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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So.. having an honest chat with myself and feeling really annoyed, powerless and stupid.

I find I am eating more and more crap food because of how I am feeling at the moment.

Is anyone else and is there any apps, words of advise or anything that you recommend that can help?

Working out was my go to for mental health but now the gym is closed I'm struggling to get the motivation to work out at home or go for a run.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I love a good comfort eat.

But I’ve kinda come off food completely now.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

First lockdown I gained two dress sizes...

So now I am on a 16h/8h intermittent fasting regime where I fast for 16h and eat in an eight hour window... So this cuts out the lethal late night snacking!

YouTube search on [intermittent fasting] and there will be lots of information, advice and tips.

I also now go for a four mile run every weekday morning... Difficult to motivate myself now clocks have gone back and mornings darker.

I motivate by asking myself, "would I like myself better if I am good?". The answer is if course it is, so I haul myself out of bed... Or find a distraction when I'm bored and peckish.

Be kind on yourself for that occasional treat... It is important to love you.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Maybe this isn't quite the same thing, and so eaee don't take what I'm about to say the wrong way, but forum user Amber was setting up a weight loss group recently. If you check the forum for the original thread it will give you the full details, but it was going to include motivation and healthy eating tips from what I remember.

As for the other things, all I can suggest is maybe get outside for a walk at lunch time, when it's still daylight. The fresh air will make you feel better, and might even give you further motivation to get out for a run.

Good luck. Sending positive vibes

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Don't beat yourself up about your mental health taking a bearing because of the pandemic. It's not your fault, as for comfort eating I'm bad for it too. When I have it under control it's because I'm happy and I use other things to distract me. Have you got mates you can chat with etc? Surprising how a phone call with fill your time and make you feel so much better than a text conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an emotional eater. When I feel shit I’ll eat shit. Ordering a Chinese or an Indian and having a full fat can of cola and a bag of giant buttons makes me happy temporarily.

When I’m not dating anyone or planning to meet any guys I just eat instead.

I’ve got to really feel in the right head space for me to want to eat well.

You don’t say what your goals are for going to the gym other than it helps your mental health.

You could get your waterproofs on and go for a nice walk somewhere instead?

You’ll have to think of a day when you’ve got money and can do a tidy food shop and think right this week I’m gonna eat this this and this and just get all the stuff you need.

If you know what your goals are,I could give you some meals and tips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have always done this, it was ok until I could no longer run because of an injury so I put weight on.

It’s been a hard habit to break, I’ve been on a health kick for the last 2 months (lost over 2st) and it’s also been a bit of a rollercoaster emotions wise (for other reasons) so I’ve had to really keep telling and reminding myself that I cannot eat my feelings, it doesn’t make me feel better afterwards... but it’s really hard. I’m still working on the ‘I can’t drink my feelings’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate OP - I'm an emotional eater and I'm so fed up at the moment I'm eating all day long and feel disgusting.

I don't have any words of advice - all I know is that when I feel happy and content I don't need to eat the entire contents of my fridge!

2020 has been weird and even though I like my own company there is only so much of being alone anyone can take.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all.

My goals are to just feel better about myself. I have always been a "heavy girl", I have always had thick legs, big hips and big arms and weight more than I should. However, I have an hour glass shape and I'm very lucky that I hide my weight well.

Its so annoying because I know how to eat healthy, what to eat, how much to eat. I even had a nutritionalist say to me "I don't know how to help you" last week because I'm not a novice to dieting and food control (I used to be a competitive swimmer).

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By *edrickWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I 100% get where your coming from and I've felt the same today but felt it being for a few days where I feel totally emotional but also sensitive to being let down by friends and family who arent in my situation atm. I'm really having 1 of those fuck it days, motivation is down the drain and I feel snappy, I hate myself right now. I've got half an hour tonsort myself out before the kids come out from school otherwise i know tonight's gonna be hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All i seem to be doing lately is staring at the fridge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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2020 has been weird and even though I like my own company there is only so much of being alone anyone can take."

Yes, this. I have been single for years, but recently dated a guy for a few months. This made me realise that I have something huge missing in my life... company. So loneliness definitely is playing a part in all this.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

When i am stressed i eat much less and hardly sleep. Funny how people cope differently in situations.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Paul McGee in his book SUMO (Shut Up, Move On), he says it's natural to have "hippo days", not a reference to being fat (although I accept I am) but reference to allowing ourselves a few days to wallow in the mud, feeling better.

But also to know it's a temporary allowance... we've had our wallow, so let's get on with making that change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing for me has been keeping my mind (and hands!) focused. I tend to eat out of boredom or emotions when I'm doing something idle like watching light hearted TV or scrolling mindlessly on my phone. Take up a new hobby or study a new skill; the hours will fly by without you even thinking about snacks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First lockdown I gained two dress sizes...

So now I am on a 16h/8h intermittent fasting regime where I fast for 16h and eat in an eight hour window... So this cuts out the lethal late night snacking!

YouTube search on [intermittent fasting] and there will be lots of information, advice and tips.

