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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you one of those who prepares for meeting another? Proper luxurious bath/shower, nice lingerie or undergarments picked out, hair/make up/shaving all done? Do you set the scene at your meet location? Candles? Fresh bedding? Snacks & drinks? Do you plan out how youre going to start sexual ‘proceedings’? Seduction etc

Or

Do you just get on with it you see me how you find me type attitude?

Which do you prefer? Effort or lets just get on and shag?

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Blast it woman, we haven't had any meets yet and now you've suddenly got me thinking of lists. Might need to whip out a Gantt chart...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes to the first part, I put a lot of effort in and tend to make getting ready into some relaxation time too.

But since all of my meets take place at a club, I don't really need to set the scene =)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Might need to whip out a Gantt chart..."

You definitely do or you'll end up running late with stray hairs aplenty, clothes unironed and a general air of piss poor time management.

As far as the OP goes, I love getting ready for a meet (whether that's a social, sex or group social), it's almost ritualistic now. So I always have a nice hot shower, shave, have a bath and soak and then exfoliate and moisturize. I normally call a good friend and ask for their advice on the final lingerie and a quick pep talk - it's important for me to get into that sexy, confident mood and not feel like normal cutesy Meli.

I've never met someone for sex in somewhere that hasn't been a hotel and you can't really light candles in most which is a shame. I do like doing little touches like making sure there's lot to drink (non alcoholic) and also the all important break time snacks (crisps, grapes, fruit in general).

I don't plan sexual proceedings because I like things to flow more naturally, I'd have spoken to them before about any no goes and definite yes pleases in the build up conversation but I don't want to follow a rota of oral me, oral you, penetration etc. Part of the enjoyment for me is seeing where the chemistry takes us and what happens - too scripted and I'll feel like I'm auditioning on a casting couch.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Preparation... making it look easy

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Might need to whip out a Gantt chart...

You definitely do or you'll end up running late with stray hairs aplenty, clothes unironed and a general air of piss poor time management.

As far as the OP goes, I love getting ready for a meet (whether that's a social, sex or group social), it's almost ritualistic now. So I always have a nice hot shower, shave, have a bath and soak and then exfoliate and moisturize. I normally call a good friend and ask for their advice on the final lingerie and a quick pep talk - it's important for me to get into that sexy, confident mood and not feel like normal cutesy Meli.

I've never met someone for sex in somewhere that hasn't been a hotel and you can't really light candles in most which is a shame. I do like doing little touches like making sure there's lot to drink (non alcoholic) and also the all important break time snacks (crisps, grapes, fruit in general).

I don't plan sexual proceedings because I like things to flow more naturally, I'd have spoken to them before about any no goes and definite yes pleases in the build up conversation but I don't want to follow a rota of oral me, oral you, penetration etc. Part of the enjoyment for me is seeing where the chemistry takes us and what happens - too scripted and I'll feel like I'm auditioning on a casting couch. "

Joking aside I think we'd be similar. Lots of personal prep but then go with the flow once the fun stuff starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd find all that a bit of a faff

Besides, if I'm gonna be having sex I'll be messed up pretty quickly

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like to spend a good couple of hours getting ready. If I have people over at mine I do a full clean of the flat, change the bedding and light a scented candle.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Might need to whip out a Gantt chart...

You definitely do or you'll end up running late with stray hairs aplenty, clothes unironed and a general air of piss poor time management.

As far as the OP goes, I love getting ready for a meet (whether that's a social, sex or group social), it's almost ritualistic now. So I always have a nice hot shower, shave, have a bath and soak and then exfoliate and moisturize. I normally call a good friend and ask for their advice on the final lingerie and a quick pep talk - it's important for me to get into that sexy, confident mood and not feel like normal cutesy Meli.

I've never met someone for sex in somewhere that hasn't been a hotel and you can't really light candles in most which is a shame. I do like doing little touches like making sure there's lot to drink (non alcoholic) and also the all important break time snacks (crisps, grapes, fruit in general).

I don't plan sexual proceedings because I like things to flow more naturally, I'd have spoken to them before about any no goes and definite yes pleases in the build up conversation but I don't want to follow a rota of oral me, oral you, penetration etc. Part of the enjoyment for me is seeing where the chemistry takes us and what happens - too scripted and I'll feel like I'm auditioning on a casting couch. "

Oh no, hot wax. Candles. Hotel =

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always showered and shaved but I found all the dressing up a bit stressful really, it isnt really my thing so meeting now I would try to make a more natural affair.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Definitely the first , one of our pet hates is when others don’t, it’s disrespectful, although it’s usually the guys in couples that don’t make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definately spend time male grooming, I'd expect lady to be clean, fresh etc, so I should be too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely the first , one of our pet hates is when others don’t, it’s disrespectful, although it’s usually the guys in couples that don’t make the effort."

