FabSwingers.com forum: Have your forum interactions changed?

By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I've been around the forums for 18 months now. Looking back, I used to be like an excited puppy flirting with people and getting involved in loads of threads! I think I've calmed down now and am generally more measured.

Interested to hear other people's experiences. Have you changed your approach? Why? Or are you just the same?

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped giving a shit.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I am the same I think. I flirt with my friends, compliment pics I like and stray more towards the serious posts and love a pic challenge.

The only new thing this year is the mental battles in the virus section

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My approach is the same - it's inherently me and I can't be any different.

The amount I post has changed though, possibly because I've been here 5 years now and so have seen most types of thread in that time and only ones that particularly grab me move me to posting, possibly because there's not so much that holds my interest generally, possibly any number of other reasons - I still turn up most days, still scan through periodically just don't feel moved to post as much as I once did.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've been using the forum about a year. And yeah I was a bit like an excited puppy initially as well. As I've been here longer, I'm more likely to start a thread which sometimes are either massively navel gazing or a bit contentious. Something I wouldn't have done initially.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’ve found nowadays I try to be a bit more Frida

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've always been the same. Post on threads that catch my eye and don't in those that are over my head.

Not big into forum flirting and tend to do things my own way rather than follow the herd.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d like to think I’m less bolshy.

I try to let things go over my head now rather than jumping down the throat of those who have posted something I disagree with.

I’m not perfect, but this year has been tough on lots of people and I’m trying hard not to be the outspoken twit to upset folk who could be going through all sorts of crap off of here, for all I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to post threads that I found interesting that would stir discussion/ debate. I liked to see different sides of opinions and to change my perception about things.

Life killed my soul and I've only started a couple of threads since I came back.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Ours has changed a lot over the years as at first it was S who posted everything then he got bored and Z took over posting then we stopped posting at all and now since lockdown we both post a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My approach is the same - it's inherently me and I can't be any different.

^^This^^ really except I've reached about the same stage in 4 months.

First couple of months I was the proverbial excited puppy but it doesn't take long before the edge gets taken off. Or it might just be that the forums are quieter.

I'll post if something grabs me but won't post just for the sake of it. I'll lurk for a bit to read a few threads or bounce a thread which I think should have had more attention.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’ve been around about a year......

It’s very different these days. There’s a new clique and it’s not as friendly as it used to be.

Plus I’m not as naive as I was and plenty more experience.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I've only been using them for a 4 or 5 months. But my usage hasn't changed yet. I still engage in flirting, perving & the general light hearted side of things. I find that helps the boredom of WFH.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I remember when you first joined Mrs TMN! The excitable puppy analogy is a very good one, I think a lot of posters go through that stage (not that there's anything wrong with that!). I really enjoyed your early curious threads, you've such an inquisitive mind and it's lovely to read.

When I first started posting frequently I was a bit of a 'mare in all honesty. I'd frequently spaff out long words because I could and I'd gleefully patronize folk who had the audacity to say anything I would disagree with or were or attention seeking to a degree I thought was

. Don't get me started on how I was with the lamppost pissers.

And then I took some time away, quite a few substantial breaks actually and I made some wonderful friends on here. I became a bit quieter after one awful experience that shook me and took time away again. When I returned I tried to be kinder because I realised, as much as people sometimes post utter tosh, well maybe that's their truth? What do I gain from being a superior dick to them? I'm not perfect by any stretch and sometimes I do see a post that makes dick Meli escape for a little bit but on the whole I'm trying to be more welcoming and friendlier. Even people I don't particularly agree with, I try and show a degree of civility because I don't know them really. I've heard stuff sure, we all have about someone at some point but I prefer to give people a chance.

I still write the same long stream of consciousness though.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive changed greatly. Ive been here 14 years and used to be very active. I used to organise quizzes. Get others involved. Id organize and help run socials. I was also a lot more fiesty. I was quite the life and soul of the forums. Plus i was the original starter of fab forum awards for many years.

