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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we state in our profile that donna wants white men only , we aren't being racist in anyway whatsoever its just our personal preference but we seem to have upset someone tonight just by them reading our profile , it says this in loads of peoples profiles on here , has anyone else had problems with none white men taking offence to this sort of thing

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

To me preference is a preference nothing more, nothing less. I can state in my profile I like men over 5 ft 8 only and that would be perfectly acceptable so I cant see the big deal in focussing on any other trait. My only caviat would be that the preference is stated as just that - and does not sound in anyway judgmental or racist, fat-ist, size-ist etc?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"we state in our profile that donna wants white men only , we aren't being racist in anyway whatsoever its just our personal preference but we seem to have upset someone tonight just by them reading our profile , it says this in loads of peoples profiles on here , has anyone else had problems with none white men taking offence to this sort of thing"

its normal..

just as people complain when people say no black guys, I'll show you a whole bunch of threads where people complain where they say no white guys...

or no asian guys...

or no large guys...

or no bi guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid that the reaction says more about the person reading your profile than it does about you.

We are all entitled to freedom of choice and by setting out your stall in your profile, it avoids unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are entitled to make a personal choice...anyone that takes offence block them and keep smiling....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

your profile

your choice

your preference

we all have them, are entitled to do so as long as we are polite etc..

we may look at sommeones profile for whom we are outside their age range etc, would not think to contact them to meet..

will say nice pictures or welcome to the site but thats it..

its about respecting and being courteous..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people love declaring themselves offended at every available opportunity. If we'd receive such a message I'd tell them to do one and then forget them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for your feedback ,we aren't racist at all but just wanted to know what other people thought about it

thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want what you want, and you have simply stated this. If the person who has taken offence to this then they ought to go and perhaps look at themselves in a mirror. Everyone has a preference for a reason, especially on a site such as this. I am more than sure that pretty much everyone will agree that you choose who you want to have fun with and don't let some jumped up dipstick dictate to you as to who you must play with.

You have our vote. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot, whatever your preferences..;-)

Dont let it get to you... We're here to enjoy ourselves...

Any aggro.. Block!

Serious aggro...

Report.. Then block...

Good luck..

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

yes i have had this and been abused for it being told no black guy would go with bbw like me anyway as they have self respect which made me laugh lots i just reported and blocked its the only way to deal with them there is no need for it but some people just feel the need to be nasty and shout about how offended they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people love declaring themselves offended at every available opportunity. If we'd receive such a message I'd tell them to do one and then forget them."

I'm offended at your attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

yes, we seemed to have unintentionally pissed some guy off because we have the same.

cant understand it.

there are loads of women and couples that want to meet those we dont, so why be pissed with the few that dont want to meet you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for your feedback ,we aren't racist at all but just wanted to know what other people thought about it

thanks xx"

You've opened the floodgates now...all the smokers and tattooed people will be offended too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people love declaring themselves offended at every available opportunity. If we'd receive such a message I'd tell them to do one and then forget them."
AS a person who is easily offended, I'd like to say I'm offended by your comment about people who are easily offended........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . "
its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had abuse from white men about my profile saying I prefer black men. I just report, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see it as a problem at all...its not in ur face NO THIS NO THAT..again..if someone states a preference I respect it.Despite knowing i woulda been their hoTTest fuck yet.

(last parts a joke lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . "

I dont think thats a nice question.

I'd never ask WHY someone wouldnt wanna play with me, and I certainly not ask why they choose not to play with others regardless of age/sex/race/professionalism/smoking etc etc lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it "

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . "

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?"
where has it stated we don't like black men , we have stated white men only , not once have we said we hate them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it "

Good point you don't need to explain your reasons to anyone you have the right to choose to meet who you like and discount who you like as it says on your profile. Stick to your principles and don't let people bully you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have the right to state what you like and if any one gets offended than its their problem and not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?where has it stated we don't like black men , we have stated white men only , not once have we said we hate them "

I didn't use the word hate.. I was just interested in why your not into black men that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . "

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it."

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

"

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I was just interested in why your not into black men that's all"

And a reasonable question...;-)

We are all bound to have reasons for our preferences... We are not bound to share them...;-);-);-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

"

Maybe your right fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add to this..It OFFENDS me when people start talking about having bad experiences with a particular group of ppl(regardless of race,sex)..I do not have to defend what I'am in any manner whatsoever but would like to point out I hate being generalized in any way.Leave ppls personal preferences as preferences that dont need to be discussed.

can opening doesnt suit the forums most times...this is another case of it.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men .."

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it someone playing the race card again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?"

Its race related clearly.. But racist as in flag waving kkk then I'd have to know them personally to judge that ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

"

So by that reasoning and looking at your profile you are a total homophobe and hate gay men with a vengeance then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it someone playing the race card again..."

It very much looks like it to me and its so unattractive in so many ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason."

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?

Its race related clearly.. But racist as in flag waving kkk then I'd have to know them personally to judge that .."
its not racist at all , donna doesn't like to meet men with loads of tattoo's but we haven't upset you by this or anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it someone playing the race card again..."

that would be the poster who posted to the OP...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day we are all looking for fun and things are taken far too seriousley on here

theres enough hassle and too much emphasis on individuals being offended in our everyday lives we dont need that to be brought into fabs as well

and besides what we all do on here is very personal very intimate and so its to be expected that people especially the ladies WILL be choosy with their play partners

theres guys and girls of all shapes sizes ages race etc eto thats suit everyone so you just move on to someone else and have FUN

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

by the way , i know this is a forum open to anything but i hope i haven't annoyed anyone by opening this so called "can of worms" up , it was a general question and didn't intend for it to end up in the way it has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

So by that reasoning and looking at your profile you are a total homophobe and hate gay men with a vengeance then? "

Sorry where does it say I hate gay people lol?

My reasons for not wanting contact with men are the facts that I'm not gay I.E I like women..and this is a sex site lol that's a very weak arugment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it someone playing the race card again...

that would be the poster who posted to the OP..."
i haven't played any race card at all , its our personal preference thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?

Its race related clearly.. But racist as in flag waving kkk then I'd have to know them personally to judge that ..its not racist at all , donna doesn't like to meet men with loads of tattoo's but we haven't upset you by this or anyone else "

Tattoos arnt a race lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it .."

no, the fact that, on a quiet night out, the ONLY person that showed a lack of respect, to a woman having a meal, with her fella, and friends, was of colour, reinforced what she feels.

its not racist at all, its an opinion based on her own observations of the people she has interacted with in her life.

has no problem interacting with black people at al, just wouldnt be romantically, or sexually involved.

im almost certain that being racist means you wouldnt interact with certain people, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

So by that reasoning and looking at your profile you are a total homophobe and hate gay men with a vengeance then? "

You'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it .."

my niece is in a wheelchair...she is my niece yes...but she is in a wheelchair.

thats nothing against disabled people.its stating a fact.to which the poster already remarked...aoter typ of man(maybe even a girl) would have been considered rude...as it was the bypassing of the posting male half that was the key issue.

are ppl again reading different lines from my screen???...so many getting defensive answers that werent actually asked.Only leads me to believe once again, ppl are dying for a long winded forum fight.

