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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh pet names, I wish they wouldn't

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Oops, I did it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m with you - babe, hun, love... Argh! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it (sorry ladies

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But I’m bad for that too! I call everyone darling, sweetie, gorgeous, sweetheart etc. X

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lessedXXXWoman
over a year ago

“I never meet”

Babe

Hun

Sweetie

Love

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Yuk to all of them naff words, if a bloke talks like that then I ignore him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call John babes or baby on times. And he calls me babes. I love he calls me that.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I call John babes or baby on times. And he calls me babes. I love he calls me that.

That is different. I am talking about these names being used in first messages from unknown men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I call John babes or baby on times. And he calls me babes. I love he calls me that.

That is different. I am talking about these names being used in first messages from unknown men."

Ok i get you now

i hate strangers or guys at work calling me them names to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're condescending gits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they're condescending gits"

Yeah, I've always seen it as a way for a guy to make enforce the power balance. That he is the strong leader, and you're just his pet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they're condescending gits"

The three wise men condescended gifts.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

If they are from Louisiana it's just part of the vocabulary. Everyone calls everyone Baby over there!

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Same reason women do it. Ever heard a woman call another woman sweetie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they're condescending gits

Yeah, I've always seen it as a way for a guy to make enforce the power balance. That he is the strong leader, and you're just his pet"

Exactly that

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Because they're condescending gits

Yeah, I've always seen it as a way for a guy to make enforce the power balance. That he is the strong leader, and you're just his pet

Exactly that"

Or they could be just being nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they're condescending gits

The three wise men condescended gifts.

You're wasted on here Jim

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I think people just like to complain and others suck up to it.

I remember taking my mum shopping and she must have been 80 then. A young lad about 20 just missed bumping into her and said "Alright darling". It made us smile. In some social cultures those types of names are a way for people to be nice when they don't know someone's actual name.

May be it is artificial but it is not abusive unless you state in your profile you don't like those names.

I am glad I am on here just for the forums, some people are harder than Romans at a gladiator show.

Now go ahead and shoot the messenger.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I think people just like to complain and others suck up to it.

May be it is artificial but it is not abusive unless you state in your profile you don't like those names.

I am glad I am on here just for the forums, some people are harder than Romans at a gladiator show.

Now go ahead and shoot the messenger."

They know my fab name. Bluebell,Belle or Bee is fine but pet names by strangers i find sleazy.

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion."

Would you rather they called you granny?

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion.

Would you rather they called you granny?

No as i am not lucky enough to be a gran yet.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I like it (sorry ladies

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But I’m bad for that too! I call everyone darling, sweetie, gorgeous, sweetheart etc. X"
I'm with u on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I love it

although not from just anyone, when one person calls me baby girl it always makes me go

But hate babe, hun, love etc

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By *iscoman7771000Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Hate it too

I will always ask for a name

Also parents who call child BAB

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Hate it too

I will always ask for a name

Also parents who call child BAB

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Darling has got me out of a few tight spots down the years and it’s nice if your on the end of it !!! I think

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie

Because we can never remember names.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion."

Come down hen...

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

Because is less of a shit storm than calling her the wrong name. Hence i call everyone sweet if they like it or not if it's that big a problem we wouldn't get on anyway..

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion.

Come down hen...

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Tatties and neaps Hen

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I will occasionally use darling but none of the others as I think they are sickly and derogatory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because we can never remember names.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think anyone wants pet names to be used by those they don’t know or haven’t spoken to before. However, in longer term relationships / friendships I think they can be fun.

Horses for courses, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion.

Would you rather they called you granny?

No as i am not lucky enough to be a gran yet."

Ahh you’re Glaswegian

Don’t you guys call women ‘Hen’ up there?

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

My FwB calls me baby not a thing I am fond of but hell I have been called worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I call John babes or baby on times. And he calls me babes. I love he calls me that.

That is different. I am talking about these names being used in first messages from unknown men."

