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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So Fabbers, can I ask......? Questions at the end of the essay!

You get a message with a catching subject heading, there are compliments, the person describes them self and tactfully explains why they’re on fab and what their interest are, they ask a couple of questions about you, there’s some humour, subtle sexuality, it’s polite it’s not too long, not too short, there are some photos, face, clothed body with face and semi nude (no cock).

You realise this person has clearly read your profile, taken some thought and time to put together their message.

For one reason or another you’re not attracted to their Text Personality or pictures

Do you.......

1: Reply and say thanks and what ever else you feel fit out of politeness and leave it open ended out of courtesy to not offend

2: Do you do no 1 but be honest

3: ignore them

4: delete them

5: block them

What number would you choose and why?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Tell them the truth

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

2.

Polite but honest

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

2.

I don't get too many messages so have time to reply, so would always be polite especially if they have shown some effort.

I wouldn't lead them on, as there is no point. You are not being kind to them by doing that, it's actually unfair as they may think something could happen when it won't.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Say thanks but no thanks x....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

2 or 4 depending on my take of their message - they may think it's all those things, but I may think otherwise having read it.

I also understand why a lot of people would go to 4 regardless as by replying you leave yourself open to abuse in response (even if the initial message was polite) and have no way of knowing, you also open a wormhole past any future filters you might set by replying

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Thanks but no thanks.. good hunting.. good luck be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So Fabbers, can I ask......? Questions at the end of the essay!

You get a message with a catching subject heading, there are compliments, the person describes them self and tactfully explains why they’re on fab and what their interest are, they ask a couple of questions about you, there’s some humour, subtle sexuality, it’s polite it’s not too long, not too short, there are some photos, face, clothed body with face and semi nude (no cock).

You realise this person has clearly read your profile, taken some thought and time to put together their message.

For one reason or another you’re not attracted to their Text Personality or pictures

Do you.......

1: Reply and say thanks and what ever else you feel fit out of politeness and leave it open ended out of courtesy to not offend

2: Do you do no 1 but be honest

3: ignore them

4: delete them

5: block them

What number would you choose and why?

"

No 2 - if a nice message I thank them but say they are not for me. If they reply then I delete it and if they message again I block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a message tonight and answered it no 1. Curiosity is sometimes seeing something different in someone even if they don’t have what you want sexually

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting, what decent People you all are

Similarly I would do 2 but I do have a fair amount of time on my hands and if that didn’t work 3

Guess I’m just one of the unlucky ones, I normally just get 3 or 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a message tonight and answered it no 1. Curiosity is sometimes seeing something different in someone even if they don’t have what you want sexually "

Otherwise always 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting, what decent People you all are

Similarly I would do 2 but I do have a fair amount of time on my hands and if that didn’t work 3

Guess I’m just one of the unlucky ones, I normally just get 3 or 1 "

How many messages do you get in a day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

It's so rare to get a well-written message that I will reply politely to say so, and say no thanks nicely. More than 90% of messages I get are deleted immediately. And that's for an old grumpy fat bird, I'm not sure how attractive women cope with the influx!

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By *rMardyMsGrimmCouple
over a year ago

near yonder

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By *rMardyMsGrimmCouple
over a year ago

near yonder

I try to be polite, but sometimes the admin is just too much when you’ve got lots of messages.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

No 2

If I'm interested enough to open the message he deserves a explanation of why he's not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number 3

It's the easiest way for me

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Number three as I would not have opened the message to see the compliments and photo selection as I would just have looked at the profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to reply politely, but now I don’t for these reasons.

1. They chose to message me, I didn’t ask them to, and therefore I choose to not reply.

2. Genuinely don’t have the time, I get a lot of messages.

3. If I reply and then decide to turn off messages from men, every man I’ve replied to is still able to message me.

I do feel a bit guilty about ignoring/deleting but women should feel they can prioritise themselves and not feel beholden to people they don’t even know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't answer messages from anyone I'm not interested in talking to.

Any reply opens up an opportunity for conversation.

Replying to every message for most couples and single women would require some time consuming admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve tried carefully written, interesting and descriptive messages and also just a “hi, how’s you”. Both get ignored and replied in equal measure. I do find it frustrating when a fabber has asked for a well written message but then doesn’t reply.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I’ve tried carefully written, interesting and descriptive messages and also just a “hi, how’s you”. Both get ignored and replied in equal measure. I do find it frustrating when a fabber has asked for a well written message but then doesn’t reply. "

Why frustrating? Try and see it as a way of saying they're not interested and you obviously weren't as compatible as you might have thought - if you can accept that it the frustration goes.

