FabSwingers.com forum: Looks vs Personality

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please read carefully

What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.

For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't consider myself a munter, but I get more compliments on my personality than my looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh golly i dont mind at all , if some one has taken the time to complement you its rather lovely. On no matter what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how/where I meet them. Context matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tend to click with anyone who uses explicit compliments as an in to communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My humour is the biggest compliment. If someone said I’m funny and make them laugh it’s the biggest buzz.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d rather get a message saying they liked a forum post than them liking my boobs.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Depende from who comes from

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"My humour is the biggest compliment. If someone said I’m funny and make them laugh it’s the biggest buzz. "

You are funny and you make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please read carefully

What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.

For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "

How carefully do we have to read this, I’ve read it 5 times, really, really slowly ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please read carefully

What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.

For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "

Same with me

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

In real meet, neither.

I will observe a person reactions/ facial expression when he first sees me and I will make my own conclusion.

For first meet, I take it as a compliment to my physical appearance for him to agree to meet.

For regulars/repeat meets, I take that as a compliment to my personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always been my personality first. I've waited 5 decades for a compliment on my looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am shit at accepting physical compliments

I'd much sooner folk recognised me as being genuine, pleasant, witty and warm

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I'm not fussy, I'll take any compliment.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

I'll take any lol.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"My humour is the biggest compliment. If someone said I’m funny and make them laugh it’s the biggest buzz. "

This for me too

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Personally I think i come across much better in person. I consider myself ok looking for my age. But that only skin deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a compliment?

I've not heard of this foreign word before?

(My sense of humour 1st)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh golly i dont mind at all , if some one has taken the time to complement you its rather lovely. On no matter what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope my personality first and that it made them stop to look more closely the 2nd time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please read carefully

What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.

For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks

How carefully do we have to read this, I’ve read it 5 times, really, really slowly ?!"

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Personality.

To notice how I look all they need to do is open their eyes.

To notice my personality they need to listen too.

Listening skills are far more important to me than looking "skills"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s a compliment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s a compliment? "

Nice ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

You're on fire today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks for me, as I already know my personality is fucking awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd far rather someone to comment that i was hysterically funny or weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've received some compliments on my forum performance which makes me smile.

A 'Nice penis

' one though would also do the job

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends I suppose, the other day someone complimented me on my dress as it had an unusual pattern. And that I thought was lovely from a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks first but moving swiftly on to personality and humour

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'll take anything I can get

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Personality every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

Absolutely this

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Compliments are always nice, and it's taken me til this age to be able to accept them graciously.

I don't take compliments on here too seriously, though. "Nice tits" etc. But if I meet someone and they appear to mean it, it's nice to be complimented on "Me" - my humour, personality, etc x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me. "

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think? "

. Yeah, that sort of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the way I look as an ensemble piece

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'm not in the market for verbal compliments. The greatest compliment anybody can give me is wanting to be around me. They don't need to verbalise it. Somebody's actions mean more to me than saying something they think is good about me. Luke

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?

. Yeah, that sort of thing

I'd not noticed

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It is all about personality for me, but there does have to be a physical attraction in the first place. I'm guessing we're talking online, ie fab?

Online, you can't judge personality until you start messaging, so there has to be something that attracts you in the first place to that profile.

In the 'real' world it would most definitely be personality as it's far easier to see.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not in the market for verbal compliments. The greatest compliment anybody can give me is wanting to be around me. They don't need to verbalise it. Somebody's actions mean more to me than saying something they think is good about me. Luke "

I agree with that to an extent but the many threads there have been recently saying how unkind words and insults have had a lifelong effect on people's self esteem and opinion of themselves makes me think that actually telling people the genuinely good things you see about them is a very valuable thing.

My mum could be quite critical of me but she also praised me in equal measure. I can remember her saying within my hearing how much she enjoyed having us kids home in the holidays and she often pointed out to her friends how nice looking she thought I was (I bet the friends were rolling their eyes

). I think those small things have gone a long way to underpinning my opinion of myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personality, I’m not really good at taking compliments about my looks x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?

. Yeah, that sort of thing

I'd not noticed

Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am

You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?

