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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Good morning Fabbers,

I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.

Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.

Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?

Please answer in the thread only.

Thank you, Bhubaysi x

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm sensual regardless of the situation big fan of kissing touching oral etc.... X

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I think sensual sex can occur in any particular form of partnership. Just as any other type of sex can. It’s about how two (or more) people are feeling at that particular time, In my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of sex does your friend think should happen in a fwb relationship?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I tend to only have sensual making love sex with grounded hot husbands, that is purely because I trust them not to catch the feels to much. We are friends who celebrate our friendship in making love.

Nothing more nothing less.

Personally I avoid this with singles as the emotional lines have been blurred in the past and possesion drama has occurred

In answer to your question, a fwb relationship would be as important to me as any other relationship. Making love with someone you care about is normal In any type of relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go with the flow.

If they want sensual passionate sex that's all good with me.

If they want to pin me down and fuck me ragged I'm not gonna complain about that either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both you got to mix it up can’t be all just fucking all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a FWB, but if I met someone here, there’d have to be mutual attraction, and I’d give them my all, sexually.

If, I met someone, wherever, and a real relationship began, then I’d discard everything else. For me it’s all or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had sensual sex with long term fwbs. I don’t personally think the feels can be avoided sometimes it’s how you manage them that counts

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

sensusl sex for me

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It depends on the dynamics. It worked with fb’s in the past where we could be very close and sensual without it causing any issues. Others were more suited to less emotional but no less fun shenanigans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sensual sex- both get pleasure

Fucking- meaningless animalistic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the feels are kept under control then I believe you can have all types of sex. Surely it’s all about the fun and enjoyment and what eachother want x

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

So you can’t have sensual filth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the moment, I’m happy to stay in fuck filth mode or sensual mind blowing passion and sometimes switch it up, everyone’s capable of both, I think people that have emotional connection problems or fear may be deterred by sensuality unless they feel safe with the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely soulless fucking all the time is only a tiny bit better than a wank?

For me sensual sex doesn't mean I want a wedding ring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely soulless fucking all the time is only a tiny bit better than a wank?

For me sensual sex doesn't mean I want a wedding ring."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long sensual sex with plenty of kissing, touching foreplay no matter who the partner is. If the mood takes it that way then it’s fine.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Good morning Fabbers,

I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.

Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.

Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?

Please answer in the thread only.

Thank you, Bhubaysi x

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Sex without sensuality is pointless.

It's the difference between a proper restaurant and a McDonald's.

The first feds you and yiu feel fullfilled. The other feeds you but you always feel something is missing.

And even.in.a FWB situation yiu need the sensuality.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time "

Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Good morning Fabbers,

I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.

Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.

Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?

Please answer in the thread only.

Thank you, Bhubaysi x

Sex without sensuality is pointless.

It's the difference between a proper restaurant and a McDonald's.

The first feds you and yiu feel fullfilled. The other feeds you but you always feel something is missing.

And even.in.a FWB situation yiu need the sensuality.

"

This.....

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By *ed_AliceWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Physical sensations to me do not equal some deep emotional romantic connection.

I love my friends. I'm intimate & sexual with some of my friends.

The type/style of sex & physical intimacy varies depending on many factors.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"What kind of sex does your friend think should happen in a fwb relationship?"

He thinks it’s ‘fucking’ only with a fwb and sensual is for a proper relationship only.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

find swinging unfulfilling, i go through the motions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time

Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often. "

Perhaps performance is more important for you.

I don't think you can claim that for anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By nature I’m quite an intimate, sensual, tactile person.

Animalistic fucking is sometimes just what the doctor ordered, but my nature tends to run to sensual sex more often.

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By *avey57Man
over a year ago

cheshunt

Sensual always with men or women

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Surely soulless fucking all the time is only a tiny bit better than a wank?

For me sensual sex doesn't mean I want a wedding ring."

This... Sensual v mechanical? Surely we are sentient beings, we feed our senses, its sensual? Soulless fucking might as well stick it in a kenwoods wankmate.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Sensual and passionate preferably. Just watch the flowery stuff you say when you’ve cum.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I just go with the flow.

If they want sensual passionate sex that's all good with me.

If they want to pin me down and fuck me ragged I'm not gonna complain about that either

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Interesting this is my approach too Cindi... I wonder if bring Trans puts us on a different trajectory?

What I mean is some guys see us as women, which is right and how we operate. These men are much more sensual, lots of kissing and passion.

Others seem a bit more sexually confused and maybe see us as men, or worse, a moist hole... So kissing and passion definitely out...

And then there's dark rooms and glory holes... What are they about???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What kind of sex does your friend think should happen in a fwb relationship?

He thinks it’s ‘fucking’ only with a fwb and sensual is for a proper relationship only. "

'Fucking only' sounds like nsa or fb to me.

I wouldn't want him as a fwb.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time

Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.

Perhaps performance is more important for you.

I don't think you can claim that for anyone else"

You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time

Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.

Perhaps performance is more important for you.

I don't think you can claim that for anyone else

You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you? "

I can only make claims for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is sensual sex like normal sex but you’ve got Enya playing in the background ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have two different types of sex. WhenI have had the rare opportunity, I just do what comes naturally and it certainly engages all the senses. I don’t think I’ve ever engaged in soulless fucking although sometimes it has been less intimate than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, I've often found the best sex I've ever had has been passionate and sensual, although often if both parties have a real connection which allows you to fully let go and immerse yourselves in each other, feelings are a risk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet. "

I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend. "

Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend.

Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing? "

If you're in a swinging couple or are playing away behind your partners back then the feels are probably a no no

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don’t have two different types of sex. WhenI have had the rare opportunity, I just do what comes naturally and it certainly engages all the senses. I don’t think I’ve ever engaged in soulless fucking although sometimes it has been less intimate than others."

Agreed Doc, it's the intimacy that counts and intimacy means different things to different people I think.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet.

I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some

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. I think you're probably right

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet.

I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some

. I think you're probably right "

Fibbing on fabs? Surely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go where that mood takes us. I'm happy with just a fuck, but I've "made love" to guys on meets before too xx

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other

That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time

Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.

Perhaps performance is more important for you.

I don't think you can claim that for anyone else

You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you?

I can only make claims for me"

I think it’s all down to how often you meet ? We met pretty much on a weekly basis and had meets with others as well so for us it was just how we felt on the day but there was never any pressure!

Like the pressure you feel meeting new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sex....When you love something that much, one can only make the best experience everytime, even if it only happens once. No time for crap shallow or meaningless events in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like sensual sex even if its just with someone I am meeting for sex. I can't see why it would be kept for if your in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different people like different kinds of sex. There are people who like only the sensual type. Does that mean they shouldn't have fwb at all?

It's a completely subjective matter. To each, his/her own.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I can’t have sex and not be sensual and passionate, no matter what kind of sex it may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend.

Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing? "

It can be when they only develop on one side

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I obviously don’t know how he personally defines “sensual” and “just fucking”, but I prefer to have some degree of sensuality even in very casual arrangements. I don’t think I’d be able to call someone a FWB if there wasn’t sensuality, connection, and intimacy. Are they really a FWB if it’s just fuck and go every time? I don’t think so personally.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included"

That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included

That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship."

I do know that the term "in a relationship" has changed in meaning since Facebook statuses became the accepted way of proclaiming your relationship status.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

You can have some amazingly tender and passionate moments with people you have only just met, that’s just how some people are, being tactile with passion and sensuality is a very enjoyable thing to experience, not everyone just wants a fuck n go

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Fb to me is you meet fuck and go

Fwb is you can play as a couple with some couples or singles with them ?

Or that was us able to do things as singles we might never if had the chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included

That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning Fabbers,

I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.

Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.

Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?

Please answer in the thread only.

Thank you, Bhubaysi x

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I like the full mix, but really love a good sensual session. Even if it’s only a one off. I find it far more intense and hot than just going at it for sex sake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sensual. It has to be sensual. For me it's about the whole body,enjoying the physical touch and senses. The slow build up to passion.

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By *lackC0ckLondonMan
over a year ago

london

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?

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Yes and yes. Because physically speaking, it's what works between us when together.

And that changes with our other... fwb's? Is that apostrophe right, doesn't look right, come on Monday coffee, kick in, good grief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included"

My thought as well. For me the “friend” part is important. I’ve talked to guys (not on fab) who think the “friend” part of FWB means you might have a conversation before you fuck, but to me a friend is someone you do things with, go out for dinner or a museum or whatever you do with friends, plus shagging.

As for the original question, I’m not really sure what counts as “sensual” sex but I can have both with the same person. I have to have kissing with sex, I don’t know if that counts as sensual vs fucking (I think it can be either!) so I wouldn’t ever have a meet without kissing.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

What really caught me with my fwb was how sensual he was from the very first meet. I loved it.

Probably also why I’ve fallen in love with him too.

But I enjoy sensual play more than anything. I was reading the thread about “bad meets” and I still cringe about the very few NSA cum-and-go meets I’ve had. I couldn’t do them again!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I don't think it should be for "proper" relationships only - I'm very affectionate with my non-sexual friends, so it would feel completely alien to me to not be affectionate with a sexual friend.

And other like a mixture of sensual and animalistic sex, just as I do when in a relationship.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

For me sensuality is a big part of sex wether it’s with a FWB or somebody I’m in a relationship with. I struggle to get going with any form of sensual activity the animalistic sex usually follows I find

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I’m not sure why some people are assuming that sensual sex = losing control and ‘catching’ intense feelings

The mist sensual sex I’ve had in the last few years was with an fwb from here and it was like that from the get go. That was just how it worked. Even more so than with guys I’ve actually been dating. It was just how it worked out in the bedroom and nothing beyond that

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Interesting, I think the sexual chemistry will vary from person to person of course, I generally like sensuous sex, sometimes feel like more animalistic sex and catching feels is normal human behaviour, I just acknowledge that this or that particular person has a little extra something, then I try to forget about it and just be a gd lil swing partner, don't like feeling loved up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me like you love me! We can both run in opposite directions once we're done, but I want sensual. Hard and pounding can be sensual too not just all the kissing and writhing

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do people talk about "catching" feelings as if it's a disease?

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Either I'm easy.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

There can be senual without there being romantic feelings. I like to feel desire and passion sometimes from someone who isn't my husband. Not with everyone,it depends on the person and the mood x

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