Then a lot of my friends left and i started getting less involved started taking more of a back seat also my fiestyness has almost dissappeared.

Now adays although i still post a lot i rarely start new threads these days and i dont usually get involved in forum games or popular threads.

Theres a new era of people that start all the inclusive threads and post a lot of new threads its just different big personas. There will always be people keeping the forums rolling just changes of usernames.

Also since i lost my avatar and hid my profile it tends to keep me in the background more.

Im just happy doing my own thing these days but i have changed dramatically also in my swinging life not just on the forums

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Yeah I only started using the forums a year or so ago. I don't do the flirty thing anymore and generally only post in threads I'm genuinely interested in. So mainly music and inane chat ones, or ones that I think need a sarcy comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive changed greatly. Ive been here 14 years and used to be very active. I used to organise quizzes. Get others involved. Id organize and help run socials. I was also a lot more fiesty. I was quite the life and soul of the forums. Plus i was the original starter of fab forum awards for many years.

Then a lot of my friends left and i started getting less involved started taking more of a back seat also my fiestyness has almost dissappeared.

Now adays although i still post a lot i rarely start new threads these days and i dont usually get involved in forum games or popular threads.

Also since i lost my avatar and hid my profile it tends to keep me in the background more.

Im just happy doing my own thing these days but i have changed dramatically also in my swinging life not just on the forums"

It is certainly MEGA different to how it used to be..

Loved the quizzes and the forum awards

I think i was the one to start the avatar challenges yearssss ago.

Forums were deffo fun back then.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I talk more bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post less, find less really humorous stuff to bounce off so I’m more serious, I’m less engaged with it generally and more detached.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I think it’s coming up for a year soon. It was around Christmas I found them

I don’t think my replies have changed too much. I come and go too much to see any change

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I try to keep away from forums posts that are deliberately created to be divisive, unless it’s something I’m personally affected by.

But the main difference from when I started is knowing who on these forums to ignore and those who’s I don’t because they have opinions I respect. Just knowing who to interact with, makes it a more pleasant pastime.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I don't post anywhere near as much as I used to. I used to really enjoy the more serious, though-provoking threads...I love a good debate and to see different viewpoints on things. Sadly they're few and far between nowadays

The more lighthearted threads are okay to pass some time on occasionally, but I find myself being more and more meh with them and continuing to scroll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My early days I was very keen to annoy as many people as I could, these days I just annoy a select few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been using the forums for around 9 years now and when I first joined all of my threads were about myself. I was very blunt, spoke my mind and blew my own trumpet.

At least nobody can say I’m not consistent

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I’ve never really been paid attention to in the forums. I’m not bothered, I get enough attention outside of them!

I mainly come on here when I’m bored and I don’t have messages to reply to. I also get useful info re clubs and events going on etc.

So much better now that a few forum hoggers have gone on a break or something... much easier and pleasant to read. Till they come back, haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bothering trying to ingratiate anyway near as much as I used too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on and off the site for a couple of years. Been floating around the forum for about 6 months,I think. Some interesting threads to read. I sometimes comment but am very rarely noticed. A lot of people on here have known each other for quite a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't post anywhere near as much as I used to. I used to really enjoy the more serious, though-provoking threads...I love a good debate and to see different viewpoints on things. Sadly they're few and far between nowadays

The more lighthearted threads are okay to pass some time on occasionally, but I find myself being more and more meh with them and continuing to scroll "

You could post some thought provoking threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more lighthearted threads are okay to pass some time on occasionally, but I find myself being more and more meh with them and continuing to scroll "

Too much fluff in the lounge these days, it’s dumbed down massively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people get away with things and others dont.

depends on who your friends with

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

My flirting is negligible these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much fluff in the lounge these days, it’s dumbed down massively."

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I like excited puppies!

Jo.Xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think the forum has changed. There’s a lot less of the normal crowd and no ones really doing much so there’s not a lot of chat going on.

We comment on some posts...some thought provoking, some plain daft, some games.

