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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had this nagging doubt about a potential playmate, as he comes across as rather too controlling in some of his communications.

I voiced my concerns, and next thing I know, I am off his "Friends" list and he did not bother to reply.

Nevermind, better this way than to make a bigger mistake later!

Another potential playmate says it is difficult for him to fit me etc...

So back to the drawing board I go!

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By *uinta_98Man
over a year ago

bedford

Well, if he's that shallow youre better off without!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done Jo at least your sussing them out so only meeting people that you will get on with.

Having had experience of not listening to my instinct a few times and not having the best of meets, your absolutely right, and doing the right thing!!

Plenty more nice guys to meet I'm sure! I'd say good luck but sure you don't need it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done jo... yu soon get a fine tuned cockdar...or prickdar

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is kind of a shame, as he does tick quite a few of the right boxes.

It now leaves a void in my schedule.

Anyone free on Fri 30 Oct 09?

Serious offers only, and normal vetting process applies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instinct is the way to go. I met someone and ignored it, thinking maybe I was wrong. Big mistake lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is kind of a shame, as he does tick quite a few of the right boxes.

It now leaves a void in my schedule.

Anyone free on Fri 30 Oct 09?

Serious offers only, and normal vetting process applies "

Me and Mr S. are 'free' in A+Gs in Hudds at the social muahaha

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By *imbojim150Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

Sounds like you did the right thing by sticking to your instincts rather than meeting him. Im sure youll soon find a decent one that treats you with respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Me and Mr S. are 'free' in A+Gs in Hudds at the social muahaha "

I thought about going to the club Friday night, however, am not sure about going to a club on my own on my first outing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me and Mr S. are 'free' in A+Gs in Hudds at the social muahaha

I thought about going to the club Friday night, however, am not sure about going to a club on my own on my first outing "

I'm going and on my own, so together we wouldn't be alone !!!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had this nagging doubt about a potential playmate, as he comes across as rather too controlling in some of his communications.

I voiced my concerns, and next thing I know, I am off his "Friends" list and he did not bother to reply.

Nevermind, better this way than to make a bigger mistake later!

Another potential playmate says it is difficult for him to fit me etc...

So back to the drawing board I go! "

Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx"

I have chatted to him on MSN (he did not like that as a medium), and on the phone, and he ticked a lot of the boxes, nevermind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had this nagging doubt about a potential playmate, as he comes across as rather too controlling in some of his communications.

I voiced my concerns, and next thing I know, I am off his "Friends" list and he did not bother to reply.

Nevermind, better this way than to make a bigger mistake later!

Another potential playmate says it is difficult for him to fit me etc...

So back to the drawing board I go!

Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx"

With you on this one Razzle, I have to speak to someone on the phone first - gives both parties the chance to decide whether they still want to meet up

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx

I have chatted to him on MSN (he did not like that as a medium), and on the phone, and he ticked a lot of the boxes, nevermind "

If it's any consolation I have had three unique meets that flopped even though all of them had excellent phone conversations involved

I even wasted some annual leave for one of them... arg!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx

With you on this one Razzle, I have to speak to someone on the phone first - gives both parties the chance to decide whether they still want to meet up

xx"

And to be honest if the meet is a little way away its a great way to build up the 'tension' - especially if you natter till 3 in the morning lol xxxx

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx

I have chatted to him on MSN (he did not like that as a medium), and on the phone, and he ticked a lot of the boxes, nevermind "

He is a fool, for you look like a bundle of filthy fun with an awesome bod.

And I drove through Swindon this morning, to think....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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And to be honest if the meet is a little way away its a great way to build up the 'tension' - especially if you natter till 3 in the morning lol xxxx"

One of the reasons why I have a separate play phone is that, my other phone is my work phone, and I do not wish to embarrasss my boss with a huge phone bills for late night calls!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He is a fool, for you look like a bundle of filthy fun with an awesome bod.

And I drove through Swindon this morning, to think.... "

You are too kind, thank you!