The only question to really answer to is that there is nothing wrong in stating a preference, or justifying it to anyone

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I don't mind a preference.... good for you...stick to guns

the point where "preference" becomes "generalisation"..... thats like some of the others and paddy said, you get my back up...

I am no ones generalisation....

be that of a single man,

be that of a black man,

be that or a larger man,

or any other generalisation you try... and I say try....to pin on me!

trust me!!!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

we have a white female freind,who only meets black guys.

she is often accused of being racist,in reality she just finds them sexier.

so everything black and white is not racist.

though the paranoid,will always see a shadow,in every corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

So by that reasoning and looking at your profile you are a total homophobe and hate gay men with a vengeance then?

Sorry where does it say I hate gay people lol?

My reasons for not wanting contact with men are the facts that I'm not gay I.E I like women..and this is a sex site lol that's a very weak arugment "

Firstly it wasn't directed at you but anyone tarring someone with the racist brush yet clearly displaying that they won't meet bi men on their profile or TV's could just as equally be accused of being homophobic. Its pretty obvious you are trying to stir up things and are trying to get people to say things. Week argument NOT its a valid comparison if you play by those rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

So by that reasoning and looking at your profile you are a total homophobe and hate gay men with a vengeance then?

Sorry where does it say I hate gay people lol?

My reasons for not wanting contact with men are the facts that I'm not gay I.E I like women..and this is a sex site lol that's a very weak arugment "

Q.E.D. - you say YOU like women which is why you don't play with men. The OP doesn't find black men attractive which is why she doesn't want to play with them. Should she fuck a black man just to be politically correct and prove she isn't a racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it ..

no, the fact that, on a quiet night out, the ONLY person that showed a lack of respect, to a woman having a meal, with her fella, and friends, was of colour, reinforced what she feels.

its not racist at all, its an opinion based on her own observations of the people she has interacted with in her life.

has no problem interacting with black people at al, just wouldnt be romantically, or sexually involved.

im almost certain that being racist means you wouldnt interact with certain people, no?"

Never once did I say either of you were joining the BNP or kkk ect lol racism has levels in my opinion the fact you have said that you interact with black people as a why of saying your "cool" with black people speaks volumes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have a white female freind,who only meets black guys.

she is often accused of being racist,in reality she just finds them sexier.

so everything black and white is not racist.

though the paranoid,will always see a shadow,in every corner."

Too right people like to us big sticks to whack people who turn them down. I won't meet pissers and they really get uppity about it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

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Shhh, don't tell anyone but I never meet ginger men. I just didn't put it on my profile as I didn't want lots of comments from them accusing me of being a ginger-hater.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have a white female freind,who only meets black guys.

she is often accused of being racist,in reality she just finds them sexier.

so everything black and white is not racist.

though the paranoid,will always see a shadow,in every corner.

Too right people like to us big sticks to whack people who turn them down. I won't meet pissers and they really get uppity about it. "

They dont want to whack them they want to coerce them into fucking them. It could be described as a mild form of blackmail depending on how you look at it.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it ..

no, the fact that, on a quiet night out, the ONLY person that showed a lack of respect, to a woman having a meal, with her fella, and friends, was of colour, reinforced what she feels.

its not racist at all, its an opinion based on her own observations of the people she has interacted with in her life.

has no problem interacting with black people at al, just wouldnt be romantically, or sexually involved.

im almost certain that being racist means you wouldnt interact with certain people, no?

Never once did I say either of you were joining the BNP or kkk ect lol racism has levels in my opinion the fact you have said that you interact with black people as a why of saying your "cool" with black people speaks volumes lol"

yes, it speaks volumes of your opinion of the world.

you seem to be the typical lefty 'dont worry about being insulted as i'll be insulted on your behalf' type of bloke.

the same sort of person that stops calling christmas that because it insults others.

your an argumentative fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shhh, don't tell anyone but I never meet ginger men. I just didn't put it on my profile as I didn't want lots of comments from them accusing me of being a ginger-hater."

No gingernutters for you then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we state in our profile that donna wants white men only , we aren't being racist in anyway whatsoever its just our personal preference but we seem to have upset someone tonight just by them reading our profile , it says this in loads of peoples profiles on here , has anyone else had problems with none white men taking offence to this sort of thing"

A few times yes

I used to have on my profile that i wasnt attracted to asian men, but i got quite a bit of mail off asian guys asking why etc

So i took it off and now if a asian guy mails me i just say to him sorry your not what im looking for

It would save his time if i still had it on my profile but lifes easier without it there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"by the way , i know this is a forum open to anything but i hope i haven't annoyed anyone by opening this so called "can of worms" up , it was a general question and didn't intend for it to end up in the way it has"

again READING POSTS WRONG!..

I never said the opening of this forum from the OP is wrong..what I'm saying IS wrong is some of the answers which are can opening.

again..is my screen that much different from other peoples...

my main issue was why someone had asked WHY u dont play with a specific type of man

another poster has said he doesnt know if a profile that says they dont play with blacks are racist or not...he said...... he wouldnt try to make the assumption, as he wouldnt try to get a meet from them.

I dont know where down the line his meaning was changed...but it has been.

some posters are just typing shit off the top of their heads in a reactionary fashion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it ..

my niece is in a wheelchair...she is my niece yes...but she is in a wheelchair.

thats nothing against disabled people.its stating a fact.to which the poster already remarked...aoter typ of man(maybe even a girl) would have been considered rude...as it was the bypassing of the posting male half that was the key issue.

are ppl again reading different lines from my screen???...so many getting defensive answers that werent actually asked.Only leads me to believe once again, ppl are dying for a long winded forum fight.

The only question to really answer to is that there is nothing wrong in stating a preference, or justifying it to anyone"
yes you are correct with your last sentence , thats what this discussion should be about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we state in our profile that donna wants white men only , we aren't being racist in anyway whatsoever its just our personal preference but we seem to have upset someone tonight just by them reading our profile , it says this in loads of peoples profiles on here , has anyone else had problems with none white men taking offence to this sort of thing

A few times yes

I used to have on my profile that i wasnt attracted to asian men, but i got quite a bit of mail off asian guys asking why etc

So i took it off and now if a asian guy mails me i just say to him sorry your not what im looking for

It would save his time if i still had it on my profile but lifes easier without it there"

That must make for some interesting nights at Chams where there's loads of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

from our pov, we arent interested in speaking with black guys because em doesnt find them sexy. maybe its skin colour, maybe its attitude (and 2 recent incidents support the latter) its her own choice and i support it.

With the best will in the world that is sort of racist. .. Skin colour.. And attitude.. Not all black men have bad attitudes..same as white men ..

absolutely totally correct, but is not in the least bit racist at all.

we were having a social meet last weekend, and, inclusive of the couple we were meeting, the only person in the entire pub to comment at Em was a black lad, early 20's, which actually leaned across me, and told her he thought she was hot.

lack of respect, and we have ignored plenty of white guys for the same reason.

