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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’ve had a few conversations about this with a few different people and wanted to ask what most people thought of this as it relates to couples or those in committed relationships. Seems some can separate mind and soul attraction with mind and body attraction. Thoughts?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?"

Thank god I'm not alone - I read this earlier and didn't have a clue what it was on about, either

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I can separate love and sex but I'm not sure what a la carte means for this.

And I'm not in a couple.

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By *callycatMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

Does it involve horses?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away


"I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?

Thank god I'm not alone - I read this earlier and didn't have a clue what it was on about, either "

Nope...not a clue

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?

Thank god I'm not alone - I read this earlier and didn't have a clue what it was on about, either

Nope...not a clue"

The idea behind the term is really the ability to have sex and not need the attachment to the person so the focus of the question really is this, in the swing lifestyle do you need the attachment or do you prefer sexy to just be sex

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away


"I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?

Thank god I'm not alone - I read this earlier and didn't have a clue what it was on about, either

Nope...not a clue

The idea behind the term is really the ability to have sex and not need the attachment to the person so the focus of the question really is this, in the swing lifestyle do you need the attachment or do you prefer sexy to just be sex "

No attachment required

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Don't need an attachment but do need a respectful, mutual connection

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Does it involve horses?"

I'd unhitch the horses first

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I'm not sure I understand what sex a la carte is. I did a search but it still wasn't clear. Can you clarify?

Thank god I'm not alone - I read this earlier and didn't have a clue what it was on about, either

Nope...not a clue

The idea behind the term is really the ability to have sex and not need the attachment to the person so the focus of the question really is this, in the swing lifestyle do you need the attachment or do you prefer sexy to just be sex

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No attachment required "

No strings attached?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think most swingers can separate attachment and lust. Does a la carte mean you can pick and choose whatever type of sex you fancy with whoever you want ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection and attachment are two different things and shouldnt be confused.

Do we need a connection with someone to have sex with them? Mostly yes. And we are now great friends with most we swing with.

Do we need an attachment to them? No. That would be a relationship.

Which is something different entirely.

J

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not so much attachment vs lust but operate where they have essentially multiple people who exist for multiple reasons simultaneously if that makes sense. The idea of mind and soul for one and mind and body for another

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Connection and attachment are two different things and shouldnt be confused.

Do we need a connection with someone to have sex with them? Mostly yes. And we are now great friends with most we swing with.

Do we need an attachment to them? No. That would be a relationship.

Which is something different entirely.

J "

I like this perspective thanks for sharing

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