FabSwingers.com forum: Guys how many messages?

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Inspired by another thread.

Guys out of interest what is the highest number of messages you have received in one day from different women? I’m not talking conversation thread messages with one person, I mean messages from different women?

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Big fat zero

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

But do feel free to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe 1 or 2 a month. Depends how active on the forums and where I’m working

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Two, I think. It was very exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero, only get messages from guys unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 30 I'm not sure I've never realy counted could be more I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reeived 4 yesterday

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

Not including my forum interactions, everytime i put a face picture on the DP i get one or two.

The days that i go out and send PM's myself, i usually get 3 or 4 responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspired by another thread.

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

Depends but on average 2/3

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By *otonfunMan
over a year ago

Ilkeston

2 yesterday but that is unusual as normally zero lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one once.

I’ll never forget the sense of anticipation, the thrill of opening it, the reading and re-reading of it, swiftly followed by the sense of anticlimax as I realised they had sent it to me by mistake

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By *rownhotnessMan
over a year ago

Cheshire/London/Midlands

Several a while ago but rarely anything now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"20 30 I'm not sure I've never realy counted could be more I guess

This totally happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ZERO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentleman does not divulge, not even the numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you care anyway op, is it a competition ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2-3 a month and thats a good month

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By *ssexfootmanMan
over a year ago

Essex

Maybe more then zero but less then one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im lucky if i get one to be honest, when ive been on a forum i may get 2 or 3 as part of a thread but that is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 2 is the most. In response to something I've said on the forums.

I've had a couple of winks, but can't remember a specific 'I'm interested' message. Not this time round.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

The amount of unsolicited vagina pictures I receive is just obscene

Really lady's?

Just no need!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4, I think, all in response to one of the "ask a question in private, answer in public" forum threads. If we're talking about messages that aren't forum-related, 1-2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 15 but I can’t be sure of that count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, as usual

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why would you care anyway op, is it a competition ? "

No competition here my dear, I don’t need to be competitive with guys and I have explained on my opening post why I’m asking.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Blimey really? It really really is such a very different experience being a bloke on here then .... I would have guessed about 20-30 a day for men.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Why would you care anyway op, is it a competition ?

No competition here my dear, I don’t need to be competitive with guys and I have explained on my opening post why I’m asking."

Certainly interesting for me to read ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey really? It really really is such a very different experience being a bloke on here then .... I would have guessed about 20-30 a day for men. "

My 15 would be a full day spent on the forums in honesty if it were local it’d be around 5 maximum and that again would be considered a good day

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By *ly-FoxMan
over a year ago

mobile

Never more than one. Very few and far between. Lots from guys trying to convince me im gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit and miss, everything has died down after COVID

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 8 was my max, was kind of a wtf moment to see a yellow box with 8 unread messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey really? It really really is such a very different experience being a bloke on here then .... I would have guessed about 20-30 a day for men. "

You're close - the normal range is 0-0.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I can get one or two...no fancy a fucks ... usually replying to messages I've sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspired by another thread.

Three and one was off you.

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

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By *j321Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

5 get more from men

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I had 4 yesterday, which is about the record

Two were from people I've spoken to before and two were newbies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zerooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get views but no messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get about 10 a week from guys convincing me to ease in slowly with a wank night but even more unfortunate to that, I’ve had probably 3 unsolicited messages from women since being on Fab

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Blimey really? It really really is such a very different experience being a bloke on here then .... I would have guessed about 20-30 a day for men. "

Most men, myself very definitely included, get no messages on the vast, overwhelming majority of days. I have the impression that a lot of men never get any messages at all.

The time I got two was an exciting one-off that I don't expect to be repeated.

