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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

Have you or your daughter noticed these 'signs'?

Do you have concerns?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Google National Autistic Society. Lots of good resources.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

"

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

Have you or your daughter noticed these 'signs'?

Do you have concerns? "

OK, it was oy brought to my daughters attention at a parents evening,if the teacher hadn't mentioned it my daughter wouldn't had have known, she doesn't believe it BTW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't pm you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't pm you. "

OK bud I'll sort it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that! "

Yeah some kids are definitely more hyper than others, doesn't mean they are autistic.

I would suggest your daughter speak to School's SEN and then speak to her GP, he would need to be properly assessed before a diagnosis made

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that!

Yeah some kids are definitely more hyper than others, doesn't mean they are autistic.

I would suggest your daughter speak to School's SEN and then speak to her GP, he would need to be properly assessed before a diagnosis made"

Thank you

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Have a son with aspergers which is on the spectrum I didnt notice it tbh as all kids different but school picked up on it when 11 and was diagnosed from there! There is alot of help out there x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that! "

It is one of the signs that I guess the teachers have been advised to look out for so they can call in experts to advise.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

My youngest is on the spectrum but he had issues (namely his speech) that flagged him up. It sort of escalated from there really. Not much help I know sorry Dash.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't have experience of autism but our son's teacher brought something to our attention which we hadn't realised was a problem, we were angry at first but subsequently got it checked out and we're glad we did. Teachers can notice things that parents don't or that parents are used to. It might be worth seeking the advice of a professional to set your mind at rest. A simple change in asthma medication solved the issue for our son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that!

Yeah some kids are definitely more hyper than others, doesn't mean they are autistic.

I would suggest your daughter speak to School's SEN and then speak to her GP, he would need to be properly assessed before a diagnosis made

Thank you "

Lots of luck! I know Catch will give you excellent advice x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm glad his teacher is on it, I hope he can be assessed. I'd second the National Autistic Society, they've got some brilliant resources and information.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Echo the suggestions about discussion with the school SENCO. Teachers don't make such suggestions lightly. It's perfectly possible to be autistic, apparently "fine" on the outside and for parents never to notice. Some parents still don't notice when you show them a diagnosis letter at the age of nearly 30.

It's worth either ruling out or diagnosing, because even those who outwardly function "well" are often very much struggling under the surface.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Echo the suggestions about discussion with the school SENCO. Teachers don't make such suggestions lightly. It's perfectly possible to be autistic, apparently "fine" on the outside and for parents never to notice. Some parents still don't notice when you show them a diagnosis letter at the age of nearly 30.

It's worth either ruling out or diagnosing, because even those who outwardly function "well" are often very much struggling under the surface."

I would have killed for help earlier.

My parents were annoyed when I went out of my way as an adult to seek diagnosis.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Parents often don't notice. Teachers see hundreds of children and you get to recognise the traits. The student will then go on to be diagnosed or not by medical professionals, not the teaching staff or school.

I know it's not what parents want to hear, and remember autism is a spectrum so there's not one size fits all, but if diagnosed systems ca. Be put in place to support.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your advice and comments,some superb people on here, that's why asked, good night xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Echo the suggestions about discussion with the school SENCO. Teachers don't make such suggestions lightly. It's perfectly possible to be autistic, apparently "fine" on the outside and for parents never to notice. Some parents still don't notice when you show them a diagnosis letter at the age of nearly 30.

It's worth either ruling out or diagnosing, because even those who outwardly function "well" are often very much struggling under the surface."

Thank you x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Thanks for all your advice and comments,some superb people on here, that's why asked, good night xxxxxx"

I hope he gets the help he needs, if he needs it. And if he doesn't, then it's good to check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak with the GP and request a referral to CAMHS. They can give him a full autism assessment. Hope everything gets sorted soon

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Better to be diagnosed and be able to access support than struggle without it.