So probably about the same as always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a lot more involved but after experiencing bullying through the forums I'm now careful what I post, I avoid the ranty threads, try and avoid the lick arse ones and the clique ones. If I post now I just post something to spread a bit of a distraction or fun. To many trying to score points of each other.

As for flirting how does one do that?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I don’t post anywhere near as much as I used to before covid. I was pretty much here all the time, interactive and inclusive.

The forum sands have shifted and keep shifting daily. Sometimes it’s upbeat, sometimes it’s depressing so I log in, log out.

Many of the users I interacted regularly with are currently hibernating .... but I’m still here for the main

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I dip in and out depending on whats going on in my life.

At the moment NOTHING is going on - so I'm here a lot more.

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By *pun84Man
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Been on and off the site for a couple of years. Been floating around the forum for about 6 months,I think. Some interesting threads to read. I sometimes comment but am very rarely noticed. A lot of people on here have known each other for quite a while."

Your not the only one I'm in same boat lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I kind of dip in and out. I don't post so much but my style remains the same.

This once little puppy is now a fully formed bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I kinda pull the hot girls pigtails and look for anything I can have a drama free laugh at.

Same as always really.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Nope.

I kinda pull the hot girls pigtails and look for anything I can have a drama free laugh at.

Same as always really.

You have something I'd like to pull..sorry I've digressed

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Then a lot of my friends left and i started getting less involved started taking more of a back seat also my fiestyness has almost dissappeared.

Now adays although i still post a lot i rarely start new threads these days and i dont usually get involved in forum games or popular threads.

Also since i lost my avatar and hid my profile it tends to keep me in the background more.

Im just happy doing my own thing these days but i have changed dramatically also in my swinging life not just on the forums"
some are still here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

After 10 years I'm quite a lot quieter. I've seen the cycles of things and I'm probably less of an educator in my approach and perhaps don't seem as caring. I still do though.

I'm still quite ready to contradict some BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope.

I kinda pull the hot girls pigtails and look for anything I can have a drama free laugh at.

Same as always really.

You have something I'd like to pull..sorry I've digressed

I was about to mention your dip in and out comment and that I’d got something to dip... etc, but then I got handed a mug of hot tea and started thinking about a wasp a bumped into today.

He’s done well considering the weather.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think mine have changed too much. Still talk shite, try have a laugh (but usually just me laughing). Had the odd rant but try not to.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Nope.

I kinda pull the hot girls pigtails and look for anything I can have a drama free laugh at.

Same as always really.

You have something I'd like to pull..sorry I've digressed

I was about to mention your dip in and out comment and that I’d got something to dip... etc, but then I got handed a mug of hot tea and started thinking about a wasp a bumped into today.

He’s done well considering the weather."

I'd say he has!

Enjoy your cuppa Sam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't start as many threads as I used to and I can't be arsed labouring points with people like I used to

I try to be kind and thoughtful in what I post, but sometimes hide it with sarcasm and leg pulling

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I like excited puppies!

Jo.Xx "

I interact less frequently. And with blinkers on. Some things I don't want to see or read so I ignore.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent a couple of years on here first time around, used to spend literally hours on here, morning noon and night shifts, posting on every single post I seen, Since I came back i don't post as much, but my perspective hasn't changed much, still like the topical and fun threads. I agree with DC, the forums change constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kind of dip in and out. I don't post so much but my style remains the same.

This once little puppy is now a fully formed bitch."

You did a load of interesting threads recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My genius often goes unnoticed

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"My genius often goes unnoticed"

And your humility, don’t forget the humility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on and off for about 12 or so years. I would say I think more before posting, delete more comments before submitting realising it’s just not worth it. I’m always me but more careful

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don't think my style has changed or will change.

Been in and out of online communities since the mid 90’s and seen and done it all.

Now I’m just me online, no time to pretend to be something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more irritated nowadays by the forums whereas I found them fun when I first joined.

