling it, don’t lead them on

If you already have the mindset they could bore you, then I’d say no. I’m sure there would be someone who would be captivated by them

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Why not, give it a go, you may find you have more in common when start talking. If you find the conversation boring, switch it up and change the subject.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The first question that springs to mind is whether there is any kind of 'spark' that is making you consider going on the date in the first place?

The second would be what makes you suspect he would be boring?

The fact that you even suspect he might be, and therefore have doubts whether to go, would suggest that perhaps there is no 'spark' or not a big enough one to invest time in going.

Yes, he could turn out to be "the one" and is just better in person than in text, but equally if you go with preconceived ideas that he "might" be boring then there's a good chance you will find him so in person.

Having things in common is of course a positive, but then there are plenty of people I have things in common with who I wouldn't ever share the same space with let alone go on a date with.

I guess, to summarise, what you have to ask yourself is, do you fancy him enough to want to go and find out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAD OP....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely would give it a chance... Then you'll know for sure and be able to move on either way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

Personally I think there you have your answer - if there is no spark and you have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him that speaks volumes and perhaps the only reason you're considering going is so as not to let him down or feel you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

Or something to do in these strange times

Twinny, fancy a coffee.. Where shall we meet - here or there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

I wondered if it was partly because it’s not through fab, there hasn’t been the same sort of open conversations/flirting and I’m so out of touch with ‘normal’ dating that I’m being too picky in wanting that spark/buzz straight away..

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

My thoughts exactly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

That could play a part - although personally dating or Fab I'd still be looking for some level of 'spark' to want to be able to take it to meeting

Or perhaps it's subconsciously that you're not ready to let go of Fab for the sake of "normal" dating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be inclined to go on the date. They may even surprise you with their hidden depths. If they bore you, you can just Google the Klingon for "no thanks" if they ask for a second date

Ghobe

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

See them as a challenge. Bring out the best in them!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mixed answers...

I’d say there is no spark, but conversation did flow (on the phone) I just have zero excitement at the thought of meeting him.

He seems keener than me, I don’t want to lead him on... but then he might be better in person

That could play a part - although personally dating or Fab I'd still be looking for some level of 'spark' to want to be able to take it to meeting

Or perhaps it's subconsciously that you're not ready to let go of Fab for the sake of "normal" dating? "

Your last sentence may be the Crux of it. It would have to be someone pretty damn amazing to make me give up singledom... he’s clearly not it so I’ve said no.

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