Remember also that a lot of people will look at a profile before even considering opening a message, so it that isn't as well written as the message it will minimise your chances of a reply even further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 at the moment due to what my profile says. Otherwise depends on sheer volume of messages I did used to try and say no thanks but that led to people thanking me for saying no thanks... (that’s irritating as fuck) or something saying didn’t want you anyway

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Mixture of 3/4..... if they had read the profile (when open) they wouldn’t have messaged in the first place

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

A nice message, well written and polite from someone who has read my profile and has chosen to ignore it because their wet cock is important, gets a very negative reply and a block.

The same message from someone who has respected my profile will get a lovely answer +/- a block.

I've been rejected a few times nicely but occasionally the rejector deems me enough to continue messaging for wank fodder. I deal with them swiftly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most messages it's 4 or 5, but with messages like you have described sometimes 2.

Depends on what put me off. Sometimes a good message can someone who's profile is clearly worth a 5 though.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Number 2

Honesty but with politeness and consideration.

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

This is a hard one. I only ever wanted the elusive FWB. As I have one now do you encourage others even though you are not looking.

Some of the men who message you just look at and think mmmmm never in my wildest fantasy will you ever end up in my bed.

So rather than start a conversation I know wont go anywhere I just ignore.

Who knows I could just be missing out on à night of passion with Jon Bon jovi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a hard one. I only ever wanted the elusive FWB. As I have one now do you encourage others even though you are not looking.

Some of the men who message you just look at and think mmmmm never in my wildest fantasy will you ever end up in my bed.

So rather than start a conversation I know wont go anywhere I just ignore.

Who knows I could just be missing out on à night of passion with Jon Bon jovi "

If you’re no longer looking, why don’t you just edit your account to take off looking for men?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I always used to reply politely, but now I don’t for these reasons.

1. They chose to message me, I didn’t ask them to, and therefore I choose to not reply.

2. Genuinely don’t have the time, I get a lot of messages.

3. If I reply and then decide to turn off messages from men, every man I’ve replied to is still able to message me.

I do feel a bit guilty about ignoring/deleting but women should feel they can prioritise themselves and not feel beholden to people they don’t even know. "

I agree with everything you put except the word 'women' in the last paragraph.

That applies to anyone. Women, men and couples. Nobody should feel obliged to reply.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always used to reply politely, but now I don’t for these reasons.

1. They chose to message me, I didn’t ask them to, and therefore I choose to not reply.

2. Genuinely don’t have the time, I get a lot of messages.

3. If I reply and then decide to turn off messages from men, every man I’ve replied to is still able to message me.

I do feel a bit guilty about ignoring/deleting but women should feel they can prioritise themselves and not feel beholden to people they don’t even know.

I agree with everything you put except the word 'women' in the last paragraph.

That applies to anyone. Women, men and couples. Nobody should feel obliged to reply.

A"

Yes, you’re absolutely right, apologies, I was thinking about it from my perspective .

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"This is a hard one. I only ever wanted the elusive FWB. As I have one now do you encourage others even though you are not looking.

Some of the men who message you just look at and think mmmmm never in my wildest fantasy will you ever end up in my bed.

So rather than start a conversation I know wont go anywhere I just ignore.

Who knows I could just be missing out on à night of passion with Jon Bon jovi

If you’re no longer looking, why don’t you just edit your account to take off looking for men?"

I did and the amount of hassle I got was unbelievable along the lines of why be on a sex site if your not looking or why waste peoples time with a profile.

Swinging to me is about the social side aswell as the practical side

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I always used to reply politely, but now I don’t for these reasons.

1. They chose to message me, I didn’t ask them to, and therefore I choose to not reply.

2. Genuinely don’t have the time, I get a lot of messages.

3. If I reply and then decide to turn off messages from men, every man I’ve replied to is still able to message me.

I do feel a bit guilty about ignoring/deleting but women should feel they can prioritise themselves and not feel beholden to people they don’t even know.

I agree with everything you put except the word 'women' in the last paragraph.

That applies to anyone. Women, men and couples. Nobody should feel obliged to reply.

A

Yes, you’re absolutely right, apologies, I was thinking about it from my perspective ."

No apology needed. Was just adding a perspective rather than saying you were wrong in any way.

A

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