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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive lately woke in the early hours and had a panic, i wouldn't wsnt medication but would there be counselling on offer from NHS?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not sure if this would be midlife crisis, but certainly worrying. You could maybe try and speak to someone, not sure what services are available in your area given all that is going on. Try not to think about "missed opportunity" and things as that won't help any. Try to focus on things that are in your control and take little steps. (Easier said than done).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry had to delete and repost to edit, oops!

Lately ive had to claim universal credit” - given the circumstances this is unfortunately happening to a lot of people and by no means your fault but yes it can get people down and is a massive set back but hang in there

“i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities” - you are on your own timeline I wouldn't dwell on the past that is one thing you can’t change, look forward instead and look for opportunities that you can take

“and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless” - most of us are one pay-check away from being homeless but its not something that we regularly think about, again try think of the good things that can come your way

A lot of this is easier send than done but a positive mindset can help greatly

“Is this a classic midlife crisis?” - i think its a classic human emotion, we have all been there at different stages of our lives, reflecting and dwelling on the could haves and thinking the future is bleak.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis?"

There is little point worrying about the things you've done, you can't change the past. Better off making a plan to make things better for the future.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice to you both, your both right of course. I woke up in the early hours today but didn't get into a panic, fingers crossed,

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Sad to hear this! Just take one day at a time ! Dont think its midlife crisis just worrying about your situation ! And as others have said no point thinking on the past ! Have u a f good friend u can share your worries with? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive lately woke in the early hours and had a panic, i wouldn't wsnt medication but would there be counselling on offer from NHS? "

Why wouldn't you want medication? Perhaps speak to your doctor and ask about counselling. They can point you towards people who can help.

Many people feel 'in crisis' this year. I don't think it matters if it's a mid life one or a 2020 covid weird year crisis. Don't beat yourself up. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ted every one is different (thankfully) and different things affect different people differently but here is my pony advice for what it’s worth.

Don’t look back but live for today and tomorrow.

Live the best life that you possible can and live your best life and not somebody else’s best life.

Panic attacks are for many many people and myself included a way of life and I can only suggest that you learn how to deal with yours because whilst in a panic attack you tend not to think or act in a normal rationale manner and this can lead to bad decisions being made.

Seek help from professional bodies and if suggested take medication to help you through your dark patches.

Been there and suffered like you but every day you live is a good day but in my opinion every day you just exist is partially a wasted day so head up and forge on Ted and we wish you the very best of luck.

T

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Ted, a mid life crisis is deciding which motorbike or sports car to buy in your 50's.

What you have its totally different. Please talk to a family member or your GP. Don't bottle this up. I often feel as you do, but would never let it get the better of me.

Please chat to someone.

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By *yd Charisse 10Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Iam the same iAm 51 if I was mid life crisis I may die in 102 god I hoped not

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis?"
wellbeing service (counselling)is available with self referral through your doctors surgerysee if they have a connectforhealth attached to the surgery too...

its good to talk about it even if you think you should be able to cope or your problems are less than someone elses. you are worth getting the support for.

we all go through change, some temporary and some permananent and sometimes you dont know what the future will hold thats a scary place for most of us. so go do what would be most loving to you, learn to look after yourself, learn new skills and bring all those skills and talents through from what was and see how they will form something ahead of you and if that doesnt happen today and tomorrow thats ok xx

ive been off my feet now for three years it wont kill me, but its killed my world, stripped me of my presenting identity its hard for me to even be on here as its an emoptional clash of the old world and the new.but i shall rebuild in some way i dont have all the answers and some days it feels like shit but thats ok..im still me and you will remember who you are, under all that you once did.and find new things to do....bless you, you are not alone, go get what you need.. ive had to lean on people, that in itself was a challenge and a new skill. i am used to being the rock for others x loving the self is my new warriors challenge and you can do it too xx

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis? wellbeing service (counselling)is available with self referral through your doctors surgerysee if they have a connectforhealth attached to the surgery too...

its good to talk about it even if you think you should be able to cope or your problems are less than someone elses. you are worth getting the support for.