That fact the lad was black has nothing to do with what he did .. The fact you bringing up his colour brings race into it ..

no, the fact that, on a quiet night out, the ONLY person that showed a lack of respect, to a woman having a meal, with her fella, and friends, was of colour, reinforced what she feels.

its not racist at all, its an opinion based on her own observations of the people she has interacted with in her life.

has no problem interacting with black people at al, just wouldnt be romantically, or sexually involved.

im almost certain that being racist means you wouldnt interact with certain people, no?

Never once did I say either of you were joining the BNP or kkk ect lol racism has levels in my opinion the fact you have said that you interact with black people as a why of saying your "cool" with black people speaks volumes lol

yes, it speaks volumes of your opinion of the world.

you seem to be the typical lefty 'dont worry about being insulted as i'll be insulted on your behalf' type of bloke.

the same sort of person that stops calling christmas that because it insults others.

your an argumentative fool."

Hmmmmm the more you post the more I know why the guy you knocked back got his back up with you guess.. As I've been informed on here its a public forum and not everyone will agree with you ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?"

As I said above...

"If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are."

There are some people here that will go as far as not playing with people who have played with black men.

The only reason why this topic saddens me is that I'm more than my skin tone. I didn't say in my statement that that if someone wasn't sexually attracted to me then they're racist, it's if I'm stereotyped for being a black male. But again, I'm not going to waste my time on the matter when I can find someone who just likes me as person.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Shhh, don't tell anyone but I never meet ginger men. I just didn't put it on my profile as I didn't want lots of comments from them accusing me of being a ginger-hater.

No gingernutters for you then? "

No, I'm alergic to ginger - it makes my lips swell up.

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over a year ago


"Shhh, don't tell anyone but I never meet ginger men. I just didn't put it on my profile as I didn't want lots of comments from them accusing me of being a ginger-hater.

No gingernutters for you then?

No, I'm alergic to ginger - it makes my lips swell up."

Which lips??

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question .

That's their business.

If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are.

do you suggest that a profile which infers no sexual attraction to black men is posted by racists then?

As I said above...

"If I see a profile with this, I keep going. No point in asking them why as it won't change a thing. Some people are racist, some are not but it's a waste of my time and energy trying to find out which one they are."

There are some people here that will go as far as not playing with people who have played with black men.

The only reason why this topic saddens me is that I'm more than my skin tone. I didn't say in my statement that that if someone wasn't sexually attracted to me then they're racist, it's if I'm stereotyped for being a black male. But again, I'm not going to waste my time on the matter when I can find someone who just likes me as person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shhh, don't tell anyone but I never meet ginger men. I just didn't put it on my profile as I didn't want lots of comments from them accusing me of being a ginger-hater.

No gingernutters for you then?

No, I'm alergic to ginger - it makes my lips swell up."

Now that's a genuine reason lol

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"we have a white female freind,who only meets black guys.

she is often accused of being racist,in reality she just finds them sexier.

so everything black and white is not racist.

though the paranoid,will always see a shadow,in every corner.

Too right people like to us big sticks to whack people who turn them down. I won't meet pissers and they really get uppity about it.

They dont want to whack them they want to coerce them into fucking them. It could be described as a mild form of blackmail depending on how you look at it. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?"

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They dont want to whack them they want to coerce them into fucking them. It could be described as a mild form of blackmail depending on how you look at it. "

Blackmail... hee hee .. that's what this whole thread is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They dont want to whack them they want to coerce them into fucking them. It could be described as a mild form of blackmail depending on how you look at it.

Blackmail... hee hee .. that's what this whole thread is about. "

It is a bit when you think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They dont want to whack them they want to coerce them into fucking them. It could be described as a mild form of blackmail depending on how you look at it.

Blackmail... hee hee .. that's what this whole thread is about. "

Lol. Funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

"

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When that lad said she was hot and hubby got offended I bet she secretly thought .."I'd love to fuck him " hahahaha

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"When that lad said she was hot and hubby got offended I bet she secretly thought .."I'd love to fuck him " hahahaha"

lmao, you really do have some strange shit running through your small mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite simply really. There are some people in this world who don't see another person's colour and/or stereotypical features, and some who do and it forms the basis of an opinion about them.

The flip side of that is that are some people in this world who will take offence to that and make an issue of it, and there are others who will shrug it off and move onto something more worthy of their endeavours.

The trouble arises only when someone who does see another person's colour comes into contact with someone who's offended by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different coloured people look different, they have different features that makes a certain look attractive or not

Maybe its just a pysical attraction, maybe some people just arnt attracted to the distinctive look of some nationalities

but i agree we dont have to justify anything, if i read a profile that wanted women aged 18 to 30 only i wouldnt dream of mailing them and asking why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When that lad said she was hot and hubby got offended I bet she secretly thought .."I'd love to fuck him " hahahaha

lmao, you really do have some strange shit running through your small mind"

Lol not as strange as yours I bet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite simply really. There are some people in this world who don't see another person's colour and/or stereotypical features, and some who do and it forms the basis of an opinion about them.

The flip side of that is that are some people in this world who will take offence to that and make an issue of it, and there are others who will shrug it off and move onto something more worthy of their endeavours.

The trouble arises only when someone who does see another person's colour comes into contact with someone who's offended by it. "

I agree ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally prefer cream over custard...that is my preference and I refuse to justify just why my tastes run that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...so I reckon everyone should fuck everyone until we're all the same colour. It'll only take about 500 years.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"When that lad said she was hot and hubby got offended I bet she secretly thought .."I'd love to fuck him " hahahaha

lmao, you really do have some strange shit running through your small mind

Lol not as strange as yours I bet lol"

undoubtedly, but i dont try to argue with those i dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing"

Sorry i dont think its nice trying to get any more information thats personal.I wont belittle the OP or anyone else who chooses to have a preference that might not sit well with me or others.

Fishing for negativity is more lucky than fishing itself..no matter if u think its good to know who likes what for whatever reason.

I'm no forum troll, but some of the comments on this thread have been entirely ridiculous, especially with the readings of posts also(thats aimed generally).

No wonder some yas get urselves banned...throw in some childish responses and heypresto...uve made urselves look like fuckwits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...so I reckon everyone should fuck everyone until we're all the same colour. It'll only take about 500 years. "

fifty shades of grey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...so I reckon everyone should fuck everyone until we're all the same colour. It'll only take about 500 years. "

I again agree lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

Sorry i dont think its nice trying to get any more information thats personal.I wont belittle the OP or anyone else who chooses to have a preference that might not sit well with me or others.

Fishing for negativity is more lucky than fishing itself..no matter if u think its good to know who likes what for whatever reason.

I'm no forum troll, but some of the comments on this thread have been entirely ridiculous, especially with the readings of posts also(thats aimed generally).

