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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It's not rude dude.

What's rude is not reading the site FAQs, or even worse, reading them and assuming they don't apply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dear chap , if you knew how many messages women recieve every day it would make you realise,it woukd take all day to reply.

Best tbing to do is just take it as part of fab life . Smile and move on,

I hope you have many splendid adventures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

Self entitled not getting his/her own way ?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

I assume you politely do that to the men that ask to suck your cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

I assume you politely do that to the men that ask to suck your cock"

I respond declining the offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think "

You chose to message the woman, as is your right. She didn’t ask you to message her, so she does not have to reply.

The main reason I don’t reply, other than I don’t have time to reply is that, it’s a loophole, if I reply and then turn off messages from men, the ones I’ve replied to can still message me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My dear chap , if you knew how many messages women recieve every day it would make you realise,it woukd take all day to reply.

Best tbing to do is just take it as part of fab life . Smile and move on,

I hope you have many splendid adventures

"

I’m not a bitter guy lol it is what it is , we move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

Perspective:

I get over 200 messages a day, the girls will also.

Simply isn't the time to reply to all. It's not personal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think

You chose to message the woman, as is your right. She didn’t ask you to message her, so she does not have to reply.

The main reason I don’t reply, other than I don’t have time to reply is that, it’s a loophole, if I reply and then turn off messages from men, the ones I’ve replied to can still message me."

Yes I do choose to message the woman don’t see the crime in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dear chap , if you knew how many messages women recieve every day it would make you realise,it woukd take all day to reply.

Best tbing to do is just take it as part of fab life . Smile and move on,

I hope you have many splendid adventures

I’m not a bitter guy lol it is what it is , we move on "
good man , im sure there are plenty of ladies happy to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think

You chose to message the woman, as is your right. She didn’t ask you to message her, so she does not have to reply.

The main reason I don’t reply, other than I don’t have time to reply is that, it’s a loophole, if I reply and then turn off messages from men, the ones I’ve replied to can still message me.

Yes I do choose to message the woman don’t see the crime in that. "

It isn’t a crime, i said it’s your choice, but equally, it is my choice to choose not to reply.

Women get a lot of messages on here, and the more popular women just wouldn’t have time, and quite honestly, why should they, just because men think they should be polite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also take into account the Covid situation.

Some may not reply as they aren't interested in anything at the moment.

It'll pick up in due course and everyone will be fucking like rabbits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My dear chap , if you knew how many messages women recieve every day it would make you realise,it woukd take all day to reply.

Best tbing to do is just take it as part of fab life . Smile and move on,

I hope you have many splendid adventures

I’m not a bitter guy lol it is what it is , we move on good man , im sure there are plenty of ladies happy to reply "

Oh I do but the ratio don’t quiet balance at times lol

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We always work under the assumption that nobody owes us anything not even a response. We do reply to 95% of messages we receive but then again we don't get alot. Everyones account is different and I can imagine that some people on here get 100s if not 1000s of messages a day and I can see it being extremely time consuming to try to reply just to a small percentage of those let alone trying to enjoy your time on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why? Some really needy people around at the minute. I blame lockdown.

Delete your sent mail straight away. No overthinking then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not rude dude.

What's rude is not reading the site FAQs, or even worse, reading them and assuming they don't apply to you "

^^^^^^^yes yes and yes.

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also take into account the Covid situation.

Some may not reply as they aren't interested in anything at the moment.

It'll pick up in due course and everyone will be fucking like rabbits "

I understand , which i ask so mention in plain English on my profile I’m not meeting atm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We always work under the assumption that nobody owes us anything not even a response. We do reply to 95% of messages we receive but then again we don't get alot. Everyones account is different and I can imagine that some people on here get 100s if not 1000s of messages a day and I can see it being extremely time consuming to try to reply just to a small percentage of those let alone trying to enjoy your time on fab "

So how we meant to stand out of the 100 messages she gets then ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

You seem to have forgot a few unwritten fab club rules.

Rule one of fab club.Men are outnumbered 3 million to one leading to females and couples feeling self entitled on here.

Rule 2 of fab club.Pussy is the most valuable commodity on here.

Rule 4 of fab club.Have fun don't take things to serious.oh and I can't count.oh and please tell everyone about fab club so more hottys join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why? Some really needy people around at the minute. I blame lockdown.

Delete your sent mail straight away. No overthinking then. "

This helped me so much when I started doing it. It even surprised me when I looked at a profile to find out I'd already messaged them before

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think "

Do you reply back to all the unsolicited mail you receive in your letterbox? If not, why not?

Same analogy...the women don’t ask for your message to be sent, so it’s up to them if they reply or not.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Which I do ,but hayho fair enough I know your not obligated to reply. But if I’ve taken my time to read your profile and acknowledge the keys words u would like me to use in my subject/message it’s only right I think

Do you reply back to all the unsolicited mail you receive in your letterbox? If not, why not?

Same analogy...the women don’t ask for your message to be sent, so it’s up to them if they reply or not.

I don’t seem to understand the comparison to what u just said .

Enlighten me

K "

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Its not rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely not rude. You aren't entitled to a reply and you should just take it as a sign she's not interested as per the site FAQ.

Women here get so many messages every day it just isn't possible to reply to them all and honestly, we have other things to do in a day.

If you want a reply you should consider your profile or the messages you're sending. Or sometimes it could just be that she isn't attracted to you.

Delete your sent mail and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

If that's rude then it's rude that my status gets ignored asking people not to message me but they do it anyway

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"We always work under the assumption that nobody owes us anything not even a response. We do reply to 95% of messages we receive but then again we don't get alot. Everyones account is different and I can imagine that some people on here get 100s if not 1000s of messages a day and I can see it being extremely time consuming to try to reply just to a small percentage of those let alone trying to enjoy your time on fab

So how we meant to stand out of the 100 messages she gets then , "
that's not for us to answer, we are just in the same boat as you. We send messages to girls that are looking for men and couples and countless messages we send go unread and unanswered. Unfortunately it is what it is and they don't owe us anything.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I’ll rather u say your not interested or I’m not what your looking for, than to read my well sent message and ignore me.

Quiet rude I must Say.

"

I'd rather someone who messaged us took a 'read and deleted' as a clear indication we're not interested.

We can all want things in life. Doesnt mean we'll get them.

A

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Quiet rude I must Say. "

Quite so...

One is regularly miffed at ignorance to ones unsolicited dick pics

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's not rude op

Some women (not me) get so many messages that it would be hard to reply to all.

Just delete your sent messages and take no reply as a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its rude when i send a thanks but no thanks and my message is deleted! Charming!!!

Joking aside OP just delete your sent messages then you wont know if theyve read and deleted etc, you can just move on. If they reply they reply if not then you know. I delete my sent messages when i message first.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's not rude dude.

What's rude is not reading the site FAQs, or even worse, reading them and assuming they don't apply to you "

Learn how things work in a new environment, adapt to the culture.

Send a message, assume a "thank you, probably no" unless or until you hear otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me, yet another same old thread. How many times has this been covered in a week?

J

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