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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Just like in the movie, there are decisions in life that take you down a certain path, and if you had taken the other option that, too, would take you down a path albeit a different one.

Can you remember a situation that was a bit like in Slinding Doors? And would you decide differently if you had the chance all over again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember being 23. I had gone for drinks with people I had met during a summer in America - a meeting my girlfriend at the time didn’t know about because she was jealous of one of the women.

That same woman was in a cab with me at the end of the night where she told me she didn’t get with my friend because “it had always been me.” I didn’t know what to say, we kissed and she got out of the cab.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I remember it vividly.

I had met my ex husband and was courting him

I also had another guy that fancied me

and a close friend.

I had three choices. Stay with my ex husbamd. Go to london with the guy that fancied me or go to ireland with my friend.

I chose my ex husband and luckily i did as i then found out i was pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a relationship breakdown in 2001 I had to move in with family and was at rock bottom.

It led me to Buy a year round the world ticket and within 6 months I strapped on a backpack and headed for Fiji

I can only imagine with terrifying dread what would have happened if I had stayed in that relationship!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

My life has been full of sliding doors

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think everyone's life is a result of choices made.

I'm where I am now in life because of the choice of college I made, where I chose to live when I got there and the job I took afterwards. A different decision at any of those points *might* have ended differently or might have lead me here by a different path. Who knows.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Yeah loads. I have a really good memory and remember every mistake or cringe moment.

I would have to weigh it up though as I’m in a good place at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk about sliding doors..my problem is l keep walking into the f**king things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes think about if I should have called the police on my abusive ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the Sliding Doors and Butterfly Effect movies. I need to dig them out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I sometimes think about if I should have called the police on my abusive ex. "

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Less than 2 years ago I walked away from the company I'd worked with for more than 3 decades because I didn't feel appreciated.

I started a new job where I was making a difference and getting positive feedback.

Then covid hit and after months on furlough I was made redundant.

I now find myself working part-time for a fraction of the salary and while it's not ideal financially I'm enjoying the different pace.

I'd I hadn't gone through that sliding door 2 years ago I'd still be in my old secure job but not in a happy place.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I lived with my partner for 25yrs but the relationship was not good. I had 2 choices, stay or go. I left. The thought of another 20years in that situation was grim. I am so glad i took the path i chose as have never looked back.x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I lived with my partner for 25yrs but the relationship was not good. I had 2 choices, stay or go. I left. The thought of another 20years in that situation was grim. I am so glad i took the path i chose as have never looked back.x"
same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had loads of situations like that. 18 pregnant, just been seconded on a uni course. Gave it up

To have my son despite people telling me I was ruining my life.

19 son 4 months old, had my own house (on mortgage but all mine), was knackered but happy. His dad convinced me to sell up and move south- big mistake lost all the money from my house and everything I had built for me and my son.

But I’m happy at the moment so no regrets

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Great film watched it just the other weekend

As Nicecouple says life is one big sliding doors moment and possibly the biggest ones are the ones you don't know about - if you'd unconciously turned left instead of right would something life changing have happened rather than you just doing the weekly shop at Tesco kind of thing.

There are a fair few identifiable ones in my life though - probably the biggest being almost 38 years ago when 17 year old arrogant, thought I knew better, me took the decision to leave the Royal Navy, whilst still in training, within 4 months of joining (this week actually marks 38 years since I joined) and not a day goes by that I don't regret that decision and wonder how different my life might have been.

Of course I could have stayed and been involved in an accident a week later and killed or invalided out but I'll never know.

Would I change that decision if I were stood in front of those doors again now? Damned right I would.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

It is so interesting, isn't it, to reflect on the what if... I often wonder what would have happened had I not met my husband - obviously I would not have my kids, or if I had had kids they would be different. I would not maybe live in the UK... maybe I would be married again, have different friends...who knows.

When I ponder, it is not necessarily with regret because you cannot change the past, only the future. But sometimes it is just kinda soothing to think what if....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"It is so interesting, isn't it, to reflect on the what if... I often wonder what would have happened had I not met my husband - obviously I would not have my kids, or if I had had kids they would be different. I would not maybe live in the UK... maybe I would be married again, have different friends...who knows.

When I ponder, it is not necessarily with regret because you cannot change the past, only the future. But sometimes it is just kinda soothing to think what if.... "

It's a natural thing to wonder about life - especially as you get older or when you come into contact with something or someone that touches on the other potential outcome.

Ironically after leaving the Navy I ended up spending a number of years in an environment almost entirely staffed by ex-Navy personnel and hearing their stories just magnified that "what if" factor for me but at the same time allowed me to live it vicariously through them if that makes sense?

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It is so interesting, isn't it, to reflect on the what if... I often wonder what would have happened had I not met my husband - obviously I would not have my kids, or if I had had kids they would be different. I would not maybe live in the UK... maybe I would be married again, have different friends...who knows.

When I ponder, it is not necessarily with regret because you cannot change the past, only the future. But sometimes it is just kinda soothing to think what if....

It's a natural thing to wonder about life - especially as you get older or when you come into contact with something or someone that touches on the other potential outcome.

Ironically after leaving the Navy I ended up spending a number of years in an environment almost entirely staffed by ex-Navy personnel and hearing their stories just magnified that "what if" factor for me but at the same time allowed me to live it vicariously through them if that makes sense? "

Totally makes sense - I do not remember pondering as much when I was young, you are right!

As for the living vicariously - I guess that is true for some things, I love some of the things my kids do. Would I want to turn back time? Not really as this is their life and I have had a lot of fun in mine. But yes, it is great to watch other people having different happy experiences.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Life is full of them, I’ve always stuck with my gut and walked, no point looking back and wondering what if. Concentrate on the path you are on presently and where it is taking you, that’s the important one

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Better a sliding door than a revolving one

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better a sliding door than a revolving one

A"

Now this is sooo true!! Those bloody revolving doors are damn hard to get out of! Lol!

Too many sliding door moments over the years but then my life wouldn't be what it is now without them!!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Better a sliding door than a revolving one

A"

Maybe not...

I had two life career choices at 18, In love with both of them and I made my choice, its lead to my own buisness and being very happy for 25 years, now I have the opportunity to start the other choice as a rest of my life working career and I am excited to all the places it will lead me to

I quite like a revolving door

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Better a sliding door than a revolving one

A

Maybe not...

I had two life career choices at 18, In love with both of them and I made my choice, its lead to my own buisness and being very happy for 25 years, now I have the opportunity to start the other choice as a rest of my life working career and I am excited to all the places it will lead me to

I quite like a revolving door "

Ah. I probably meant it differently.

Sliding doors give options and can change the course and direction of your life. Revolving doors tend to just lead you back where you came from repeatedly.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting my partner

I could have just so easily ignored the Fab

But, instead, I messaged and said 'thanks' and so it began...

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