And remember "different" doesn't mean "less".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Feel free to PM me. Taught a lot of autistic kids in ten years.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

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By *ustcyberMan
over a year ago

North Herts

We have an autistic daughter. Agree with advice here, speak to the SEN, get a referral from the GP but know it’s a battle and resources are thin on the ground. The earlier you get help the better. Getting a statement helps unlock many things in education but quite often you’ll have to push for it. Feel free to PM.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

I think it's good children are diagnosed with autism if they're on the spectrum - it helps them to receive any additional help they may need, allows them to understand that there's nothing wrong with them, they're just atypical and that's more than okay. I'd much rather children were diagnosed than grew up struggling in school and parents, education and the child themselves unaware of why they find certain things difficult and wrongly attribute it to bad behaviour.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training."

My diagnosis was such a relief. It explained so much.

I would have loved to have been allowed to be a child rather than have gone through everything I did. A diagnosis and support would have given me that. Leaving me be only did me harm.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

Being diagnosed is a looooong drawn out process where you go through various experts who assess the child, can take many months.

The teacher has just flagged a concern at this point. It’s just something to keep in mind and look into.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

At fault for what?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

At fault for what? "

I get what you're saying, the teachers can't make these kind off diagnosis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lived with it for 15 years. Not me personally but it affects the whole household if that makes sense.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I lived with it for 15 years. Not me personally but it affects the whole household if that makes sense. "

It does indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training."

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I lived with it for 15 years. Not me personally but it affects the whole household if that makes sense. "

Yup. I live with it every day but we're used to it now. We've adapted.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe "

The teacher seems to be saying "hey, you might want to look at this". Not making a diagnosis.

Why is diagnosing children with things bad? Is leaving them without treatment or support better?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe "

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

At fault for what?

I get what you're saying, the teachers can't make these kind off diagnosis "

They’re right to raise concerns of course they are but as I understand it it’s just an opinion of one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The older you get the harder it is to get a diagnosis because they say...well you have managed to cope this long so tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior."

To be fair I ain’t got a clue I’m just speaking as I see it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior.

To be fair I ain’t got a clue I’m just speaking as I see it "

I think this is one of those areas where having a clue is helpful and if you don't, recommending professional assessment is best to avoid the wrong/inadequate action being taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior.

To be fair I ain’t got a clue I’m just speaking as I see it

I think this is one of those areas where having a clue is helpful and if you don't, recommending professional assessment is best to avoid the wrong/inadequate action being taken."

Yea agreed if the parents want peace of mind get an assessment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior."

It's a bit the same with dyslexia kids were just thought thick or làzy where it was they just couldn't actually understand. Breaks your heart a bit that people grew up thinking they were useless because of it.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that! "

To be honest not many. At 6years old he should be able to sit and pay attention to the teacher. Spinning is a sign of autism and the teacher has the right to be concerned. An assessment can easily be carried out to get a diagnoses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

"

Yea I think that’s what I was trying to say

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

"

On what do you base that final sentence? As you're probably well aware from going through the diagnosis process, it's neither quick nor easy and you cannot simply "label" someone without professional input. Teachers cannot diagnose. Only suitably qualified professionals can and are we really suggesting they are making things up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

On what do you base that final sentence? As you're probably well aware from going through the diagnosis process, it's neither quick nor easy and you cannot simply "label" someone without professional input. Teachers cannot diagnose. Only suitably qualified professionals can and are we really suggesting they are making things up?"

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


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He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that! "

If it's a kind of uncontrollably repeative movement, as in every now and again he randomly does the same jump and spin, it could be a form of tick cause by childhood tourettes which is quite common in autistic children.

Remember autism is a huge spectrum so may show in different ways to the autism most people think of.

It can be challenging having autism or having a child with autism, but understanding it really helps. And catching it young means much can be done to help the child learn to cope.

The best thing to do is seek a proper assessment. If a diagnosis is made there will be help available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

On what do you base that final sentence? As you're probably well aware from going through the diagnosis process, it's neither quick nor easy and you cannot simply "label" someone without professional input. Teachers cannot diagnose. Only suitably qualified professionals can and are we really suggesting they are making things up?"

More like it can be used as a catch all or throw away comment by parents for kids that perhaps dont get enough exercise or occasionally play up because they are kids, they get the adhd label thrown at them, or parents push for it rather than take the blighters to the park. Its probably not disputed once professionals get involved.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

"

I was diagnosed with autism in my 30s and I got plenty of judgement and labels as a kid in the 90s. Every horrible epithet under the sun. From students and teachers alike.