I don’t post as much as a result.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm the same. Kinda flit in and out saying whatever comes into my head at the time

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I'm new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m less active just now, but that has nothing to do with the forums and everything to do with my head space at the moment.

But I’m always around and full of bubbly nonsense for you lot.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I’ve been on and off for about 12 or so years. I would say I think more before posting, delete more comments before submitting realising it’s just not worth it. I’m always me but more careful "

I would agree with you. Same here and I think I have not changed in my outlook (I love chatting to people, even if we do not agree) but I am more conscious that something I would write in a forum post (without body language, tone of voice, smile... would not necessarily be received in the intended way.

I guess I think more about how I post, the words I use etc.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Thanks everyone, sorry I've been so lax in curating this thread! I've found it really interesting. I love seeing how people interact both on here and in real life and I'm also interested in how my own interactions have changed. I think I definitely worry less about what other people are thinking about me and just do me, whatever mood I'm in that day! I have been guilty of the "oh the forums are less fun than they used to be" but I think that's down to familiarity, faces changing, my mood and of course let's not forget a GLOBAL FUCKING PANDEMIC

The old maxim of "you get out what you put in" rings true for me, I think

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Dip in and out

Mainly stay in the background

There still seems to be a regular forum bunch, I'm not one of them

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely pop in the forums these days. I've completely lost interest in fab these last few months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dip in and out

Mainly stay in the background

There still seems to be a regular forum bunch, I'm not one of them

Jo x "

Your name is familiar to me in the forums

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I used to live in here. Now I just pop my head through the window every now and then to see who's still here, lurk and ration myself to a post every year or so.

See you in 12 mths.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, in that one just started contributing rather than just lurking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to post a fair bit on my old profile and talk to a lot of people, but since being back with this profile, I've noticed a stark difference in attitudes and threads, it's quite eye-opening!

so much so that, no, I don't post a great deal anymore, as it all seems to be geared around a small select few these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of sarcastic people on here which doesn't help.

Also when someone gives an opinion, what reaction they get depends on who wrote the opinion...this does my head in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dip in and out

Mainly stay in the background

There still seems to be a regular forum bunch, I'm not one of them

Jo x "

Ah the regular forum bunch...your not wrong there, don't upset them or they'll all gang up on you...I'm not being sarcastic by the way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to post a fair bit on my old profile and talk to a lot of people, but since being back with this profile, I've noticed a stark difference in attitudes and threads, it's quite eye-opening!

so much so that, no, I don't post a great deal anymore, as it all seems to be geared around a small select few these days. "

Careful, you nearly said the 'c' word.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

My approach, when I’m here is no different to how it was when I joined 2 years ago, I will comment on what I wish to comment on. Lately that is not much at all, it’s become a very different place this year, so I just find myself logging on scrolling, scrolling and then leave.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

"I used to post a fair bit on my old profile and talk to a lot of people, but since being back with this profile, I've noticed a stark difference in attitudes and threads, it's quite eye-opening!

so much so that, no, I don't post a great deal anymore, as it all seems to be geared around a small select few these days. "

To be fair, I find other forums rather “cliquey” as well.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"My approach, when I’m here is no different to how it was when I joined 2 years ago, I will comment on what I wish to comment on. Lately that is not much at all, it’s become a very different place this year, so I just find myself logging on scrolling, scrolling and then leave. "

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to post a fair bit on my old profile and talk to a lot of people, but since being back with this profile, I've noticed a stark difference in attitudes and threads, it's quite eye-opening!

so much so that, no, I don't post a great deal anymore, as it all seems to be geared around a small select few these days.

To be fair, I find other forums rather “cliquey” as well."

Years and years ago I joined a fiction writing newsgroup and posted a few things.

It was like walking into a bar in a Western where everything goes quiet and then the shooting starts. All because I hadn't followed particular etiquette or protocol.

I found people a lot more protective of their online space in the earlier years of the web.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

Through rain and wind and weather, hell bent for leather, wishing my girl was by my siiiiiiiiiiiide.