No wonder some yas get urselves banned...throw in some childish responses and heypresto...uve made urselves look like fuckwits"

Doesn't calling people fuckwits constitute as name calling and reasult in a ban lol ?? .. As much as we have got abit silly on here don't think anyone has started swearing ect ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

Sorry i dont think its nice trying to get any more information thats personal.I wont belittle the OP or anyone else who chooses to have a preference that might not sit well with me or others.

Fishing for negativity is more lucky than fishing itself..no matter if u think its good to know who likes what for whatever reason.

I'm no forum troll, but some of the comments on this thread have been entirely ridiculous, especially with the readings of posts also(thats aimed generally).

No wonder some yas get urselves banned...throw in some childish responses and heypresto...uve made urselves look like fuckwits"

You are just being offensive calling me and others fuckwits! Mr sensible you are not and no need to insult people

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing"

Oh I know what you mean. The "but" is always followed by I have a black friend, but I didn't get that from the op and their profile isn't the NO BLACKS!!!!!!!!!!! type profiles on here. Even if it was, their profile, their preference.

I say this all the time, but I struggle to understand why people get offended if they're excluded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is this going to turn into a food fight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing"

so, i'm curious, just when did the op say 'were not racisist...BUT'? I can't seem to find that on here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

Sorry i dont think its nice trying to get any more information thats personal.I wont belittle the OP or anyone else who chooses to have a preference that might not sit well with me or others.

Fishing for negativity is more lucky than fishing itself..no matter if u think its good to know who likes what for whatever reason.

I'm no forum troll, but some of the comments on this thread have been entirely ridiculous, especially with the readings of posts also(thats aimed generally).

No wonder some yas get urselves banned...throw in some childish responses and heypresto...uve made urselves look like fuckwits

You are just being offensive calling me and others fuckwits! Mr sensible you are not and no need to insult people "

In my defense I never said anyone actually WAS a fuckwit, however read into what ya's like..I'm sure if people read back te whole thread properly, we might see some clarity.

*furthermore...I never seen any of the 'silly' stuff as offensive.what i did find offensive was trying to get a ris out of someone to make them appear to be 'racists', now thats where my previous comment came in about making urselves look like something as stated above.

If anyone feels I have offended them, just know it was more in general..and nothing aimed specifically at one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"is this going to turn into a food fight? "

Probably!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

Sorry i dont think its nice trying to get any more information thats personal.I wont belittle the OP or anyone else who chooses to have a preference that might not sit well with me or others.

Fishing for negativity is more lucky than fishing itself..no matter if u think its good to know who likes what for whatever reason.

I'm no forum troll, but some of the comments on this thread have been entirely ridiculous, especially with the readings of posts also(thats aimed generally).

No wonder some yas get urselves banned...throw in some childish responses and heypresto...uve made urselves look like fuckwits

You are just being offensive calling me and others fuckwits! Mr sensible you are not and no need to insult people "

I must be reading thing differently as the mad Scotty has tried to diffuse the comments on this thread, heading off at the pass those trying to turn it into a race thread when it's about preference.

Some of the comments have been a little daft in my opinion. However, I'd have used a different adjective but Paddy's comment was a general one in my opinion and not aimed at anyone.

As I said, that's how I read it, but I'm not spoiling for a fight...well chilled me!

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over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

so, i'm curious, just when did the op say 'were not racisist...BUT'? I can't seem to find that on here!!

"

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view ..

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over a year ago

For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

to be honest paddy,you may not have called anyone a fuckwit.

though in many cases,it was appropriate.

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over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

so, i'm curious, just when did the op say 'were not racisist...BUT'? I can't seem to find that on here!!

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view .. "

No-one NEEDS to defend their own preference though! Thats why its CALLED preference!!

You stated earlier you prefer women, thats YOUR preference. The ops is white guys!!

In what universe does that make her racist?? That just means she has a PREFERENCE!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a good way of ing out idiots, Its unfortunate we can't name and shame.

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over a year ago


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty .."

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts.

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over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

so, i'm curious, just when did the op say 'were not racisist...BUT'? I can't seem to find that on here!!

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view ..

No-one NEEDS to defend their own preference though! Thats why its CALLED preference!!

You stated earlier you prefer women, thats YOUR preference. The ops is white guys!!

In what universe does that make her racist?? That just means she has a PREFERENCE!!! "

Carm your jets wee fella lol .. Read past the first couple of posts then come back ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to be honest paddy,you may not have called anyone a fuckwit.

though in many cases,it was appropriate."

I have it pre-set to a key-stroke,next to my fanny shortcut

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over a year ago


"

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view ..

No-one NEEDS to defend their own preference though! Thats why its CALLED preference!!

You stated earlier you prefer women, thats YOUR preference. The ops is white guys!!

In what universe does that make her racist?? That just means she has a PREFERENCE!!! "

i never get it either, i state on my profile i only meet men that dont make me sexist because i dont meet women

Same as im not racist because i dont meet asian guy

I do not dislike women or asian guys, i get along with everyone and like people as a whole but that does not mean i want to fuck them

i do not pick my frirnds based on their sex or looks i do my sexual partners

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over a year ago


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts."

I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol ..

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over a year ago


"Although I agree its your choice and that's fair enough .. What are your reasons for not wanting to talk to black men ? Genuine question . its just our personal preference , reasons.....? i (steve )don't get offended when profiles say fit men only, i'm not toned at all but i don't get offended by it as i just take it as its there choice and i wouldn't expect them to have to give a reason for it

But there has to be a reason or two why they don't like black men ? I'm not saying I think they have bad reasons just interested in why they are filtering a whole race of people .. ?

Why do you think people have to justify their preferences?

There a sense of entitlement displayed by SOME on this site. The amount of time wasted by people on those NOT interested in them.amazes me!

No one has to justify anything.. There free to not comment.. But its interesting when they do comment how there true feelings come to the surface.. I always find terms like " were not racist .. BUT !" Very amusing

so, i'm curious, just when did the op say 'were not racisist...BUT'? I can't seem to find that on here!!

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view ..

No-one NEEDS to defend their own preference though! Thats why its CALLED preference!!

You stated earlier you prefer women, thats YOUR preference. The ops is white guys!!

In what universe does that make her racist?? That just means she has a PREFERENCE!!!

Carm your jets wee fella lol .. Read past the first couple of posts then come back .."

read them all actually, (well, all the way down to where you said she secretly wanted to fuck the guy) which sort of dir-proves your own theary doesn't it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As fun and interesting this has been .. I must get to be I've got a meeting with the UN to discuss world issues yada yada yada .. Night xxx

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"to be honest paddy,you may not have called anyone a fuckwit.

though in many cases,it was appropriate.

I have it pre-set to a key-stroke,next to my fanny shortcut"

i need one of them computers.

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over a year ago


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts.

I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol .."

I have a friend who ive met a few times...she is on here.We dont play.Her reason...she doesnt find me attractive, nor other than white people.I tend not to read into why.

the forum thread title has nothing racist within it, so for that reason...I give up on ur defenses.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts.