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

if i was going to the friday night thing then i'd have offered to be your escort for the evening and it would have been a pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And to be honest if the meet is a little way away its a great way to build up the 'tension' - especially if you natter till 3 in the morning lol xxxx

One of the reasons why I have a separate play phone is that, my other phone is my work phone, and I do not wish to embarrasss my boss with a huge phone bills for late night calls!!! "

House phone lol, just have to keep setting the alarm so you call back every hour and it costs nothing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And to be honest if the meet is a little way away its a great way to build up the 'tension' - especially if you natter till 3 in the morning lol xxxx

One of the reasons why I have a separate play phone is that, my other phone is my work phone, and I do not wish to embarrasss my boss with a huge phone bills for late night calls!!!

House phone lol, just have to keep setting the alarm so you call back every hour and it costs nothing xx"

Something that I keep forgetting to do, which my phone bill proves

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

yes...but it's remembering to set the alarm that can be the problem with that...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes...but it's remembering to set the alarm that can be the problem with that...lol "

The first hour its easy, but once the conversation gets going mmmmmmmmm sometimes it can slip your mind lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes...but it's remembering to set the alarm that can be the problem with that...lol

The first hour its easy, but once the conversation gets going mmmmmmmmm sometimes it can slip your mind lol xxxx"

or happen when you least want it too!! lol!

You ever had a mobile phone battery die on you at the worse moment!! Yes someone on here knows who I am talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes...but it's remembering to set the alarm that can be the problem with that...lol

The first hour its easy, but once the conversation gets going mmmmmmmmm sometimes it can slip your mind lol xxxx

or happen when you least want it too!! lol!

You ever had a mobile phone battery die on you at the worse moment!! Yes someone on here knows who I am talking about "

Nooooooooooo, not good lol - now bet that was a frustrating night !!!! xx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes...but it's remembering to set the alarm that can be the problem with that...lol

The first hour its easy, but once the conversation gets going mmmmmmmmm sometimes it can slip your mind lol xxxx

or happen when you least want it too!! lol!

You ever had a mobile phone battery die on you at the worse moment!! Yes someone on here knows who I am talking about

Nooooooooooo, not good lol - now bet that was a frustrating night !!!! xx xx"

VERY!!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Always, aways trust your instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats why I like MSN or the phone, get to know a little about someone first, get nagged a bit to have meets straight off but for me a bit of conversation goes a long way to discovering if you are going to 'hit it off' xx xx

I have chatted to him on MSN (he did not like that as a medium), and on the phone, and he ticked a lot of the boxes, nevermind

If it's any consolation I have had three unique meets that flopped even though all of them had excellent phone conversations involved

I even wasted some annual leave for one of them... arg! "

Oh don't tell me that !!!! - am hoping that giving good 'phone' means the real thing will be even better

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right."

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

"

Yes but im talking about the ones that tick all the boxes and every thing seems fine until right at the last minute they do or say something that makes me change my mind. So unless someone is going to give me a crystal ball i dont know they are going to fuck it up at the last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

"

That is a really good point babe

Seriously we have this thing called intuition and I don't think some of us use it nearly enough,if we did there would'nt be half as many moans and groans and kicking ourselves for not listening to it

I have and will always follow mine,it very rarely lets me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

That is a really good point babe

Seriously we have this thing called intuition and I don't think some of us use it nearly enough,if we did there would'nt be half as many moans and groans and kicking ourselves for not listening to it

I have and will always follow mine,it very rarely lets me down "

Your'e being provocative my little poodle xxx mwah xxx

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

the watch word should be and i quote " if in doubt leave it out" all to often we see post's where someone has gone against their first impressions and regretted it, now if they had gone with their first impression we wouldn't be hearing about their bad expirence's in the forums would we.

so simple when you apply logic to it really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

Yes but im talking about the ones that tick all the boxes and every thing seems fine until right at the last minute they do or say something that makes me change my mind. So unless someone is going to give me a crystal ball i dont know they are going to fuck it up at the last minute."

Gawd D/S .... what do they do ? I'm REALLY interested. I have this image of them speaking eloquently, having the looks of Mr. Darcy.... offering you turkish delight on a cushion ... quaffing you with champagne and promising kisses all over ...... then making the fifth phone call from the kazi during a very audible thunderous episode of the shites..... either that or they send pics that look like Jack in the shining replete with hatchets!!