. Yeah, that sort of thing

I'd not noticed

Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am

You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary. "

I feel like I've just been bigged up by my best mates mum like.

I like it when you swipe in with a genius one liner from out of nowhere. The unexpected ones that make me blow a snot bubble coz I was so unprepared for the burst of laughter!

I don't think you're as aloof as maybe you think you are, but I am reasonably perceptive.

*takes notes about being rumbled for taking notes*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither, I don’t like compliments

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Any compliment is nice if it is sincere but I am more flattered if someone compliments me on my personality or something less obvious about my looks or appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliment, eh? What's one of them?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Absolutely looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never be complimented on my looks, good job my personality is as big as my body

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I was complimented on my looks a lot when I was younger.

People used to say I had a face only a mother could love.

That’s nice isn’t it.

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By *amanthaJonesTrans1966TV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Please read carefully

What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.

For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "

99% of my compliments are regarding my looks, such as my fabulous outfits, gorgeous legs and high heels (their words), which then leads to them meeting me, to which I then get compliments about my personality, so my looks gets me my meeting with admirers, if I'm out at a club or venue, admirers approach me because of what I look like and then get to know me.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Compliment, eh? What's one of them? "

Oi you - don't you dare.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

Within context id say my personality.

But then again, if ive got you pinned down and im coming at you hard, i dont want to hear about what a nice person i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compliment, eh? What's one of them?

Oi you - don't you dare.

I kinda meant I don't actually realise when a compliment is genuinely being paid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t look at peoples personality when I’m ploughing away

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.

I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain

I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.

You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?

. Yeah, that sort of thing

I'd not noticed

Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am

You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary.

I feel like I've just been bigged up by my best mates mum like.

I like it when you swipe in with a genius one liner from out of nowhere. The unexpected ones that make me blow a snot bubble coz I was so unprepared for the burst of laughter!

I don't think you're as aloof as maybe you think you are, but I am reasonably perceptive.

*takes notes about being rumbled for taking notes*"

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality."

When limited to this choice, I would like to be complimented on my looks.

I get plenty of compliments about my personality and they all feel like consolation prizes for the fat kid who trails in last.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

As others have said context matters, however if someone compliments me on my looks I would do a double take. ,I don’t consider myself ugly but I also know I am not a classically handsome man.

Someone cannot comment on my personality without knowing me, only their perception of me.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I know what I look like and I am ok with it.

I do not know, however, how somebody perceives me so somebody saying they like my extrovert nature is more important to me, if that makes sense?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

You're on fire today

Was that a compliment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

You're on fire today

Was that a compliment?

Yes it was a compliment. Not a threat.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Looks often opens the door.

Personality stops it from closing.

You're on fire today

Was that a compliment?

Yes it was a compliment. Not a threat.

And there was me off to check the smoke detector batteries......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t mind. However I value compliments about things I really value.

For instance I like compliments like ‘what you said really helped me sort my problem out.’

However I’m not so keen on ‘I was really impressed how you shut that cunt up.’

Compliments about my looks are rare and there’s very little I can do about most of them really, except those related to health and beauty routines.

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

"I am shit at accepting physical compliments

I'd much sooner folk recognised me as being genuine, pleasant, witty and warm "

Well I think your profile rocks, so definitely all of the above in my book!

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Genuine compliments are always lovely, but my favourite compliments are for my clothes, shoes, hair, makeup - anything where I’ve made a conscious choice to look a certain way and have control over whatever is being complimented. That’s because they’re not just saying “x” thing looks nice, they’re also complimenting my taste or my skills, so I love those compliments more than most others.

Physical compliments - that depends on who and what I suppose. I don’t really pay attention to the Fab messages saying things like “the most beautiful woman on here” because that’s so obviously bullshit - and he’s probably just sent it to 20 other women as well. I’m also not that keen on any variation on “nice tits” unless it comes from someone I like. It’s nicer to get a genuine compliment on a less obvious feature - the first time someone on here told me I have beautiful eyes, I melted, because that’s not something I’ve heard often.

Compliments on my personality only come from people who know me well and usually who I’m close to. Those are nice because they’re real, and they’re from people whose opinions I care about. I wouldn’t expect compliments of that sort on here where no-one really knows me.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I'll take any compliment thanks x

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