Ohhhhhh....that makes sense now. Yes, that is weird. Is the objective to seem like a very friendly, easy going, laid back sort of chap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a suspicion that fake profiles ie guys pretending to women use the word hun to make themselves appear more real

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By *ortherner26Man
over a year ago

North East

"I have a suspicion that fake profiles ie guys pretending to women use the word hun to make themselves appear more real"

Spot on! And for good measure they add an ‘x’ to the end of their message.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Never mind the men. I was in Asda this morning. How much are these? I asked.

I don't know babe. She said as she walked off....

Babe

Dunno which annoyed me more. Her fuck off , piss poor attitude or the babe to someone who clearly has less time left on the planet than they have had life laid out behind them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF.

Same reason women do it. Ever heard a woman call another woman sweetie?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a suspicion that fake profiles ie guys pretending to women use the word hun to make themselves appear more real"

Men pretending to be women are really easy for women to spot.

Men can't spot them for obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I like calling someone of the opposite sex a complimentary name “ sweetheart, beautiful, sunshine” but it all depends on the way it comes across as is not what you say is how you say it but is difficult to express via text!

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By *rownhotnessMan
over a year ago

Cheshire/London/Midlands

My favourite is sugar tits haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind the men. I was in Asda this morning. How much are these? I asked.

I don't know babe. She said as she walked off....

Babe

Dunno which annoyed me more. Her fuck off , piss poor attitude or the babe to someone who clearly has less time left on the planet than they have had life laid out behind them."

Perhaps it was a compliment and she thought you are a teenager.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think people just like to complain and others suck up to it.

May be it is artificial but it is not abusive unless you state in your profile you don't like those names.

I am glad I am on here just for the forums, some people are harder than Romans at a gladiator show.

Now go ahead and shoot the messenger."

The messenger is someone who carries and delivers the beliefs of others.

You weren't the messenger but i'll still shoot you if you like babe.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Never mind the men. I was in Asda this morning. How much are these? I asked.

I don't know babe. She said as she walked off....

Babe

Dunno which annoyed me more. Her fuck off , piss poor attitude or the babe to someone who clearly has less time left on the planet than they have had life laid out behind them.

Perhaps it was a compliment and she thought you are a teenager.

Lovely thought but a huge stretch of the imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think the use of babe, hun etc has become more popular in the mobile and emoji age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just terms of endearment. No power struggle or being condescending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think the use of babe, hun etc has become more popular in the mobile and emoji age? "

Yes sweetie

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Suddenly appear

Every time you are near

Just like me

They want to be

Close to you .....baby

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Do you think the use of babe, hun etc has become more popular in the mobile and emoji age? "

Yes doll. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

Mistress will suffice

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

I don't think any man who uses names to infantalise women could actually handle a fully fledged grown up woman.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I can't stand Hun ...so condescending

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's just terms of endearment. No power struggle or being condescending. "

Okay sugar. Don't you get upset about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people just like to complain and others suck up to it.

***I remember taking my mum shopping and she must have been 80 then. A young lad about 20 just missed bumping into her and said "Alright darling". It made us smile. ***

In some social cultures those types of names are a way for people to be nice when they don't know someone's actual name.

May be it is artificial but it is not abusive unless you state in your profile you don't like those names.

I am glad I am on here just for the forums, some people are harder than Romans at a gladiator show.

Now go ahead and shoot the messenger."

I love this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

It’s a weird one. I don’t like it on here from strangers but when friends or lovers call me such names it does make me smile. I find that I use nicknames too, they just skip out. I recently started calling someone Sweetcheeks and Pretty boy and I know I don’t mean them in a condescending way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my husband I love our pet names, from strangers they make me cringe.

Babe, hun, love... Ughh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think the use of babe, hun etc has become more popular in the mobile and emoji age? "

Yes most definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be irritating if it's "baby" this and that or "hun " every second word and suggests to me that they have a rather limited vocabulary. But other than that I don't find it too irritating. Maybe add it to your profile that you find it a major annoyance to give them a heads up?

I don't see it as something indicative of widespread misogyny or the patriarchy though...Ffs.

A wee man in Lidl called me "Darlin" the other day cause I helped him with something. Thought it was sweet.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I love a pet name.

