FabSwingers.com forum: SLUT!

By *ldskoolvalues OP Man
over a year ago

The thick of it!

“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!

Ben x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a flattering word at all in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I'd recommend to call a woman, unless she asks of it

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Some ladies have a leather collar with SLUT in studs adorning it. Not something that turns me on I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there’s a time and place ie bedroom but outside the bedroom I want to be treated like a respectable lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me there’s a time and place ie bedroom but outside the bedroom I want to be treated like a respectable lady x"
it would be my pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it to describe men too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SLUT!

You called

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Won't be winning you friends on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not keen on it. I had a partner who kept calling me filthy slut and in the end I had to go nope we need to negotiate something else as I roll my eyes every time he said it. We have a Ds dynamic. I told him to call me fuck toy... I weirdly like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first."

This

Again as with other kinks we shouldn't judge those who like it.

I like to be called a slut whilst in bed as it's naughty.

But it doesn't mean I'm a 'slut' in real life

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I like hearing it in the heat of the moment from a guy I have met a few times.

Not so much as a message opener on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first.

This

Again as with other kinks we shouldn't judge those who like it.

I like to be called a slut whilst in bed as it's naughty.

But it doesn't mean I'm a 'slut' in real life

Like this one here, she's my slut!!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it, personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it to describe men too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

What do they say a slut in bed and a lady out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man

There she goes, my little slut

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man

No I was definitely unaroused by him

But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man

No I was definitely unaroused by him

But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft

Slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.

I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut

Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man

No I was definitely unaroused by him

But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft

Could he read the t-shirt from there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it a lot in people's statuses, "Where the sluts at?" and it makes me cringe. But I don't like terms like "cougar" or "milf" which get banded around older females. I just like sex and don't know why I have to fit into a category or wear a label because of that.

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

Is a slut who is a man not a slut, OP?

And BTW I enjoy being called one in the bedroom, by the right man under the right circumstances xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What word describes men who like multiple sexual partners then?

Surely they should be called sluts too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What word describes men who like multiple sexual partners then?

Surely they should be called sluts too?

Yes, men can be sluts

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By *r kink8585Man
over a year ago

ireland,

Being called a slut is fine by me... if I was under the right lady lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about just calling us horny sexually liberated women and leaving it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again this falls down to interpretation and how different words have different meanings in the sex world.

It's a bit like the Daddy thread the other day.

A slut can be someone who shags 3 different people each day.

But for me, when I'm called a slut I interpret it as I'm a kinky fukka in bed who does dirty stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!

Ben x"

Hey! We men can be sluts too...my mother called me one all the time after she caught me with a couple in her home when I was a young man

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I will happily refer to myself as a slut...friends will affectionately call me that or my favourite is " Harlot" but its not something I would welcome strangers calling me x

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By *r kink8585Man
over a year ago

ireland,

"I will happily refer to myself as a slut...friends will affectionately call me that or my favourite is " Harlot" but its not something I would welcome strangers calling me x "
slut lolol

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I think being called a slut is a compliment

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By *rMardyMsGrimmCouple
over a year ago

near yonder

I love being called a slut in the right situation. Especially if dr m is shouting at me when I’m being fucked by someone else!

I’ve earned that badge and I’m wearing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it when a lady says she is my slut.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I like it in the right situation with the right person saying it - context is important. It's a bit, erm... freeing? Not the sort of language someone would use to describe me nor the way I act day to day so it's kind of sexy to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once attended a funeral in a work capacity

The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back

I did have a

moment

I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends

I hope so anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity

The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back

I did have a

moment

I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends

I hope so anyway

And we’re they

or not the time and place to find out

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity

The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back

I did have a

moment

I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends

I hope so anyway

Ah you know what it’s like.

Funeral. Nothing black to wear. You go through your wardrobe and find that black jacket from Suzies hen party in Scotland in 2006.

“Nobody will notice” you tell yourself ......

We’ve all been there

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

slut = an untidy woman or a woman who does not clean the home, someone who is 'dirty'.

The 'dirty' has become associated with sex.

Do I like the word NO.

It's not that I mind about it being derogatory , there's a place for it in some people's sex lives.

The reason I do not like it is the connotation that women who enjoy sex are deviant and dirty and that it's okay to mistreat 'sluts' or even that sex itself is dirty.