What one thing could possibly put you off a man that ticked ALL the boxes.

I uhmmmm ( cough ) hate to admit it publicly ..... but even I'M not perfect.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

Yes but im talking about the ones that tick all the boxes and every thing seems fine until right at the last minute they do or say something that makes me change my mind. So unless someone is going to give me a crystal ball i dont know they are going to fuck it up at the last minute.

Gawd D/S .... what do they do ? I'm REALLY interested. I have this image of them speaking eloquently, having the looks of Mr. Darcy.... offering you turkish delight on a cushion ... quaffing you with champagne and promising kisses all over ...... then making the fifth phone call from the kazi during a very audible thunderous episode of the shites..... either that or they send pics that look like Jack in the shining replete with hatchets!!

What one thing could possibly put you off a man that ticked ALL the boxes.

I uhmmmm ( cough ) hate to admit it publicly ..... but even I'M not perfect. "

Ok heres one example. Chatting to a nice guy he had mentioned he was vegan carried on chatting very nice, had decided we would like to meet over the cause of a couple of weeks. He rang to make final arrangements then dropped the bomb shell that he would prefer me not to wear makeup or perfume and that he prefered the "natural" smell. Well im not up on being a vegan but i don know you can get enough products that arnt tested on animals. So i guessed he was going to be a smelly git.

One guy when we arranged a meet then told me the next time we met i could go and stay with him and his wife. I hadnt even met him for the first time. Oh theres loads that put me off at the last minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one tell me over the phone , that when we meet.

He wanted me to open the door and go into the lounge and get on all 4,s and blindfold myself.

Oh yerrrr like fook im gonna

Needless to say, he was a goner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always go with my instint. Ive cancelled so many guys at the final hurdle cause something just doesnt seem right.

I cancel them on the first hurdle. Fancy either party going through reams of shit just to be cancelled at the last hurdle! Ones I never answer - and I don't care who calls me uppity - are those that call me 'hun' 'babe' 'sexy' or any other stupid condescending pet name in an initial greeting.

Yes but im talking about the ones that tick all the boxes and every thing seems fine until right at the last minute they do or say something that makes me change my mind. So unless someone is going to give me a crystal ball i dont know they are going to fuck it up at the last minute.

Gawd D/S .... what do they do ? I'm REALLY interested. I have this image of them speaking eloquently, having the looks of Mr. Darcy.... offering you turkish delight on a cushion ... quaffing you with champagne and promising kisses all over ...... then making the fifth phone call from the kazi during a very audible thunderous episode of the shites..... either that or they send pics that look like Jack in the shining replete with hatchets!!

What one thing could possibly put you off a man that ticked ALL the boxes.

I uhmmmm ( cough ) hate to admit it publicly ..... but even I'M not perfect.

Ok heres one example. Chatting to a nice guy he had mentioned he was vegan carried on chatting very nice, had decided we would like to meet over the cause of a couple of weeks. He rang to make final arrangements then dropped the bomb shell that he would prefer me not to wear makeup or perfume and that he prefered the "natural" smell. Well im not up on being a vegan but i don know you can get enough products that arnt tested on animals. So i guessed he was going to be a smelly git.

One guy when we arranged a meet then told me the next time we met i could go and stay with him and his wife. I hadnt even met him for the first time. Oh theres loads that put me off at the last minute"

Both of those would put me off !! I make it a policy of asking up front if they are married. Wouldn't dawn on me that a vegan wouldn't want someone to wear makeup .. I'd wear the make up n let him kiss my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wish i had trusted my instincts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't want to go into details, however, there are a few issues that made me think twice about meeting this gentleman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am sold, A&G Club here I come on Fri 30 Oct 09

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

well i'm going to miss the fun and games but i'm still going to enjoy the pleasures that will undoubtably be on hand at the social, when i get to meet all these lovelies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sold, A&G Club here I come on Fri 30 Oct 09 "

Awsome

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