FabSwingers.com forum: Alcohol awareness week

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This week, my dad was an alcoholic it eventually killed him,alcohol kills far more people than illegal drugs, so does smoking, don't really have a point to this thread,just to say it's alcohol awareness week 16th nov-22nd nov

Stay safe people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost too many people to alcohol addiction.. Its the worst, legal and seen as a social thing, but can ruin so many lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thank you for drawing our attention to it. I'm sorry for what you and others have suffered

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason. "

Iv cut down a great deal, can't remember last time I had an hangover, don't touch spirit's anymore, been there done that got the bad pancreas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sorry to hear about your dad.

I have reduced my alcohol consumption in the last few months and I am using a pass system i.e. 2 passes a week when I can drink. It has helped me be more disciplined to something that is

very addictive.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

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"I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason. "

Exactly this. I've never d*unk to excess and am literally a hangover virgin

From my experience, people who are termed "functioning alcoholics" are quite prevalent in society and the fact they are high functioning probably makes it more difficult for them to get help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason. "

Alcohol awareness is far more than a sweeping aside about whether or not a person is unattractive when d*unk.

Alcoholism is insidious and kills ruthlessly. I also lost my mother too it when she was 60. She had all the help and support she could have wished for and it still wasn't enough to help her make that change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m nearly a year without a drink not that I drank much anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A big drinker can drink far more than an alcoholic and function normally, iv known guys down 10 pints a night and wake up fresh and get on with their work, the difference is, a big drinker wants a drink but an alcoholic needs a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason.

Exactly this. I've never d*unk to excess and am literally a hangover virgin

From my experience, people who are termed "functioning alcoholics" are quite prevalent in society and the fact they are high functioning probably makes it more difficult for them to get help?"

I have experienced alcoholism first hand and I think how they survive hangovers is to start allover some wake up still d*unk. Iv drank excessively more times than I’d like to admit and the hangover is unbearable I believe it shows an indication of the suffering you do to your body, and what your body goes through to recover. If u drink on rare occasions u tend to forget the hangover.

I agree with the comments above about how it’s so accepted socially even expected and it’s legal yet reaks havoc.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think seeing a person d*unk is so unattractive. I enjoy a drink but have my limits I think hangovers are so bad for a reason.

Alcohol awareness is far more than a sweeping aside about whether or not a person is unattractive when d*unk.

I wasnt sweeping aside any facts, my mother also had a severe drink problem my comment about it being unattractive may have seemed like I was brushing past the seriousness even being being insensitive but I was actually referring to some of the experiences I have seen first hand without divulging on specifics. I feel for anyone who has to struggle due to alcohol wether that be an actual alcoholic or those loved ones around them who have to watch them or are suffering as a direct consequence. I come from a big family who are very social and celebrate (drink) on every occasion, there are many ways the effects of alcoholism can destroy families.I’m all too familiar. Again my thoughts are with anyone who is unfortunate enough to have to live with that in their lives and those who are struggling with addiction and are trying their best.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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For goodness sake! I'll get it right in a minute

Right I'm going to retype that for the sake of discretion.

I know a husband and wife. He is a "functioning" alcoholic, she is an alcoholic. Being functioning is no better, the damage inflicted on their children isn't easier for them to bear because one of them could hold down a job.

Alcohol awareness is great but the people who need awareness are rarely prepared to listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post OP, sorry to hear about your father. Sorry to hear it being such a common thing.

I can never get my head around the way alcohol is advertised (although not as bad as once was)

I've had many a discussion about how much more dangerous it is compared to other recreational drugs. Most of the time that is met with the same people try and say alcohol isn't a drug. I think this is a big factor that many dismiss and see a drink as harmless, not know the grip it could on a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the little recognised issues about alcoholism is that it is a systemic, interactive, contextual process, involving several interconnected, nested systems: the biological, individual, couple, family, local community, wider community and national level. Alcoholism is also a circular and adaptive process, where the systemic context, as well as causal factors, underpinning drinking behaviour, interact to maintain the status quo. It also tends to run through generations as well as being a symptom of a family dynamic. So alcohol abuse in an alcoholic family can be seen as both cause and effect and self reinforcing.

Dealing with alcoholism as an individual is extremely difficult, unless changes to the wider systems in which the alcoholic lives also change too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I count my self as being very very lucky for never liking alcohol because I have an addictive personality just like my dear ole mum who found Morphine a bit moorish so not drinking booze is a plus because I know I would be an alcoholic without a doubt.

Same with drugs and smoking but I fully understand how people can become alcoholics and totally agree with nicecouples faith attempt at a post because addicted will lie and cheat their loved ones to feed the need that they have and until they fess up and own their problem then there is no chance of improving it.

Very very sad and in my humble opinion is not living your best life.

If you think that you have a problem then seek help and stay frosty out there everyone!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I count my self as being very very lucky for never liking alcohol because I have an addictive personality just like my dear ole mum who found Morphine a bit moorish so not drinking booze is a plus because I know I would be an alcoholic without a doubt.

Very very sad and in my humble opinion is not living your best life.

If you think that you have a problem then seek help and stay frosty out there everyone!!!!!

Oh it's definitely a personality trait,not everyone but iv seen it

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By *ontecristoMan
over a year ago

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Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok. "

Isolation is definitely an issue at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok. "

And the fact the fact that alcohol is still readily available to buy during lockdown I suppose it could fall under non essential items but it would cause uproar if they didn’t sell it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok.

And the fact the fact that alcohol is still readily available to buy during lockdown I suppose it could fall under non essential items but it would cause uproar if they didn’t sell it. "

I don't know about here, but in the States alcohol sales are way up.

Unfortunately some people use it as a way to cope, in the absence of better support or coping mechanisms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good point OP with people staying home lots more are drinking at home many on their own might be a time to call someone you know who drinks and make sure they are ok.

And the fact the fact that alcohol is still readily available to buy during lockdown I suppose it could fall under non essential items but it would cause uproar if they didn’t sell it.

I don't know about here, but in the States alcohol sales are way up.

Unfortunately some people use it as a way to cope, in the absence of better support or coping mechanisms."

I know it’s kind of catch 22 xx

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