Whether it be sugar tits, cutie pie or flower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's as bad as women calling me "hun"...

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

'Hate' is a rather strong emotion to feel because someone called you a pet name surely?

If a msg makes me uncomfortable then I delete it. End of!

To be honest I kinda use 'sweet', 'handsome', 'beaut' when chatting to people so I can't really take any offense!

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By *ohnywrongunMan
over a year ago

Epping

"It's just terms of endearment. No power struggle or being condescending. "
exactly, I call most women "doll",its built into me ,its an essex thing ,Its just me trying to be nice,

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF.

Same reason women do it. Ever heard a woman call another woman sweetie?

No"

Really? I have been called sweetie by other women and all sorts of terms of endearment by men. Does it bother me? No, of course not. People attempting to be kind is a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people will take offence over anything these days never happy unless moaning about something.

Female strangers I encounter in shops etc call me hun all the time, it doesn't offend me.

They're simply being friendly it's not meant to be offensive or derogatory.

Maybe we should all go round wearing badges with our names on. Then if we get called hun, babe, whatever then we can publicly correct them.

Ridiculous of course I'm off to the shops to potentially get called hun again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is 'your royal highness' OK? Or 'aphrodite' daughter of zeus and dione?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont people's little quirks - its quite harmless. I get call 'lovely' or 'my lovely' by a few women.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

I don't think any man who uses names to infantalise women could actually handle a fully fledged grown up woman. "

It's not meant to to belittle females. From me, it's a sign of endearment. As for handling a"fully fledged "grown up woman", it's always worked well for me

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I only call other men 'babe', just so I can see the "brain buffering" icon on some of their foreheads as they try to comprehend what just happened.

Hours of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never ever called anyone baby , babe, But call them them by their real names.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Mines hunny. baby just doesn't roll off the tounge sounds all wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone called me treacle the other day! Fucking treacle!!!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Someone called me treacle the other day! Fucking treacle!!! "

Sorry Honey

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Hun, hon and my dear are my biggest nonos. I ask politely for them not to do it ONCE then they get blocked if they continue.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Someone called me treacle the other day! Fucking treacle!!! "

Did you stick it to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone called me treacle the other day! Fucking treacle!!! "

I like that

Can imagine it being said in a strong cockney accent and sounding very friendly.

Suppose this whole thread just goes to demonstrate how different we all are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone called me treacle the other day! Fucking treacle!!!

Did you stick it to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for me I couldn’t care less what they said. Beyond that they only meant well and said it in an attempt to compliment. For every person who hates a being called “babe” there’s another five who wish someone would. When all is said and done I’m sure we would all rather be in the category of having peoples interest than those lonely people who don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a pet name, apart from hun, hunni, hon, honey....they make me angry

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally it comes down to circumstance and how it's used but it wouldn't cause me more than a moments irritation if someone used a pet name to refer to me in an inappropriate way - there are plenty of people here (of both genders) who use them in messages, forum posts etc so if it irritates that much just delete and move on, same as you would any other thing that would cause you to not respond to a message.

It's certainly not some patriarchal attempt to control as some would have you believe, any more than someone calling me "hun", "darling", "babes" etc is a means of exerting some level of matriarchy.

Just not worth getting knickers knotted over is the way I see it

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Depending on the bloke (or woman to be honest), and how it’s said, and the context, I can enjoy pet names and terms of endearment sometimes.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Nobody puts baby in a corner

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I like pet names and I use them myself. Generally not in the first conversation though, once I feel comfortable with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst is " Sup Hmu" opening for a conversation. That gets under my skin.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Pet names,maybe they think it sounds hot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or Miss

How are you miss .....

A .. I’m a Ms

And I find it submissive which is a turn off.

But yes the alright babe, hun, darling messages are usually the ones that end up with do you want some cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking hate all of those generic terms that I feel should be used mainly with people you know well. Not total strangers. Just makes me cringe.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Totally agree OP.

