FabSwingers.com forum: Why are you single?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why are you single?

For me it's along the lines of I'm tired being a near perfect guy and a fair amount of women I've met don't seem to appreciate it and I haven't meet the right person as yet but I don't settle for just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm far from perfect, but zero fucks were given in the making of this imperfection which is probably why I'm single. That and im a fuxking nightmare to live with

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

A lifestyle choice that came about 5 to 10 years late for me

Nothing much to be said about it..

It is, what it is

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By *stroboy78Man
over a year ago

Abergavenny

For me I think it a mixture of things. I don't have kids, no crazy ex's, no ex wives, absolutely no baggage at all and I think women tend to think "whats wrong with him" or they think I lack commitment which makes them cautious.

Dont get me wrong I'm fully aware of my 'quirks' and tend to be very single minded but I do take others thoughts and feelings into consideration so who knows really haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are you single?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Few reasons really.

I’m fat.

I hardly ever go anywhere to meet people.

I’m super tall, puts a lot of men off.

I’m 45 and a mum of two and live with my mum (for care reasons, but still).

I don’t particularly have much time of my own to give to someone at the moment.

So not particularly a catch, but I’m happy enough for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To busy

Having to much fun with 2 close friends

My ex was a full on beating cheating idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

workaholic.

and i love being completely selfish.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I like my own space have no desire to live/marry anyone grown selfish I suppose! Its win win all the good bits without the sock washing/mundane stuff having a fwb x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single mum with a career. I put my kids and my job before me.

Probably too late, now.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

As much as I miss cuddles, chats and intimacy due to lockdown, I really do love my freedom and that I am not accountable to anybody bar myself, about what I do, when, with whom etc.

Not saying I would never consider a relationship but it would be one based on mutual respect and tolerance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a huge pain in the arse, a stubborn moo and I don't like people. I also very much enjoy being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I'm lovely!

In reality lots of reasons,here are a few...

I keep having my heart broken by idiots who didn't deserve it.

I'm looking for something and someone that possibly doesn't exist.

I'm fat, and not very pretty, divorced, have children, poor, spend all my time working, far too independent, not very confident, a bit shy.

I'm a total catch ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Anti social, fat twat.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am a widow. I was married 25 years. Now I enjoy my own space. I would never get married or live with anyone again. My partner of 5 years lives a few minutes drive away.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have fwb, I dont want the boring bits from a live in/serious relationship. I do miss company at times but, not enough to compromise my life. Ms

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I don't go out much - no single friends all my friends are married so i tend to go to their houses, not much chance of meeting anyone. Plus im a fatty.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It gives me the freedom to do whatever I want to do, totally selfish and I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A recluse with a shattered heart that I can't quite piece back together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to say it isn't my choice, but I don't exactly help myself.

I'm not outgoing which makes it hard to meet new people and even if I was, I'm utterly shit at starting interesting conversations

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

He died

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

"As much as I miss cuddles, chats and intimacy due to lockdown, I really do love my freedom and that I am not accountable to anybody bar myself, about what I do, when, with whom etc.

Not saying I would never consider a relationship but it would be one based on mutual respect and tolerance.

Same for me to.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I love throwing myself into my work and am very career driven.

I also used to dance (currently stopped due to covid)... but that would take up over half of the evenings of a week.

So not really much time left for someone after all that!

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Am single by choice.. I don’t need anything off a man other than sex.. i have all the material things , 2 fab kids.. and do As I please .

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Mainly because after being together almost 30 years my wife decided to fuck off and live with some bloke she found online. Giver her her due, though, she is still with the guy 9 years later.

I did have a fairly serious 2-year relationship since, but that ended 6 years ago, although we're still good friends.

I couldn't live with anyone now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just haven't found my best fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to be and I can't really do commitment.

And I have the best of both worlds. I have a friend who lives down the road who I sleep with (he knows about fab) and we do all the daily stuff together, like we go shopping together, he's helping me sort my flat out, and we're a team... but neither wants a full blown relationship. Then I have a great guy I meet off fab, he lives a way away so we don't get to see each other often, he's a good friend and we do stuff that my other guy isn't into. Having my cake and eating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like many others, I am too content as a singleton.

I am busy with university at the moment and have plans to move away from South Wales after I graduate - so would be unfair to start a full on relationship. Also fiercely independant and love the freedom that I have.

This is why I am looking for the ideal set up, fwb who I can chill with, share a takeaway with, swing with, etc, but with a very clear understanding that it would be just that and never go any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty anti-social and haven't been looking for anyone.

Live with my parents (caring/support role) and give support to other members of my family - so when I have 'me' time I prefer to spend it quietly on my own.