Dunno if I remembered it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, but I bet some people wish they will

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

Through rain and wind and weather, hell bent for leather, wishing my girl was by my siiiiiiiiiiiide.

Dunno if I remembered it right

"
.

Word perfect - although on reflection perhaps the following lines might have been more appropriate for this place

Don't try to understand 'em

Just rope 'em, throw, and brand 'em

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

Through rain and wind and weather, hell bent for leather, wishing my girl was by my siiiiiiiiiiiide.

Dunno if I remembered it right

Word perfect - although on reflection perhaps the following lines might have been more appropriate for this place

Don't try to understand 'em

Just rope 'em, throw, and brand 'em

fire up the iron

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really bothered with the forums till recently (mainly isolation boredom)

The light hearted, fun ones like 'pick your favourite pic from poster above' are good in small doses and they give you a small ego boost.

And it's nice when one of your posts takes off and gets lots of inputs like one of my music ones did recently.

On the downside, the forums do appear a bit cliquey at times with the same people interacting.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Never really bothered with the forums till recently (mainly isolation boredom)

The light hearted, fun ones like 'pick your favourite pic from poster above' are good in small doses and they give you a small ego boost.

And it's nice when one of your posts takes off and gets lots of inputs like one of my music ones did recently.

On the downside, the forums do appear a bit cliquey at times with the same people interacting."

I do interact with those I know more than those I don't. I'm aware I'm quite like or loathey and my humour isn't always on target. I'd not want to genuinely upset someone who didn't really know how to take me so I can be wary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never really bothered with the forums till recently (mainly isolation boredom)

The light hearted, fun ones like 'pick your favourite pic from poster above' are good in small doses and they give you a small ego boost.

And it's nice when one of your posts takes off and gets lots of inputs like one of my music ones did recently.

On the downside, the forums do appear a bit cliquey at times with the same people interacting.

That's a fair comment.

I guess if you invest time in the forums then you'll get to know more folk and expand the circle of whom you interact with.

I've got two weeks in here so should be fine lol

I rarely get offended so do your worst Peachy

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

All forums are cliquey, it's the nature of the beast. This is no worse or better than others I've faffed with over the years.

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By *ly-FoxMan
over a year ago

mobile

Just starting out in the forums. Beats waiting for winks and messages that never come

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Never really bothered with the forums till recently (mainly isolation boredom)

The light hearted, fun ones like 'pick your favourite pic from poster above' are good in small doses and they give you a small ego boost.

And it's nice when one of your posts takes off and gets lots of inputs like one of my music ones did recently.

On the downside, the forums do appear a bit cliquey at times with the same people interacting.

That's a fair comment.

I guess if you invest time in the forums then you'll get to know more folk and expand the circle of whom you interact with.

I've got two weeks in here so should be fine lol

I rarely get offended so do your worst Peachy

Exactly.

And fine... I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never really bothered with the forums till recently (mainly isolation boredom)

The light hearted, fun ones like 'pick your favourite pic from poster above' are good in small doses and they give you a small ego boost.

And it's nice when one of your posts takes off and gets lots of inputs like one of my music ones did recently.

On the downside, the forums do appear a bit cliquey at times with the same people interacting.

That's a fair comment.

I guess if you invest time in the forums then you'll get to know more folk and expand the circle of whom you interact with.

I've got two weeks in here so should be fine lol

I rarely get offended so do your worst Peachy

Exactly.

And fine... I will

Teeny tiny bit scared now

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Keep scrolling, scrolling, scrolling

Though the threads are swollen

Keep them digits scrolling rawhide

Now why do I have a vision of you in a cowboy hat and spurs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm far less active contribute less and seem to find less that piques my interest enough to comment on, so its changed in that respect.

Now I wander in have a read and more often than not wander away with only minimal interaction with others....

