FabSwingers.com forum: 2 way conversation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Conversation on this site has always been difficult, the forums often the only place you can actually get any form of conversation.

Are others finding though that it's only getting harder, there is a similar thread currently regarding communication in all forms of life (totally agree with it). However I'm focusing on here, it seems so difficult to find anyone who you can just share messages with, I don't mean sexually loaded, just banter, normal fun chat. It might progress it might not, who cares!

This site brings people to it for a common theme, however it sadly feels the quality has been watered down, leaving it hard to find the good ones.

Rant over lol. Have a great afternoon all x

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I find getting to know people in real life works a lot better than t’over internet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find getting to know people in real life works a lot better than t’over internet!

Completely agree, this year has just put paid to so much of that. Will be nice when social meets and clubs become the norm again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find getting to know people in real life works a lot better than t’over internet!

Very true which is why alot of people are struggling. They think because it's a swingers website it means you have to be kinky and freaky from the get go.... this is fine but same as real life your approach should always be not-abnormal, respectfull and doesn't have to involve anything sexual. Just like real life

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think with everything going on away from fab (Covid and knock on effects) some people aren't as talkative as they once were.

I love talking to people, finding out more about them and that joy of a new conversation but I am noticing far more closed messages pm wise and posts on the fora (as in, no questions about me, personal information shared isn't anything I can really discuss). I try and think, well people are going through a lot and with no idea of when things are going to return to some sort of normality, it can make conversation a bit tough. There's not much going on, people can't excitedly make plans with you or discuss their crazy antics at the weekend. A lot of topics have been spoken about on repeat since March.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I cant wait to get out and about again- there are a couple of people i definitely want to have coffee and cake with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to say I have a few great ongoing conversations with some people. Majority of initial messages are the loaded kind but I dismiss that and definately some have become people I routinely chatter to about everyday stuff, it's nice, think it's a given we're on here because we've a healthy interest in pleasures of the flesh, don't need to bang on about it in conversations, that's where you get to know the person.... Isn't it? Or am I following the wrong guide

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think with everything going on away from fab (Covid and knock on effects) some people aren't as talkative as they once were.

Absolutely fair points, but if your talking to someone for the first time, does it reopen the opportunity for pre Covid conversation. For example I love travelling, talking about places you have visited etc. The list can go on, music, sport, pets. Can also be non intrusive.

Are too many people suspicious of others maybe and their intentions, is it even a fake profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd have to say I have a few great ongoing conversations with some people. Majority of initial messages are the loaded kind but I dismiss that and definately some have become people I routinely chatter to about everyday stuff, it's nice, think it's a given we're on here because we've a healthy interest in pleasures of the flesh, don't need to bang on about it in conversations, that's where you get to know the person.... Isn't it? Or am I following the wrong guide

That in my eyes is the perfect guide, if it goes somewhere great if not, you have some great people to speak too

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I get a few messages about having a chat or open questions sent saying ‘how’s your day, going ?’

If I’m on here it’s only for the forums currently, admittedly if I saw something on their profile that makes me think they’d be someone I’d be interested in meeting in the future then I may reply. But I’m not really in the mood to have endless chats that aren’t going anywhere soon.

The site for me isn’t the main area for meeting, I prefer going out to clubs and other venues to chat in person, so having a conversation online just seems to be a chore rather than a pleasure. Although I hasten to add not in all cases, if they’re an interesting person I do enjoy some back and forth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Conversation on this site has always been difficult, the forums often the only place you can actually get any form of conversation.

This site brings people to it for a common theme, however it sadly feels the quality has been watered down, leaving it hard to find the good ones.

Rant over lol. Have a great afternoon all x"

The forums are the best place to converse as you can also reply privately to the persons post once you're in their filters which also shows them you're interested in what they say.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I was thinking about this the other day as I certainly don't talk to, or relate to, as many people I once did and I think various factors come into that - there are a *lot* of some of the regular crowd of old noticeable by their absence and with one or two exceptions there aren't even that many regulars (new or old) at all currently, people seem to come and go a lot more quickly.