At least "autism" is constructive as a label.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

We're all on the spectrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

On what do you base that final sentence? As you're probably well aware from going through the diagnosis process, it's neither quick nor easy and you cannot simply "label" someone without professional input. Teachers cannot diagnose. Only suitably qualified professionals can and are we really suggesting they are making things up?"

My final sentence! Having worked with children for many years that as you have said 'teachers' have labelled (not diagnosed!)

But I do believe that the people who work with children do sometimes see traits that parents may not, but if anyone has genuine concerns only a professional diagnosis will settle it

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Fair play to the teacher for flagging it up ...get the assessment done .. research and read about the condition...and have as much guidance as you can find to help your grandson enjoy his childhood and education

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son was diagnosed 2 years ago aged 8, daughter going through it now and going to a special needs school next week, she is 7.

Do not focus on the negatives, appreciate their amazing individuality and positives, my children are beautiful loving children and I would not change them for the world.

Different doesn't mean bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have Autistic Daughters, tbh we are lucky as high functioning, get him checked, think of it as a badge of honour, IF HE IS does it matter? Will you love him less, i,m sure we are all a little bit Autistic.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

have a look at the site Adders dot org lots of very helpful advise for aspie kids adults and parents .was super usefull when my son was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Echo the suggestions about discussion with the school SENCO. Teachers don't make such suggestions lightly. It's perfectly possible to be autistic, apparently "fine" on the outside and for parents never to notice. Some parents still don't notice when you show them a diagnosis letter at the age of nearly 30.

It's worth either ruling out or diagnosing, because even those who outwardly function "well" are often very much struggling under the surface.

I would have killed for help earlier.

My parents were annoyed when I went out of my way as an adult to seek diagnosis."

Hugs lovely x

My daughter was diagnosed at 3, but she’s really severe so it’s obvious. Her dad was diagnosed at 23, when she was. He was just treated like an obsessive nuisance until then. Treated like someone to ridicule by his stepdad, as his quirks made him stand out. It helped my ex husband though, as he understood why he behaved and reacted as he did. He wasn’t weird, he was autistic. Sometimes that diagnosis can make things so much better, as it gives you an explanation and something to work with to get the help needed x Viv xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son was diagnosed 2 years ago aged 8, daughter going through it now and going to a special needs school next week, she is 7.

Do not focus on the negatives, appreciate their amazing individuality and positives, my children are beautiful loving children and I would not change them for the world.

Different doesn't mean bad "

Love this!! My adult daughter is predominately non verbal, but the other day, out of the blue, she came up to me and said “love you” Can’t explain how much my heart swelled, as she is not affectionate and pretty much echolalic xx

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"My son was diagnosed 2 years ago aged 8, daughter going through it now and going to a special needs school next week, she is 7.

Do not focus on the negatives, appreciate their amazing individuality and positives, my children are beautiful loving children and I would not change them for the world.

Different doesn't mean bad "
this so much this

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I underestimated how tough it could be handing a kid with autistic today... I've only ever spent a few hours at a time with my autistic nephew apart from when he was a baby. More recently I have spent whole days with him. I get exhausted after merely two hours. Today I experienced a full on meltdown first hand. So much patience is needed. But as Ivy stated, there are lots of things which make them special too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training."

Is the support for kids different to support for adults?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I lived with it for 15 years. Not me personally but it affects the whole household if that makes sense. "

Yes it does affect the other siblings and parents it's not a easy thing for anyone in the household least of all for the child themselves x

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I have alot of knowledge my son as autism hes nearly 18 he got diagnosed at the age of 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed as having Aspergers in my early 30s, kinda made sense as to why I never felt I fitted in as a child or teenager! It wasn't a thing back in the 70s and 80s! But I do think judgements and labels are too easily given these days to children that don't fit the norm!

On what do you base that final sentence? As you're probably well aware from going through the diagnosis process, it's neither quick nor easy and you cannot simply "label" someone without professional input. Teachers cannot diagnose. Only suitably qualified professionals can and are we really suggesting they are making things up?

My final sentence! Having worked with children for many years that as you have said 'teachers' have labelled (not diagnosed!)