It's a good indication for me that I don't want to talk to that person!! It also says they can't be arsed to use my name and their message is a cut n paste job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally don't mind, I've more to worry about in all honesty but understand some folk won't like it but to imply it's some sort of control thing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

I have it on my profile that I won’t reply if they call me hun/babe/etc but I still get 5ish messages a day opening with that

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Bae

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Darl'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion."

Hay babe .... just couldn't resist lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF.

Same reason women do it. Ever heard a woman call another woman sweetie?

Really? I have been called sweetie by other women and all sorts of terms of endearment by men. Does it bother me? No, of course not. People attempting to be kind is a good thing.

Better than a boot up the arse I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, well actually you might get the love or lover but otherwise I’ll use your name

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

I don't think any man who uses names to infantalise women could actually handle a fully fledged grown up woman.

It's not meant to to belittle females. From me, it's a sign of endearment. As for handling a"fully fledged "grown up woman", it's always worked well for me

Good. Depends on the woman I guess.

and sexy darlin' I never said belittle babsy wabsy .... xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Context is everything

I think on here it can be cringe

In everyday life, I just let it go

My in-laws are from Liverpool

I do wish they wouldn't call me 'hun', but they do

Sets my teeth on edge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there was a certain amount of conditioning from the music industry

Baby, I’m a want you

You know it’s you Babe

Baby it’s cold outside

...Baby, one more time

Baby can I hold you.....

I could go on

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Context is everything

I think on here it can be cringe

In everyday life, I just let it go

My in-laws are from Liverpool

I do wish they wouldn't call me 'hun', but they do

Sets my teeth on edge "

Not a fan of hun.

Don't mind Darling

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By *_DirectorMan
over a year ago

Middle of somewhere

I guess we've all done and apologies but I think it's more of a trying to be sweet , considering most messages get deleted or a non response ...

Fab is a woman's world after all and hold all the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever done it, It might work for some guys but I cringe when I think of using them.

Receiving them, on the other hand from women makes me blush a little

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke "

Yes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke "

I don't mind from people I know. Strangers, it grates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke "

If you would, that would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke "

Yes

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

I guess this is the same as being called Daddy,,

Wrecks my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only hubby calls me those names strangers yuk hate it

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

Sorry ‘honeybum’

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Context is everything

I think on here it can be cringe

In everyday life, I just let it go

My in-laws are from Liverpool

I do wish they wouldn't call me 'hun', but they do

Sets my teeth on edge "

That's not particularly a Liverpool thing...... trust me

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"Oh crap! I've been calling females pet names for decade's. Love, sweetheart, baby, sexy, beauty etc. No ones ever pulled me up on it.

FFS, I even call fella's chief and boss etc. I shall now refer to females as "woman". Even this old dog can learn new tricks

I don't think any man who uses names to infantalise women could actually handle a fully fledged grown up woman.

It's not meant to to belittle females. From me, it's a sign of endearment. As for handling a"fully fledged "grown up woman", it's always worked well for me

Good. Depends on the woman I guess.

and sexy darlin' I never said belittle babsy wabsy .... xxx "

Get your coat, you've just pulled talking hot like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of using pet names tbh, I tend to use hun or my dear, if we're really close sweetheart. So yea it's a habit and can be due to me being a bit of a romantic tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do the same dont they. I get called pet names all the time for example. Duck. Babe. Sweetheart. Darling.

However what i dont do is get annoyed about it. I know they are just saying it in a nice way not offensively. Otherwise they would be calling me a nobhead or something along those lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women do the same dont they. I get called pet names all the time for example. Duck. Babe. Sweetheart. Darling.

However what i dont do is get annoyed about it. I know they are just saying it in a nice way not offensively. Otherwise they would be calling me a nobhead or something along those lines."

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"Women do the same dont they. I get called pet names all the time for example. Duck. Babe. Sweetheart. Darling.

However what i dont do is get annoyed about it. I know they are just saying it in a nice way not offensively. Otherwise they would be calling me a nobhead or something along those lines."

That's how I've always taken it. Why make a nice thing bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im from yorkshire and around here pet names roll of your tongue without even realising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always call the wife babe . Wouldn’t call it anyone I didn’t know though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Women do the same dont they. I get called pet names all the time for example. Duck. Babe. Sweetheart. Darling.

