FabSwingers.com forum: Life is hard work

By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Do you ever think sbout hitting the self destruct button and walking away from everything and starting a fresh where no one knows you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this 3 years ago.

Was the best thing I did.

I only moved a few miles from Newcastle to South Shields but it's bliss here.

I love it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Not the self destruction button, more like a planned decision to make a change, I do it ever 4/5 years. The wanderlust call is strong for me

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

People we’ve known who do this invariably end up in the same situation a few years later. Problems seem to follow the person. Relationships are hard work and the number of close friends you see regularly, that you’ve known for more than a decade is a good measure of how your doing

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Life is hard, damn hard with many twists and turns but also has so many positives. It's a real rollercoaster ride. We are fortunate in our lives and are happy, but we can appreciate some people really do struggle in life.

We feel like escaping real life every now and again but only for a short while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time xx

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I did this 3 years ago.

Was the best thing I did.

I only moved a few miles from Newcastle to South Shields but it's bliss here.

I love it

I love South Shields, so many happy memories there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, done it a few times, very rarely leads to happiness if I'm honest, finger on the button as we speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did just that 14yrs ago and emigrated to Australia for 10yrs.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Yes

I'm very tempted to do that right now, as I desperately need a change of scenery and a chance to clear my head and out a few things behind me

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

The thought of running away can be very appealing sometimes,but if your baggage is in your head you'll just end up taking it with you.

You can't run forever.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Sometimes might be best for a new start elsewhere because people around you might be the negative energy or the condition and environment you are in.

A life worth living is a life worth planning but of course, plan doesn't always go according however there are lessons in planning.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"The thought of running away can be very appealing sometimes,but if your baggage is in your head you'll just end up taking it with you.

You can't run forever.

Agreed. But sometimes places can either hold or trigger memories, and so a change of scenery can help get rid of the baggage

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have had such thoughts, they usually come from a very dark place. If that's the case for you, then I suggest you speak to someone qualified. (I'm not casting aspersions on your mental health, just, in case that is the case, you can ask for help and perhaps should)

I'm not sure how possible a complete clean break would actually be in this day and age. Everything is interconnected.

I'll agree about the baggage comment: for me it was always in me head, and I had to find out how to put it down. For me that involved therapy (every person is different).

I think climbing out of the metaphorical hole is harder work, but better, than running away and throwing a grenade at the problem.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I agree life is hard. I work at looking after people and my days off are the same. Life is just busy and i get exhausted trying to keep everyone happy. Is life enjoyable? No, to me life is a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is much better than the alternative....

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I have had such thoughts, they usually come from a very dark place. If that's the case for you, then I suggest you speak to someone qualified. (I'm not casting aspersions on your mental health, just, in case that is the case, you can ask for help and perhaps should)

I'm not sure how possible a complete clean break would actually be in this day and age. Everything is interconnected.

I'll agree about the baggage comment: for me it was always in me head, and I had to find out how to put it down. For me that involved therapy (every person is different).

I think climbing out of the metaphorical hole is harder work, but better, than running away and throwing a grenade at the problem."

It's hard to forget the bagage 7 years 1 son and work together

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I agree life is hard. I work at looking after people and my days off are the same. Life is just busy and i get exhausted trying to keep everyone happy. Is life enjoyable? No, to me life is a chore."

I get that and feel the same

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

"Do you ever think sbout hitting the self destruct button and walking away from everything and starting a fresh where no one knows you? "
Yes did it when young but to old now

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Sometimes might be best for a new start elsewhere because people around you might be the negative energy or the condition and environment you are in.

A life worth living is a life worth planning but of course, plan doesn't always go according however there are lessons in planning."

I tend to plan everything and the side shoots that could happen but sometimes the side shoots are unexpected

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"The thought of running away can be very appealing sometimes,but if your baggage is in your head you'll just end up taking it with you.

You can't run forever.

I struggle with the demons even more so at the moment

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think loneliness is the biggest thing to trigger the demons

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have definitely had times where I wanted to just walk and not look back. I didn't do it and stuck at it.

I had to accept and be ready for change when it came...when it did it came from within myself.

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By *ilentnoiseMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I think loneliness is the biggest thing to trigger the demons "

Loneliness is a terrible thing if it persists. Try to deal with those demons head on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather stick to what I'm doing here and now and seeing where it takes me.

