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By *rgoodnbad OP   Man
over a year ago

greenock

Was watching an old episode of Frasier and he bemoans the fact that women can use sex to get other things in life like gifts, climbing the career ladder and so on but Daphne responds by implying that men do it too only for Frasier to retort, " how can we use sex to get what we want when it's sex that we want?"

Are there guys out there that fall into that category and if so, how?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Was watching an old episode of Frasier and he bemoans the fact that women can use sex to get other things in life like gifts, climbing the career ladder and so on but Daphne responds by implying that men do it too only for Frasier to retort, " how can we use sex to get what we want when it's sex that we want?"

Are there guys out there that fall into that category and if so, how?

"

women control the sex whether it happens or not and men control the relationships, what they look like, and if they commit or not...

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By *rgoodnbad OP   Man
over a year ago

greenock


"Was watching an old episode of Frasier and he bemoans the fact that women can use sex to get other things in life like gifts, climbing the career ladder and so on but Daphne responds by implying that men do it too only for Frasier to retort, " how can we use sex to get what we want when it's sex that we want?"

Are there guys out there that fall into that category and if so, how?

women control the sex whether it happens or not and men control the relationships, what they look like, and if they commit or not..."

Men control the relationship? Mm, not sure, most guys I know, myself included maybe thought we were in control, right up till we said I do.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Try it and let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here "

Wouldn’t say a following, more an Entourage

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, some men use sex to manipulate.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

PM me OP for details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sex should be mutually enjoyable for both and not as tool to manipulate another person.

That being said, Frasier is funny as fuck and would recommend everyone go watch it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think any man I am regularly intimate with knows they can get anything they want if they promise me sex

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Was watching an old episode of Frasier and he bemoans the fact that women can use sex to get other things in life like gifts, climbing the career ladder and so on but Daphne responds by implying that men do it too only for Frasier to retort, " how can we use sex to get what we want when it's sex that we want?"

Are there guys out there that fall into that category and if so, how?

women control the sex whether it happens or not and men control the relationships, what they look like, and if they commit or not...

Men control the relationship? Mm, not sure, most guys I know, myself included maybe thought we were in control, right up till we said I do. "

you decided however, to say i do, when you decided to..for whatever reason...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

"

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job..."

Agree it does happen seen it myself, but I don't think it's as prevalent as people think it is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

Agree it does happen seen it myself, but I don't think it's as prevalent as people think it is. "

No I don't think it is either. The power is only in the woman's hands of the man hands it to her in this situation.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

"

It's such sexist bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I suppose they can use sex to get more sex if they are good at it and you like them enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice ... could do with an xbox series x and a car...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I use sex ..to get sex

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I use eBay for everything else

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

"

Same and I think it's an old , stale, lazy stereotype.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Some men use mind games.

They refer to sex with others, past liaisons, future fantasies or people they find attractive to get their woman to do what they want.

A threat almost, a reminder to be a good girl because they can get it elsewhere and you're a dispensable commodity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it can work both ways if the sex is good enough! You just gotta find the right man to enthrall you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job..."

This.

Anecdotal experiences have found it backfires on these women more often than not.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here

Wouldn’t say a following, more an Entourage"

I call them my harem....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have charisma and charm you can get anything in the world if you put your mind to it

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"If you have charisma and charm you can get anything in the world if you put your mind to it"

I'd never thought of it like that, but I think this is closer to the truth than it being a man/woman thing.

Mrs TMN x

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By *rgoodnbad OP   Man
over a year ago

greenock


"Was watching an old episode of Frasier and he bemoans the fact that women can use sex to get other things in life like gifts, climbing the career ladder and so on but Daphne responds by implying that men do it too only for Frasier to retort, " how can we use sex to get what we want when it's sex that we want?"

Are there guys out there that fall into that category and if so, how?

women control the sex whether it happens or not and men control the relationships, what they look like, and if they commit or not...

Men control the relationship? Mm, not sure, most guys I know, myself included maybe thought we were in control, right up till we said I do. you decided however, to say i do, when you decided to..for whatever reason..."

I assume the reason is love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here "

Fastards!

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By *rgoodnbad OP   Man
over a year ago

greenock


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here "

Are their inboxes flooded with messages from women desperate for sex?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here

Are their inboxes flooded with messages from women desperate for sex? "

Many women realise "desperate " is not the most positive look

It seems some men dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men use mind games.

They refer to sex with others, past liaisons, future fantasies or people they find attractive to get their woman to do what they want.

"

And some women won't tolerate that kinda nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men use mind games.

They refer to sex with others, past liaisons, future fantasies or people they find attractive to get their woman to do what they want.

A threat almost, a reminder to be a good girl because they can get it elsewhere and you're a dispensable commodity. "

x

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By *rgoodnbad OP   Man
over a year ago

greenock


"Some men are as good at teasing for sex as women are, the popular male forumites have quite an obvious female following on here

Are their inboxes flooded with messages from women desperate for sex?

