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"I embrace it WD. To have feelings for another person makes our friendship immensely connected. Its how you act on those feelings thats important "5hats a good way of looking at things | |||
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Its something we would like to explore when we finally do get to meet up and our hands on each other.. ah man he is just ace  | |||
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"Ive just decided to jump straight in there. We started messaging weeks ago and it just hit me. Never in a million years did i think id feel what i do for a man ive never actually met. We chat on the phone loads, message super frequently when not working etc. Ive mega feels, i feel amazing, i know he feels it too. Logical me say's ive been burnt before but im just rolling with it, for now i am loving it. I feel incredible, i've blossomed because of him. My latest pics are because he gives me this 'va va voom' He makes me feel invincible.. Proper smitten We even set up a couples profile on here.. (i can see you all frowning now).. Its on there we arent physically together and clearly there are no pictures of us jointly. He enjoys that men get turned on by my pictures and likes hearing what men wanna do to me and frankly it turns me on that he gets off on it. Twisted.. maybe
Its something we would like to explore when we finally do get to meet up and our hands on each other.. ah man he is just ace "This is so sweet
It reminds me of my online relationship with my husband before we met in person- about 2 years.
I have very very, VERY strong feelings for my FWB, whom I met on here but we’ve met in person several times over the last 18 months | |||
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If it does, no I don't.
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. "have you told that person? | |||
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"I’d have to have met someone and had unprotected sex with them to get feelings for someone. A condom forms a barrier to feelings but if they spunk inside me they inject with me feelings the same time. My advice would be don’t allow yourself to fall unless you are sure the person will catch you. I wouldn’t overload them with how you feel because it could make them feel overwhelmed but just communicate and see if you can gauge how the other person is feeling. Look for signs. Be realistic. " so your saying unless someone cums inside you you cant possibly have feelings for them? Not judging just asking x | |||
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"I am certainly in lust with a couple of people on here! I tell them. If it develops into meets, in time, great. But if not, we'll be friends & I'm fine with that. Won't allow myself to get proper feelings until I've met, and know that they feel the same. I'm like this I have strong feelings developing for someone but will hold back until an actual meet " | |||
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"Ive just decided to jump straight in there. We started messaging weeks ago and it just hit me. Never in a million years did i think id feel what i do for a man ive never actually met. We chat on the phone loads, message super frequently when not working etc. Ive mega feels, i feel amazing, i know he feels it too. Logical me say's ive been burnt before but im just rolling with it, for now i am loving it. I feel incredible, i've blossomed because of him. My latest pics are because he gives me this 'va va voom' He makes me feel invincible.. Proper smitten We even set up a couples profile on here.. (i can see you all frowning now).. Its on there we arent physically together and clearly there are no pictures of us jointly. He enjoys that men get turned on by my pictures and likes hearing what men wanna do to me and frankly it turns me on that he gets off on it. Twisted.. maybe
Its something we would like to explore when we finally do get to meet up and our hands on each other.. ah man he is just ace "Awww I'm so super happy for you
Having someone that can help you see how truely beautiful and amazing you are is a wonderful thing.
I also want to know the profile so I can perve any photos you don't have on yours | |||
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"Ive just decided to jump straight in there. We started messaging weeks ago and it just hit me. Never in a million years did i think id feel what i do for a man ive never actually met. We chat on the phone loads, message super frequently when not working etc. Ive mega feels, i feel amazing, i know he feels it too. Logical me say's ive been burnt before but im just rolling with it, for now i am loving it. I feel incredible, i've blossomed because of him. My latest pics are because he gives me this 'va va voom' He makes me feel invincible.. Proper smitten We even set up a couples profile on here.. (i can see you all frowning now).. Its on there we arent physically together and clearly there are no pictures of us jointly. He enjoys that men get turned on by my pictures and likes hearing what men wanna do to me and frankly it turns me on that he gets off on it. Twisted.. maybe
Its something we would like to explore when we finally do get to meet up and our hands on each other.. ah man he is just ace "Aww nice! Wish u all the luck xx | |||
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"Ive just decided to jump straight in there. We started messaging weeks ago and it just hit me. Never in a million years did i think id feel what i do for a man ive never actually met. We chat on the phone loads, message super frequently when not working etc. Ive mega feels, i feel amazing, i know he feels it too. Logical me say's ive been burnt before but im just rolling with it, for now i am loving it. I feel incredible, i've blossomed because of him. My latest pics are because he gives me this 'va va voom' He makes me feel invincible.. Proper smitten We even set up a couples profile on here.. (i can see you all frowning now).. Its on there we arent physically together and clearly there are no pictures of us jointly. He enjoys that men get turned on by my pictures and likes hearing what men wanna do to me and frankly it turns me on that he gets off on it. Twisted.. maybe
Its something we would like to explore when we finally do get to meet up and our hands on each other.. ah man he is just ace
Awww I'm so super happy for you
Having someone that can help you see how truely beautiful and amazing you are is a wonderful thing.