Maybe they can't find lingerie to fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely the first , one of our pet hates is when others don’t, it’s disrespectful, although it’s usually the guys in couples that don’t make the effort.

Maybe they can't find lingerie to fit "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put a lot of effort in even with a regular partner

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Certainly any meets I've had I've made an effort to be clean and prepared in that way, and will dress appropriately for the occasion - any planning beyond that however is limited to what time/where we're meeting and booking a room if necessary...beyond that it's completely go with the flow and see where it leads

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Definitely the first , one of our pet hates is when others don’t, it’s disrespectful, although it’s usually the guys in couples that don’t make the effort.

Maybe they can't find lingerie to fit "

They don’t need lingerie, just have a wash and don’t wear their favourite t shirt that has their dinner down it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Depends on who I'm meeting although to be fair I'd never go to the lengths in the first option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely the first , one of our pet hates is when others don’t, it’s disrespectful, although it’s usually the guys in couples that don’t make the effort.

Maybe they can't find lingerie to fit

They don’t need lingerie, just have a wash and don’t wear their favourite t shirt that has their dinner down it "

That's not quite what it's in the op

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t “dress up”. I’ll rock up in my jeans, sketchers, anorak. They’re on the floor within minutes anyway. I like to just crack on (sorry fellas).

I don’t accommodate either so the rest wouldn’t apply.

Disclaimer - I do wash, clean my teeth etc beforehand. I just don’t put sexy clothes on.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"Certainly any meets I've had I've made an effort to be clean and prepared in that way, and will dress appropriately for the occasion - any planning beyond that however is limited to what time/where we're meeting and booking a room if necessary...beyond that it's completely go with the flow and see where it leads "

That saved me a lot of typing...pretty much this, I make sure I look and smell good, and what will be will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet very often and when I do it's always planned in advance so I like to make an effort.

If it's at mine then the whole place is of course the whole house is clean and tidy. There's always candles lit in my house, music paying and soft lighting but that's just how I prefer my house to be all the time.

I have a little pamper session for myself to make me feel good and then spend ages getting myself in to a flap about what I'm wearing knowing full well it probably won't stay on long anyway

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

Always turn up clean, washed hair, shaved outfit / lingerie selected for the occasion even new lingerie... give myself as much time as possible to get ready

I rock up with the this old thing, I threw it on nothing special attitude, I never let on how much effort I actually put into getting ready

On a few rare occasions have meet a fwb straight after work etc so just been in “normal clothes” I apologised profusely that I did not have sexy lingerie on etc, was told “it doesn’t always have to be sexy” I did request a shower before we played though!

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Lots of effort ..lots of prep...lots of thought goes into our meets as we dont play a lot ...due to time and being fussy buggers LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t “dress up”. I’ll rock up in my jeans, sketchers, anorak. They’re on the floor within minutes anyway. I like to just crack on (sorry fellas).

I don’t accommodate either so the rest wouldn’t apply.

Disclaimer - I do wash, clean my teeth etc beforehand. I just don’t put sexy clothes on."

Its lovely to know you can turn up in a cosy woolly jumper and jeans and still be desirable, this is my prefered option too

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don’t “dress up”. I’ll rock up in my jeans, sketchers, anorak. They’re on the floor within minutes anyway. I like to just crack on (sorry fellas).

I don’t accommodate either so the rest wouldn’t apply.

Disclaimer - I do wash, clean my teeth etc beforehand. I just don’t put sexy clothes on.

Its lovely to know you can turn up in a cosy woolly jumper and jeans and still be desirable, this is my prefered option too "

I still turn up in a jumper dress and boots, I just like wearing nice lingerie underneath. I don't think there's a right or wrong way of doing it - some people like the whole prep beforehand, some like a bit and some would rather go as they are. There's nothing wrong with any of the choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t “dress up”. I’ll rock up in my jeans, sketchers, anorak. They’re on the floor within minutes anyway. I like to just crack on (sorry fellas).

I don’t accommodate either so the rest wouldn’t apply.

Disclaimer - I do wash, clean my teeth etc beforehand. I just don’t put sexy clothes on.

Its lovely to know you can turn up in a cosy woolly jumper and jeans and still be desirable, this is my prefered option too

I still turn up in a jumper dress and boots, I just like wearing nice lingerie underneath. I don't think there's a right or wrong way of doing it - some people like the whole prep beforehand, some like a bit and some would rather go as they are. There's nothing wrong with any of the choices. "

Absolutely yes. I do like to have brand new underwear on it adds a crisp freshness to things.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I flush my poop chute

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