Labels like 'slut' give an excuse to the men who think it's okay to harm sex workers or put down women who openly admit to enjoying sex, especially if the man is rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity

The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back

I did have a

moment

I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends

I hope so anyway

Ah you know what it’s like.

Funeral. Nothing black to wear. You go through your wardrobe and find that black jacket from Suzies hen party in Scotland in 2006.

“Nobody will notice” you tell yourself ......

We’ve all been there

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Not here no! And if you call me that expect my knee in your nuts!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"How about just calling us horny sexually liberated women and leaving it at that. "

Because we haven't left the neanderthals behind yet.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Im not a fan of it inside, or outside, the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no.

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

I'm a slut and proud of it

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We like the word if used in a nice way.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

Ben x"

Context is everything.

There's a time and a place and there's an intent.

My first message from M every morning is "Good morning my lovely sexy slut" In this context it's fine.

If a first message from a total stranger was along the lines of "I'd love to f*ck a slut like you", it's not fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of a worse thing to call a woman, I think it's as bad as the N word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate the word

Why call a woman that just because she like a lot of sex

If is ok for men it’s ok for women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate the word

Why call a woman that just because she like a lot of sex

If is ok for men it’s ok for women too

See my reply earlier, it's about interpretation

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"We like the word if used in a nice way. "

That made me smile....... What is the 'nice' way?

Oh Granny you funny old slut you!

Granny you lovely little old slut!

You are such a slut sitting there in your armchair slutting away like a sluttity slut........

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Some women absolutely love being called a slut! For others, calling them that causes their pussy to seal up. I would advise to ask before using the term.....

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By *lli_sissyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

I'm a slut, but like many words... when it is used at the right time, very hot... used inappropriately... dull.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Ben x"

Does being on a swingers site mean I have to feel differently about a word than if I was on a cookery site?

With anything like this I always think a person should ask themselves "would I be ok with someone calling a much loved female relative a "slut", in any context?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a slut and don't mind admitting it. But people should be careful if and how they say it to me, it can be quite offensive, but fine in some contexts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slut is a perfectly acceptable word to use in certain circles. Language evolves and slut is one of the words that's been reclaimed over the years.

Much like 'queer' which used to be a derogatory term, but has been reclaimed by the gay community - slut is slowly becoming the same.

If you use a term enough as a positive, it will become just that. It's not even gender-specific anymore, and can and is used to describe men as well as women or anyone non-binary as well.

Fabswingers is full of people using these words as negative terms of abuse, but we have a responsibility to use them positively.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't like the word doesn't matter if I am on a swingers site or not.I personally find it derogatory and always find it ironic that guys think it's okay to call a woman it because they are on here but seem to conviently forget that they are on here as well so have no right to take the moral high ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What word describes men who like multiple sexual partners then?

Surely they should be called sluts too?

Man slut = mut

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I personally don't like it, especially when a stranger uses it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who says it and in what context. A stranger in a random message, no way. Not acceptable

Behind closed doors in an intimate situation with someone I know well, trust and have a connection with hell yes.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I really don't like it at all.

Its derogatory and to me its used to belittle a woman who enjoys multiple partners and doesn't have an equivalent word for men who are never looked at in a bad way comparably.

I don’t like it when its used to described one's self either as a friend found out when she used it to describe herself to me once....she won't be doing it again thats for sure

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Ben x"

The “context” of using it on a swinging site makes no difference. I absolutely hate it. Men often message me calling me a slut, I report them for abuse and block them. Are men who enjoy multiple partners referred to in such derogatory terms? No. So why should we be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity

The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back

I did have a

moment

I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends

I hope so anyway

I am updating my funeral requirements to make it mandatory for people to wear tshirts with that on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slut is a perfectly acceptable word to use in certain circles. Language evolves and slut is one of the words that's been reclaimed over the years.

Much like 'queer' which used to be a derogatory term, but has been reclaimed by the gay community - slut is slowly becoming the same.

If you use a term enough as a positive, it will become just that. It's not even gender-specific anymore, and can and is used to describe men as well as women or anyone non-binary as well.

Fabswingers is full of people using these words as negative terms of abuse, but we have a responsibility to use them positively."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like just about everything in life it all depends on context.

In some contexts it is fine.

In some it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being called a slut

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