FabSwingers.com forum: Messages do you respond or delete

By *tella Heels OP TV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I try to answer most messages, but occasionally some people keep on and on. So sorry I do delete a couple

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

I answer all, even the ones from elderly gentleman asking to grab my arse

Flattering

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When visible my profile states, without ambiguity the type of person I'm looking for and what I'm offering. For the hard of understanding I underpin with I won't reply to anyone outwith what I'm looking for: and I don't!

Everyone who meets what I'm looking for receives a message: works for me.

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"When visible my profile states, without ambiguity the type of person I'm looking for and what I'm offering. For the hard of understanding I underpin with I won't reply to anyone outwith what I'm looking for: and I don't!

Everyone who meets what I'm looking for receives a message: works for me. "

^^this is exactly the same for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I simply wouldn't have the time.

I get over 200 a day

All one liners and asking for meet are deleted.

No pics - delete

Not verified - delete

Chit chat (how's you, nice pics) - delete

Those who take the time to write a nice message I reply to

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We respond to some and delete others.

It's a bit like if I go out wearing a green hat and someone approaches me asking "do you have a green hat?" i probably wouldn't answer. If they said "I like your green hat and would be interested in finding out more about it" I probably would.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have a policy to respond to the majority of messages, but I do make exceptions. Must admit the more I’m honest about why I don’t want to meet presently with some and definitely not with others, the more abuse I’ve been getting.

So I do wonder if I should just go back to deleting them

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By *tella Heels OP TV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"I have a policy to respond to the majority of messages, but I do make exceptions. Must admit the more I’m honest about why I don’t want to meet presently with some and definitely not with others, the more abuse I’ve been getting.

So I do wonder if I should just go back to deleting them

I know that feeling too

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

So I do wonder if I should just go back to deleting them

Answering messages on Fab shouldn't be a chore/stressful.

Set boundaries as you do in other areas of your life. You know what you want etc if someone doesn't respect that why feel obliged to waste a nanosecond of your time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to just delete unless they are from friend's. I tell people not to bother and they don't listen.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Being a guy, well we dont get that many, but I treat people how I would like to be treated so reply to all.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

We do get a lot, but try to reply to polite personalised messages.

Cut n'paste jobs and one liners are deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply to people who aren’t mardy arses, who don’t constantly moan and who show a glimpse of a sense of humour, the rest I don’t bother.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I respond to most. I tend to ignore those that message then message again months later as I’m not here to amuse folk just cos they’re bored and have no-one else to chat to.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

"We respond to some and delete others.

Yep I get plagued with the green hat messages as well, small world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally mass delete. I scan through quickly before doing so and try to respond to ones from the forum but as my profile doesn’t invite messages then I don’t think I need to reply a no thanks as my profile already says that

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

As I don't have many messages, I tend to answer all.

Exception include profile which I doubt it is real, asking for a meet now when it is very clearly stated I am out of the UK.

I suspect these are spam, so I don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete the complete crap, like badly spelt one liners, nothing but a dick pic, or stupid comments. People that have sent something decent that I'm not interested in get a polite no thanks response. Ones I'm interested in get a reply obviously xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treasure

And obviously answer

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We always reply to messages even if it's a "thanks but it's not what we are looking for" then again we don't get much mail at all.

I can understand that for people that get 100s a day it could become difficult to do that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We respond to some and delete others.

Yep I get plagued with the green hat messages as well, small world"

I sometimes wear a blue hat just to change things up a bit. Alters the type of message quite a lot

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I delete unread more messages then I open. Am I sorry? Nope, most of the time that visible line or the profile tells me all I need to know.

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By *678Man
over a year ago

Surrey

I’m lucky to get a message so I always try to respond even if they’re not my type or what I’m looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to answer all first messages off someone but some people’s conversation skills just lead up a blind alley where there’s just nothing to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man. I reply to all messages that I occasionally receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m lucky to get a message so I always try to respond even if they’re not my type or what I’m looking for "

Same here

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By *orace99Man
over a year ago

York

I answer any messages I receive sometimes people may just want to chat.