But I do believe that the people who work with children do sometimes see traits that parents may not, but if anyone has genuine concerns only a professional diagnosis will settle it"

Absolutely agreed. I also think that teachers need to be wary of how they word their concerns. I would never tell a parent that they are displaying signs of autism or whatever because they will only hear that word and worry

What I would of done is relay the facts, 'we've noticed him displaying these behaviours' and ask the parents for their thoughts and then refer for assessment explaining the procedures

To label off the bat without seeking professional intervention is damaging because it causes the parents to panic.

Relaying facts, offering support and signposting without scaremongering is key. I wish teachers were taught empathy and how to communicate effectively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

Swingers should live, eat, breathe, sleep, sex. Their only reason to exist is to fuck strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

More to this site than sex you know.

This is what the Fora is about, people coming together from all backgrounds with differing experiences sharing knowledge.

Nothing wrong with sharing that knowledge if someone seeks it. As you can read above there has been some fantastic advice from professionals and parents alike so who better to ask

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

My grandson is 8 and although he hasn't been diagnosed we have always wondered if he was on the spectrum and raised concerns.

He has always had a massive capacity for learning but struggles in other ways...socially he has no concept of boundaries. Hates and was distressed at loud noises especially when really young.

Finally, it was picked up on by his teacher. It felt like a bit of a relief that he wasn't just being naughty and that we may be given the tools to work better with him.

He is an amazing child..loving and considerate but will just switch off/tune out at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here "

Don’t agree with this at all.

My eldest son is autistic with severe learning disabilities. I knew from when he was 6 months old that something was very wrong and I spent the next two years fighting for help, for a diagnosis and for intervention.

I’m a big believer in early intervention. The earlier that help is sought, the better it is.

As a parent that was not listened to and dismissed, it makes me happy to see or hear about teachers or other parents raising concerns. It’s better to be checked/assessed and it decided that it’s normal child behaviour, than allow a child to continue potentially struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Don’t agree with this at all.

My eldest son is autistic with severe learning disabilities. I knew from when he was 6 months old that something was very wrong and I spent the next two years fighting for help, for a diagnosis and for intervention.

I’m a big believer in early intervention. The earlier that help is sought, the better it is.

As a parent that was not listened to and dismissed, it makes me happy to see or hear about teachers or other parents raising concerns. It’s better to be checked/assessed and it decided that it’s normal child behaviour, than allow a child to continue potentially struggling."

*other professionals, not parents

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I have it. It wasn’t picked up as a child but the fact was I went to so many schools it would have been hard to diagnose.

Only when I started dating a teacher in my adult life it was picked up on and then I got it diagnosed (which was a difficult route)

I had developed so many coping mechanisms over the years and I just thought I was thick and angry.

The good news is professionally I have thrived in my role and I work with people who were diagnosed as a child and they have thrived in their Niche as well Dash.

I see it a a special power and so should he. It just takes coming to terms with and for me it was a revelation that I wasn’t stupid in some areas and why I excel in others.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

You're absolutely right when you say ffs this site strikes again !

This time it's you making the unhelpful and uncalled for comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

Iv had some good advice, some very good PMs to think about, in other words SUCK IT!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

I've found very good sound advise on here I update my status if I need advise from medical things to plumbers etc., and saved myself money and time into bargain ! As we are from all walks of life so why not?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would suggest your daughter speak to School's SEN and then speak to her GP, he would need to be properly assessed before a diagnosis made"

Absolutely this....the spectrum is broad and the ways it manifests are varied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I have a little knowledge. How old is your grandson?

He's 6,apparently he jumps up and spins round in class,fuck me what kid doesn't do that! "

If he is doing this then he could be needing regulation.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Is the support for kids different to support for adults?"

Yes. Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it. Children have a right to support at school through the EHCP system (yes, I know it's far from perfect). That system runs until a young person is 25, depending on the type of need and the individual.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Is the support for kids different to support for adults?

Yes. Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it. Children have a right to support at school through the EHCP system (yes, I know it's far from perfect). That system runs until a young person is 25, depending on the type of need and the individual."

I can't speak to childhood support, but yes, I got a letter.