Obviously the current world situation has a lot to do with that - the underlying purpose of the site is to meet other people and while that can't happen I guess a lot of people have stayed away, or aren't interested in talking to anyone new if there's no immediate possibility of meeting them.

I think this spreads itself across the quality of threads in the forums, general chat via messages and a lot more.

Personally I've had a lot going on this year and so am not particularly looking to get to know new people as a result and given the forums are, mostly, stuck in a Groundhog Day currently I've not felt compelled to post as much as I once did, which used to be the way I got chatting to new people.

Time will tell if it changes back to its former self once things go back to normal and people start to meet again.

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By *ings66Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think with everything going on away from fab (Covid and knock on effects) some people aren't as talkative as they once were.

Very true I think people not meeting are missing on that little bit personal contact you do not get on line.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

Ive loved chatting to new people and joining in the forum chats, I've met some great people by joining in with you all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was thinking about this the other day as I certainly don't talk to, or relate to, as many people I once did and I think various factors come into that - there are a *lot* of some of the regular crowd of old noticeable by their absence and with one or two exceptions there aren't even that many regulars (new or old) at all currently, people seem to come and go a lot more quickly.

I think this spreads itself across the quality of threads in the forums, general chat via messages and a lot more.

Time will tell if it changes back to its former self once things go back to normal and people start to meet again.

I suppose that's the million dollar question with many aspects in life, what will it look like afterwards.

People have definitely stayed away as the meet potential is not there, that's natural and understandable.

You make fair point with having many things going on this year, I hope it's been positive things for you as obviously for many it hasn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ive loved chatting to new people and joining in the forum chats, I've met some great people by joining in with you all

I'm new to the forums, and often remain in the background. However they are certainly the best way of speaking with people and making connections

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nope, I've had the opposite. Since lockdown I've found it far easier to find people to chat to on here which only makes it more frustrating to not be able to meet.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have been chatting to a couple of lovely people during lockdown, just Normal run of the mill chat.

Still get chats where it just runs its course, but that's fine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ve had odd chat on here and its rarely been sexual. There are maybe 3 ladies on here I occassionally message with and sex etc has not come into those chats. Im starting to find face to face chat very difficult and even on here I sometimes force myself to write a thread in order to try and get some response to stop falling farther down into silence. Hang in there OP..the chat is on here..its just finding a way or subject to draw it out but if your hearts not in it then it won t happen...thats been my problem...allowing myself to fall out of conversation.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ll hold my hands up and say I’m terrible for communication (on here and off) but it’s nothing to do with the person I’m chatting to, it’s a mental health thing.

I find ping pong messaging of a frequent basis quite exhausting and draining, no matter how much I like someone.

It’s hard to explain but it just makes me feel overwhelmed. When I feel overwhelmed I mentally check-out.

So I prefer consistency but on an irregular basis and shortish messages. Long messages make me feel pressured to reply in kind and that makes me lose interest.

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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

I tend to find most of my chats on here are no longer sexual these days. Due to not meeting i feel it much better just to have a general chat and make new friends.

At the begining of lockdown it seemed all about making plans for afterwards but now as there seems to be no end in sight i prefer just getting to know people just for who they are xx

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By *uiteniceguyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"I cant wait to get out and about again- there are a couple of people i definitely want to have coffee and cake with

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I make cakes. What can I make for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ll hold my hands up and say I’m terrible for communication (on here and off) but it’s nothing to do with the person I’m chatting to, it’s a mental health thing.

I find ping pong messaging of a frequent basis quite exhausting and draining, no matter how much I like someone.

It’s hard to explain but it just makes me feel overwhelmed. When I feel overwhelmed I mentally check-out.

So I prefer consistency but on an irregular basis and shortish messages. Long messages make me feel pressured to reply in kind and that makes me lose interest.

I can literally relate to everything you just said. Im the exact same when it comes to conversations. It would take the right topics yo get a fluent fast paced convo with me

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