If I ever upped and rejigged my entire life, I'd only be more tempted to do it again at the first sign of problems in my new life and it would be a vicious cycle of hope and unhappiness that I'd rather do without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve spent most of my life doing that. My default setting was to walk away from anything that was difficult, thinking change would help. It mostly didn’t.

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By *roggrt1919 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I’ve spent most of my life doing that. My default setting was to walk away from anything that was difficult, thinking change would help. It mostly didn’t."

Running seems the default for alot of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Shirley Valentine moment. I have thought about it, but its in moments when everything has felt just too much to deal with and I know its never really an answer. I am making sensible plans for big changes but coming from a place of planning and wanting a change rather than running.

Have you anyone you can talk too, or can you write down your feelings just so you clear them from yourself a bit and can look with some detachment at were the problems are. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is you can't escape from yourself. I found accepting my own decisions and not blaming the world helped, it's painful to do but it really does change things. There are people who have awful things happen to them that are not their fault but I'm not one of them.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Life is what YOU make it, wherever that may be and often the same problems follow when you relocate ....

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

"Life is what YOU make it, wherever that may be and often the same problems follow when you relocate .... "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not sure how possible a complete clean break would actually be in this day and age. Everything is interconnected.

I'll agree about the baggage comment: for me it was always in me head, and I had to find out how to put it down. For me that involved therapy (every person is different).

I think climbing out of the metaphorical hole is harder work, but better, than running away and throwing a grenade at the problem.

It's hard to forget the bagage 7 years 1 son and work together

Most baggage is within. How you cope with yourself and the situations you face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

I'm very tempted to do that right now, as I desperately need a change of scenery and a chance to clear my head and out a few things behind me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It kinda depends on the baggage really...

You'll never run away from yourself but with new horizons comes new challenges and that in itself can be liberating.

I emigrated to Oz and was a stranger to everyone in that half of the world. My ex wife had some 3yrs previous poisoned my 11yr old son against me so successfully he wouldn't even talk on the phone.

After 3yrs of hoping things would change I decided I needed to start my life again as living a 5 minute drive away or 10,000 miles made no difference if he wouldn't see me.

Of course there wasn't a day I didn't think of him or wonder who he was growing up to be...

10yrs after my emigration he found out his mother's lies then found me and I came home to be his Dad once again. The time I spent in Oz kept my sanity and the successful life I built out of nothing dulled the pain and I proved to myself anything is possible.

Of course the 13yrs in total we were apart can never be made up for now but he understood that.

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By *agic tongue mike.Man
over a year ago

Canterbury

Done it a few times, does wonders. Won't be long before I become permananty nomadic, a nice big boat and a world of adventures to be had. Xxx

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By *agic tongue mike.Man
over a year ago

Canterbury

I've no kids, no wife or girlfriend. I don't have any issues with life, just looking for the adventure and to live a free life. I don't do it to run away from anything or because I can't handle life as it is. Life's for living, isn't it? Xxx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"It kinda depends on the baggage really...

You'll never run away from yourself but with new horizons comes new challenges and that in itself can be liberating.

I emigrated to Oz and was a stranger to everyone in that half of the world. My ex wife had some 3yrs previous poisoned my 11yr old son against me so successfully he wouldn't even talk on the phone.

After 3yrs of hoping things would change I decided I needed to start my life again as living a 5 minute drive away or 10,000 miles made no difference if he wouldn't see me.

Of course there wasn't a day I didn't think of him or wonder who he was growing up to be...

Of course the 13yrs in total we were apart can never be made up for now but he understood that.

That is lovely. So very happy for you.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It kinda depends on the baggage really...

You'll never run away from yourself but with new horizons comes new challenges and that in itself can be liberating.

I emigrated to Oz and was a stranger to everyone in that half of the world. My ex wife had some 3yrs previous poisoned my 11yr old son against me so successfully he wouldn't even talk on the phone.

After 3yrs of hoping things would change I decided I needed to start my life again as living a 5 minute drive away or 10,000 miles made no difference if he wouldn't see me.

Of course there wasn't a day I didn't think of him or wonder who he was growing up to be...

Of course the 13yrs in total we were apart can never be made up for now but he understood that.

That is lovely. So very happy for you.x"

I'm afraid the ending to the story was tragic sadly but the fact I emigrated wouldn't have changed anything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often thought about doing just this, but everything is still in my head so it's better for me to stay put and work through the issues and demons.

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