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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

So ignore him its fickle sisters stick together

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Because there is 1 neuron to 10 men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know, I've never understood it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a bizarre thing to do - never done it and can't think of any purpose that would achieve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I don't know any woman where this tactic would work.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

Its Rude

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

No it's just rude, to put down the physical appearance of another end of

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

Useful filtering tool op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women do the same, incredible I know.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Some women do the same, incredible I know."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

Honesty is a great asset to have, being an obnoxious twat, not so much

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

This is why bollock is similar to block

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do it the other way around too... Probably more often too as they think us fat birds hate you slim ones because being fat is such a terrible affliction, so calling you a bag of bones or some other disgusting insult will back up their love of the fatness... It really bloody doesn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the same as people using back handed compliments, but as some have said, good filtering tool.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I would never insult anyone in an email

Remember you don't know what that person is going through xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never insult anyone in an email

Remember you don't know what that person is going through xx"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys? Not all I'm guessing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's people that do it and there's people that have decency..... Men and women are both guilty....

Just sayin'

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There are a fair few women who hate men on here.

There are also a fair few men who hate women on here.

Why are they on Fab? Because they enjoy belittling others.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Some guys? Not all I'm guessing...."
.you always insult me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys? Not all I'm guessing.....you always insult me "

But that's like when boys pull a girls pigtails at school when the fancy them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a fair few women who hate men on here.

There are also a fair few men who hate women on here.

Why are they on Fab? Because they enjoy belittling others."

I fear you're right, what a waste of a life though

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Some guys? Not all I'm guessing.....you always insult me

But that's like when boys pull a girls pigtails at school when the fancy them...."

Only you can get away with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never done this tbh. It weird at times to see these posts and be like "who actually does these things" I guess I'm too nice lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I've never done this tbh. It weird at times to see these posts and be like "who actually does these things" I guess I'm too nice lol "

You are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t speak for other blokes but I don’t put anyone down. Glass houses and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever done that.....and never would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

Then some people need to learn to say less.

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By *ljamMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight

Then some people need to learn to say less."

Talking straight is more often than not code for being an arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is 1 neuron to 10 men "

We take it in turns. Next week is my turn with the neuron

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Because there is 1 neuron to 10 men "

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"There are a fair few women who hate men on here.

There are also a fair few men who hate women on here.

Why are they on Fab? Because they enjoy belittling others."

Unfortunately this is spot on,especially on the forums. Very sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My comment seems to have deleted itself I see

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod

over a year ago

My Own Little World

*A Reminder*

Please don't post PMs on here.

Thanks

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod

over a year ago

My Own Little World


"My comment seems to have deleted itself I see "

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single "

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My comment seems to have deleted itself I see

Nope "

Phew. Thought I was going mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is 1 neuron to 10 men

We take it in turns. Next week is my turn with the neuron "

Woahhh.....just you try and take it from me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that. "

WHAT???? That's an eye-opener!! Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight "

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that. "

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back "

That's the only way to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

"

Then why use "Fat" at all??

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight "

Its not straight talk, its a Pathetic attempt of trying to make the one they message feel special....they honestly think its way to score on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

"

Because you have no respect for your fellow humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back "

I'm speechless except to say I'm speechless. I almost wish the wife had heard and told Mr he fucks so much better than her husband with a much more beautiful cock!!

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian


"

Talking straight is more often than not code for being an arsehole."

You're not wrong.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back

I'm speechless except to say I'm speechless. I almost wish the wife had heard and told Mr he fucks so much better than her husband with a much more beautiful cock!!"

I think that unless you've lived as a woman between the ages of 20 and 60 you will have no idea of the frankly ludicrous things some men will say in the hopes of getting sex. Sadly you'll have no idea of the number of women who'll believe them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back

I'm speechless except to say I'm speechless. I almost wish the wife had heard and told Mr he fucks so much better than her husband with a much more beautiful cock!!"

P.S. Your cigarette photo is nice a bit James Dean and a bit Jack Vettriano

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

Not something I’d do, that’s just not cricket old gal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back

I'm speechless except to say I'm speechless. I almost wish the wife had heard and told Mr he fucks so much better than her husband with a much more beautiful cock!!

P.S. Your cigarette photo is nice a bit James Dean and a bit Jack Vettriano "

Thanks vey much. What a compliment and just what I needed. Don't tell anyone but that 'cigarette' is a rolled up Post-It note. Shhhhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??"

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Because you have no respect for your fellow humans "

No not at all..... I respect everyone...

I just don’t stress the small stuff on Fab.

I’m here for great sex , not stress

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Cant see a married man doing that and maybe that's why they are single

You’d be surprised; I’ve had quite a few try to compliment me by saying I’m so much fitter than their wife. I just tell them they should be ashamed of themselves and to do her a favour and leave if they feel like that.

