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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media." Good things don't happen unless they are posted. It's the new one hand clapping | |||
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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media." . And I’m kind to those that deserve it. | |||
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"To all you cynics who intimate that these types of threads are less about the unfortunate and more about the poster I couldn't agree more. AND ....... I get heartily sick to my fucking back teeth of threads that start....... and be kind..... and be nice..... and don't be mean FFS...... Stop being my mum. " And breathe..... | |||
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"To all you cynics who intimate that these types of threads are less about the unfortunate and more about the poster I couldn't agree more. AND ....... I get heartily sick to my fucking back teeth of threads that start....... and be kind..... and be nice..... and don't be mean FFS...... Stop being my mum. " | |||
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"To all you cynics who intimate that these types of threads are less about the unfortunate and more about the poster I couldn't agree more. AND ....... I get heartily sick to my fucking back teeth of threads that start....... and be kind..... and be nice..... and don't be mean FFS...... Stop being my mum. And breathe..... " I'm flappin like a goldfish on the carpet..... | |||
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"To all you cynics who intimate that these types of threads are less about the unfortunate and more about the poster I couldn't agree more. AND ....... I get heartily sick to my fucking back teeth of threads that start....... and be kind..... and be nice..... and don't be mean FFS...... Stop being my mum. " The be kind brigade makes me Nauseous | |||
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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media." I feel that social media should be used to acknowledge someone else's act of kindness, not to publicize that I've done one. | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. " But can you be truly Altruistic ? | |||
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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media. I feel that social media should be used to acknowledge someone else's act of kindness, not to publicize that I've done one. " I never mention my tireless work down at the soup kitchen. | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. " You are my new hero!!!! | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ?" I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ? I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. " Apparently when a person gives someone a gift they get more serotonin flooding their brain than the person receiving the gift. | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ? I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. Apparently when a person gives someone a gift they get more serotonin flooding their brain than the person receiving the gift. " I’m definitely more of a giver than a receiver | |||
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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media. I feel that social media should be used to acknowledge someone else's act of kindness, not to publicize that I've done one. " To add to that .... Social media is fantastic for opening up opportunities for individuals or groups who wish to give their time and/or money to others and are not sure how to do this. I feel the intentions of people who post telling others what to do should maybe see how others are doing it already and ask how they can help. Still, one cup of coffee to one homeless person is a start ..... innit. | |||
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"I like it when people do good things without feeling the need to post it on social media. Good things don't happen unless they are posted. It's the new one hand clapping " Well said,cuts it so disappointing though? | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ? I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. Apparently when a person gives someone a gift they get more serotonin flooding their brain than the person receiving the gift. " I spared you the obvious. You could have done the same for me. | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ? I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. Apparently when a person gives someone a gift they get more serotonin flooding their brain than the person receiving the gift. I’m definitely more of a giver than a receiver " Me too. How would that work ? | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. But can you be truly Altruistic ? I believe not. I'll spare you my reasoning. Apparently when a person gives someone a gift they get more serotonin flooding their brain than the person receiving the gift. I’m definitely more of a giver than a receiver Me too. How would that work ? " I’d win. That’s how | |||
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"Oh, not every homeless person wants to be given food or drink, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have the choice, I saw an interview where a homeless bloke said he was sick of people trying to give him food from a well known fast food place, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they should have to be grateful for everything that people try and give them. " What should we give them? | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * " You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. | |||
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"Oh, not every homeless person wants to be given food or drink, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have the choice, I saw an interview where a homeless bloke said he was sick of people trying to give him food from a well known fast food place, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they should have to be grateful for everything that people try and give them. What should we give them?" I’d say something that they can exchange for things that they want or need, whatever that may be. | |||