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By *ookingfun82Man
over a year ago

Enniskillen

I wonder is there more that wish they were single or those that wish they weren't

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

1 abusive relationship (11 years) and one where I found out I wasn't actually a girlfriend I was a mistress (after almost 2 years)

So, now I won't put myself in a position where I can get taken for a cunt again, plus with the damage done from those 2 I would be a terrible partner. I'd be suspicious as fuck and insecure. No point in putting someone else through that.

Add to that I won't be THAT many years until the menopause where I'm highly likely to be a crazed nightmare of a human, I really ain't got a lot to offer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder is there more that wish they were single or those that wish they weren't"

I certainly wish I wasn't. I've been single for 11 years now. I get very lonely

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By *nooshWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Am single by choice.. I don’t need anything off a man other than sex.. i have all the material things , 2 fab kids.. and do As I please .

This

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By *ammykingMan
over a year ago

Lisburn

Got divorced a couple years ago (made a mistake while younger and it backfired hugely) and that puts ALOT of people off immediately upon mentioning it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Became single again 4 months ago..now he is finally moving out.

I have lived on my own before so can do it again.

Will miss the company mostly..

But always hopeful Mr. Right will finally turn up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not 100% sure tbh. Bad choices in previous partners. Still figuring out what I want from a relationship. Still hopeful I’ll meet someone and get married one day (would prefer not to cohabit tho!)

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’d make someone a great wife

....but...

I’m single by choice; normally (until covid changed my work routine) career driven and I’m a social butterfly so I was always out somewhere over the weekend. No children, no ex, no skeletons

Relationships are a two-way commitment and my stance is “ why make someone a priority in my life when I am just an option in theirs”

I’ve made some great connections through fab meetings which means I now have a selection in the chocolate box I can revisit as time suits/allows/reciprocal and some of them are fucking delicious!

Why would I want to change what is my perfect solution! I’m financially independent, I have a lovely home..... living the dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer my own company, my freedom to do as I please and not being forced to watch crap on TV that I don't want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because...

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house

"As much as I miss cuddles, chats and intimacy due to lockdown, I really do love my freedom and that I am not accountable to anybody bar myself, about what I do, when, with whom etc.

Not saying I would never consider a relationship but it would be one based on mutual respect and tolerance.

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same here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single mum.

Demanding job.

Chronic health condition.

Fat.

Had my heart shattered by my ex.

I honestly don't know why I'm undatable.....

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By *nooshWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It makes me a little sad that several people have put that they're single because they're fat.

I am certainly curvy but I don't assume that makes a difference.... or that it should. Anyone worthy of my attention wants me as the person I am not my dress size.

But I'm also opinionated, a snorer and enjoy being single - too many lovely people out there to pick just 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I haven't found the right person yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Widowed three years ago

Life will never be as good but trying to make most of it

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

Have you seen the clip of me i mean I've even offered to wear a paper bag but that never helps

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"Widowed three years ago

Life will never be as good but trying to make most of it "
7 years for me buddy never been the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Widowed three years ago

Life will never be as good but trying to make most of it 7 years for me buddy never been the same "

Sorry to hear mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifestyle choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single mum

Career driven

No hang ups, ex or otherwise, but

high expectations, low affiliations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Widowed myself so being a good hard few years and then it’s a confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just got used to it to be honest. I’ve been single for so long and used to doing my own thing, I struggle to let anyone in; I like my space.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I honestly dont know. I'm loyal, giving, loving, open minded, great in the sack but still get dumped or treat badly.

Maybe its my weight, maybe i try to hard, maybe i want it too much, or maybe im just unlovable...whatever the reason its bloody lonely and life is passing me by and i hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly dont know. I'm loyal, giving, loving, open minded, great in the sack but still get dumped or treat badly.

Maybe its my weight, maybe i try to hard, maybe i want it too much, or maybe im just unlovable...whatever the reason its bloody lonely and life is passing me by and i hate it

Sounds familiar! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tired of one way compromising, being told what I should and shouldn't eat, bitched at, amd general moaning of how I wish to live my life.

So been single over a year now, I say I am open to dating but been on 1 date in that time as people annoy me too quickly these days

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

There is not enough time to answer this but for short it’s partly lifestyle choice, partly because I end up with arseholes and partly because I get bored

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By *ll That Ass 67Woman
over a year ago

Kettering

I am small , ginger and fat , have a big nose and not all my own teeth ...I live alone , work from home , don't drive , not all that bothered about noisy pubs or clubs as I am 53 and been there done that ...

I want someone who can accept me for all I am and all I am not , and who can add something to my life and so far I haven't met anyone who has done that ......so single and choosy it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear, too many young people widowed

Good luck mate

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By *weetsecret69Woman
over a year ago

Havant

"As much as I miss cuddles, chats and intimacy due to lockdown, I really do love my freedom and that I am not accountable to anybody bar myself, about what I do, when, with whom etc.