I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol .."

I have a white preference...I'm doomed!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

My twopennorth...

It seems to me that people are missing the point completely. When we state preferences on profiles they are a best case preference and are based solely on what makes us go phwoarr and who we want to meet for sexual fun.

This is NOT about who we would meet for socialising.

My profile makes it clear that I don't want to meet women. Does this make me sexist? No, simply straight.

I also prefer men over 6 foot. Does this make me heightist? No, some of my best friends are short (couldn't resist that one ).

But if I am walking down the street and see someone walking towards me who gets my juices flowing he will probably be tall, fit, muscular, slim waisted with perky buns.

In my swinging life I have puzzled over why I am rarely attracted to black men when most of the men I have had relationships with have been black. I still haven't worked it out, but I have reached the conclusion that it's not that important.

If I were to refuse to talk to shorter men at clubs or to blank any women who smiled at me then I would be bigoted. But preferences in a playing partner are a world away from judging people by one aspect of them, be it colour, gender, sexual orientation or even gingerness.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts.

I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol ..

I have a white preference...I'm doomed! "

you think you've got problems,what about my white female friend,who only meets black guys.

after reading this thread,i think she hates herself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a very sensitive issue obviously some carry persecution complexes and become angry and start tossing possibly inaccurate epithets at those defining a preference they fall outside off or some use their preference as a means to express prejudice toward certain ethnic groups..

That aside don't envision expressing a preference for a particular ethnicity provided it's done in a tactful manner to be the source of offense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

For me this is nothing to do with race at all and, as tends to be the case, when race comes into a debate rational thinking disappears.

What has happened here is the OP has laid out their profile to indicate to others what they like and don't like and therefore who they would (and by inference would NOT) like to contact them with about the POSSIBILITY of meeting. And then maybe, just maybe, having some sexual fun.

Someone else has then decided that people have no right to exclude them and then had the brass neck to challenge the OP to justify why not. "How very dare you not shag me. I am God's gift to women and you can't do this to me". No? watch this mate...

Therefore I feel the REAL problem is some guy with an ego the size of a house can't take a knockback even before one is handed out. Simples!

So it really is nowt to do with race and anyone has the right to lay their profile out however they choose within site rules and guidelines.

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over a year ago


"I'm afraid that the reaction says more about the person reading your profile than it does about you.

We are all entitled to freedom of choice and by setting out your stall in your profile, it avoids unwanted messages. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"My twopennorth...

It seems to me that people are missing the point completely. When we state preferences on profiles they are a best case preference and are based solely on what makes us go phwoarr and who we want to meet for sexual fun.

This is NOT about who we would meet for socialising.

My profile makes it clear that I don't want to meet women. Does this make me sexist? No, simply straight.

I also prefer men over 6 foot. Does this make me heightist? No, some of my best friends are short (couldn't resist that one ).

But if I am walking down the street and see someone walking towards me who gets my juices flowing he will probably be tall, fit, muscular, slim waisted with perky buns.

In my swinging life I have puzzled over why I am rarely attracted to black men when most of the men I have had relationships with have been black. I still haven't worked it out, but I have reached the conclusion that it's not that important.

If I were to refuse to talk to shorter men at clubs or to blank any women who smiled at me then I would be bigoted. But preferences in a playing partner are a world away from judging people by one aspect of them, be it colour, gender, sexual orientation or even gingerness.

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Summed up perfectly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"For the record I wasn't tring to get a rise out of the OP that's silly .. Tut tut..I mearly asked a question that touched a nerve in a lot of people ..of that I'm guilty ..

its almost as bad as the person who mailed them asking why they wouldnt play with them....thats the issue

and then the negative approach of pointing out that people who say they arent racist implies that u think they are.That is where the I think u have to look at ur posts.

I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol ..

I have a white preference...I'm doomed!

you think you've got problems,what about my white female friend,who only meets black guys.

after reading this thread,i think she hates herself. "

I feel her pain, if I were sub I'd ask my Sir to flog me!

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over a year ago


"I'm afraid that the reaction says more about the person reading your profile than it does about you.

We are all entitled to freedom of choice and by setting out your stall in your profile, it avoids unwanted messages. "

Unfortunately too many look at the pictures and nothing more before sending a message, some are just chancers and think you will change your mind

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"For me this is nothing to do with race at all and, as tends to be the case, when race comes into a debate rational thinking disappears.

What has happened here is the OP has laid out their profile to indicate to others what they like and don't like and therefore who they would (and by inference would NOT) like to contact them with about the POSSIBILITY of meeting. And then maybe, just maybe, having some sexual fun.

Someone else has then decided that people have no right to exclude them and then had the brass neck to challenge the OP to justify why not. "How very dare you not shag me. I am God's gift to women and you can't do this to me". No? watch this mate...

Therefore I feel the REAL problem is some guy with an ego the size of a house can't take a knockback even before one is handed out. Simples!

So it really is nowt to do with race and anyone has the right to lay their profile out however they choose within site rules and guidelines."

As I said earlier, a sense of entitlement displayed by some when excluded for any reason.

Right, going to trawl profiles and fire off "hey you agiest, sizist, racist prick, how dare you have a sexual preference that excludes me!" type messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with?

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over a year ago


"Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with? "

Priceless... and spot on

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over a year ago


"Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with? "

Priceless... and spot on

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over a year ago


"Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with? "

You're not -ist, You're just a kinky sod !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its everything to do with race ffs.. When you bring colour into it !

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


""I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol ..""

So the mere mention of the word 'white' is indicative of racist tendencies then?

You've been blathering on about racism on this thread as though black and white are the only things that matter irrespective of anything else (like someone's freedom to choose who they want to have sex with), and you see anyone who remotely references anything that doesn't have rainbow features as racist.

Here's the thing about racism though, it's always been a part of mankind's psyche and it always will be. It will never be eradicated so long as human beings are different from each other, and the only thing that's changed over the past 20 years or so is that it's been made a crime to openly and deliberately single someone out purely because of the colour of their skin.

...but no government anywhere will ever legislate that it's racist to turn someone down as a sexual partner because they are of a different ethnicity.

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over a year ago


""I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol .."

So the mere mention of the word 'white' is indicative of racist tendencies then?

You've been blathering on about racism on this thread as though black and white are the only things that matter irrespective of anything else (like someone's freedom to choose who they want to have sex with), and you see anyone who remotely references anything that doesn't have rainbow features as racist.

Here's the thing about racism though, it's always been a part of mankind's psyche and it always will be. It will never be eradicated so long as human beings are different from each other, and the only thing that's changed over the past 20 years or so is that it's been made a crime to openly and deliberately single someone out purely because of the colour of their skin.

...but no government anywhere will ever legislate that it's racist to turn someone down as a sexual partner because they are of a different ethnicity."

Have you read the whole of this thread or just the bits you feel like reading?