I also now go for a four mile run every weekday morning... Difficult to motivate myself now clocks have gone back and mornings darker.

I motivate by asking myself, "would I like myself better if I am good?". The answer is if course it is, so I haul myself out of bed... Or find a distraction when I'm bored and peckish.

Be kind on yourself for that occasional treat... It is important to love you."

Great advice

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"So loneliness definitely is playing a part in all this. "

I made a chance discovery which has transformed my attitude to feeling lonely, and I would recommend it...

Google [BBC Sounds Thinking Allowed Loneliness] and listen to the 28 minute podcast. It helped me completely reframe what Loneliness is... I no longer feel lonely but feel One-ness with myself.

The program talks about how pre 16th century, there was no word "lonely" only One-ness... Which is a luxury, to be able to indulge in what you want, when you want. Making alone time a good and valuable thing.

They also interview Innuit people in Greenland where some people hunt/fish on their own for weeks on end, and their language has a different reference to what we understand as "lonely".

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's really normal as a coping mechanism. Obviously not ideal, but, you know, 2020.

How else can you redirect yourself? I've got resistance bands (cheap set off eBay) and am working out with those.

As others have said, be kind to yourself. Sometimes needs must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's really normal as a coping mechanism. Obviously not ideal, but, you know, 2020.

How else can you redirect yourself? I've got resistance bands (cheap set off eBay) and am working out with those.

As others have said, be kind to yourself. Sometimes needs must. "

Yes, but also remember that "being kind" to yourself consists of taking care of yourself properly, and fuelling your body with the right foods that it needs to perform at its best. Try to attach the emotional value you see in food to something else. Paint your nails, do your hair, read a good book, use the money you would spend on takeaway to buy new clothes etc. Food is not the only way to treat yourself x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's really normal as a coping mechanism. Obviously not ideal, but, you know, 2020.

How else can you redirect yourself? I've got resistance bands (cheap set off eBay) and am working out with those.

As others have said, be kind to yourself. Sometimes needs must.

Yes, but also remember that "being kind" to yourself consists of taking care of yourself properly, and fuelling your body with the right foods that it needs to perform at its best. Try to attach the emotional value you see in food to something else. Paint your nails, do your hair, read a good book, use the money you would spend on takeaway to buy new clothes etc. Food is not the only way to treat yourself x"

Definitely. But if you make a mistake, beating yourself up will make it worse not better.

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By *stroboy78Man
over a year ago

Abergavenny

I went through a lot of crap at the beginning of lockdown emotionally and physically, my normal coping mechanism were not an option so mentally I really struggled and was proper stuck in a rut, I lost size and all the gains I had made. It was just rubbish.

I was trawling Netflix one day and stumbled across a documentary regarding a particular area of fitness and I watched it just because I'd seen everything else. Once it had finished I actually felt inspired to pull my finger out, work out my diet and what I needed to so exercise wise. I never looked back.

Its funny how something out of the blue can spur you on to make changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's really normal as a coping mechanism. Obviously not ideal, but, you know, 2020.

How else can you redirect yourself? I've got resistance bands (cheap set off eBay) and am working out with those.

As others have said, be kind to yourself. Sometimes needs must.

Yes, but also remember that "being kind" to yourself consists of taking care of yourself properly, and fuelling your body with the right foods that it needs to perform at its best. Try to attach the emotional value you see in food to something else. Paint your nails, do your hair, read a good book, use the money you would spend on takeaway to buy new clothes etc. Food is not the only way to treat yourself x

Definitely. But if you make a mistake, beating yourself up will make it worse not better. "

Yep, it's important to just get over any slip-ups quickly. You can't do anything about it once it's done. At the start of my "journey" I would wallow in self-pity whenever I gave in and binged. Now I just have set cheat days once every couple of weeks. The fact it's planned helps me deal with the feelings of guilt and makes it easier to think of it as a one-time thing, and also it gives me something to look forward to while I'm working hard on my diet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been eating rubbish food a lot lately as well.

Since going under the knife while I'm recovering it's chocolate and fried chicken everyday.

With more chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been eating a lot of chocolate but have cut out the late night cornetto.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I've been eating a lot of chocolate but have cut out the late night cornetto. "

I'd love to deal with your late night Hornetto, err I mean Cornetto...

Sorry OP, I've hijacked your thread with some sexual harassment... My bad! Lol

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Depends on funds of course, but things like the Oculus Quest 2 are great for fun, addictive exercise if you're up for dropping £300 on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I went through a lot of crap at the beginning of lockdown emotionally and physically, my normal coping mechanism were not an option so mentally I really struggled and was proper stuck in a rut, I lost size and all the gains I had made. It was just rubbish.

I was trawling Netflix one day and stumbled across a documentary regarding a particular area of fitness and I watched it just because I'd seen everything else. Once it had finished I actually felt inspired to pull my finger out, work out my diet and what I needed to so exercise wise. I never looked back.

Its funny how something out of the blue can spur you on to make changes. "

What was it you watched.. I found that after watching a series on MMA on Netflix it made me really want to work hard at it... but then the gyms closed....

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