Not saying I would never consider a relationship but it would be one based on mutual respect and tolerance.

100% This

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Because fwb’s are much more fun!!!!

I like my own company. I like only having to cook for myself because there’s never any complaints about my choices.

I get to watch whatever crappy tv I like with no whingeing.

I don’t have clean up after anyone else.

I can go out when I want, with whoever I want to wherever I choose until I choose to go home.

Hardly anyone I know that’s in a relationship is actually that happy with it, especially the women.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

5 years single now. I guess I haven't found the right person yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I live in a complicated situation with my best friend who happens to be my husband but I’m not “with” him. Separated almost 4 years ago long story as to why he eventually moved back in with me but he’s my best friend in the whole world and will always have a place in my home and my heart. Most men can’t get there head around it which is understandable.

And I now have a very loving caring FWB who is bridging the gap of what I was missing in my life. And he gets my home situation which is a major plus and I get all I need from him physically and mentally so why would I need anything else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fell in love young and never had that same feeling again. I need fireworks & butterflies (although not together as that would probably have PETA knocking on my door

Almost all my local mates are married which means very few lads night's out = fewer opportunities to meet women. I'm not one for randomly walking up to women in Aldi as the likelihood is they have a BF or are married!

I want kids & most women in and around my age have them already and don't want more.

Online dating is a pile of shit, mostly based on your photos and even with a good bio I find most people purely go off physical attraction alone.

So yeah, it's looking positive...

Would love to get on First Dates but need to shift a couple of chins and spare tyres first!

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I dont go out and I dont socialise much.

Im too fussy.

I work too much.

Ive always got too emotionally tied up in a relationship and left heart broken for months.

Being single is lonely but at least you don't have the heart ache to deal with when things go south

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A recluse with a shattered heart that I can't quite piece back together."

Read your profile & checked out your pics. I think you sound, and probably look, lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fell in love young and never had that same feeling again. I need fireworks & butterflies (although not together as that would probably have PETA knocking on my door

I want kids & most women in and around my age have them already and don't want more.

Online dating is a pile of shit, mostly based on your photos and even with a good bio I find most people purely go off physical attraction alone.

So yeah, it's looking positive...

Would love to get on First Dates but need to shift a couple of chins and spare tyres first!

Don't run yourself down! You look really nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To busy

Having to much fun with 2 close friends

My ex was a full on beating cheating idiot

Sorry you went through that, sending hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I'm not sure

I'm pretty tall and have a build. I find I'm friendly and approachable but I've been told I'm intimidating to look at alone talk to.

So who knows really.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Took myself off the market due to unrequited love issues and never really got back out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody wants me, it seems

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

50 year old single mum

Independent, bloody minded, and not particularly great at relationships.

Plus. I quite like it (not this year, fucking hate it this year, but other years have been great fun).

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think also for me, I'm running out of excuses to give ppl why I'm single. Most women I met whether in person or on dating sites see the long dreads, the dimples, nice smile, the confidence (even though I can be a bit shy) the beard and automatically assume

I'm lying when I say I'm single

I'm in high demand from other women

And some on fab have msged me plainly asking "why are you even on fab"

So yea it's a bit annoying at times, plus I'm not too sure if women in this country really like romance anymore, I'll never forget the amount of flack I got for posting in this forum about bringing flowers on a meet lol.

Plus COVID-19 has played it's part as well, as I'm still fairly new to the UK, still making friends etc (been here just over a year)

But yea single for going on 2 years now lol, well 2 years by the end of 2020 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos no one wants me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fell in love young and never had that same feeling again. I need fireworks & butterflies (although not together as that would probably have PETA knocking on my door

I want kids & most women in and around my age have them already and don't want more.

Online dating is a pile of shit, mostly based on your photos and even with a good bio I find most people purely go off physical attraction alone.

So yeah, it's looking positive...

Would love to get on First Dates but need to shift a couple of chins and spare tyres first!

Don't run yourself down! You look really nice

Aww thanks.x

Physical fitness has always been massively important to me as sport is a big part of my life. So getting older and having a pretty fucked up body doesn't help.

TBH I'm not really down on myself, it's more a self-deprecating sense of humour which is probably misread sometimes.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know to be honest I think I'm a catch. Confident, happy, quirky, independent in every way.

I have always just been seen as more of a sex object than girlfriend material since my divorce 5 years ago.

Would love to settle down but I am happy it being just me too.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

It is because I have chosen it. I like the single life and my own company, as I can do whatever I want when I want it, it also means that I can put in 100% effort in my hobbys that I do such as bodybuilding as it requires alot of disipline and counting calories

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

My partner died and I'm not ready for another full on relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My partner died and I'm not ready for another full on relationship. "

Sincere condolences and sorry again for your loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure really enlighten me ????