It started of as a couple wanting to ask the question was it ok to turn down a black man for sex??!!

the answer they got from the band wagan jumpers was yes its fine blah blah blah ...i asked the question what puts you off black men ??

the answers i got half way down the thread pointed out that it was skin colour....i.e race!!!

i whole heartedley support anyones right to choose what ever they want...but when someone disagrees take it just as that ...they disagree end of.

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over a year ago


"the answers i got half way down the thread pointed out that it was skin colour....i.e race!!!"

Yes, you asked her why she didn't like black men and I'd wage that if she answered truthfully she be barraged with accusations of being a racist. So let's take an analytical look at why some people don't find people of other races sexually attractive. We're just talking about sex here, nothing more.

If it was purely down to skin colour then the OP would only shag people with milk bottle white skin, as anyone with a deep suntan would have a different skin colour to herself.

When we talk about 'race' it's not just about skin colour is it, as a person's skin colour doesn't neccessarily mean they are of a particular race - take albino negroids - are they considered to be white, or black? The answer is they have negroid features and so are negroes (negroid being the term used for one of the major racial groups of mankind). So is it the features of black people she doesn't find attractive, (a deep brown skin colour being one of those features)? Or do black people have a different body odour than white people that she doesn't like? (my experience is yes, it is different, not offensive (to me anyway), just different).

The word racist has been hijacked to categorise anyone who discriminates against another person based *purely* on the colour of that person's skin, but it doesn't include the genetic features of a particular race does it.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


""I stand by every post and if people disagree more power to them lol.. You should look at there posts and then tell me that there isn't a level of racism .. The thread is called white preference for gods sake lol .."

So the mere mention of the word 'white' is indicative of racist tendencies then?

You've been blathering on about racism on this thread as though black and white are the only things that matter irrespective of anything else (like someone's freedom to choose who they want to have sex with), and you see anyone who remotely references anything that doesn't have rainbow features as racist.

Here's the thing about racism though, it's always been a part of mankind's psyche and it always will be. It will never be eradicated so long as human beings are different from each other, and the only thing that's changed over the past 20 years or so is that it's been made a crime to openly and deliberately single someone out purely because of the colour of their skin.

...but no government anywhere will ever legislate that it's racist to turn someone down as a sexual partner because they are of a different ethnicity.

Have you read the whole of this thread or just the bits you feel like reading?

It started of as a couple wanting to ask the question was it ok to turn down a black man for sex??!!

the answer they got from the band wagan jumpers was yes its fine blah blah blah ...i asked the question what puts you off black men ??

the answers i got half way down the thread pointed out that it was skin colour....i.e race!!!

i whole heartedley support anyones right to choose what ever they want...but when someone disagrees take it just as that ...they disagree end of."

Well actually it didn't start out with a couple saying was it ok to turn down any guy for sex,...

It actually started off with a couple saying they'd stated a preference on their profile and soomeone had taken offence at that preference, their question was , had any other members had instances of this type of thing,... ?

There have been many threads around profiles requesting only certain things, asking why do people only want this why only that... The majority of posts to these threads suggest reasons why this might be the case,..

generally the consensus is its their choice...

Now if you're really wanting to understand why someone has preferences... ??? I've a question are you from Sydney university.???

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with? "

retardism? lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet an islamic women of middle eastern origin. I love red heads and brunettes, blondes. I am not however attracted to black women, its just my own personal taste. And that is not racist in any shape or form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"by the way , i know this is a forum open to anything but i hope i haven't annoyed anyone by opening this so called "can of worms" up , it was a general question and didn't intend for it to end up in the way it has"

Lol, I'm offended in that people think that the only race excluded here is 'black'

Us Asians are also a 'race', but seem to have been forgotten in this thread. I want to be excluded too.

In all seriousness, I've read somewhere above that if he read the 'no blacks' statement he simply moves on. This is my view too, and the best advice to offer anybody frustrated by the statement. I would rather meet ladies/ couples who don't see skin colour as a issue (sexually that is) so that we all get on when we meet.

It's all about preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That's because they didn't ...and didn't quote that they did I was mearly pointing out a common statement used by some people defending there view ..

No-one NEEDS to defend their own preference though! Thats why its CALLED preference!!

You stated earlier you prefer women, thats YOUR preference. The ops is white guys!!

In what universe does that make her racist?? That just means she has a PREFERENCE!!!

i never get it either, i state on my profile i only meet men that dont make me sexist because i dont meet women

Same as im not racist because i dont meet asian guy

I do not dislike women or asian guys, i get along with everyone and like people as a whole but that does not mean i want to fuck them

i do not pick my frirnds based on their sex or looks i do my sexual partners"

Awwwww NN, I was gonna buy you a tea and a cheese toastie (with an obligation) next time I saw you in chams lol xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is entirely up to you!

And not racist at all.

It is after all who you find attractive and then want to play with!

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By *iscreet_guy_4_st8_funMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"we state in our profile that donna wants white men only , we aren't being racist in anyway whatsoever its just our personal preference but we seem to have upset someone tonight just by them reading our profile , it says this in loads of peoples profiles on here , has anyone else had problems with none white men taking offence to this sort of thing"

I don't see anything wrong with the statement as I don't get offended when I see black men only on couples profile which I do see alot! so therefore what's the harm when it states white men only???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think colour has a lot to do with it in some cases.

I don't find really dark black folks attractive in the slightest, yet I find paler skinned or mixed race black / white unbelievably attractive.

To me, 1 is physically attractive, the other isn't.

It really is as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I have now decided to change my preferences.

I will update my profile later.

I, with immediate effect, now prefer men, with only 1 ball and women, with a cup size of erm c (this week),

ball- ist and boob-ist here.... get over it

Next week I will only meet with people who have no eyebrows, the week after only people that have their nails painted yellow,

So those of you that do not qualify... which 'ism' do you want to label me with?

retardism? lol"

BUT but it worked,

I got messages from men claiming 'to have 1 ball'!!!

DISCLAIMER: I use the term claiming, as I have not been able to personally verify the fact that they do only have 1 ball and not to offend in any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen a few profiles where black women state they dont meet black guys

If choosing not to meet someone for sex based on their colour is racist how does that work, does that make the black women racist to people of her own skin colour or is it just a sexual preference?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men"

Not necessarily I can assure you.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Well that went well as usual

Please remember when you post not to get personal.

( mod talking )

Now me talking.....

I have preferences on who I fancy, but we don't put who I don't want to fuck on the profile, we just say no thanks if a person who isn't my type mails us.

If a profile is getting lots of mails that you don't want or like, then maybe change how the profile is written, just a thought.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Well that went well as usual

Please remember when you post not to get personal.

( mod talking )

Now me talking.....

I have preferences on who I fancy, but we don't put who I don't want to fuck on the profile, we just say no thanks if a person who isn't my type mails us.

If a profile is getting lots of mails that you don't want or like, then maybe change how the profile is written, just a thought.