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

Get lots from guys lol... everyone loves a little yellow inbox though. None today as yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me about it

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex

At best, not many, at worse none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the odd one every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tryng to think of the last one that mailed me first

nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most i have ever had in one day is about 3 but now on a good week i might get 2

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By *tallion6969Man
over a year ago

somerset

I’ve been on this site for seven months and only received one, I’m always doing the messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One a month is my record, I'm well verified good pictures and very polite, one of those messages was to say my pass had ran out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a single day, 3 I think. No idea why they chose that day, I’m guessing there was a reason. Anyway that pretty much used up my quota for the next 6 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey really? It really really is such a very different experience being a bloke on here then .... I would have guessed about 20-30 a day for men. "

Most guys could send out 50 messages and might get one or two replies. And then the chances are they are not for me replies

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I only message couples but I think 3 was my highest ever in response to some messages I had sent out. I came over all dizzy with the excitement. Back to normal now though with the occasional message. Feel free to message me though, I'll always repond and won't block (unless you are really rude!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three!

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

If I unblock men I get about 4-7 aday , but normally 3 a week from women and tv combined

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Inspired by another thread.

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

I think 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it was about 15 but I was running the forum awards so it was votes for the various categories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t tend to get unsolicited messages, but I generally get replies to the ones I send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked. "

An eye opener in what way?

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?"

In how few messages guys receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive. "

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero.....

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?"

Yes really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really! "

Then I’m amazed that you’re amazed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked. "

I have only ever had about ten messages from ladies who I had never messaged in about 10 years on fab. And most of them wanted me to pay them. Others have been fake profiles. And maybe 3 where genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you mean women making the first move, and messaging me first... I honestly dont think I have had any, ever!!!

Had a few men offer to meet me in a toilet at midnight or similar!!

Would be lovely for a woman to message me first, someday lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most days I normally have 10-15, most off of the back of threads here in the Forums. Highest ever is 50 plus a few times when I'm running the guest list for the FFFF events @ Xtasia in West Brom.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

The inbox is flying today thanks to the forums lol

0 PM's from the outside tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two and I dropped my coffee when I opened them! Nothing happened though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked. "

I don't necessarily understand why you're so surprised - plenty of women and couples say that they don't message first.

Combine that with the number of single men here, and all the advice that they have to be exceptional to stand out from the crowd to even warrant a reply to a message, let alone a spontaneous one, and I don't think it's that surprising that for a lot of guys here the Fab experience is a relentlessly negative one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really! "

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I had one the other day ...yay me

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?"

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

Another damned for asking a question on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zip, zero, nothing, nadda, squat

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

One.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

Erm... can't speak for others, but I didn't.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

I don't necessarily understand why you're so surprised - plenty of women and couples say that they don't message first.

I’m surprised as I do message first .. sometimes it is actually a reply to a message I’ve lost in my inbox but I do.

It’s the same for women on vanilla dating sites tbh ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Five or six maybe when I was involved in a "Mystery Questions" thread

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Probably around 10. To be honest, it was quite time consuming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

I personally don't get meets via Fab. I've always used Fab to keep in contact with people I've met in swingers clubs and at organised socials. I also chat to quite a few people all over the country mainly through the forums. Fab is just a keeping in contact and time wasting tool for me

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By *hubby11977Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

1 if lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

Guys don't get meets.

In over 12 years I've had 0 messages.

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By *hubby11977Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

Guys don't get meets.

In over 12 years I've had 0 messages."

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Why is the word message pluralized in the title?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 in a single day was the most. But then again, the women I'd send to are few and far between so I wouldn't expect many in return.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

3 but ended up with fun meets !

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Inspired by another thread.

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

Gosh , who knows

Less than some, more than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

how many guys have you actually contacted first?

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By *as4121Man
over a year ago

dartford

Never been contacted first but had a few replies - not many though guess I'm the fish that gets thrown back!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

If you have 1 than - 1 that it

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

So far today 1.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Lots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"20 30 I'm not sure I've never realy counted could be more I guess

This totally happened"
yes I'm afraid it regularly dowa happen I have many female friends on fab who I chat to daily about any old nonsense and it's not always sexual but I believe the question was what is the most messages from individual women have you had in 1 day and it is easily that number or higher

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Most in one day was five, but they were replies to my messages.