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

A few reasons

My ex battered my confidence and made me feel worthless.. I don't now I found myself again and realised he was the issue.

Now a single mum working full time so my free time is minimal.

I'm content for now and just enjoying what life brings along for now.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Oh and noone seems to want me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for all those that have lost their partners on here, moving on must be so hard.x

One of my best mates lost his wife 8 years ago (also one of my best mates) and he's made some awful partner choices since because I don't think he's capable of staying single (his current other half is a complete nutter!).

I'd rather be single than in a relationship that's going nowhere or just isn't right.

I'm adamant there's an absolutely amazing woman out there that'll rock my world... I just need to make a bit more of an effort to find her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being single but have a very bad habit of being attracted to Narcissistic Sociopaths. To the point I don't trust my own judgement anymore.

Last one put me off dating completely. Haven't been in a relationship or dated for 10 years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel for all those that have lost their partners on here, moving on must be so hard.x

I'd rather be single than in a relationship that's going nowhere or just isn't right.

I'm adamant there's an absolutely amazing woman out there that'll rock my world... I just need to make a bit more of an effort to find her!"

Or she will find you when you least expect it x

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By *amiee89TV/TS
over a year ago

derry

Single 3 years and I’m kidding no one I’m selfish at this stage and yes I miss company every now and then but the freedom to do what I want when I want and answer to no one after being in 2 very controlling relationships from a young age is the best thing right now

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

My husband died aged 32, I was 30, seven years ago

My children were very young so I threw my time and energy into raising them and supporting them through their grief.

I have to say I’ve been very lonely for a very long time.

Having loved my husband and then it being taken away, and not having it again, it really is soul destroying.

I’ve had men mess me about and all it does is make me put walls up.

My heart is fragile and I have to protect it now, been hurt too much.

I miss cuddles and random talking shit.

Ugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife died of breast cancer, I do miss the cuddles and sharing life experiences, one day that person will come my way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caring for a family member during bad health so have become a live in carer.

Fuck covid. When it's all over I can get back to life living alone naked with my plants again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My husband died aged 32, I was 30, seven years ago

My children were very young so I threw my time and energy into raising them and supporting them through their grief.

I have to say I’ve been very lonely for a very long time.

Having loved my husband and then it being taken away, and not having it again, it really is soul destroying.

I’ve had men mess me about and all it does is make me put walls up.

My heart is fragile and I have to protect it now, been hurt too much.

I miss cuddles and random talking shit.

Ugh

Every day you make him proud rasing your kids.

It's hard and it never gets easier but you just need to keep going.

Hope your OK and feel your pain losing a loved one.

Hang in there beautiful xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"My husband died aged 32, I was 30, seven years ago

My children were very young so I threw my time and energy into raising them and supporting them through their grief.

I have to say I’ve been very lonely for a very long time.

Having loved my husband and then it being taken away, and not having it again, it really is soul destroying.

I’ve had men mess me about and all it does is make me put walls up.

My heart is fragile and I have to protect it now, been hurt too much.

I miss cuddles and random talking shit.

Ugh

Can’t message you - but just wanted to send a massive hug!

I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job - and your time will come my lovely. Xx

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I'd rather be single than in a relationship that's going nowhere or just isn't right.

I'm adamant there's an absolutely amazing woman out there that'll rock my world... I just need to make a bit more of an effort to find her!"

Probably something like this...

I see a lot of shit relationships around me and think... why the fuck would I want one of those? I’m not a half measures kind of guy.

Not easy being single sometimes. Especially now! ...but being in a relationship that’s dysfunctional seems incredibly harder!

If I find someone... I find someone

If I don’t... I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My husband died aged 32, I was 30, seven years ago

My children were very young so I threw my time and energy into raising them and supporting them through their grief.

I have to say I’ve been very lonely for a very long time.

Having loved my husband and then it being taken away, and not having it again, it really is soul destroying.

I’ve had men mess me about and all it does is make me put walls up.

My heart is fragile and I have to protect it now, been hurt too much.

I miss cuddles and random talking shit.

Ugh

Sending sincere condolences, hugs and platonic kisses, I hope things get better for you and that eventually you'll find what you're looking for.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

There seem to be a few bereaved people on this thread.

Sending the most enormous hug to each and every one of you. I hope each day gets a tiny bit easier - and each day you feel a tiny bit stronger.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I'm high maintenance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am single by choice.. I don’t need anything off a man other than sex.. i have all the material things , 2 fab kids.. and do As I please .