It was huge for me but... support, it was not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

Did you misread the title of the thread?

No one forced you to read it, my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

In my experience Dash the spectrum is very, very broad and I’m not convinced a teacher can really diagnose this. Get your grandson to a professional who can and tell your daughter (I know it’s difficult but please try) not to worry as it could be a multitude of things going on with the child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

I can't PM you either.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I was in my 20's when I received my diagnosis of dyslexia, and my 30's for autism.

If I've learnt anything it's this...

To be able to develop healthy and effective coping strategies for life, you must first know what you're fighting with.

I used to rile against being labeled, but now, having had to break down harmful behaviours (harmful to me not the outside world), I realise that understanding myself, and therefore my labels, helps me to research and develop systems and procedures that don't push me to meltdown.

The old methods, the ones I've had to unlearn, were developed by a child (me) to help me survive in a 'normal' world. They left me with a while host of, what looked like, mental health conditions. But were in fact an autistic woman living on a knife edge of overload.

I have a great job,

Two degrees,

I'm contemplating my master's,

Autism is not a bad thing, it doesn't hold me back. Having bad coping strategies held me back. Don't be afraid to explore a diagnosis. Believe me, if it comes back as no, no harm done. If it doesn't happen it can be a lifetime of crap to sort out.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

You clearly haven't realised in your narrow visioned time here that people refer to swinging as a COMMUNITY.

That's what people in a COMMUNITY do, ya know.... talk, learn, grow, share.

Do you go to football and ONLY talk about football or do ya share problems?

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By *layboy1976Man
over a year ago

New Malden

I can only echo what incandescent mentioned, the spectrum is indeed vast, my son was diagnosed adhd and from that also found him to be on the autistic spectrum... A trait he shows is his attention to detail on some things boarders ocd, he will study something in extreme detail, then all of a sudden shift his interest elsewhere, but no teacher can diagnose this, see gp and explain the teachers concerns, go from there.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I was in my 20's when I received my diagnosis of dyslexia, and my 30's for autism.

If I've learnt anything it's this...

To be able to develop healthy and effective coping strategies for life, you must first know what you're fighting with.

I used to rile against being labeled, but now, having had to break down harmful behaviours (harmful to me not the outside world), I realise that understanding myself, and therefore my labels, helps me to research and develop systems and procedures that don't push me to meltdown.

The old methods, the ones I've had to unlearn, were developed by a child (me) to help me survive in a 'normal' world. They left me with a while host of, what looked like, mental health conditions. But were in fact an autistic woman living on a knife edge of overload.

I have a great job,

Two degrees,

I'm contemplating my master's,

Autism is not a bad thing, it doesn't hold me back. Having bad coping strategies held me back. Don't be afraid to explore a diagnosis. Believe me, if it comes back as no, no harm done. If it doesn't happen it can be a lifetime of crap to sort out. "

I find labels to be spring boards. This is my starting point, here are some people with some traits I have in common.

Rather than "I'm weird and useless and why should I bother".

My whole childhood was marred by "I'm flawed, different and broken".

I have some challenges. I also have considerable strength. The diagnosis lets me see that. And society is getting better about it - but obviously we still have work to do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!

You clearly haven't realised in your narrow visioned time here that people refer to swinging as a COMMUNITY.

That's what people in a COMMUNITY do, ya know.... talk, learn, grow, share.

Do you go to football and ONLY talk about football or do ya share problems? "

I bet this complaint never comes up on football threads. I don't give a toss about football (in fact I've discovered that if I say "soccer" three times it makes the "but you must care" brigade fuck off). So I don't post on football or football threads...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I didn't read all answer so apols if i am repeating.

Dash - Your grandson's teacher is a teacher NOT a medically qualified person. She cannot diagnose.

What a teacher can do is mention behaviours to the school SENCO.

The SENCO then , as a rule, observes the child over time or has sessions with the child where they 'get to know each other' ...

If the SENCO thinks their may be cause to have the child tested by a QUALIFIED person they then seek the parents permission for this test to take place.

If the child is on the autistic spectrum then a diagnosis will be given. If the child is NOT on the spectrum then they are not.

There are specific mannerisms and other characteristics that raise teachers awareness being 'active' at 6 years old is not one of them.