The forums have always been a cycle of peaks and troughs, and to me this seems like another trough where the fun sparky funny threads are less to the fore, where many have left the forums and where whether by covid or that natural cycle it all feels a bit subdued...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just starting out in the forums. Beats waiting for winks and messages that never come

The force is strong with this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here nearly 6 years and was absolutely scared shitless of posting after my first thread was ripped to pieces. But I gradually found my feet, made lots of good friends, got involved in the socials and clubs and, on the whole enjoyed the Forums. However, I was bullied and trolled by a gang of meanies and left for a while but came back again more confident. Lately, it's become less lighthearted and so depressing so I don't participate much. I hardly know any of the new folk and most of my friends have left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been here for a few months, the forums have been a brutal at times but I have thick skin, so I don't let things like that bother me. I personally think some ppl jump on a person's thread to try to demean or attack them rather than contribute to the discussion and people here get easily offended and stuff like that.

I just ignore certain comments tbh and keep it moving OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been here for a few months, the forums have been a brutal at times but I have thick skin, so I don't let things like that bother me. I personally think some ppl jump on a person's thread to try to demean or attack them rather than contribute to the discussion and people here get easily offended and stuff like that.

I just ignore certain comments tbh and keep it moving OP"

I'm glad you stayed. Your early threads seemed to get pounced on by people who have trouble understanding the written word. Or they were deliberately being arsey.

You were very patient and nice in spite of it all.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I've given up fabbing pictures.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Ah, this thread is still rolling!

It's interesting seeing different takes on it. I have never been part of any other online forum so have nothing to compare it with. Initially I was on A LOT then after a while started to see the same threads coming round, some of my pals left, I felt a bit lost and jaded. I stuck around though, sometimes interacting more, sometimes less, depending on my mood and what piqued my interest.

In terms of starting threads, some fly, and some don't! I used to feel disheartened if something didn't take off but now I'm not fussed - depends how the other posters interact, time of day, subject matter - sometimes I find something really interesting/funny and other people clearly do not

The dreaded clique word - I think there will always be a group of people who get on and bounce off each other, post on each other's threads and seem intimidating to newbies - but I think it's rarely malicious. It's like coming into any established group, it takes time and effort to connect with people. It also changes over time as big personalities come and go.

TL:DR; the forums ebb and flow, you do you, don't believe the clique hype

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I don't contribute anywhere near as much as I used to.

Through my years on here, the forums do change. As someone else said, it's peaks and troughs, it is what it is.

It just all seems a bit 'flat' at the moment, plus my time is needed elsewhere these days so I don't have the time to contribute as much on here.

Mrs

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

The forums are meant to be fun x

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

"The forums are meant to be fun x"

But they're not.Too cliquey and too many forum hoggers as mentioned above.

Deterrent from posting or starting new threads

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"The forums are meant to be fun x

But they're not.Too cliquey and too many forum hoggers as mentioned above.

Deterrent from posting or starting new threads "

Detterent from posting people can post I love new posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums are meant to be fun x

But they're not.Too cliquey and too many forum hoggers as mentioned above.

Deterrent from posting or starting new threads "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums are meant to be fun x

But they're not.Too cliquey and too many forum hoggers as mentioned above.

Deterrent from posting or starting new threads

Detterent from posting people can post I love new posts "

I'm going to come out with it and really rock the Apple Cart here...

I've seen you go at new posters and be very sarcastic (and not in a nice, fun way either) across the board, so it's no wonder people get put off posting! I'll always fight for the under-dog or say what a lot of people want to but can't because they're sick of being 'ganged-up on'! so there, said it. Inbox is open should you want to 'discuss' !

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"The forums are meant to be fun x

But they're not.Too cliquey and too many forum hoggers as mentioned above.

Deterrent from posting or starting new threads

Detterent from posting people can post I love new posts

I'm going to come out with it and really rock the Apple Cart here...

I can be sarcastic but I don't intend to offend people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not on as much lately so in that way things have changed.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Im not on as much lately so in that way things have changed. "

When you are your always great x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not on as much lately so in that way things have changed.

When you are your always great x"

Aww

love you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Im not on as much lately so in that way things have changed.

When you are your always great x

Aww

love you

Xxx

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