Yeah me too. One guy told me I was better at giving a blow job than his wife WHILE SHE WAS IN THE ROOM! She couldn't hear because he said it quietly but .

Excuse my upper case rage but really.

We've also had men message saying I'm so much better looking than their wife. :shaking head emoji: Does this ever work?

Mind you I've had plenty of women (try to) put me down to big themselves up. Luckily I'm shallow, vain and arrogant so it's water off a duck's back

I'm speechless except to say I'm speechless. I almost wish the wife had heard and told Mr he fucks so much better than her husband with a much more beautiful cock!!

P.S. Your cigarette photo is nice a bit James Dean and a bit Jack Vettriano

Thanks vey much. What a compliment and just what I needed. Don't tell anyone but that 'cigarette' is a rolled up Post-It note. Shhhhh."

well I hope it's a filter tipped Post-it note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...hand-rolled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison....."

The sentence and comparison is totally unnecessary though... He said what was needed without it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The one i hated was when guys messaged you to say you make their girlfriends look like shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison.....

The sentence and comparison is totally unnecessary though... He said what was needed without it"

Thank you, you understood it. That's why I didn't respond to it. I didn't think it would be necessary if you mind could think this way.

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

Look at it a filtering method. You now know you won’t want to meet the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison.....

The sentence and comparison is totally unnecessary though... He said what was needed without it"

I totally understand what you’re saying..... What I’m trying to say is that... if I got a message like that , it wouldn’t bother me and I would carry on having a conversation.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Because you have no respect for your fellow humans

No not at all..... I respect everyone...

I just don’t stress the small stuff on Fab.

I’m here for great sex , not stress"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison.....

The sentence and comparison is totally unnecessary though... He said what was needed without it

I totally understand what you’re saying..... What I’m trying to say is that... if I got a message like that , it wouldn’t bother me and I would carry on having a conversation.....

"

The OP asked why do men compare in this derogatory manner. I'm not quite sure you've addressed it but we know your thoughts on it is that it's not rude in your books. Thank you for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one i hated was when guys messaged you to say you make their girlfriends look like shit"

Oh I hate this. I’ve had that message several times and wonder if it’s the same guy with new profiles.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

I would say that from the get go said guy or guys are Assholes, and they just gave it away in msg no1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

It is rude though. Shouldn't matter what size anyone is.

Some people just talk straight

I think people on the forums get stuck on ascetics far more than normal people.....

Take the “ Fat “ out of the message and it’s perfectly fine....

“ Great profile, it’s refreshing to see a single male put some thought and effort into writing a profile. It’s much better than most of the idiots on Fab “

I get messages like this all the time.... and I don’t find this to be rude....

Then why use "Fat" at all??

Context of the message...... replace “ Fat “ with young/old , Skinny/curvy, intelligent/dumb......

The person sending the message is making a comparison.....

The sentence and comparison is totally unnecessary though... He said what was needed without it

I totally understand what you’re saying..... What I’m trying to say is that... if I got a message like that , it wouldn’t bother me and I would carry on having a conversation.....

"

I would personally not want to entertain someone that's blowing smoke up my arse... If I am only attractive when compared to someone else and them being insulted for it then I am not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The one i hated was when guys messaged you to say you make their girlfriends look like shit

Oh I hate this. I’ve had that message several times and wonder if it’s the same guy with new profiles. "

I can't believe people do this. I think I would reply with "I'm sure she thinks any number of cocks here make yours look like shit as well."

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Women do it to. You may not, she, her, and those over there may not but some do.

It is not exclusive to men, it is just as unattractive regardless who does it though.

Its a form of psychological manipulation, thst is why people do it. It is giving you a compliment and a basis and context to which to form that compliment upon. It is a very weak and none subtle way of doing it, that the majority can see through and dislike but that is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 03/12/20 17:56:02]"

Seriously, I don't drink but posting messages here makes one look like a d*unken buffoon sometimes.....as I was trying to say....

I understand it's supposed to be some sort of compliment. I just think it's an awful shame they think a compliment can't stand on its own. Reflects more on their lack of confidence in themselves to be able to give a compliment for its own sake, it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

I have felt the same here but vice versa. Ex. A girl might say oh sry you are not my type as I m mostly in either White or BBC not Asians.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

Maybe but a gateway or filtering mechanism is required here surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

I have felt the same here but vice versa. Ex. A girl might say oh sry you are not my type as I m mostly in either White or BBC not Asians. "

That's telling you honestly what her preference is. It's not a derogatory remark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

I have felt the same here but vice versa. Ex. A girl might say oh sry you are not my type as I m mostly in either White or BBC not Asians. "

Even in reverse that is not the same!