The teacher may believe that the child's behaviour is not particularly in line with their peers but they should NEVER give a diagnosis.

It may be that she was requesting your daughters permission.

If not, if she said .... he might be on the spectrum then someone needs to speak to the head ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I can't PM you either."

You can now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't read all answer so apols if i am repeating.

Dash - Your grandson's teacher is a teacher NOT a medically qualified person. She cannot diagnose.

What a teacher can do is mention behaviours to the school SENCO.

The SENCO then , as a rule, observes the child over time or has sessions with the child where they 'get to know each other' ...

If the SENCO thinks their may be cause to have the child tested by a QUALIFIED person they then seek the parents permission for this test to take place.

If the child is on the autistic spectrum then a diagnosis will be given. If the child is NOT on the spectrum then they are not.

There are specific mannerisms and other characteristics that raise teachers awareness being 'active' at 6 years old is not one of them.

The teacher may believe that the child's behaviour is not particularly in line with their peers but they should NEVER give a diagnosis.

It may be that she was requesting your daughters permission.

If not, if she said .... he might be on the spectrum then someone needs to speak to the head .... "

Cheers granny,I will know more in the weeks to come

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Plus............. If the school have told you he is autistic or on the spectrum then your daughters response should be a polite..........

Oh, has he been diagnosed ? and

Thank you, when was he diagnosed and by whom ?

What strategies have been put in place to ensure that he is able to access the curriculum and doesn't miss out in anyway.

What special equipment and activities will be provided for him ?

Will he have a one to one 'significant other' to assist him throughout the day ?

Yada yada.........

( I bet it turns out that he is just a lively little bugger )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

Shut up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Is the support for kids different to support for adults?

Yes. Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it. Children have a right to support at school through the EHCP system (yes, I know it's far from perfect). That system runs until a young person is 25, depending on the type of need and the individual."

Good that kids get support, I suppose adults have more possibility to look for help themselves than kids do.

I don't know what EHCP is.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Is the support for kids different to support for adults?

Yes. Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it. Children have a right to support at school through the EHCP system (yes, I know it's far from perfect). That system runs until a young person is 25, depending on the type of need and the individual.

Good that kids get support, I suppose adults have more possibility to look for help themselves than kids do.

I don't know what EHCP is. "
EHCP Is a education health and care plan not every child with autism will qualify deornds how they are , they all different and it lasts till they are 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

She hasn't diagnosed him as autistic, she has raised it as a possibility.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

She hasn't diagnosed him as autistic, she has raised it as a possibility.

"

That's an extremely unprofessional thing to do.

It's like a doctor's receptionist saying Oh ..... sounds like you could have terminal cancer....... and causing worry and upset without need.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Mind you, Dash has got info second hand so we don't know how true the hearsay is. Might be that the teacher said something in passing that's been overstated by the parent. Who knows ?

Anyway ....... im off to save the world on another thread.

Point me to one

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Hi

I have some experience on this

A few kids in my extended family are on the spectrum and my little girl has Dyslexia.

School flagged it to me last year, and she is currently receiving all the help she needs tru the school and flying so first off, no need for panic.

He's 6 right

So chances are we you are looking at, A D D or A D H D or the likes.

The school should organise testing and your daughter will meet with their professional

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's ongoing, it will unfold in the comming weeks, thanks for all your input, much love... Dash x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Best of luck to your family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

She hasn't diagnosed him as autistic, she has raised it as a possibility.

That's an extremely unprofessional thing to do.

It's like a doctor's receptionist saying Oh ..... sounds like you could have terminal cancer....... and causing worry and upset without need. "

So she should have said nothing at all?

I didn't realise autism is fatal.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks"

I’m on the spectrum, I have aspergers (diagnosed about 9 years ago). I was always an outsider and liked to do things different. Back then, nobody knew what autism or aspergers was. So I was classed as just being different. My parents were amazing. My father taught me how to act confident even if I wasn’t deep down. And today, you’d never know I was aspergic if you spoke to me! It took 3 attempts to diagnose me cause my natural reaction now is to go to “confident NYCSausage” whenever I am in anyone’s company. Only those close to me know and have seen the real me.

