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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which do you prefer?

Many would consider my intro messages too short, none constructive, I say hello, state an interest, I may comment on any particular request they have but not in depth, ask to check my profile (which should cover all my interests without my repeating myself in some intro) & if I'm their type then let's chat! It's not lazy in my eyes, although many may view it as such because it's short.

It's not meant to be discourteous as some may see it, it's just simplified.

It's short & sweet with no time wasting, which is something many state anyway 'No Time Wasters'!!

Yeah, yeah, I know, I can hear ya already:

'mate if you don't make the effort you won't get anywhere'

or

'they need to know more about you before they chat' (well that's the point of a profile & chatting isn't it?)

or

'it's to prove you've got a brain & can hold a decent conversation'...etc, etc...blah, blah.

Even though I could & I'm more than capable, why should I spend ages writing some long winded, tantalising, over indulgent intro if I'm not their type in the first place? Even if I did many can't be bothered to reply, even if only to say 'No Thanks'?

TBH I can't stand those who insist on an intro message/essay that consists of long B/S construction & wanting to know what you'd do to them if you met!!

C'mon, really??? You sure you're not after a personalised story to fantasize over?

What's next checking out my O & A levels in English & Math!

You want stories just ask as I've many but I'm not here as a storyteller, as for the selling, well I'm not a product either (though some view it as you are), the profile states my interests & that I'm no novice. The intro shows an interest. So there's the starter, lets chat & take it from there & if at anytime you wish to discontinue said communication for whatever reason you do so.

Is it so wrong? No it's just direct!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many men to each woman here. If your message doesn't catch their eye then you won't get anywhere. It's a numbers game

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By *eavertrackerMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater

Your place or mine, that seems to work for me

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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O levels? What are those?

As far as messages go, I think people should send the messages they want to. I don't really have a preference on what opening message I'd reply to, long or short. It's more about the overall feel I get combined with the profile and the compatibility. Maybe message length ideals not matching is a good way of filtering women out who aren't for you.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Which do you prefer?

Many would consider my intro messages too short, none constructive, I say hello, state an interest, I may comment on any particular request they have but not in depth, ask to check my profile (which should cover all my interests without my repeating myself in some intro) & if I'm their type then let's chat! It's not lazy in my eyes, although many may view it as such because it's short.

It's not meant to be discourteous as some may see it, it's just simplified.

It's short & sweet with no time wasting, which is something many state anyway 'No Time Wasters'!!

Yeah, yeah, I know, I can hear ya already:

'mate if you don't make the effort you won't get anywhere'

or

'they need to know more about you before they chat' (well that's the point of a profile & chatting isn't it?)

or

'it's to prove you've got a brain & can hold a decent conversation'...etc, etc...blah, blah.

Even though I could & I'm more than capable, why should I spend ages writing some long winded, tantalising, over indulgent intro if I'm not their type in the first place? Even if I did many can't be bothered to reply, even if only to say 'No Thanks'?

TBH I can't stand those who insist on an intro message/essay that consists of long B/S construction & wanting to know what you'd do to them if you met!!

C'mon, really??? You sure you're not after a personalised story to fantasize over?

What's next checking out my O & A levels in English & Math!

You want stories just ask as I've many but I'm not here as a storyteller, as for the selling, well I'm not a product either (though some view it as you are), the profile states my interests & that I'm no novice. The intro shows an interest. So there's the starter, lets chat & take it from there & if at anytime you wish to discontinue said communication for whatever reason you do so.

Is it so wrong? No it's just direct! "

...feel like you could have been more succinct writing this, buddy.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think that sounds fine.

As you probably know many people peep at the profile before deciding to reply anyway so yeah.

There's no hard n fast rule tho, there's no magic formula.

I could be in an exceptionally good mood and reply to a message that if I was in a normal mood I'd have just left unread.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I'm pretty sure everyone checks the profile before opening a message. A lot won't go that far with just a silhouette avatar, them that do won't scroll past the zero pics at the top. You seem to have put some effort into your bio unlike many but zero pics plus the rant about not putting any/dont ask, is going to set off red flags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds a bit formulaic

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I like a pleasant good morning accompanied by an interesting snippet of what interests they have, I know from that if my interest Is piqued or not

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I just say...

Hey, nice arse

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

More than a couple of words, less than a novel...

Something to show what they are about. Not generic copy and paste messages.

But it’s not just the message, it’s the profile too..

We’ll respond to some shorter ones if there’s something of interest.

But a one word or one line message just gets deleted as it’s just lazy.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which do you prefer?

Many would consider my intro messages too short, none constructive, I say hello, state an interest, I may comment on any particular request they have but not in depth, ask to check my profile (which should cover all my interests without my repeating myself in some intro) & if I'm their type then let's chat! It's not lazy in my eyes, although many may view it as such because it's short.

It's not meant to be discourteous as some may see it, it's just simplified.

It's short & sweet with no time wasting, which is something many state anyway 'No Time Wasters'!!

Yeah, yeah, I know, I can hear ya already:

'mate if you don't make the effort you won't get anywhere'

or

'they need to know more about you before they chat' (well that's the point of a profile & chatting isn't it?)

or

'it's to prove you've got a brain & can hold a decent conversation'...etc, etc...blah, blah.

Even though I could & I'm more than capable, why should I spend ages writing some long winded, tantalising, over indulgent intro if I'm not their type in the first place? Even if I did many can't be bothered to reply, even if only to say 'No Thanks'?

TBH I can't stand those who insist on an intro message/essay that consists of long B/S construction & wanting to know what you'd do to them if you met!!