I usually delete them when I have read them.

Any I send that are unread I usually delete after a week's or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply if it requires one, messages with one or two word I check the profiles first, usually can tell the ones who have read my profile first before messaging. Others get a polite sarcasm

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By *skyouneverknowMan
over a year ago

Calne

I respond to those that are consistent with what I say I'm looking for on my profile.

Otherwise, I generally delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be rude not to. Can understand why people don’t, especially if you get inundated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to answer most messages, but occasionally some people keep on and on. So sorry I do delete a couple "

Some people do push their luck. I usually have men filtered so they can’t message, but left that open during the first lockdown so I could join in forum games. Huge mistake as every man and his dog (but very few from the forums) messages and keeps on messaging with the most inane or suggestive drivel.

The reply of, “No, I don’t want my cock sucked by you” doesn’t seem to put them off. Unfortunately, it’s now a block and delete rather than just a delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to answer most messages, but occasionally some people keep on and on. So sorry I do delete a couple

The reply of, “No, I don’t want my cock sucked by you” doesn’t seem to put them off. Unfortunately, it’s now a block and delete rather than just a delete"

Which is why I have sympathy for ladies on fab that must get that drivel by the hundreds!

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I try to respond. Sometimes I’m busy and forget. Sometimes the message doesn’t lend itself to a response, if that makes sense?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We reply to most messages. We get drivel like anyone else, which is draining at times, particularly if you've already told them a polite no.

It seems evident that lots of people are now covid weary and are running out of conversation, or the ability to create something interesting to say, having no normal active life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrible with my inbox and get nowhere near the messages a lady gets on here. I’m always days behind catching up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to answer most messages, but occasionally some people keep on and on. So sorry I do delete a couple

The reply of, “No, I don’t want my cock sucked by you” doesn’t seem to put them off. Unfortunately, it’s now a block and delete rather than just a delete

Which is why I have sympathy for ladies on fab that must get that drivel by the hundreds! "

Exactly. I’m amazed by how many guys offer money to suck cock. It must be a fetish to offer cash rather than the hope it’ll sway you? I’m giving them the benefit of the doubt that they’re not simply desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to answer most messages, but occasionally some people keep on and on. So sorry I do delete a couple

The reply of, “No, I don’t want my cock sucked by you” doesn’t seem to put them off. Unfortunately, it’s now a block and delete rather than just a delete

Which is why I have sympathy for ladies on fab that must get that drivel by the hundreds!

I’m sure there are websites that offer that service for those kind of fellas.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Lanzarote

Respond when i can although not always possible.x

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

On the rare occasion I get one. I have a hot shower, put on my best dressing gown, make a cuppa or pour a glass of wine, depending on time of day. Sit in my most comfortable chair. Put my glasses on. I treat it as an event. Get all excited, open the message to see it’s from admin - usually a forum ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We do get a lot, but try to reply to polite personalised messages.

Cut n'paste jobs and one liners are deleted."

As above and we do say on our profile but still get silly random messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the rare occasion I get one. I have a hot shower, put on my best dressing gown, make a cuppa or pour a glass of wine, depending on time of day. Sit in my most comfortable chair. Put my glasses on. I treat it as an event. Get all excited, open the message to see it’s from admin - usually a forum ban."

Not just me then lol

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Brilliant

awww I hope you get another soon

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Everyone who meets what I'm looking for receives a message: works for me. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply to messages that interests me which is stated on my profile... Less abuse that way.

Still get 2nd messages with the usual 'take that as a no then' etc but it's what works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not good at answering unexceptional messages at the best of times but atm, I can’t be arsed to message hardly anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only reply to messages that have read our profile, and they are bi. Profile says straight, it's a delete I'm afraid, also persistent messagers, or paste and copies, no point wasting everyone's time x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I delete all sexual ones from strangers, very strict filters are on so thats minimal now

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