Same here

Although would eventually like to meet someone I don't think it will happen now though dont go out much online datings shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm a fat, ugly, antisocial bastard with deep-rooted depression, chronic social anxiety and the charm of a socket wrench.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Thank you for your kind words

I keep going for my beautiful kids. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because im a fuck up and just never quite enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I DON'T KNOW!

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

44 years a singleton, too old and selfish to change that now.

Have been in a platonic friendship for 39 years with a few hiccups along the way, an alcohol fueled party resulted in my daughter being born, but the friendship survived.

We both lead our own lives, live in our own homes and have our own circle of friends, can watch our own T.V programmes and generally do our own thing.

This pandemic, along with two family bereavements, seems to have brought us closer together and there has been talk of both of us living under one roof, but common sense prevailed and we will stay as we are.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

wow, shocked at what im seeing on this thread!!! Its sad to see so many thinking so little of themselves. There has to be some underlying issues maybe in previous relationships.

I was the same when younger, wasn't good enough, felt ugly, treated like shit till one day enough was enough.

Whi gives anybody the right to make someone think that little of themselves. The problem is them not you. No one is to good or worth more than anyone else, and no-one is out of your league.

We all come in different shapes and sizes, colours etc. We are all beautiful in our own way and there's someone for everyone.

You cant make someone happy in a relationship if your not happy and confident in yourself.

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By *ulu00Woman
over a year ago

Donegal

I'm unlovable according to an ex, a lovely parting shot thats now set up a home with the rest of my insecurities!

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By *emosabahMan
over a year ago

Im ugly i guess /:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am single due to two failed marriages and then ex partner's who have been with not nice women in the past,then they met me and i was nice to them.and they coudnt handle it so lost me because they treated me like their former partners treated them.by being horrible to me.am better off single.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Choice, not ready to be in something I cant put my all in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domestic violence marriage (ended now TG) so I find it hard to trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Separated but still single simply because so unable emotionally or mentally to put the inner demons of everything about my previous marraige to rest to get involved with anyone else..it would be totally unfair on them to bring that crap into their lives so l feel atm its better to stay where lm at.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Single over 5 years been unlucky in love. Never been married don't have kids either which have kept the greys away too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single because I always want what I cant have!!

I never get looked at as an option,only a mate. I try to escalate things and always get shot down.

I'm not even punching as both are 40+ like me. I work out 5 times a week and can bench 100kg. Still not good enough????? WTF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two Divas, I mean Daughters

Family

Career

Pandemic

The first one makes it the hardest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seem to be a few bereaved people on this thread.

Sending the most enormous hug to each and every one of you. I hope each day gets a tiny bit easier - and each day you feel a tiny bit stronger.

This peachy woman in the olive dress always catches my eye. No surprise she's gotten 5000 fabs

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Relationships make me unhappy. Sex makes me happy. Go figure.

Single eighteen years and counting. No plans to change.

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By *atonMan
over a year ago

barnet

I will never meet the person my delusional tendencies imagine im entitled to.

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

Because it’s very hard for a single guy on fab ha ha

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I honestly dont know. I'm loyal, giving, loving, open minded, great in the sack but still get dumped or treat badly.

Maybe its my weight, maybe i try to hard, maybe i want it too much, or maybe im just unlovable...whatever the reason its bloody lonely and life is passing me by and i hate it

Sounds like me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather be single than in a relationship that's going nowhere or just isn't right.

I'm adamant there's an absolutely amazing woman out there that'll rock my world... I just need to make a bit more of an effort to find her!

Probably something like this...

I see a lot of shit relationships around me and think... why the fuck would I want one of those? I’m not a half measures kind of guy.

Not easy being single sometimes. Especially now! ...but being in a relationship that’s dysfunctional seems incredibly harder!

If I find someone... I find someone

If I don’t... I don’t. "

These are my thoughts too.

Up until recently I was not open to more, but I’m slowly changing my mindset.

I’m happy being single though, do what I want when I want and don’t need a man to be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife passed away a few years ago now

and I've just not felt ready for a relationship hence why I'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife passed away a few years ago now

and I've just not felt ready for a relationship hence why I'm single "

Really sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship breakdown - we basically grew apart, It makes me sad because the kids don't really understand as they are bit too young but it was a mutual decision and the correct one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After being married most my life and the marriage broke down I kind of like my own freedoms now

not freedoms to chase females etc

but to be able to get up early summers morning, jump on the bike or in the car and head off 3am

or driving up north enjoying the scenery you decide to book a B&B and stay over a few days

this is a freedom i never had when married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry to everyone who has suffered a loss. I can't imagine having found your person and then having to learn to live without them. You are fucking warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 2 partners dying and a string of relationships that didn't work.. Being single is the best option, I now have a handful of great friends that we equally support each other, have fun times, in and out of the bedroom.