C'mon, really??? You sure you're not after a personalised story to fantasize over?

What's next checking out my O & A levels in English & Math!

You want stories just ask as I've many but I'm not here as a storyteller, as for the selling, well I'm not a product either (though some view it as you are), the profile states my interests & that I'm no novice. The intro shows an interest. So there's the starter, lets chat & take it from there & if at anytime you wish to discontinue said communication for whatever reason you do so.

Is it so wrong? No it's just direct! "

Tried all sorts mate with little success but never rude or pushy as it's not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just say...

Hey, nice arse "

You smoothy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feed back & everyone else too.

So you saw the 'Current status' bit!

Well it's a little dig, aimed at those who seem obsessed with 'gotta have a picture' attitude & maybe those who just read the status & nothing more. Yes I know exposure is all part of the sale but it's my choice & I'm not the only one.

However in the profile it states that I will send one by private message. It also states my reasons, there's also the fact I don't want it copied & used by the scammers that use these sites for their own benefit.

I suppose I could do a load of pictures with my face covered but I'm more for the personal contact first, a message & chat, the experience & interests should be inviting enough.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Thanks for the feed back & everyone else too.

So you saw the 'Current status' bit!

Well it's a little dig, aimed at those who seem obsessed with 'gotta have a picture' attitude & maybe those who just read the status & nothing more. Yes I know exposure is all part of the sale but it's my choice & I'm not the only one.

However in the profile it states that I will send one by private message. It also states my reasons, there's also the fact I don't want it copied & used by the scammers that use these sites for their own benefit.

I suppose I could do a load of pictures with my face covered but I'm more for the personal contact first, a message & chat, the experience & interests should be inviting enough. "

Hello OP. Everyone has their own way of doing fab. What works for you doesn't work for everyone - and that's fine! I don't see the point of getting riled up about it, I figure if someone's profile isn't for me e.g. I'm not comfortable sending face pic with first message, then we aren't compatible so I'll move on

Mrs TMN x

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I tend to go by the profile im sending the message to. If they've spent a while writing a decent and friendly profile then I'll do the same, with some indication that I've read theirs.

Any fill in later profiles I rarely message, lazy gits lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are different, looking for different things, and react to different triggers. Some are visual, others more textual. There is no silver bullet!

Personally, I enclose a photo with my first message. If I'm honest, that kills things stone dead more often than not, but equally I do get a lot of nice comments on my profile.

There are many factors and attributes that can have someone decide "no thanks". Simple things like distance, ability to accommodate, height, sexuality, hair, looks, and even how you present yourself in your profile. The cock photo is a classic marmite issue. For some, it's what they want to see, for others it's a no straight away.

Worry not on those who say no, concentrate on those that say yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, you have no pictures at all. It’s a sex site and there is an element of attraction to consider. If people can’t see anything of you then they will probably move on to someone they can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say you should always write something that relates to the profile to show you have read it, and that the nessage doesn't seem generic and then a little bit about yourself so they can get a sense of you.

But without a profile picture it will close many doors instantly IMO.

Good luck!

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Truthfully if I don’t fancy you then whatever is written makes no odds.. shallow I know but its the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which do you prefer?

Many would consider my intro messages too short, none constructive, I say hello, state an interest, I may comment on any particular request they have but not in depth, ask to check my profile (which should cover all my interests without my repeating myself in some intro) & if I'm their type then let's chat! It's not lazy in my eyes, although many may view it as such because it's short.

It's not meant to be discourteous as some may see it, it's just simplified.

It's short & sweet with no time wasting, which is something many state anyway 'No Time Wasters'!!

Yeah, yeah, I know, I can hear ya already:

'mate if you don't make the effort you won't get anywhere'

or

'they need to know more about you before they chat' (well that's the point of a profile & chatting isn't it?)

or

'it's to prove you've got a brain & can hold a decent conversation'...etc, etc...blah, blah.

Even though I could & I'm more than capable, why should I spend ages writing some long winded, tantalising, over indulgent intro if I'm not their type in the first place? Even if I did many can't be bothered to reply, even if only to say 'No Thanks'?

TBH I can't stand those who insist on an intro message/essay that consists of long B/S construction & wanting to know what you'd do to them if you met!!

C'mon, really??? You sure you're not after a personalised story to fantasize over?

What's next checking out my O & A levels in English & Math!

You want stories just ask as I've many but I'm not here as a storyteller, as for the selling, well I'm not a product either (though some view it as you are), the profile states my interests & that I'm no novice. The intro shows an interest. So there's the starter, lets chat & take it from there & if at anytime you wish to discontinue said communication for whatever reason you do so.

Is it so wrong? No it's just direct! "

If someone reads our profile properly & sends a short or long message, we ALWAYS answer with a, 'much appreciated you've read our profile' reply then take it from there.

If no-one's read our profile before a message, the convo is very limited, which is most of the time.

Works for us.

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By *ountry Boy FreshMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I tend to look at a profile and write an individual message maybe im going wrong.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I just say...

Hey, nice arse

You smoothy "

You knows it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Truthfully if I don’t fancy you then whatever is written makes no odds.. shallow I know but its the truth "

This. It's not shallow though. If you dont fancy someone. You don't. It's as simple as that really.

J

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"Truthfully if I don’t fancy you then whatever is written makes no odds.. shallow I know but its the truth

This. It's not shallow though. If you dont fancy someone. You don't. It's as simple as that really.

J "

Very true.. was just getting it in before my inbox was full of abuse

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