Many women realise "desperate " is not the most positive look

Still wouldn't hinder their search though

"

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Guilty

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

The idea that for men it is always “sex that we want” is pretty toxic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I do it all the time. The stud farm has, on average, 3 mares visiting the stud every month for a rather hefty fee.

Oh, you meant men personally?...I beg your pardon, I misunderstood. I shall take my leave now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

This.

Anecdotal experiences have found it backfires on these women more often than not."

Does it. I have often been surprised at how easily otherwise quite rational men are influenced by a woman using some sort of "womanly" action. I had quite an argument with my male boss once because he asked me to do something outside my remit. When I asked him why the woman whose actual job it was couldn't do it he said she'd cried when he asked her to. I was literally gobsmacked that a) he fell for it b) he had the bare faced cheek to ask me to do it and c) she had the nerve to do it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

This.

Anecdotal experiences have found it backfires on these women more often than not.

Does it. I have often been surprised at how easily otherwise quite rational men are influenced by a woman using some sort of "womanly" action. I had quite an argument with my male boss once because he asked me to do something outside my remit. When I asked him why the woman whose actual job it was couldn't do it he said she'd cried when he asked her to. I was literally gobsmacked that a) he fell for it b) he had the bare faced cheek to ask me to do it and c) she had the nerve to do it."

Did you punch her in the tit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Did you punch her in the tit? "

Well, there's a twist.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

This.

Anecdotal experiences have found it backfires on these women more often than not.

Does it. I have often been surprised at how easily otherwise quite rational men are influenced by a woman using some sort of "womanly" action. I had quite an argument with my male boss once because he asked me to do something outside my remit. When I asked him why the woman whose actual job it was couldn't do it he said she'd cried when he asked her to. I was literally gobsmacked that a) he fell for it b) he had the bare faced cheek to ask me to do it and c) she had the nerve to do it.

Did you punch her in the tit? "

. No. I fixed her with my gimlet eye

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


" Did you punch her in the tit?

Well, there's a twist. "

I don't really think said lady got punched in the boob, especially not by Mrs Nice

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm always uncomfortable with the women use sex for some kind of gain and men are their unknowing victims. I've never used to sex for gain, the reason I fuck is the fact I enjoy it.

Two women at my work place were up for the same job. The final decision rested with the man who would be their boss. One woman was really embarrassing in the way she tried to use her "womanly wiles" to influence his decision. I cringed so hard on a daily basis and in meetings it was horrible to witness. She didn't get the job...

This.

Anecdotal experiences have found it backfires on these women more often than not.

Does it. I have often been surprised at how easily otherwise quite rational men are influenced by a woman using some sort of "womanly" action. I had quite an argument with my male boss once because he asked me to do something outside my remit. When I asked him why the woman whose actual job it was couldn't do it he said she'd cried when he asked her to. I was literally gobsmacked that a) he fell for it b) he had the bare faced cheek to ask me to do it and c) she had the nerve to do it.

Did you punch her in the tit?

. No. I fixed her with my gimlet eye "

kapow stare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Did you punch her in the tit?

Well, there's a twist.

I don't really think said lady got punched in the boob, especially not by Mrs Nice "

In all fairness, 'a kick' sounds much more satisfying than 'a punch', really.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

How can men use sex to get what we want? Sex is what we want.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


" Did you punch her in the tit?

Well, there's a twist.

I don't really think said lady got punched in the boob, especially not by Mrs Nice

In all fairness, 'a kick' sounds much more satisfying than 'a punch', really."

But you'd need gymnast legs for that unless you were stood on a ladder. Seems an awful lot of trouble to go to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's it then. I am henceforth witholding all the sex until I get what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Did you punch her in the tit?

Well, there's a twist.

I don't really think said lady got punched in the boob, especially not by Mrs Nice

In all fairness, 'a kick' sounds much more satisfying than 'a punch', really.

But you'd need gymnast legs for that unless you were stood on a ladder. Seems an awful lot of trouble to go to."

Hmmm....you have given me much food for thought. I shall have a ponder about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's it then. I am henceforth witholding all the sex until I get what I want. "

Put a shirt on for a start.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


" Did you punch her in the tit?

Well, there's a twist.

I don't really think said lady got punched in the boob, especially not by Mrs Nice

In all fairness, 'a kick' sounds much more satisfying than 'a punch', really.

But you'd need gymnast legs for that unless you were stood on a ladder. Seems an awful lot of trouble to go to."

I do have gymnast legs. The rest of him is about somewhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's it then. I am henceforth witholding all the sex until I get what I want.

Put a shirt on for a start."

No, they need to know what they are missing......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's it then. I am henceforth witholding all the sex until I get what I want.

Put a shirt on for a start.

No, they need to know what they are missing...... "

Touche. Go strut your stuff my good man.

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