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Yay, another sweeping generalisation thread bashing all men!

There are just as many horrid woman putting down the non gym fit, non vvvwe, standard male on here.

There's just a lot less women so it's not as obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yay, another sweeping generalisation thread bashing all men!

There are just as many horrid woman putting down the non gym fit, non vvvwe, standard male on here.

There's just a lot less women so it's not as obvious. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yay, another sweeping generalisation thread bashing all men!

There are just as many horrid woman putting down the non gym fit, non vvvwe, standard male on here.

There's just a lot less women so it's not as obvious. "

A couple of us have said women do it too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

While we're on the subject of sweeping generalisations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yay, another sweeping generalisation thread bashing all men!

There are just as many horrid woman putting down the non gym fit, non vvvwe, standard male on here.

There's just a lot less women so it's not as obvious.

A couple of us have said women do it too."

I must have missed where it says ‘all men’ too.

I thought it was just a few nasty ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

I have felt the same here but vice versa. Ex. A girl might say oh sry you are not my type as I m mostly in either White or BBC not Asians.

That's telling you honestly what her preference is. It's not a derogatory remark."

Absolutely true It did not derogate with it. I say it was similar to that poor person who said it in a raw manner

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Absolutely agree. Puts me off too.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Completely agree. It’s an instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The things you find out that other men do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is 1 neuron to 10 men "

..and it's not my turn..

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Just block them

But first tell them they are blocked, and why they are blocked

Might mean they cop on and think before typing

I say might,, who am I kidding right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just block them

But first tell them they are blocked, and why they are blocked

Might mean they cop on and think before typing

I say might,, who am I kidding right "

Good point

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Never. Always respectful and if you got the confidence to put a picture and write a profile on here then good on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just block them

But first tell them they are blocked, and why they are blocked

Might mean they cop on and think before typing

I say might,, who am I kidding right "

But we don't want them to change their behaviour to stop getting blocked, we want it to change because they realise what a shitty thing it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never. Always respectful and if you got the confidence to put a picture and write a profile on here then good on you "

This is 100 percent true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just block them

But first tell them they are blocked, and why they are blocked

Might mean they cop on and think before typing

I say might,, who am I kidding right

But we don't want them to change their behaviour to stop getting blocked, we want it to change because they realise what a shitty thing it is"

This is very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

Agreed. It’s a huge turn off.

Hc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is called thinking out loud when typing a message.....

Please don’t take it as being rude.....

Some people just talk straight "

People who say they are blunt and straight talking are quite often (not always) just dressing up being rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

I would never be so disrespectful.

Some single men are just complete wankers.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

It’s not sojj my etching I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many ignorant people spoil it, and the mainly males unfortunately

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

People will chat shit to get into your drawers.

And then chat different shit to the next person to try to get into theirs.

Such is the way of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

I would never be so disrespectful.

Some single men are just complete wankers."

Wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

I would never be so disrespectful.

Some single men are just complete wankers.

Wankers "

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

It’s not something I’d say

I’m sure some do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s cos they are assholes OP and should also be an indicator of how they chat about others ! Can tell a lot about someone all in their conversation ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

More likely not a gentleman, lack of etiquette, trying to make it like a great compliment to you not realising it’s offensive, and show not great respect for women. Just don’t be upset about this kind, not worthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes then read their profile it probably says bbw etc most welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s cos they are assholes OP and should also be an indicator of how they chat about others ! Can tell a lot about someone all in their conversation ... "

True

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Assumption that women are competitive in a zero sum game kind of way. Puts me off too. These women exist, but I'm not among them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Assumption that women are competitive in a zero sum game kind of way. Puts me off too. These women exist, but I'm not among them."

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women do it too .... about others

Men do it, women do it

Happy Christmas

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down. "

Because they're knobs, and unworthy of your time x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Never. Always respectful and if you got the confidence to put a picture and write a profile on here then good on you

This is 100 percent true.

"

Yes..this for me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do guys put other women down when sending a meassage?

Example: A guy might say oh wow you've got a great body. Most on here are fat.

Its an instant turn off if a guy puts someone else down.

Because they're knobs, and unworthy of your time x"

Thankfilly there's a few good ones

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Would you ever be able to trust them not to be abusive? That's partly why I'd run a mile from them. I'd prefer people to find the beauty in everyone

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By *stroboy78Man
over a year ago

Abergavenny

I've never put anyone down on here or in real life and nor would I.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's almost as bad as people using pics they have taken off the internet yet again and setting up another fake account to get attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you ever be able to trust them not to be abusive? That's partly why I'd run a mile from them. I'd prefer people to find the beauty in everyone "

Agree 100 percent

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