If you mean when she messaged first, the most I've had in one day is one.

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

Still none from a lady? Lots from men saying ‘ hi mate’ ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really! "

If it weren’t for the forum I’d get none at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the height of my success on here, I had 10 new messages on here at once. I should've screenshotted it!

Lucky if I get 1 these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't had any messages sent by the ladies only if I were to send them a message first.

But have had a few winks sent by women before I've winked them or sent them a message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

If it weren’t for the forum I’d get none at all"

On the whole there are no more than half a dozen forum women that ever message me.

I’m not in the least bit surprised either. Why would they?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Guys I did say from women, not from men.

It’s an eye opener just reading this. I’m shocked.

An eye opener in what way?

In how few messages guys receive.

Really? With all the ‘why does no one reply?’ ‘How do I write a message that gets replies?’ Etc threads?

Yes really!

Did you think all those threads were just whinging about nothing?

This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets? "

By going to clubs. Only way of cutting the odds to a manageable degree.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

No idea why people struggle so much on here. I regularly get messages most days from different women. I don’t tend to send many first messages out though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got 4 one day right after I cammed in request room 2

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By *ing_of_the_swingers400Man
over a year ago

edinbugh

Lucky if I get 1 a month! Maybe my inbox is broken? Can someone check for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i see my yellow box i get all excited only to see the message is from a guy saying nice cock!

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Most I had was 12, usually only 1 or 2 a day and often none.It depends, sometimes from forum threads it may encourage messages, sometimes its from a pic or a status update.Also can be from friends or hotlisted people.In terms of random non friend messages from women its usually not many.I think guys still tend to be the ones who make first contact and females have so many messaging them they probably have enough to choose who they wish to reply to rather than the need to go searching.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

"When i see my yellow box i get all excited only to see the message is from a guy saying nice cock!

And you don’t even have a cock pic , how bizarre

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

how many guys have you actually contacted first? "

On average I'll send a couple a week. Some weeks I'll send a dozen, others I'll send none.

If I see someone when I search and they take my fancy I'll drop them a line. It rarely ends in anything more than a chat, but I figure who doesn't like to be told they're attractive/funny/charming or whatever, even if it's by someone they don't fancy?

Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

how many guys have you actually contacted first?

On average I'll send a couple a week. Some weeks I'll send a dozen, others I'll send none.

Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get."
u never messaged me like that

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

how many guys have you actually contacted first?

On average I'll send a couple a week. Some weeks I'll send a dozen, others I'll send none.

Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get. u never messaged me like that

Tried to but you'd blocked me. Hmph.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

how many guys have you actually contacted first?

On average I'll send a couple a week. Some weeks I'll send a dozen, others I'll send none.

Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get. u never messaged me like that

Tried to but you'd blocked me. Hmph."
not me said i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i see my yellow box i get all excited only to see the message is from a guy saying nice cock!

And you don’t even have a cock pic , how bizarre "

Haha...thats because i decided to put them in the friends only cat..

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

The messages have gone up since i got my verification lol

I now receive about 3 or 4 messages outside of the forums.

All in about 15 interactions a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs need to open for us single guys.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get."

My impression of Fab is that men don’t understand how much attention women get, and women don’t understand how little men get.

There’s a woman local to me who’s had messages from 3,500 people. I’ve had messages from 8. Ever. That includes rejections, people who clearly clicked “Reply privately” in the forum by accident, and notifications from Fab.

This isn’t a “Woe is me” post; this is an observation of the simple facts of life on here.

It leads to a situation where women and couples think that an empty inbox would be blissful, and men think it would be awesome to have hundreds or thousands of people salivating over them – few seem to really grasp, let alone appreciate, the drawbacks the other side faces.

I personally find this imbalance accurately reflects society as a whole. I don’t know what we can do about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want more but lol

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

" This thread isn’t about my amazement. There is another lady on the thread also surprised. I don’t read every single thread on Fab. So how do you guys get meets?

how many guys have you actually contacted first?