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After 2 partners dying and a string of relationships that didn't work.. Being single is the best option, I now have a handful of great friends that we equally support each other, have fun times, in and out of the bedroom.

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again. "

My partner passed away.

To go through it twice - I don't know how you do it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"My wife passed away a few years ago now

and I've just not felt ready for a relationship hence why I'm single "

Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again.

My partner passed away.

To go through it twice - I don't know how you do it."

No option.. They were both under 30 too.. First one in 2008,hung himself.. Then 2018 my partner had a seizure and passed, I didn't think I could get through it the 2nd time, 4 months in bed, not wanting to continue.. But you have to dig yourself out of that kind of sadness and just keep going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like my own space have no desire to live/marry anyone grown selfish I suppose! Its win win all the good bits without the sock washing/mundane stuff having a fwb x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body of baywatch face of crime watch x

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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago

South Devon... Torbaydos

My husband died very suddenly nearly 9 years ago. After spending 3 years in total shock I then spent a few more years realising I missed male company and how I

missed physical contact and then it's ok to start again. It still took me a little while to dip my toe in and I still dont know what it is I'm looking for but in then mean time I want a bit of fun. But I'll admit I'd like fun with 1 person. I think id like all the nice bits of a relationship with out having to pick up someone else's pants lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no, I've just read the sad story above and realise the juxtaposition of my comment is in bad taste. Apologies

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By *ratos1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I've just become newly single and I intend on staying this way for a while. I was with a woman, a good woman for just under 3 years, I felt she was really intense and also carried insecurities from her previous marriage, (she got with me 6 months after her separating from her husband - too soon ?)

Im not the best looking person in the world but I do have morals, a good dad and love to give.. but right now, I just dont wsnt to open up again for a while, I dknt know exactly what it is I want tbh, but I know that I want to gain confidence and have fun until I know what it is that want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My husband died aged 32, I was 30, seven years ago

My children were very young so I threw my time and energy into raising them and supporting them through their grief.

I have to say I’ve been very lonely for a very long time.

Having loved my husband and then it being taken away, and not having it again, it really is soul destroying.

I’ve had men mess me about and all it does is make me put walls up.

My heart is fragile and I have to protect it now, been hurt too much.

I miss cuddles and random talking shit.

Ugh

Cuddles and hugs to you - so sad xx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I like it this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh no, I've just read the sad story above and realise the juxtaposition of my comment is in bad taste. Apologies "

I don’t think anyone will take your comment as anything other than self deprecating humour

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

Widowed and concentrated life on bringing up my children. I'm now at a stage where I can look for something for me rather than everyone else. The one serious relationship I did have after my wife died mutally ended amicably because we could not blend our families. Trials of life!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Choice.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Several reasons, probably, but ultimately boiling down to low self esteem, as well as trust issues. That, and being incredibly selfish and self centred :-/

I like the idea of being in a relationship but can't seem to make them work, as I have a deep seated belief that I am basically unlovable so I mess people around and push them away until they leave and then tell myself that it's because I'm unlovable

The two that stuck around long to move in with me (although one of those was a HUGE mistake) also told me that I'm a fucking nightmare to live with, too, so I guess being on my own for a bit after 13 years of being in several relationships is the right thing for now. Give me chance to try to clear my head and work out what I do actually want, and need. Shooting probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my own space and company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again. "

My heart really goes out to you. So sorry you had those 2 tragic losses in your life (and you're still so young) sending sincere condolences to you and really hoping you continue to try and enjoy life and that love does find you at some point, take care (sending hugs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just lucky I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again. "

I can’t imagine going through twice I’ve gone through it once and that was hard here one day gone the next. So sad for you hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again.

Thank you.

I have lots of love and amazing support. X

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over a year ago

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Hmmmm I prefer to live a low profile solo life no dramas/hassles one can even say at times that's selfish of me who knows their not wrong. Ive never in my life been the kind off man who falls for a woman easily I never have done that I've more kept that stuff at a far distance as its not really my thing.....realistically the only way I see it is if some where down the line In life I click with some one and strike up a relationship then okay I shall see where things lead to and take it from there. BUT if I'm being brutally honest I won't lose any sleep over it if it never happens it's just the way it is there are more important things in life for me to being concerned over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle with the concept of just being with one person for the next 50 years...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A bad relationship has put me off being in another. I have rebuilt my life, bought a house and have my will made out to my children. I enjoy my own company and work hard so have no time for much else. Sometimes i think it would be nice to have a companion but for now i am content with my dogs.

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By *ondonfunguy888Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Widowed three years ago

Life will never be as good but trying to make most of it 7 years for me buddy never been the same "

It’s been a year for me - still not sure what to do !