we all go through change, some temporary and some permananent and sometimes you dont know what the future will hold thats a scary place for most of us. so go do what would be most loving to you, learn to look after yourself, learn new skills and bring all those skills and talents through from what was and see how they will form something ahead of you and if that doesnt happen today and tomorrow thats ok xx

ive been off my feet now for three years it wont kill me, but its killed my world, stripped me of my presenting identity its hard for me to even be on here as its an emoptional clash of the old world and the new.but i shall rebuild in some way i dont have all the answers and some days it feels like shit but thats ok..im still me and you will remember who you are, under all that you once did.and find new things to do....bless you, you are not alone, go get what you need.. ive had to lean on people, that in itself was a challenge and a new skill. i am used to being the rock for others x loving the self is my new warriors challenge and you can do it too xx"

Oh my goodness Suzy I didn't all this about you. No wonder I haven't seen you on here.

How on earth did you break your feet? X

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Zoe went into free fall when all this Covid stuff started and her income was hit hard. We sat down and chatted things through to get everything in prospective. She now has a good grip of the situation now and is far more positive so talking is the way to get around things as most situations are not as bad as you think once looked at and talked through. Hope you seek out help and and feel a lot better about everything soon

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis? wellbeing service (counselling)is available with self referral through your doctors surgerysee if they have a connectforhealth attached to the surgery too...

its good to talk about it even if you think you should be able to cope or your problems are less than someone elses. you are worth getting the support for.

we all go through change, some temporary and some permananent and sometimes you dont know what the future will hold thats a scary place for most of us. so go do what would be most loving to you, learn to look after yourself, learn new skills and bring all those skills and talents through from what was and see how they will form something ahead of you and if that doesnt happen today and tomorrow thats ok xx

ive been off my feet now for three years it wont kill me, but its killed my world, stripped me of my presenting identity its hard for me to even be on here as its an emoptional clash of the old world and the new.but i shall rebuild in some way i dont have all the answers and some days it feels like shit but thats ok..im still me and you will remember who you are, under all that you once did.and find new things to do....bless you, you are not alone, go get what you need.. ive had to lean on people, that in itself was a challenge and a new skill. i am used to being the rock for others x loving the self is my new warriors challenge and you can do it too xx

Oh my goodness Suzy I didn't all this about you. No wonder I haven't seen you on here.

How on earth did you break your feet? X"
im afraid it was the start of fibromyalgia symptomsi fell because i was unsteady and then because my leg was numb and i didnt know it. start of a long painful and gut wrenching identity loss journey..ive now been diagnosed for a year, have an electric power chair, house bound mostly, occasionally bed bound.im on elimination diet and trying loads of different things.no support from doctors so its down to my own skills with natural stuff and ways.. i am better than i was (i know hard to believe) but i couldnt even type for months, my hands and arms were so bad...there is always hope and there is always love and grace has become my warriors challenge in the face of adversity and if i can help one other person know they are meaningful, then its not a wasted journey x Thank you for caring xxx

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By *edtothecore.2.0Woman
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

Google steps2change number. Thats the councilling your doc will give you. We have to self refer for it nowadays.

Its easy to say dont worry etc.... but obviously something inside of you needs looking at.

Try a few drops of lavender oil on your pulse before bed.

Medication is there to help not hinder.

If you need anyone to chat with anytime, please just message me or someone you know... sounding boards are great too.

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By *herrychapstickWoman
over a year ago

Hitchin


"Lately ive had to claim universal credit, i am now thinking all the time about my past life, 5he possible missed opportunities, and the future, worrying about the possibility of ending up in poverty and possible rven being homeless

Is this a classic midlife crisis?"

Not a midlife crisis, this is your current bad fortune making you doubt yourself. You shouldn’t doubt yourself. But you should stop over analysing it. I used to doubt myself too, but I worked my arse off, went to uni in my thirties and have since had two major career changes in the last 5 years. All you have to do is take stock and make some difficult decisions. Even homeless and penniless, you’ve got this. Believe it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice from you all. I haven't really got anyone to confide in and I have taken it all on board whst you all hsve said,

And to suzie: you have helped me too x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Thanks for all the advice from you all. I haven't really got anyone to confide in and I have taken it all on board whst you all hsve said,

And to suzie: you have helped me too x "
xxxx go get life tiger xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like anxiety and depression to me caused by the current climate.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Don't think of it as a mid life crisis

Think of it as a second half opportunity

Always glass half full

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