Best advice I can give is this:

Treat your grandson the way you always have, encourage things that make him analyse things, he will be highly intelligent, find something that keeps his attention.

My son is showing signs, he’s only 5. He loves cars. I have no knowledge of anything to do with cars. But to help him, I’ve read BHP of loads of supercars , he likes to ask me about them. And then he likes to compare cars on the road to my car.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No disrespect, but it is very understandable to go into a state of denial. Please have him assessed properly and take any advice. Good luck. Whatever the outcome, your daughter will come to terms with it and cope !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I’m on the spectrum, I have aspergers (diagnosed about 9 years ago). I was always an outsider and liked to do things different. Back then, nobody knew what autism or aspergers was. So I was classed as just being different. My parents were amazing. My father taught me how to act confident even if I wasn’t deep down. And today, you’d never know I was aspergic if you spoke to me! It took 3 attempts to diagnose me cause my natural reaction now is to go to “confident NYCSausage” whenever I am in anyone’s company. Only those close to me know and have seen the real me.

Best advice I can give is this:

Treat your grandson the way you always have, encourage things that make him analyse things, he will be highly intelligent, find something that keeps his attention.

My son is showing signs, he’s only 5. He loves cars. I have no knowledge of anything to do with cars. But to help him, I’ve read BHP of loads of supercars , he likes to ask me about them. And then he likes to compare cars on the road to my car.

Hope this helps. "

Cheers sir

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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

Pretty good advice has already been shared but I would echo the need to speak to the SENCO at school and if your daughter hasn't noticed it I do wonder if they are just trying to label him - which has its advantages and disadvantages.

The National Autistic Society have a good website but if your daughter is concerned she should push for an EHCP (Educational Health Care Plan) that will trigger assessments, potential diagnosis and then specialist support for him in school.

Best of luck

x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

She hasn't diagnosed him as autistic, she has raised it as a possibility.

That's an extremely unprofessional thing to do.

It's like a doctor's receptionist saying Oh ..... sounds like you could have terminal cancer....... and causing worry and upset without need.

So she should have said nothing at all?

I didn't realise autism is fatal. "

Sure she should have said something such as he is overtly active, has difficulty sitting , listening etc......

She should NOT have said he was showing signs of autism unless it was to ask for a parental meeting for diagnostic permission.

I drew the comparison for the shared element of causing unnecessary upset.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a son with aspergers which is on the spectrum I didnt notice it tbh as all kids different but school picked up on it when 11 and was diagnosed from there! There is alot of help out there x"
There is help. Don't despair.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Have a son with aspergers which is on the spectrum I didnt notice it tbh as all kids different but school picked up on it when 11 and was diagnosed from there! There is alot of help out there xThere is help. Don't despair."

She is 24 now and doing well! X

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

I’m on the spectrum, I have aspergers (diagnosed about 9 years ago). I was always an outsider and liked to do things different. Back then, nobody knew what autism or aspergers was. So I was classed as just being different. My parents were amazing. My father taught me how to act confident even if I wasn’t deep down. And today, you’d never know I was aspergic if you spoke to me! It took 3 attempts to diagnose me cause my natural reaction now is to go to “confident NYCSausage” whenever I am in anyone’s company. Only those close to me know and have seen the real me.

Best advice I can give is this:

Treat your grandson the way you always have, encourage things that make him analyse things, he will be highly intelligent, find something that keeps his attention.

My son is showing signs, he’s only 5. He loves cars. I have no knowledge of anything to do with cars. But to help him, I’ve read BHP of loads of supercars , he likes to ask me about them. And then he likes to compare cars on the road to my car.

Hope this helps.

Cheers sir "

No problem, always here for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is ... you’ll get a lot of people offering you advice on this and it can be overwhelming.

Early diagnosis is essential, as it can take ages for it to be assessed.

I work with bloody amazing children who have the diagnosis, but you know what - they’re just children who learn differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem is ... you’ll get a lot of people offering you advice on this and it can be overwhelming.

Early diagnosis is essential, as it can take ages for it to be assessed.

