FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on jealousy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If anyone could help will be very appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone could help will be very appreciated "

Who is jealous?

Who of?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Jealousy can be very corrosive.

Who is jealous of who or what, OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I got jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone I am in any kind of relationship with shows any type of jealousy, that is where I enc things... The same if I ever feel anything like it too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I got jealous over nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got jealous "

Then share then. You are control your own journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone I am in any kind of relationship with shows any type of jealousy, that is where I enc things... The same if I ever feel anything like it too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We may need a tad more context to give any cohesive advice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got jealous

Dont share then. You are control your own journey. "

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I got jealous "

Ok well I'd say you need to ask yourself why you got jealous.

It's a pretty normal human emotion, but probably not ideal on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when it wasn’t true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when it wasn’t true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when they wasn’t

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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago

Telford

It’s such a waste of energy getting jealous cause you have no control regardless better to let it go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when they wasn’t

On the site or away from it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They was at work and I knew that but still accused them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t want to be jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They was at work and I knew that but still accused them "

Someone you're in a relationship with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They was at work and I knew that but still accused them "

How long have you been together.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Hold your hands up and explain your feelings to them and then accept their decision, the trust needs to be earned again, it depends on their answer as to what happens next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are 2 types of jealousy, the first makes encourages you to work harder at things, the other eats you from the inside out. The second is a killer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy covers a multitude of feelings. You need to figure out why you are feeling the way you are firstly to be able to work through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It kills a relationship if you aren't open and honest to the other person. Tell them why and work together to get over it, fight it together, don't fight each other over it.

I hope you get it sorted xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Talk to the people involved. Try to understand each other, where you're all coming from.

Then look to yourself. Where are these feelings coming from?

Take a step back, distract yourself and rebuild yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And remember...Don’t be a bunny boiler. The guy will run a mile if he senses that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Far from a bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when they wasn’t

Mostly our jealousies come from within. However they are a signal that things aren’t right and we need to pay attention to it. It’s a complex cocktail of other emotions such as fear, anxiety, anger and self doubt, that is often due to low self-esteem, over-attachment and feeling possessive. It can also be a sign of an erosion of mutual trust in the relationship due to other problems.

Recognising it and owning it is the first step to resolving it though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s what I’m trying to do and I want to get over this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s what I’m trying to do and I want to get over this "
just take some time to reflect on what might be underlying it. Remember that if you are having unfounded feelings of jealousy then it is unfinished business from your past that is coming into the present and affecting how you are thinking about your relationship. Bring some conclusion to those earlier events and letting go of any feelings that are residual from those will help.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Where in the blue fuck did I say that and how you've taken that from what I said I have no idea.

I was saying I don't think she's jealous from what I read, I think it's probably something else. So no, you didn't read what I wrote at all.

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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago

Telford

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

It’s always the guys fault in some way or another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

It’s always the guys fault in some way or another

Sounds like both you and James may have some unfinished business from the past too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s not his fault that’s for sure

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside "

Thank you, it was a hard lesson learned personally.

It’s hard to trust even the most loyal and caring of people if a previous partner has utterly destroyed your trust out of the blue

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Are you in a relationship, does he know your on here ?

Just a bit vague, but it seems more like a trust issue than jealousy.

Once trust is gone, is near impossible to get it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside

Thank you, it was a hard lesson learned personally.

It’s hard to trust even the most loyal and caring of people if a previous partner has utterly destroyed your trust out of the blue"

Those that know .... know

Only takes a few words sometimes to recognise it. I'm sorry you were subjected to the hell that comes with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're jealous- you're jealous.

You'll get over it.

There is no secret way not to feel something.

You can only learn from it and do things differently next time in a similar situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy?

Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.

That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".

So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy

Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside "

So it is some guys fault in the past then

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.? "

Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.

That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From some friends who enjoy cuckold those emotions can be part of the enjoyment of it. Only you can know if those feelings are detrimental to your relationship or contribute to your pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a very good point. I do enjoy it but she really does encourage it more. She knows I like to watch and I have all sorts of fantasy ideas of them just being together but he gets off by fucking her in front of me and her being his trainee mistress. Both giving me verbal all the time

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Who are you jealous of

OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who are you jealous of

OP x"

We are still waiting to find that one out.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Who are you jealous of

OP x

We are still waiting to find that one out. "

She will tell me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.

That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway

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.. That's a very good point. The burn is massive. I have never felt so horny and turned on

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"That is so true "

What is lol

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.

That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway

.. That's a very good point. The burn is massive. I have never felt so horny and turned on "

I know how you feel, I've experienced it too. Enjoy it

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

The OP is great and shes ok now she will fix things xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP is great and shes ok now she will fix things xxx

Really? That is very impressive young lady. Well done.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"The OP is great and shes ok now she will fix things xxx

Really? That is very impressive young lady. Well done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who’s impressive

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By *andj17Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *andj17Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when it wasn’t true

Why did you suspect it though? Was there chemistry between them? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its part of being human, just like all our other emotions. It may be irrational, might even be bound up in some particular life experience.

Perhaps though it would be better OP that you ask why its happening and whats driving that feeling. It part of you, not part of another, so maybe refraining your feelings and a little logical analysis may help. Or perhaps actually talking with another who's actions have made you feel that way may help bring some perspective to whatever is the underlying cause...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Who’s impressive "

Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.

I don't know your situation but you probably need to talk things over with someone. If your feelings and actions are a result of your past it will help you understand that. If your feelings and actions are designed to control your partner it will help you overcome that too.

As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who’s impressive

Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.

As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now. "
I accused him of sleeping with someone else when he wasn’t he was at work

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"They was at work and I knew that but still accused them "
the question u need to ask yourself is why you did it and u might find the answer there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Who’s impressive

Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.

As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now. I accused him of sleeping with someone else when he wasn’t he was at work

Yeah I know.

The question really is, why?

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

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harsh without knowing why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why "

Op as already said in this thread it’s not he’s fault.

My once best mate is 6ft under because of a jealous women

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why "

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done. "

He went to work

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"If anyone could help will be very appreciated "

Jealousy, it's not good.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I am jealous because someone get to have sex with you. And I dont

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

He went to work "

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

He went to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

He went to work

Yes I got told off for coming to that conclusion

Think one of the lady’s was told the full story via pm. Hope they all get the best outcome from it all. It would of been interesting if a man had posted this thou

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

He went to work

Yes I got told off for coming to that conclusion

Think one of the lady’s was told the full story via pm. Hope they all get the best outcome from it all. It would of been interesting if a man had posted this thou

I hope they get the best outcome too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it

harsh without knowing why

None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.

He went to work

Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that. "
it’s to do with past relationships and I know it’s not his fault and I understand that I was at fault here as I knew where he was but my thoughts got the better of me and now I’ve reflected on it and learning how to control my jealousy

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By *ardnhorny1001Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Don't waste your time on it.

In the infamous words of Baz Luhrman:

Sometimes you're in front,

Sometimes you're behind,

The race is long,

And in the end, it's only with yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't waste your time on it.

In the infamous words of Baz Luhrman:

Sometimes you're in front,

Sometimes you're behind,

The race is long,

And in the end, it's only with yourself! "
waste my time on what?

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