"

you know as well as we do that the way a profile is written has NOTHING to do with the responses you get, most of the time.

men see the pics and thats all lol.

in fact, im suprised anyone notices that some profiles HAVE preferences on them. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men"

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone"

well thanks for sharing that

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'. "

Always such sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'. "

i do actually think some people play the race card to make you feel guilty and almost try to emotionally black mail you into meeting them

Ive had this a few times and i think they know exactly what they are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone"

I've just eaten 4baked potatoes ,a potnoodle,and 15mini kievs..my gurgling fat stomachs not shagging anyone

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

"

not at all, just a different perception of racism.

you may have witnessed a more minor form of racism, or maybe even take the smallest hint of it to be full blown, but to me, anything less than what i have described possibly shouldnt be under the umbrella of racism.

maybe coming from a small town and never really being involved in racism allows me to be able to step back from it and not treat it all the same.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone"

we have limits for people that like anal with themselves (or, to put it simply up their own arses)

again, dont need to explain ourselves. just our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all this racism argument just gets on my wick to be honest.

personal preferences are just that.

if a lesbian doesnt want to have sex with a man is she sexist??? of course not

if i dont want to shag a 70 yr old does it make me ageist? of course not.

it coudl go on and on,

if a black/coloured man feels insulted because a lady doesnt want to fuck them then they need to get a life to be honest.

i dont get all pissy if a lady tells me she only wants a black man....

TTSSCCHHH... theworlds gone fucking mad............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'.

i do actually think some people play the race card to make you feel guilty and almost try to emotionally black mail you into meeting them

Ive had this a few times and i think they know exactly what they are doing "

I wouldnt know what to do with that 'card' if I tried , as there is no differences aside from preferences on sexual partners.

*This includes smells, as I've seen somewhere above.Easy to be confused by a group of people by their 'smell'...when that is actually a dietary effect.My sweat smells the same as many people around me(white scottish folk), ....I eat mostly the same stuff they do I imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'.

i do actually think some people play the race card to make you feel guilty and almost try to emotionally black mail you into meeting them

Ive had this a few times and i think they know exactly what they are doing

I wouldnt know what to do with that 'card' if I tried , as there is no differences aside from preferences on sexual partners.

*This includes smells, as I've seen somewhere above.Easy to be confused by a group of people by their 'smell'...when that is actually a dietary effect.My sweat smells the same as many people around me(white scottish folk), ....I eat mostly the same stuff they do I imagine."

do all scottish people eat pot noodles with baked spuds then?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

"

Not a little...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'.

i do actually think some people play the race card to make you feel guilty and almost try to emotionally black mail you into meeting them

Ive had this a few times and i think they know exactly what they are doing

I wouldnt know what to do with that 'card' if I tried , as there is no differences aside from preferences on sexual partners.

*This includes smells, as I've seen somewhere above.Easy to be confused by a group of people by their 'smell'...when that is actually a dietary effect.My sweat smells the same as many people around me(white scottish folk), ....I eat mostly the same stuff they do I imagine.

do all scottish people eat pot noodles with baked spuds then? "

I dunno my main dietary requirement is fanny juice...so I smell like a right fanny!..thankfully I'm washed.Just wish men would stop licking me and trying to fuck my armpits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As they say in Parliament: "Can I refer Honourable Members to the answer I gave earlier"

.... which, in summary, was that someone read the Ops profile, felt excluded, got the arse and took it upon themselves to actually CHALLENGE the OPs personal preferences as to who they wish to meet. Why? Because they have have a big ego. Simples!

The OP prefers people younger than me. Do I get the arse ? No. They prefer not to meet smokers. Is there a rant about 'smokerism'?. No. They prefer not to meet single ladies. Do they get accused of sexism? No. So why the racism bollocks? (sorry thats a technical term not used in Parlieament).

How this has developed into a racial thread beats me. It was simply someone not liking the preferences stated by the OP. Something they have every right to do IMHO.

"Order Order"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the easiest and most politically correct way to sort this is to look at the demographics of the area that you live in and if, for example, it is made up of 10% Asian, 20% black and 70% white then you need to ensure that out of every 10 meets you fuck 1 Asian, 2 blacks and 7 whites. It's not rocket science people!

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a different race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

Not a little..."

hardly.

maybe more black people should move where i live, then, because i can honestly say, i have NEVER encountered anything that i would perceive to be blatant racism, going back to my childhood.

so, if you say that my missus not wanting to have sex with a black man is racist then i must bow down to your superior knowledge, however wrong i feel it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

not at all, just a different perception of racism.

you may have witnessed a more minor form of racism, or maybe even take the smallest hint of it to be full blown, but to me, anything less than what i have described possibly shouldnt be under the umbrella of racism.

maybe coming from a small town and never really being involved in racism allows me to be able to step back from it and not treat it all the same."

This response confirms my initial view, your more than a little naive in my opinion. I'm happy to explain why or even debate it with you, but that's probably best for another thread.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this thread has been quite revealing actually.....

I will defend peoples right to preference......

"preferences" are actual cool... However the moment "preference" becomes "generalisations" I will fight it with every bone in my body....

done it for 37 years.... and will continue whilst I am drawing breath

I am not anyones "generalisation"...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone

I've just eaten 4baked potatoes ,a potnoodle,and 15mini kievs..my gurgling fat stomachs not shagging anyone"

tch tch no room for the obligatory deep fried mars bar then?

bet you dont vote snp?

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"to use the word racist to sensationalise someones sexual preference makes a joke of the term.

how can someone be racist if they dont openly shun other races in every part of their life?

is there such a thing as selective racism?

for me, a racist would have NOTHING to do with anyone of a diferent race, colour or creed.

would openly refuse to see an asian doctor

get served by an asian in a shop

work shoulder to shoulder with black people, and so on.

they would make an active decision NOT to integrate with people of a different race (as i know people that do)

so to say i dont find black/asian/eastern european people sexually attractive is hardly racist.

its just as not wanting to share a sexual experience with bi men

This post shows you to be at best a little naive around the subject of racism.

not at all, just a different perception of racism.

you may have witnessed a more minor form of racism, or maybe even take the smallest hint of it to be full blown, but to me, anything less than what i have described possibly shouldnt be under the umbrella of racism.

maybe coming from a small town and never really being involved in racism allows me to be able to step back from it and not treat it all the same.

This response confirms my initial view, your more than a little naive in my opinion. I'm happy to explain why or even debate it with you, but that's probably best for another thread. "

again, difficult to have a victims mentality about something you have never been a victim of (similar to the missus telling me she was victimised travelling to the UK through the 80s and 90's)

it would be VERY easy to be offended by EVERYTHING that MAY have any slight undertone of being against someone else, whether it be race, colour or creed, but then we wouldnt get very far in life if we never did anything for fear of it maybe worrying someone else.

havent seen a single member on here that i would consider racist.

if you have then please do point them out, in a pm as you cant name and shame on here, and set me straight.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"all this racism argument just gets on my wick to be honest.

personal preferences are just that.

if a lesbian doesnt want to have sex with a man is she sexist??? of course not

if i dont want to shag a 70 yr old does it make me ageist? of course not.

it coudl go on and on,

if a black/coloured man feels insulted because a lady doesnt want to fuck them then they need to get a life to be honest.

i dont get all pissy if a lady tells me she only wants a black man....