I work with bloody amazing children who have the diagnosis, but you know what - they’re just children who learn differently "
Absolutely !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The Autistic Spectrum is very broad and any of us may have some traits, to varying degrees. A child or adult with traits is every bit as valuable as another who doesn't.

I'd suggest a meeting with the teacher again and to look at options. A formal diagnosis is helpful, which could help to ensure that they get appropriate supported learning and development. Other conditions can share traitz or may both be things that people have together, such as ADHD.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We're all on the spectrum "

No, absolutely not. This shows a fundamental misunderstand of what the spectrum is.


"Different doesn't mean bad"

No, but it often means that the person is going to struggle, and would benefit from help.

Sadly, it also means that "normal" people are going to make their lives a misery.


" Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it."

This is absolutely accurate. There's fuck all help for people diagnosed as adults.


"Autism is not a bad thing, it doesn't hold me back."

Unfortunately this is not true for all autistic adults.


"It's like a doctor's receptionist saying Oh ..... sounds like you could have terminal cancer....... and causing worry and upset without need. "

It's 2020, and someone just compared autism to terminal cancer. Fucking hell.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"We're all on the spectrum

No, absolutely not. This shows a fundamental misunderstand of what the spectrum is.

Different doesn't mean bad

No, but it often means that the person is going to struggle, and would benefit from help.

Sadly, it also means that "normal" people are going to make their lives a misery.

Our experience is that for adults, there's no support. You get a diagnosis in a letter then that's it. Deal with it.

This is absolutely accurate. There's fuck all help for people diagnosed as adults.

Autism is not a bad thing, it doesn't hold me back.

Unfortunately this is not true for all autistic adults.

It's like a doctor's receptionist saying Oh ..... sounds like you could have terminal cancer....... and causing worry and upset without need.

It's 2020, and someone just compared autism to terminal cancer. Fucking hell. "

No I didn't but I won't enlighten you as you'd be denied your histrionics.

Fail to see what the year has to do with it or the bad language but in the interests of fitting in ......

Fucking hell, Fucking hell , Fucking hell !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get it.... to many kids are diagnosed with one thing or another let them be kids for Christ sake and whose to say the teacher is not at fault here

Sorry but I totally disagree. There are lots of adults who are autistic, without diagnosis, who think they're mad or ill, who can't cope and who frankly really struggle in life. If a teacher had noticed the traits in my family member and he'd been diagnosed, his life would hopefully have been a lot easier, sooner.

Teachers do not suggest such things for fun. I've identified autism in my family member, a friend and several students, all of whom eventually received formal diagnosis. Teachers see such things regularly and receive training.

Totally agree with you all I’m saying is that there seems to be an awful lot of children being diagnosed with something or other and yes the teacher could be wrong but that’s only an opinion we have no idea how old or experienced the teacher is ... it was just a maybe

An awful lot of children are diagnosed with something compared to years ago because our understanding of things has improved. I can look back now at "naughty" or "weird" children at primary school and the adult, teacher me recognises things like autism, ADD etc. One lad I went to primary school with, who was a very unhappy and lonely child finally received diagnoses in his 20s and he can make sense of his life now. The signs were blatantly obvious in the early 90s but teachers were perhaps less aware (training?) and frankly medical knowledge was just inferior.

It's a bit the same with dyslexia kids were just thought thick or làzy where it was they just couldn't actually understand. Breaks your heart a bit that people grew up thinking they were useless because of it. "

I agree - I used to specialise in teaching kids and adults with dyslexia and also with other disabilities. People who have never come across anyone desperate to understand why they can’t do something that everyone else can may not understand how it affects their self esteem and mental health. Schools are much better at picking up on problems now but resources are still thin on the ground and specialist one to one teaching is often not available. If help can be given early it can make such a difference to a persons whole future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either public or PM,I know its sex site but it's good to share I think, anyway,my grandsons teacher has said he's showing 'signs' of autism, my daughter is at her wits end, just thought I'd ask...... X

In other words has anybody any advice...thanks

And you've come on a swingers site to ask for support on your grandson?

Ffs this site strikes again!"

I think you will find there are many people on Fab who are on the spectrum or know or are related to someone who is. If we can talk about different sexual practices then why is it ridiculous in your view to talk about autism? The Forums discuss life - not just sex.

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