However what i dont do is get annoyed about it. I know they are just saying it in a nice way not offensively. Otherwise they would be calling me a nobhead or something along those lines.

That's how I've always taken it. Why make a nice thing bad?

This is where context comes into play though - I'm just back from Tesco and was called "love" twice and "sweetheart" once during my trip round the aisles - didn't bother me in the slightest.

On here as a first message from someone I'd never interacted with it would seem a little forward and presumptuous and may colour my view of the person using it - still wouldn't bother me for any longer than it took to press the delete button mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that being called “babe” really gets on my nerves.... I let it slide most of the time but too much of it just pisses me off!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

#notallmen

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not a massive fan unless it's someone I maybe know but I tend to call people sunshine a lot so maybe that's hypocritical

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"#notallmen "

#butsomemen

#toomanymen

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"#notallmen "

Agreed and think it's actually been well established by this thread that it's not something that is specifically dominated by either gender to do.

In fact in my experience (which is obviously weighted by being a man) women do it a heck of a lot more than men do, not that it should be a competition at all.

Whilst it does come down to context as to how cringey it sounds, it's hardly the end of the world either.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Hannah calls most people "babe" at some point. Shall I ask her to stop? Luke "

Is she aware it usually sounds insincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am nearly 56 but still they call me baby. I dislike it with a passion."

Perhaps he's 94?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF.

It's probably that their use by a stranger suggests a level of intimacy that isn't there, so seems inappropriate. When you are close to someone, it's fine. I have a long standing lady friend who still calls me dreamboat, but she has since we were 9 yrs old.

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By *nooshWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

"Hey girl" bugs me.

Tbh so does anything like "I'm looking for a female" - so impersonal. A female what?

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By *ickinNottsMan
over a year ago

Hucknall

Hey, try being a 61 year old bloke and getting messages starting "hey babe".

As far as I am concerned Babe is a pig. My name, in fem mode, was Ioana (Yoh Anna). Otherwise just start the message with "Hi".

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My daddy calls me babygirl and it makes me melt. Pet names shouldn't be applied to those you're unfamiliar with though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it in the right circumstance... And i use it too with friends

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I love it in the right circumstance... And i use it too with friends

Oh it's definitely contextual. From a stranger it's completely off putting

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Doesn't bother me, though I find it a bit odd when much younger men call me love or hun.

I'm not a fan of babe or baby but often it's just part of their natural speech.

I don't see it as condescending and can be guilty of it myself.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've never felt comfortable calling ladies "pet names" unless I'm actually in a relationship with them.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the flip side, i hate women calling me mate

, just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the flip side, i hate women calling me mate

, just saying

Why? Do you feel the same when men say it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call females baby. Drives me mad. Someone has just called me peach WTF. "

I get called shit face a lot so feel your pain.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Men do this because it infantilises women, further reinforcing the grossly unequal power dynamic already entrenched in our revoltingly misogynistic society.

I have never used "pet names" and can't see that changing. Ugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the flip side, i hate women calling me mate

, just saying

Why? Do you feel the same when men say it? "
No, I guess not, don't know why that is, fair point well made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually don't mind pet names and they can sometimes be cute, but someone called me "teddy bear" recently and I was like....

(footsteps running sound effect)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men do this because it infantilises women, further reinforcing the grossly unequal power dynamic already entrenched in our revoltingly misogynistic society.

I have never used "pet names" and can't see that changing. Ugh."

Thanks for speaking for all men fella.....

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Don’t mind a pet name if it’s said sincerely but on Fab you know your one of a thousand babes, beauts, sweethearts and princesses etc. that they have messaged that day, so quite often makes me pull this face

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Men do this because it infantilises women, further reinforcing the grossly unequal power dynamic already entrenched in our revoltingly misogynistic society.

I have never used "pet names" and can't see that changing. Ugh."

And women who do it equally as much (I had two "loves" and a "sweetheart" in Tesco today) do it because? For the same reason as you suggest?

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