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say "

I think a lot of the loneliness felt by singletons is that we all have a picture in our heads of how things are 'supposed' to be.

The Clinton Cards version of a partner, kids, family dog etc ..

Then beat ourselves up because we can't do it.

There are a lot of us who are simply not designed that way.

I can't live with other people and I don't want to now.

I have an idea in my head of the kind of relationship I would like - but I know in reality it wouldn't work.

I'm 45yrs old and am only just learning how to be honest with myself - I'm figuring out what I really want - not what is expected of me by others.

Other peoples opinions don't feature in my decisions anymore.

It's beautiful

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m a widow and no one will ever come close to him... I will never find what we had ... and to be honest I don’t want to .... my life is just fab as it is

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

2 failed marriages, so probably not good at that!. Wonderful son who now lives with me. Loads of musical instruments to play with. I have a fb and some others nice to have company and sex from time to time..

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

This is a good thought, Peachy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say

I think a lot of the loneliness felt by singletons is that we all have a picture in our heads of how things are 'supposed' to be.

The Clinton Cards version of a partner, kids, family dog etc ..

Then beat ourselves up because we can't do it.

There are a lot of us who are simply not designed that way.

I can't live with other people and I don't want to now.

I have an idea in my head of the kind of relationship I would like - but I know in reality it wouldn't work.

I'm 45yrs old and am only just learning how to be honest with myself - I'm figuring out what I really want - not what is expected of me by others.

Other peoples opinions don't feature in my decisions anymore.

It's beautiful

The Clinton cards/ Facebook happy families pics are all bollocks. Usually posted by people having a shit time but they want to appear to be happy. The ones posting that happy shite on my fb feed are either in massive debt, cheating with anyone who asks, or some other such issues. It's sad.

I think relationships can be whatever *we* want. Sod the 2.4 kids/ big car/ cute dog crap. A perfect relationship could be like a fwb arrangement. Or living separately but in a 'full' relationship.

Why wouldn't your ideal relationship work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say

I think a lot of the loneliness felt by singletons is that we all have a picture in our heads of how things are 'supposed' to be.

The Clinton Cards version of a partner, kids, family dog etc ..

Then beat ourselves up because we can't do it.

There are a lot of us who are simply not designed that way.

I can't live with other people and I don't want to now.

I have an idea in my head of the kind of relationship I would like - but I know in reality it wouldn't work.

I'm 45yrs old and am only just learning how to be honest with myself - I'm figuring out what I really want - not what is expected of me by others.

Other peoples opinions don't feature in my decisions anymore.

It's beautiful

I think relationships can be whatever *we* want. Sod the 2.4 kids/ big car/ cute dog crap. A perfect relationship could be like a fwb arrangement. Or living separately but in a 'full' relationship.

Why wouldn't your ideal relationship work?"

Woah I was agreeing with you until you said cut the cute dog crap! Now I feel personally insulted :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say

I think a lot of the loneliness felt by singletons is that we all have a picture in our heads of how things are 'supposed' to be.

The Clinton Cards version of a partner, kids, family dog etc ..

Then beat ourselves up because we can't do it.

There are a lot of us who are simply not designed that way.

I can't live with other people and I don't want to now.

I have an idea in my head of the kind of relationship I would like - but I know in reality it wouldn't work.

I'm 45yrs old and am only just learning how to be honest with myself - I'm figuring out what I really want - not what is expected of me by others.

Other peoples opinions don't feature in my decisions anymore.

It's beautiful

I think relationships can be whatever *we* want. Sod the 2.4 kids/ big car/ cute dog crap. A perfect relationship could be like a fwb arrangement. Or living separately but in a 'full' relationship.

Why wouldn't your ideal relationship work?

Woah I was agreeing with you until you said cut the cute dog crap! Now I feel personally insulted :p"

Typo. I meant cute kittens

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Few reasons really.

I’m fat.

I hardly ever go anywhere to meet people.

I’m super tall, puts a lot of men off.

I’m 45 and a mum of two and live with my mum (for care reasons, but still).

I don’t particularly have much time of my own to give to someone at the moment.

So not particularly a catch, but I’m happy enough for now.

Wow, none of those reasons I would judge you for. I'm sure you are a catch. However, I'm in a similar circumstance! Fat, single parent with other commitments and very little time. I'm judged because of this. My heart goes out to you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationships turn me into a lunatic

I'm not good at them at all and have made really bad choices of partners in the past.

I'm lonely at times but it's preferable to the dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past.

That's probably a far more succinct description of what I was trying to say

I think a lot of the loneliness felt by singletons is that we all have a picture in our heads of how things are 'supposed' to be.

The Clinton Cards version of a partner, kids, family dog etc ..

