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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m probably one of few or very many...

Guys do you check out a woman’s verifications and just think you yourself... I’m not even going to bother messaging her... after seeing the guys she’s been with.

Ok fair enough as well, many guys might not even get that far down a profile before messaging... but those that do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to intrude... what’s your exact reasoning on not messaging in your example?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to intrude... what’s your exact reasoning on not messaging in your example?"

Not a problem at all,

It’s because the guys are ripped, when personally I’m not a gym kinda guy, but look after myself... I think you can tell by her verifications the types of guys she wants?

Would you still message if you couldn’t see you fitting in with what she’s had before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on her profile (if I was a guy lol) if I didn’t think I fitted her remit then no but she might not be seeking ripped gents. I’d probably venture some chat and see if we had anything in common or at chemistry. Women tend to think a little deeper than what a guy looks like. Well that’s my thoughts x

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By *aultsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think regardless it's probably worth giving it a shot even if you don't think you have much of a chance.

Worst that can happen is you get ignored, and I think with anything online based it's just a given that'll happen.

Maybe some would say i'm naive but I also hold out that there's a lot of people who do care about personality aswell.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

You do not do your username justice my friends

You have to think of the other persons point of view for this one. Some people share that info because they get off on it. It turns them on, 'look at me, everyone thinks im super hot' and fair play to them. Some guys for example, love showing of their wife or gf etc its the same mentality.

Me personally, i dont read the verifications or look at who's been with who. Im worried about my own pleasure. Am i compatible eith this person?, will they be satisfactory to me?, would i be satisfactory to them? etc this is my thinking.

Dont let ripped guys or 10 inch dicks put you off. There is someone for everyone, so just chill, mr irish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to intrude... what’s your exact reasoning on not messaging in your example?

Not a problem at all,

It’s because the guys are ripped, when personally I’m not a gym kinda guy, but look after myself... I think you can tell by her verifications the types of guys she wants?

Would you still message if you couldn’t see you fitting in with what she’s had before? "

I have messaged and met guys, whose verifications look like I could eat them and you wouldn't even know... I like all kinds of guys, from ripped to very large. It's not always about body type, in fact it rarely is

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By *reeneyedminxWoman
over a year ago

near you

Coming from a woman’s view...we do the same.

If I look at a guys profile and I check out who has verified him and they are all slim ladies I won’t message him cause I don’t think he will like me.

But then again I like all kinds of men, I’m not bothered much about body size, we all have an ideal but I just like strong arms and a cheeky smile! I have been with ‘ripped’ men ‘average men’ ‘dad bods’

I tend to lean towards men with a little more meat on them but mainly cause I worry about crushing them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do not do your username justice my friends

Dont let ripped guys or 10 inch dicks put you off. There is someone for everyone, so just chill, mr irish

Yes I hear you... like you I tend to see if they will be what I’m looking for and if they are looking for what I want to give too,

But just occurred to me after I checked one ladies out... not something I do in general terms.

Chilled Irishman as back chilling

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Coming from a woman’s view...we do the same.

If I look at a guys profile and I check out who has verified him and they are all slim ladies I won’t message him cause I don’t think he will like me.

I tend to lean towards men with a little more meat on them but mainly cause I worry about crushing them!

My veris aren't visible - but my pics are, and show me with ladies of various sizes and shapes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to look at certain things - if I get past the pics (there are so many that I don't)

- age range (am i comfortably in it?)

- do we have similar interests?

- are there any preference giveaways in their profile?

- is their profile 'demanding'? (terminology and phrasing is everything)

- view forum posts to see if there are any clues there?

- updates, are there any clues there?

- veris are there any shown?

- are they webcam or meets?

- are they social or sexual?

I message very few people, but would say 80% of the time I hear back

Of that 80%, very few make it to the bedroom

Expectations are everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m probably one of few or very many...

Guys do you check out a woman’s verifications and just think you yourself... I’m not even going to bother messaging her... after seeing the guys she’s been with.

Ok fair enough as well, many guys might not even get that far down a profile before messaging... but those that do

To be honest, I don't get that far,as most of the people on here clearly don't want single guys,so I do not even wink at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I dont or rather didnt message that many people anyway because I would read her profile text, maybe check out the veris. But base whether I messaged or not, on if I thought after reading it that she and I may have enough in common to warrant messaging. Either I'd get a reply or I wouldnt. No harm done either way.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Doesn't bother me one bit

It's a swingers site!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I’m probably one of few or very many...

Guys do you check out a woman’s verifications and just think you yourself... I’m not even going to bother messaging her... after seeing the guys she’s been with.

Ok fair enough as well, many guys might not even get that far down a profile before messaging... but those that do

Erm , no

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m attracted to men of all different height and size. It’s their personality that gets me interested though.

Don’t ever be intimidated by someone on here. What’s the worst that can happen? They say no thanks. But at least you tried.

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