On average I'll send a couple a week. Some weeks I'll send a dozen, others I'll send none.

Don't get me wrong, I knew the fellas on here weren't besieged by messages in the way women are, but I am truly taken aback by just how few you all get."

M said he only ever got two types of message;

"You've spent a fiver, thank you"

"You've won a holiday, see you in 48 hours"

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By *ogglesMan
over a year ago

essex and norfolk

One or two a month at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally 2 or 3 a week, but my record is 17 in an hour when I uploaded a new picture for comical purposes (Now tucked away in private).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do vaguely remember getting a message once that wasn’t from fab informing me my site support was running out or I’d just renewed

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By *urga2076Woman
over a year ago

London

Wow. This is shocking to read. I heard from a lot of guys that it’s low but I had no idea. The experience as a woman on here is on a different galaxy in comparison. Geez. That’s tough.

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By *iger-NWMan
over a year ago

Preston

Minus three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do vaguely remember getting a message once that wasn’t from fab informing me my site support was running out or I’d just renewed "

Would you like a dick pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah lucky if you get one or two a month. Just use this site for forum now. Dont think its a site to meet lol

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

If im lucky, i may get 1 on the odd occasion,

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

4 but usually 0

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Dont think its a site to meet lol"

I do my best to think of it as social media platform for staying in touch with the people I met in clubs. It's really hard to remember that sometimes though, especially when other people clearly are using it for meeting.

It's common to see people on here saying "Fab's not a sex site LOL", which is fair enough. But if it *isn't* a sex site, what is? Certainly not Tinder, regardless of what people who've clearly never used it repeatedly claim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of unsolicited vagina pictures I receive is just obscene

Really lady's?

Just no need!!!"

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By *ohnywrongunMan
over a year ago

Epping

11 messages in one day that's my record ,I must have trod in something that day lol,because normally 1 or 2 messages a week if I'm lucky,I tend to do better on badoo for women, and then introduce them to fab if they dont already know about it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 maybe 2 in one day from random women. My corner of fab is like the quiet corner of a library

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow some of these guys getting 15-20 messages a day!! I’ve not had half of that as unsolicited messages from women in all the years I’ve been on fab! I do get replies but even then it’s only 2-3 in a day if I’m lucky and normally a polite ‘fuck off’ haha

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By *irgilMan
over a year ago

gran canaria

most- over 20, when i was in pdc on holiday, and i was chatting to couples, using the 'who's near' fab app feature.

average - 2 to 3 a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one once.

I’ll never forget the sense of anticipation, the thrill of opening it, the reading and re-reading of it, swiftly followed by the sense of anticlimax as I realised they had sent it to me by mistake "

Lol love that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Logged in today: 127!!

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By *ovestolickclitsMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

Wait... there's a messages section?

Very rarely get messages first from ladies or couples which i think us the consensus of most in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only have 1 or 2 evrry month and probablys its beause im younger than most.

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By *dhollieTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

About 10 a day , mostly “straight” guys but there’s some nice bi guys too x

Just out of curiosity why is it straight guys message people like me and then try to keep it a secret? Is it because it puts lady’s and couples off ? If so why ? Just because I’m bisexual it doesn’t mean il just bed anyone and certainly I never do it bare so why the secrecy? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow these numbers are depressing.

You clearly can't win, minimal messages as a guy, insane levels of messages as a girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am thinking about starting up a service where I manage a single women or couples account...

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Wow these numbers are depressing.

You clearly can't win, minimal messages as a guy, insane levels of messages as a girl

Somewhere in the middle would be preferable, I agree

If we exclude messages off the back of a forum thread, I think the most has been 3 in a day. Huge discrepancy I know, and supposedly i'm one of the ones that does well on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Average 3 atleast from women and 25+ from men..

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By *emartesMan
over a year ago

Brixton/Oval

Once hot a message from a couple asking for a face pic. They said "no thanks" after I sent one, that was a good day.

Used to get lots of messages from guys and still get the occasional from TS/TVs.

