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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Aw, OP. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

Have you got a friend you can chat to? Being alone won't help. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "

Sorry to see your struggling we all do at some point. Try and be strong it will get easier I did 22 years with someone and it was hard but I had good friends to pull me through x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs.

Just remember everything you've come through so far, and that you ARE strong even if you're not feeling like it today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "

Yeah

Id like to go to sleep and not wake up

Im so sick of the other humans thinking its ok to hurt me and take advantage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate, never forget there are good things and bad things in life. You might not have what you want in front of you but there’s always something somewhere to warm your heart; a memory or a simple activity maybe. Hope you’re ok

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Ups and downs, hey? This has been a phenomenally clusterfuck of a shit year. I hear you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sending great big hugs to all of you struggling. We all do some of the time. It's been a hard year just think next year will be your year xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a lot to deal with OP and you’ve been coping so well. Everyone needs a hug and escape from reality sometimes though, we’re only human

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hi OP, I've felt the same over the last few days. Feels like a death by a thousand cuts now, with no end in sight.

I'm sure we will come through it at some point but currently I totally fucked off with it all.

Hug of support to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "

Best of luck pulling through your bad times op and here’s hoping that your future brightens up soon.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain OP.

Mental health issues have been the curse of my life.

It's important to talk, don't keep things bottled up.

A vaccine is coming, keep the faith, things will get better in due time.

Sending North East

Cindi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world

Yeah

Id like to go to sleep and not wake up

Im so sick of the other humans thinking its ok to hurt me and take advantage"

Hope you're OK

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I feel you OP. It’s very tough at the moment and I have to say I’m very craving for some physical contact but that is not going to happen any time soon.

But what I have to say is sometimes just going out for a walk even to wonder around the in the Sun helps out a lot and to Breathe in for some fresh air it helps clear the mind a lot.

Try to say strong OP

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Hanging in and hoping for clearer skies... but feeling out of control as fuck atm. I can handle the solitude and distance because I’m aloof and introverted... but the control feeling fucks me up! I’d say hang in only a week to go but feel this is just going to rumble on and on - and light at the end of the tunnel is a very long way away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a light... Its there you just need not to give up. X

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "
hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All we can do is take one day at a time.

It's important to have structure.

Eat at set times, as mentioned go out for a walk and get fresh air.

Keeping our minds busy is the biggest trick, as I'm on the sick I'm here making friends and having a laugh to keep distracted from what's happening.

Don't watch the news, I learned that ages ago.

Although I can be daft, I have a good listening ear. If anyone wants to message me anytime feel free.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "

Sending you lots of love and positivity.

Some days are just wankers!!

And they also pass.

Be kind to yourself, have something nice. A bath, some chocolate, a treat.

Hugs.

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By *00KissesCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Take care all xx it's good to talk xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op... I'm off to watch crap on TV lol the joys of lockdown x

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs "

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate the comments, I really do. You know when you just have to put something out there, i understand we are all in a shit storm at the mo and I know this is one of my really low days and that tomorrow when I wake I can be larger than life to the extent of uncontrollable but when I'm low, I'm low, minds racing and can't concentrate but we are fighters all of us and we fight on, the biggest battle I've had most of my life and I ain't giving it up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

Is it a competition? How much do people need to suffer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

You sound like my ex husband

He isnt a pleasant fellow

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

Was that really called for... !!!

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By *stroboy78Man
over a year ago

Abergavenny

There's nothing wrong with feeling like shit and lonely either mind, its a human emotion. When we 1st went into lockdown thing were quite bad my end, my usual coping mechanism being the gym was all closed down and I felt I had nothing. Believe it or not I found some comfort in forums with people who had common interests. We chatted about crap for hours to whittle away time and take my mind off how shit and lonely I felt.

As Winston Churchill said "when you're going through he'll the best thing you can do is to keep going"

Chin up dude, things can AND will get better

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"I appreciate the comments, I really do. You know when you just have to put something out there, i understand we are all in a shit storm at the mo and I know this is one of my really low days and that tomorrow when I wake I can be larger than life to the extent of uncontrollable but when I'm low, I'm low, minds racing and can't concentrate but we are fighters all of us and we fight on, the biggest battle I've had most of my life and I ain't giving it up x"

Don’t give up op.. you got this and I for one wish you well xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Try to be nice to each other folks its not easy for anyone right now but if we all stick together we can come through this older but wiser. OP happy to chat if that will help either Mr or Mrs just shout up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world "

Sounds like you're having a wonky day. And wonky days are ok and happen randomly. A bit like being d*unk, a bit all over the place, the day after you don't always feel quite yourself like having a hangover slightly. But then you bounce back.

This year has left a lot of us feeling isolated left with our thoughts and issues even more prominent as there's little to distract. So maybe it's a wonky day, and wonky days are perfectly normal and OK. And you'll bounce back.

Hugs from me.

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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Sending hugs. What you've gone through isn't easy for anyone especially in this year. I'm here if you (or anyone) needs to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

OP...you feel as you do at the moment and that's all there is to it. You don't need to feel guilt over it. What is suffering is objective and not for someone to tell you to simply pull you socks up at the whim of a hat. This is 'one of those days' and at least you recognise it for what it is. Coming here to share is part of your self-soothing to help you cope with it, which is already a step in the right direction.

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

Everyone has good and bad days, this comment was unkind and unnecessary. If you don't agree with a thread then just move on to a different thread you do agree with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?

Everyone has good and bad days, this comment was unkind and unnecessary. If you don't agree with a thread then just move on to a different thread you do agree with. "

Well put. Hear hear.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Anyone else struggling? I've had mental health probs this last 3 years, stopped drinking because of it, my relationship of 16 years came to end because of it, I've coped through being furloughed and all this lockdown after moving into my own place but today it's just kicked me in the balls, could so do with curling up in some arms today and forgetting about the world hugs

Sorry but grow a pair! We have all been going through a whole load of issues. Whilst I take into account that you have had problems, have you really suffered?"

What the actual fuck? Absolutely uncalled for. The OP has stopped drinking and a very long term (16yr) relationship came to an end. Both of those things are very high up on the "stressful events" scale - Google "Social Readjustment Rating Scale" and you'll see divorce or relationship separation is almost top of the list.

Whatever you personally have been going through, it's irrelevant to the situation of the OP. If you've nothing nice to say, skip on past and don't say anything. Comments like that can be straw to break the camel's back.

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By *quirt1810Woman
over a year ago

Boston

I was widowed after 30 extremely happy years, so I totally get you op. Yes we all know what we should do re eating exercise etc,but applying it to ourselves is not easy when u lack motivation. I’m ok now and don’t want a relationship but I’d love someone that would drop everything and come snuggle up for the night. If venting helps then u go ahead. People don’t have to read it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like I've said, thanks for the comments everyone barring the obvious one, ignorance is not an excuse and if you ever needed help I'd be there as support, no matter what it was you said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s a lot to deal with OP and you’ve been coping so well. Everyone needs a hug and escape from reality sometimes though, we’re only human "

Let me know when you need a hug. I have a boxful going spare..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I've said, thanks for the comments everyone barring the obvious one, ignorance is not an excuse and if you ever needed help I'd be there as support, no matter what it was you said "

Oh ho ho....good show OP. Step by step and there's a little smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no real suggestions mate other than I know a loud blast of my favourite music can work wonders for me. Better still with earbuds while out and about.

Good luck

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