Then beat ourselves up because we can't do it.

There are a lot of us who are simply not designed that way.

I can't live with other people and I don't want to now.

I have an idea in my head of the kind of relationship I would like - but I know in reality it wouldn't work.

I'm 45yrs old and am only just learning how to be honest with myself - I'm figuring out what I really want - not what is expected of me by others.

Other peoples opinions don't feature in my decisions anymore.

It's beautiful

I think relationships can be whatever *we* want. Sod the 2.4 kids/ big car/ cute dog crap. A perfect relationship could be like a fwb arrangement. Or living separately but in a 'full' relationship.

Why wouldn't your ideal relationship work?"

I'm not on social media - Fab is as far as all of that goes for me.

Of course it's fake - people present themselves how they want to be seen in all aspects of life.

Approval is addictive.

I just can't do relationships - I've tried conventional and FWB type arrangements and they haven't worked for me.

I'm aware that it's me and my issues preventing it - but I've made my peace with being alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't ever imagine being in a 1 on 1 relationship again.

My partner passed away.

To go through it twice - I don't know how you do it.

I know that hopeless empty feeling.

Sending you love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My husband died very suddenly nearly 9 years ago. After spending 3 years in total shock I then spent a few more years realising I missed male company and how I

One day at a time

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"There seem to be a few bereaved people on this thread.

Sending the most enormous hug to each and every one of you. I hope each day gets a tiny bit easier - and each day you feel a tiny bit stronger.

Thank you.

I hope maybe one day I will find someone I can have that special relationship with again but for now I am here as I have needs that can be met without all the emotional complications.

There is still no space in my heart or my head for anyone else.

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

No body loves me well not enough to have me full time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm far from perfect, but zero fucks were given in the making of this imperfection which is probably why I'm single. That and im a fuxking nightmare to live with

With you there .

plus the tv remote is mine ! All mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

I come here for a pleasant distraction from the bereavement but great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a widow and no one will ever come close to him... I will never find what we had ... and to be honest I don’t want to .... my life is just fab as it is

Special souls are irreplaceable

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"There seem to be a few bereaved people on this thread.

Sending the most enormous hug to each and every one of you. I hope each day gets a tiny bit easier - and each day you feel a tiny bit stronger.

Thank you.

I hope maybe one day I will find someone I can have that special relationship with again but for now I am here as I have needs that can be met without all the emotional complications.

There is still no space in my heart or my head for anyone else. "

I get that. Even after a ‘normal’ relationship break up it takes a while to move on - it must be far worse when that person was torn away from you!

Have another hug - during this furlough I have far too many to spare - and feel free to pm me if you ever need a natter - mum said I was born to natter!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

I come here for a pleasant distraction from the bereavement but great idea."

Ah ok. Not if use though if others feel the same. Just a thought xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moving on with life or trying to but Covid doesn't help to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

I come here for a pleasant distraction from the bereavement but great idea.

Ah ok. Not if use though if others feel the same. Just a thought xx"

You can never have too much support and love

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

Its a nice thought and may suit some people but wouldn't be for me.

FAB for me is an escape from the grief.

My partner and I had a discussion before he passed and I am under orders to enjoy life, have fun, have sex (which we couldn't do for 3 years due to his illness).

Not sure fab would have been his choice but for me it works.

I have passed the incredibly sad not wanting to leave the house stage and am moving forward as best I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I'm single because I don't really want a man in my life. I don't want a relationship and all the complications that come with it.

I'm happy being single.

Just looking for a regular fwb for sexy times and socials.

Just not a lot of men on here wanting what I want.

But still I will carry on looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To all those bereaved - and there seem to be a lot just on this thread - I’m guessing there are support groups out there in the real world - but have you considered having one on fab too?

Dealing with long term bereavement whilst trying to get on with life/have meets etc must produce challenges the rest of us just don’t have.

Just a thought.

Its a nice thought and may suit some people but wouldn't be for me.

FAB for me is an escape from the grief.

My partner and I had a discussion before he passed and I am under orders to enjoy life, have fun, have sex (which we couldn't do for 3 years due to his illness).

Not sure fab would have been his choice but for me it works.

I have passed the incredibly sad not wanting to leave the house stage and am moving forward as best I can."

^^^

This is me too

Next Chapter in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I'm single because I don't really want a man in my life. I don't want a relationship and all the complications that come with it.

I'm happy being single.

Just looking for a regular fwb for sexy times and socials.

Just not a lot of men on here wanting what I want.

But still I will carry on looking.

Do you push people away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single because I deserve better than the way my ex treated me.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

Sending condolences and good wishes to all those who have suffered bereavement, or just need cheering up. This thread didn't read the way I was expecting when I opened it.

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