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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious as reading profiles see a lot say don’t just be simple and say hi , how are you doing? Be adventurous and use your imagination... as I can imagine 200 messages saying hi must be annoying but what is a good message to receive ??

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many folk have received a message saying either “hi” or “how are you”, only to go to the profile and read “be imaginative with your first message”?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol"

Yea I always do this and try and personalise it so they know it’s not just a thoughtless message , still not much joy though must be an ugly fucker hahaha

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol

Yea I always do this and try and personalise it so they know it’s not just a thoughtless message , still not much joy though must be an ugly fucker hahaha "

Your not gonna get anywhere with that attitude either lol

Don't put yourself down, you are somebody's handsome fucker, trust me i know lol

In fab things happen quick and unexpected all the time.

Just be patient, be you and be original, thats all it takes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol

Yea I always do this and try and personalise it so they know it’s not just a thoughtless message , still not much joy though must be an ugly fucker hahaha

Your not gonna get anywhere with that attitude either lol

Don't put yourself down, you are somebody's handsome fucker, trust me i know lol

In fab things happen quick and unexpected all the time.

Just be patient, be you and be original, thats all it takes."

Thanks pal appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol"

Scary thought to be messaged by Roald Dahl - he’s long dead but even when alive he was a minger - Lol

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o

Don’t just say “hi” or “how you doing” or “what you doing” - as a woman these kind of messages really get on my tits!

It’s the message equivalent of a deflating balloon.

Instead maybe compliment on a photo, use something in her profile that sparks an interest and I don’t mean “hi, I notice you like sucking cock - ta-dah! I have a cock!”, but more if she mentions going to gigs or whatever.

Ask her a long leading question? That shows a bit of thought.

And if she doesn’t reply then just move along to someone else and pay it no mind. Don’t take it personally. She may not answer as she’s in a bad mood or just because you wear the wrong colour underpants. But never take it personally. She doesn’t know you so it’s not a rejection based on “you”.

Try and stay upbeat in messages. Women like a fella to be upbeat and positive when it comes to sexy time.

Good luck and enjoy yourself. Fab is supposed to be fun more than anything.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol

Scary thought to be messaged by Roald Dahl - he’s long dead but even when alive he was a minger - Lol"

Looool j.k rowling then?

And just an fyi

If i had a choice, id prefer it was dr.suess who wrote to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t just say “hi” or “how you doing” or “what you doing” - as a woman these kind of messages really get on my tits!

It’s the message equivalent of a deflating balloon.

Instead maybe compliment on a photo, use something in her profile that sparks an interest and I don’t mean “hi, I notice you like sucking cock - ta-dah! I have a cock!”, but more if she mentions going to gigs or whatever.

Ask her a long leading question? That shows a bit of thought.

And if she doesn’t reply then just move along to someone else and pay it no mind. Don’t take it personally. She may not answer as she’s in a bad mood or just because you wear the wrong colour underpants. But never take it personally. She doesn’t know you so it’s not a rejection based on “you”.

Try and stay upbeat in messages. Women like a fella to be upbeat and positive when it comes to sexy time.

Good luck and enjoy yourself. Fab is supposed to be fun more than anything. "

Love it thank you x

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Something original. And personal.

It's why, like asking for profile improvement advice, asking what to put in a message is pointless.

You'll just end up trying to recreate something someone else has tried before. And you're not them.

Just because a certain approach works for some doesn't mean it will for others.

If you try someone else's idea and it opens a door that door may well close quickly if you can't replicate the style of conversation.

Just be yourself. It'll either work or it won't.

A

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm probably going against the grain here but "hi, how are you?" messages

are fine by me. It's the content of the messages that follow that count.

If someone came up to me in a bar and introduced themselves with more than a brief "Hi, I'm Fred would you be interested in chatting?" I'd be

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Message advice for women... PLEASE SEND ME ONE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading their profile and having a few comments about it usually do the trick if they are attracted to you.

If they are not however, you could be roald dahl and get no reply lol

Scary thought to be messaged by Roald Dahl - he’s long dead but even when alive he was a minger - Lol

Looool j.k rowling then?

And just an fyi

If i had a choice, id prefer it was dr.suess who wrote to me "

Great choice - however some Fab women prefer a man to have a reading age above 6 yrs - Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many folk have received a message saying either “hi” or “how are you”, only to go to the profile and read “be imaginative with your first message”?"

I tailor all my messages based on the lady's profile, doesn't make a difference, but I do!

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcastle

Am going to jump in here and say me personally it doesn’t matter what you send if I don’t fancy you your not getting a reply.. just like if I don’t fancy you am not going to walk up to you in a bar!

Am not ashamed off my so called shallowness as av no interest in wasting anyones time!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Something to show you've read our profiles, for me, nothing sex related might spark a conversation, but if its just sycophantic compliments, almost certainly a block.

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I'm probably going against the grain here but "hi, how are you?" messages

are fine by me. It's the content of the messages that follow that count.

If someone came up to me in a bar and introduced themselves with more than a brief "Hi, I'm Fred would you be interested in chatting?" I'd be "

Perfectly true.

Anyone receiving a one word 'Hi' message will more than likely be more forgiving if they fancy the sender.

If not the most eloquent, unique, tailored, perfectly composed prose will get the same rejection as a 'hi' or 'FAF?'

A

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"How many folk have received a message saying either “hi” or “how are you”, only to go to the profile and read “be imaginative with your first message”?"

I just normally get winks from them

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