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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Can any ladies and couples give me any advice with my profile and pics pls, I’m looking to engage with couples but am not getting many replies?!? Am I just a fat ugly bloke ??

Thanks

Andy x

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

It doesn't really say much. Every guy just about has been told they are satisfying.

Is covid really necessary to be on your profile?

What do you hope to experience and have to offer on this site full of men?

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Noted with thanks.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Noted with thanks."

No you are not ugly xx

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Thanks

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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Hi OP

Whilst I can't see anything that I would immediately think was a red flag on your profile, I also can't see anything that makes you stand out from the hundreds of other men with very similar profiles. Your write up doesn't really show me any of your personality.

And I don't really care how good other women think you are at the sex thing...believe it or not we don't all like the same stuff.

Good luck on here though x

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Thank you, I appreciate the help.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I would help, unfortunately it has been brought to my attention that my advice and comments are unwelcome and tiresome

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I would help, unfortunately it has been brought to my attention that my advice and comments are unwelcome and tiresome "

They are not xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Thank you, I appreciate the help."

Reply and quote

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

I would welcome your feedback and as we have never spoken before I feel safe around you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you planning to meet anyone in the next 6 to 8 months, I wouldn't worry to much and your pulling power for some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and = about, sorry

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Hi OP, obviously it's been a tricky year for everyone regarding meets, if you search for profile help, or similar then read some of the advice given, that might be of use?

Good luck anyway x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Not getting replies isn't necessarily about being fat or ugly. What are you writing to introduce yourself? If it's not enticing then you can't expect a reply, and most of the messages we get are not even vaguely enticing and go straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone will say different pal. Don’t have a cock pic, don t do this or don’t do that. But that’s just the odd person saying it. Women on average get around 50-100 daily messages.

I sometimes send cheeky nude pics and some ppl like and I don’t show them on my profile and the response is the same if I did or didn’t. Tough one just make your own call and go with it.

You can’t please everyone.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I would help, unfortunately it has been brought to my attention that my advice and comments are unwelcome and tiresome "

Up yer bum Missus

You know that we all love you long time xxx

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Do you think I should talk more about my interests and Or what sexually excites me?

I do find it hard to sell myself without sounding arrogant?

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18

Thanks

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Thanks"

We don't know who you are replying to

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By *igerhunk OP   Man
over a year ago

DA18


"Everyone will say different pal. Don’t have a cock pic, don t do this or don’t do that. But that’s just the odd person saying it. Women on average get around 50-100 daily messages.

I sometimes send cheeky nude pics and some ppl like and I don’t show them on my profile and the response is the same if I did or didn’t. Tough one just make your own call and go with it.

You can’t please everyone. "

Thankyou ??

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Please keep it to the forums, OP.

The way to entice varies from person to person.

Keep your message relevant to them. It's no good expecting a reply if you aren't what they are looking for or if you don't show any understanding of them. That's something many people get wrong.

My biggest advice for anybody here though is this. Talk to people because you like them, not because you have an agenda. Prioritise making friends over getting your end away. If they don't like you, they won't want you in their bed. If they feel the only talking to them is because you want to get laid then they will think you are only in it for yourself, which is very unappealing. They are not here for you. You are not a charity. If you wouldn't want to meet up with them socially and not get a shag, don't bother them.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"I would help, unfortunately it has been brought to my attention that my advice and comments are unwelcome and tiresome "

They definitely aren't!

I've always loved reading your advice

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth


"Please keep it to the forums, OP.

The way to entice varies from person to person.

Keep your message relevant to them. It's no good expecting a reply if you aren't what they are looking for or if you don't show any understanding of them. That's something many people get wrong.

My biggest advice for anybody here though is this. Talk to people because you like them, not because you have an agenda. Prioritise making friends over getting your end away. If they don't like you, they won't want you in their bed. If they feel the only talking to them is because you want to get laid then they will think you are only in it for yourself, which is very unappealing. They are not here for you. You are not a charity. If you wouldn't want to meet up with them socially and not get a shag, don't bother them. "

Totally agree with this, the guys who have stood out for me have been friendly, engaging, and just generally showing an interest in me as a person - those are very refreshing here and whom I still talk to now. Just a personal preferance but any kind of sexual chat especially early on is a instant turn off.. not saying you do this of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would help, unfortunately it has been brought to my attention that my advice and comments are unwelcome and tiresome "

Who said that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can any ladies and couples give me any advice with my profile and pics pls, I’m looking to engage with couples but am not getting many replies?!? Am I just a fat ugly bloke ??

Thanks

Andy x"

Most don't reply for various reasons. Don't let it get you down.

Maybe use the forums for 6 months or so until the vaccines start changing life.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Can any ladies and couples give me any advice with my profile and pics pls, I’m looking to engage with couples but am not getting many replies?!? Am I just a fat ugly bloke ??

Thanks

Andy x

Most don't reply for various reasons. Don't let it get you down.

Maybe use the forums for 6 months or so until the vaccines start changing life. "

Is there an anti Doris vaccine?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Being honest OP it's a very generic profile that can be found on thousands of guys profiles - nothing wrong with it as such, but nothing that helps you stand out either.

Remember though it's not *just* about your profile, nor is there a magic formula that works for everyone - there are many ways to get to know people and get to be known, you just have to find the way that works for you.

I've always found that taking a more laid back approach, and not making meeting people my objective, works well. Get to know people a little first before even considering suggesting meeting, build connections etc.

The majority of guys that make it all about meeting end up disappointed and frustrated by the site.

Remember also that as you're out and about you probably feel attracted to less than 10% of people you come across, and of that less than 10%, less than 10% feel attracted to you also - it's no different here, so look for people you truly feel are a good match, and accept that less than 10% of them will feel the same way and it all makes more sense when you feel like you're getting nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can any ladies and couples give me any advice with my profile and pics pls, I’m looking to engage with couples but am not getting many replies?!? Am I just a fat ugly bloke ??

Thanks

Andy x

Most don't reply for various reasons. Don't let it get you down.

Maybe use the forums for 6 months or so until the vaccines start changing life.

Is there an anti Doris vaccine? "

10 pints of beer

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