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"Oh, not every homeless person wants to be given food or drink, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have the choice, I saw an interview where a homeless bloke said he was sick of people trying to give him food from a well known fast food place, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they should have to be grateful for everything that people try and give them. What should we give them? I’d say something that they can exchange for things that they want or need, whatever that may be." Money. I'm with After Life Tony. | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. " How do you the people it ‘pisses off’ don’t already do good things without feeling the need to tell everyone about it, maybe the reason it pisses them off is they’ve been doing it for years without mentioning it, but someone does one good deed and posts it on social media, I think that would be galling to most people ?! | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. How do you the people it ‘pisses off’ don’t already do good things without feeling the need to tell everyone about it, maybe the reason it pisses them off is they’ve been doing it for years without mentioning it, but someone does one good deed and posts it on social media, I think that would be galling to most people ?!" I agree. I'm not saying the pissed off people are unkind or that they do fuck all for others. I agree they may be pissed off because they do loads of things secretly, then Karen posts how she gave 50p to the local school and she's hailed as a frickin saint. However Karen may be secretly battered by her outwardly perfect husband. Or terminally ill. Or so far in debt she is scared for the future. So her getting a few Likes for donating 50p might just give her a boost and get her through another day. I don't know Karen's secrets so I'll admit I'll still be thinking "Fucking Karen and her 50 fucking P!" | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * " That was a good thing to do op. Two people's days made brighter. | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. How do you the people it ‘pisses off’ don’t already do good things without feeling the need to tell everyone about it, maybe the reason it pisses them off is they’ve been doing it for years without mentioning it, but someone does one good deed and posts it on social media, I think that would be galling to most people ?! I agree. I'm not saying the pissed off people are unkind or that they do fuck all for others. I agree they may be pissed off because they do loads of things secretly, then Karen posts how she gave 50p to the local school and she's hailed as a frickin saint. However Karen may be secretly battered by her outwardly perfect husband. Or terminally ill. Or so far in debt she is scared for the future. So her getting a few Likes for donating 50p might just give her a boost and get her through another day. I don't know Karen's secrets so I'll admit I'll still be thinking "Fucking Karen and her 50 fucking P!"" Agreed. Also if you don't want people to know about your charitable acts why get pissed off at people who do? | |||
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"Kindness has existed far longer than the internet, far longer than millenial, far longer than your fooking Go Fund Me cos my nail broke page..... For some of us it is an integral part of who we are, our cultures, our religions , our sectarian beliefs........ our philosophies. Stop with the lectures. It's the selfish shites who act like sodding born again Christians that get to me...... They've seen the light finally but become preachers. Just join the club. You are my new hero!!!! " She's been mine for years! | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. How do you the people it ‘pisses off’ don’t already do good things without feeling the need to tell everyone about it, maybe the reason it pisses them off is they’ve been doing it for years without mentioning it, but someone does one good deed and posts it on social media, I think that would be galling to most people ?! I agree. I'm not saying the pissed off people are unkind or that they do fuck all for others. I agree they may be pissed off because they do loads of things secretly, then Karen posts how she gave 50p to the local school and she's hailed as a frickin saint. However Karen may be secretly battered by her outwardly perfect husband. Or terminally ill. Or so far in debt she is scared for the future. So her getting a few Likes for donating 50p might just give her a boost and get her through another day. I don't know Karen's secrets so I'll admit I'll still be thinking "Fucking Karen and her 50 fucking P!" Agreed. Also if you don't want people to know about your charitable acts why get pissed off at people who do?" Maybe motivation shouldn't matter, but if you do something just to broadcast it and virtue signal - using another persons misfortune to improve your ratings - its disingenuous at best and active exploitation at worst. It can then also be inferred that people who do the same act of charity (without publicity) have the same mindset, humiliating those that dont seek the limelight and discouraging others from taking the same quiet path. | |||
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"It's getting close to Christmas as we all know, this time of year especially with the pandemic that we are all going through is hard for so many people. So like I always say please please please try and be kind to people out there don't belittle them don't put them down and just try to be nice. This homeless man yesterday walking just outside the Trafford Centre you could clearly see that he was a legit homeless person so I asked would you like a coffee and he was massively grateful I'm not saying anyone that you see on the street offer them a drink but just try and be kind to them there are people out there right now fighting the cold when most of us right now are still in bed * warm * You asked him what he wanted and that was kind. He may have already had 20 cups of coffee from strangers. I think people who shout about the kind things they do are possibly only doing it to look good. However...... I know many people who are at absolute rock bottom this year. If they feel good because of it, then good for them. If it pisses 100 people off, so what. It might encourage 1 person to do something kind too. How do you the people it ‘pisses off’ don’t already do good things without feeling the need to tell everyone about it, maybe the reason it pisses them off is they’ve been doing it for years without mentioning it, but someone does one good deed and posts it on social media, I think that would be galling to most people ?! I agree. I'm not saying the pissed off people are unkind or that they do fuck all for