TTSSCCHHH... theworlds gone fucking mad............"

I hold strongly to the personal sexual preference argument. However the isms are about power dynamics. And beliefs. It is difficult to understand the subtleties of racism, sexism, ageism etc. unless you have experienced the prejudice and discrimination. When you do experience them, and regularly, it can sensitise you and, potentially, you lose the wider perspective.

Black on black racism exists and racism can be expressed in all sorts of ways. I include the 'I've always wanted an Indian ho' message as being racist alongside the 'you're not black enough' comments.

My ginger post about was tongue in cheek (am allergic to ginger as much as I love the taste of it) but was just saying that I don't feel the need to state No Gingers as my experience has been that encourages some people to send me messages asking why not and not accepting a simple no thank you.

I have had messages from white men and their profiles so no blacks - when I point out that I am black the most common response has been 'oops, thanks for your diplomatic response'.

You (one - not you specifically, for clarity) can continue to hold racist beliefs, that is your business, but how you behave towards others is everyone's business. That is what the anti-discrimination laws are saying in their simplest form.

As a wise woman on here has already said, concentrate on who you want to meet not those you have no interest in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question:

If a black lady has on her profile "white men only" is that her right to exercise her preference or is she a racist?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

havent seen a single member on here that i would consider racist.

if you have then please do point them out, in a pm as you cant name and shame on here, and set me straight."

ooooh... I think I can answer that one...

lets call it devils advocate for now...

okay.... so would you consider someone who won't play with "someone" because they have played with someone of colour racist?

so lets call it "colour" once removed for now........... and then they used verifications to check they hadn't played with anyone of colour.....

racist.... ist.... ist???

just curious?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Question:

If a black lady has on her profile "white men only" is that her right to exercise her preference or is she a racist? "

preference..

someones profile on here is just that, a profile on a swingers site...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Question:

If a black lady has on her profile "white men only" is that her right to exercise her preference or is she a racist? "

As with the white people who state black only or white only it is about their preference and how they choose to write their profiles. There will be those of colour who might feel that she is indeed being racist and she may get comments about that. There is a rather ugly term that gets used sometimes, coconut (brown outside, white inside) that I have heard flung to those of us that have had white partners.

I'm an equal opportunities swinger - if I fancy the person, they are interested in me AND they have caught my imagination in some way then I will usually enjoy the encounter. I reject just as many white men as I do Indian, Afro Caribbean, African, mixed heritage etc. I've only had one Chinese person contact me on here so this would be an unfair sample to quote (not sure which smiley to use for that).

When I saw the title of this thread I assumed it was a race thread. I read the OP and decided it was a simple preference one and then checked back a couple of times. That's when I saw it become a race thread - no surprise, the title indicates it might be. The words we use, when and how we use them, all say something about us. How we read them and interpret say just as much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't fuck fat people don't give a crap what others say, it's called choice you don't need to xplain to anyone

I've just eaten 4baked potatoes ,a potnoodle,and 15mini kievs..my gurgling fat stomachs not shagging anyone

tch tch no room for the obligatory deep fried mars bar then?

bet you dont vote snp?

"

not in my oral hole anyway...

snp?...couldn't care less, they all wanna fuckya anyway...nonsexually lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"

havent seen a single member on here that i would consider racist.

if you have then please do point them out, in a pm as you cant name and shame on here, and set me straight.

ooooh... I think I can answer that one...

lets call it devils advocate for now...

okay.... so would you consider someone who won't play with "someone" because they have played with someone of colour racist?

so lets call it "colour" once removed for now........... and then they used verifications to check they hadn't played with anyone of colour.....

racist.... ist.... ist???

just curious?

"

i dont know what i would call it, tbh.

pathetic mainly.

again, not having come across something like that then then i cant appreciate the veracity of it.

now, Em makes a point of ensuring i mention she is irish, when we contact someone off the UK profile, so in some instances i can appreciate where you are coming from

i may be wrong, but surely if someone is racist, it would infect other parts of their lives, not just who gets into bed with them, no?

i actually appreciate your opinions more than most, Fab, because i dont think i have EVER read a post of yours that was more emotional than sensible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

well im an asian single lady and I have found that men from certain cultures just dont take no for an answer. I prefer white englishmen always have and always will and nothing will change that. Asian men are quite rude when I say no to them and well then i have to block them.

Its a royal pain as it clearly states my preference so why they feel the need to meassage me in the first place, I dont understand

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over a year ago


"Hi

well im an asian single lady and I have found that men from certain cultures just dont take no for an answer. I prefer white englishmen always have and always will and nothing will change that. Asian men are quite rude when I say no to them and well then i have to block them.

Its a royal pain as it clearly states my preference so why they feel the need to meassage me in the first place, I dont understand

"

58 mins and nobody accused you of being racist yet! That's got to be some sort of record

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

As this thread is within the public domain I would have thought it was unlawful to exclude any race openly for whatever reason, would it not be best to just say no thank you or block persistent messages as i indeed do saves alot of shit flying around too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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again, difficult to have a victims mentality about something you have never been a victim of (similar to the missus telling me she was victimised travelling to the UK through the 80s and 90's)

it would be VERY easy to be offended by EVERYTHING that MAY have any slight undertone of being against someone else, whether it be race, colour or creed, but then we wouldnt get very far in life if we never did anything for fear of it maybe worrying someone else.

havent seen a single member on here that i would consider racist.

if you have then please do point them out, in a pm as you cant name and shame on here, and set me straight."

Do you really believe that people need to have a 'victims mentality' in order to understand basic issues around certain 'isms' and the impact they have on other people in society?

I have not stated or even suggested anyone on this thread is racist. If I felt otherwise I certainly wouldn't need to personal message anyone to make my case.

I'm clear in what I'm saying to you, when it comes to race issues I think you're naive based on what you have actually said on this thread. The attached post reaffirms my opinion.

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over a year ago


"Racism laws whether statutary, moral or just politically correct have their root in enhancing fairness and equality.

Sexual attraction has little to do with fairness or equality, people simply should accept that personal sexual preference is a core human right which should never be policed.

It's a confused argument that attempts to make sexual preference an 'ism'.

i do actually think some people play the race card to make you feel guilty and almost try to emotionally black mail you into meeting them

Ive had this a few times and i think they know exactly what they are doing "

If we all went to watch a football match at Old Trafford and United were playing City then suddenly during play Ian Botham walked into the middle of the pitch with his cricket bat to start playing cricket he'd be told to stop and leave the pitch because he was trying to use a cricket bat during a football match.

Personal individual sexual preference is a completely different game with different rules to general equality and fairness issues within society as a whole.

Bringing the 'race card' to an individual sexual preference situation is like bringing a cricket bat to a football match. You're bringing it to the wrong game.

We just need to help people to understand the difference between cricket and football if you get my drift.....

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