I assume Fab is like tinder with 70% of its users being single men. So a buyer's market.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume Fab is like tinder with 70% of its users being single men. So a buyer's market. "

70%?! Erm I'd say 95% especially if you delete all the fake female accounts that are actually guys/scammers.

As for most messages in a day... I'd say probably 3 from different people. Unfortunately, those that come across as the keenest then do the whole ghosting thing which just leads a guy to assume they're a dude trolling.

I think a few guys on here (even the hung/gym fit ones) claiming to receive dozens a day might be telling slight porkies...

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I get several from men, a few if I go on the forums and an occasional reply to an email from me but almost never a direct email out of the blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait... there's a messages section?

Very rarely get messages first from ladies or couples which i think us the consensus of most in here

Agree with that

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By *axx82Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Max 1

I'm a man, do I'm supposed to receive messages?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I had another message today...yay me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one from site admin reminding me my site supporter was due...

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By *G999Man
over a year ago

Everywhere & Nowhere

You get out what you put in I find...

If I'm very active the count goes up if I'm not, it doesn't.

It's all a big social game really. Taking your time, building a network and making friends. It doesn't happen overnight.

No matter what your physical appearance or how much banter you think you have, in my personal experience, if you're looking for a "quick fix" then you'll either be disappointed or have to make concessions on what you're looking for.

That's the game, don't hate the game, just play smarter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a good day maybe 3 on a normal day 0

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By *hrisjABCMan
over a year ago

Blackheath

Maybe 1 or 2 a week from women.

5 or 6 a day from men if i spend amy time browsing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe 1 or 2 a week from women.

5 or 6 a day from men if i spend amy time browsing.

Oh I should have mentioned that those 3 on a good day were all

From men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're meant to get messages???

I get views but I don't really care about those or how many, if they were interested they'd message me!

Guess it's true I am an acquired taste. It's the hair! A picture isn't going to happen, only via message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very good day 3

Most days and weeks 0

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to receive 1! ?? could be bad timing or lack of verifications but also seems quite normal!

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

Not many in last 6 month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my experiment I received 12.all abusive then blocked.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Perhaps there should be an adopt a man scheme. A friendly message occasionally for self esteem, profile advice, vetting of cock pics etc!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made a mastike about 3-4 months ago uploaded a very racey pic and left fab tab open on my phone woke up the next day to 400 messages

Can my messages can jump up and down by the hundreds just depends if I left fab tab open or not

pick quickly went to friends only ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 10 but then was playing a forum game!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps there should be an adopt a man scheme. A friendly message occasionally for self esteem, profile advice, vetting of cock pics etc!

I'm up for adoption, sounds good. Maybe we should start offering other services, domestic duties, mechanical, DIY, teaching, gardening, that sort of thing?

I'm good at most things, very well house trained & domesticated, probably get more offers

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By *ohnywrongunMan
over a year ago

Epping

"You get out what you put in I find...

If I'm very active the count goes up if I'm not, it doesn't.

It's all a big social game really. Taking your time, building a network and making friends. It doesn't happen overnight.

That's the game, don't hate the game, just play smarter.

"
my sentiments exactly

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By *rownBear365Man
over a year ago

city

Have never received a message from a girl, I have received a lot from dudes and trans girls.

Suppose women.just receive soooooo much attention and messages that they never need to look for it

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By *wislandMan
over a year ago

Newquay

Single figures for me & often zero!

But to be fair im not a regular on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I opened up fab one day and had like 6 unread messages....it was just one day though and a very long time ago! It's not very often that I get a message from someone new!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a busy day if I get one message from a woman, mainly for guys trying to convince me to go bi or from TV/TS

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I had two messages at once ...wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspired by another thread.

1 or 2 messages every day

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

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By *arriLadMan
over a year ago

North West

Most in one day that weren't forum related, about 3 or 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30/40 a week

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspired by another thread.

Obviously please stick to forum rules and not disclose the message content.

Thank you

Bhubaysi xx "

1 or 2 messages every day

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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nah....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha zero.

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