others. I agree they may be pissed off because they do loads of things secretly, then Karen posts how she gave 50p to the local school and she's hailed as a frickin saint. However Karen may be secretly battered by her outwardly perfect husband. Or terminally ill. Or so far in debt she is scared for the future. So her getting a few Likes for donating 50p might just give her a boost and get her through another day. I don't know Karen's secrets so I'll admit I'll still be thinking "Fucking Karen and her 50 fucking P!" Agreed. Also if you don't want people to know about your charitable acts why get pissed off at people who do? Maybe motivation shouldn't matter, but if you do something just to broadcast it and virtue signal - using another persons misfortune to improve your ratings - its disingenuous at best and active exploitation at worst. It can then also be inferred that people who do the same act of charity (without publicity) have the same mindset, humiliating those that dont seek the limelight and discouraging others from taking the same quiet path. " Is the benefit somehow less because of the motivation behind it? If one takes the quiet path I'm assuming one doesn't want recognition so how would others receiving it be a humiliation or discouragement? It's an act of charity in itself to allow others to take public pleasure in their kindness. I'm not mother Theresa by any means and I don't like people telling me to be kind as if I'm not already (I'm not always, sometimes I'm flaming horrible) but I don't like the implication that mentioning a kind deed makes it worth less. It reminds me too much of my mother's bloody religious cliches | |||
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"Oh, not every homeless person wants to be given food or drink, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have the choice, I saw an interview where a homeless bloke said he was sick of people trying to give him food from a well known fast food place, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they should have to be grateful for everything that people try and give them. What should we give them?" We could try asking what they need. Our local charity did just that and the care boxes provided by the community were distributed last week, sleeping bags, thermal socks, trainers, hat, gloves, new toothbrush, toothpaste and alike. | |||
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"I've been on the bones of my arse (floundering) before now, and if someone had reached out and helped me, even if it was just a coffee or whatever, I would have appreciated it regardless of their(percieved) motives. A random person gave me a fiver once when I was running on fumes.That made a massive difference to my week at the time and I still remember that person now, 20 odd years later. If the OPs thread has made one person today be kinder then well played to him. No need to get your knickers in a twist. " | |||
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"Oh, not every homeless person wants to be given food or drink, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have the choice, I saw an interview where a homeless bloke said he was sick of people trying to give him food from a well known fast food place, just because they are homeless doesn’t mean they should have to be grateful for everything that people try and give them. What should we give them? We could try asking what they need. Our local charity did just that and the care boxes provided by the community were distributed last week, sleeping bags, thermal socks, trainers, hat, gloves, new toothbrush, toothpaste and alike. " | |||
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"Shit, I forgot to be kind today. Oh well, I’ll try again on Monday (if I remember)" What about Saturday and Sunday ? | |||
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"I've been on the bones of my arse (floundering) before now, and if someone had reached out and helped me, even if it was just a coffee or whatever, I would have appreciated it regardless of their(percieved) motives. A random person gave me a fiver once when I was running on fumes.That made a massive difference to my week at the time and I still remember that person now, 20 odd years later. If the OPs thread has made one person today be kinder then well played to him. No need to get your knickers in a twist. " Absolutely. I find shitting on kindness to be really strange. | |||
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"I've been on the bones of my arse (floundering) before now, and if someone had reached out and helped me, even if it was just a coffee or whatever, I would have appreciated it regardless of their(percieved) motives. A random person gave me a fiver once when I was running on fumes.That made a massive difference to my week at the time and I still remember that person now, 20 odd years later. If the OPs thread has made one person today be kinder then well played to him. No need to get your knickers in a twist. Absolutely. I find shitting on kindness to be really strange." I think there's section on Pornhub dealing with that ... | |||
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"I've been on the bones of my arse (floundering) before now, and if someone had reached out and helped me, even if it was just a coffee or whatever, I would have appreciated it regardless of their(percieved) motives. A random person gave me a fiver once when I was running on fumes.That made a massive difference to my week at the time and I still remember that person now, 20 odd years later. If the OPs thread has made one person today be kinder then well played to him. No need to get your knickers in a twist. Absolutely. I find shitting on kindness to be really strange. I think there's section on Pornhub dealing with that ... " | |||
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"I've been on the bones of my arse (floundering) before now, and if someone had reached out and helped me, even if it was just a coffee or whatever, I would have appreciated it regardless of their(percieved) motives. A random person gave me a fiver once when I was running on fumes.That made a massive difference to my week at the time and I still remember that person now, 20 odd years later. If the OPs thread has made one person today be kinder then well played to him. No need to get your knickers in a twist. Absolutely. I find shitting on kindness to be really strange. I think there's section on Pornhub dealing with that ... " | |||
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