I also want to know the profile so I can perve any photos you don't have on yours "lol hun.. im still using my singles account as i cant get the couples one verified as we physically arent together to do the photo verification. Both verified on our singles profiles though. I cant use the forums on that profile or upload videos.. still those are site rules. | |||
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"I embrace it WD. To have feelings for another person makes our friendship immensely connected. Its how you act on those feelings thats important 5hats a good way of looking at things "I second this. | |||
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"I’d have to have met someone and had unprotected sex with them to get feelings for someone. A condom forms a barrier to feelings but if they spunk inside me they inject with me feelings the same time. My advice would be don’t allow yourself to fall unless you are sure the person will catch you. I wouldn’t overload them with how you feel because it could make them feel overwhelmed but just communicate and see if you can gauge how the other person is feeling. Look for signs. Be realistic. so your saying unless someone cums inside you you cant possibly have feelings for them? Not judging just asking x" I’m saying that I can be cool until I’ve slept with someone, once that’s happened it’s then I start to like them. | |||
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"Yeah I think you can although I’m quite quick to dismiss it. I think meeting someone online can be quite intense and it’s easy to move quicker than you normally would with feelings. You don’t get the easy breaking in gently that you do with dating. There’s a false sense of anonymity so people feel more comfortable opening up and floodlighting the other person with intimacy. I think this leads to a sense of connection that isn’t always there. You might find that meeting them in person could be very different to the idea you paint in your head. You might find that as you’ve both had time to think about replies, it was never a true reflection of chemistry and an actual conversation might not be able to flow as organically. " wise words jamie x | |||
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"I did for someone on here through lockdown we spoke everyday on kik! We were so on same wave length! We planned to meet in future when we could was going to meet half way as he was in coventry! He had a small heart attack in june couple weeks later he said to me I had those pains again I said did u go docs ? He said he would c how it goes! Few more weeks on we spoke on kik sat eve end july he was off on hols to devon next day! Then nothing he certainly not the sort to just stop talking without saying look I think we shd stop he was a gent! His acc is inactive still i fear he is dead but will never know for sure! But i really miss our chats! I still kik him on occasions mas I know but I just chat my news at him x"Aww this is quite sad and I totally understand it. I have some platonic friendships on Fab and one person I have chatted with for almost 8 years. In the past 12 months he has had 2 serious illnesses and I missed our catch up chats. I didn't know he had been so seriously ill until he was in recovery phase and could get in touch. It saddens me to think that I may never hear from him again as he has become a friend to me. Her x | |||
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"I did for someone on here through lockdown we spoke everyday on kik! We were so on same wave length! We planned to meet in future when we could was going to meet half way as he was in coventry! He had a small heart attack in june couple weeks later he said to me I had those pains again I said did u go docs ? He said he would c how it goes! Few more weeks on we spoke on kik sat eve end july he was off on hols to devon next day! Then nothing he certainly not the sort to just stop talking without saying look I think we shd stop he was a gent! His acc is inactive still i fear he is dead but will never know for sure! But i really miss our chats! I still kik him on occasions mas I know but I just chat my news at him x
Aww this is quite sad and I totally understand it. I have some platonic friendships on Fab and one person I have chatted with for almost 8 years. In the past 12 months he has had 2 serious illnesses and I missed our catch up chats. I didn't know he had been so seriously ill until he was in recovery phase and could get in touch. It saddens me to think that I may never hear from him again as he has become a friend to me.
Her x"Know what u mean ! Hugs x | |||
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"I did for someone on here through lockdown we spoke everyday on kik! We were so on same wave length! We planned to meet in future when we could was going to meet half way as he was in coventry! He had a small heart attack in june couple weeks later he said to me I had those pains again I said did u go docs ? He said he would c how it goes! Few more weeks on we spoke on kik sat eve end july he was off on hols to devon next day! Then nothing he certainly not the sort to just stop talking without saying look I think we shd stop he was a gent! His acc is inactive still i fear he is dead but will never know for sure! But i really miss our chats! I still kik him on occasions mas I know but I just chat my news at him x
Aww this is quite sad and I totally understand it. I have some platonic friendships on Fab and one person I have chatted with for almost 8 years. In the past 12 months he has had 2 serious illnesses and I missed our catch up chats. I didn't know he had been so seriously ill until he was in recovery phase and could get in touch. It saddens me to think that I may never hear from him again as he has become a friend to me.
Her x
Know what u mean ! Hugs x"Thanks and I am sending a cwtch to you too. Her x | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?"Yes... Yes i have  | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have "did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels?  | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels? "Yes! . Just need this lockdown to go away and I'm there, 100% | |||
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"You most certainly can. I did. Although it did feel like we had met in the flesh what with nightly video calls after work. I think that does add an extra depth because you CAN hear tone, not just perceive it. You CAN look into each others eyes, not just imagine in. However, there are many many cases worldwide where people are duped. Some make it their mission to snare others and take them for all of their life savings (very slowly over a long period of time). Family members warning them, begging them even not to continue with these "relationships" because they can sniff something isn't right, yet love is blind." So, so this!!! I know people who it's happened to. Until I'm at their house, in their bed, I wouldn't trust enough to have feelings. | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels?
Yes!. Just need this lockdown to go away and I'm there, 100% "Made up for you!! X | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels?
Yes!. Just need this lockdown to go away and I'm there, 100%
Made up for you!! X"so am I in realy hope it works out the person is very lucky | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels?
Yes!. Just need this lockdown to go away and I'm there, 100%
Made up for you!! X so am I in realy hope it works out the person is very lucky "They will!!! Now.. lesson to you all.. No fucking lamppost pissing, ya hear me??! hahahaaaa | |||
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"Yeah.... I've got the feel a for someone I've never met. I won't lie about it! Can't seem to get that initial "date" organised, but its "the feels" all the same! Fairly frustrating at times but it is what it is in this new world..... I will meet said man and I'll tell him face to face... And see what happens! Yes, I'm one of those that can have sex without a connection!.....sorry about that!!. have you told that person?
Yes... Yes i have did or she no judgement here lol reciprocate those feels?
Yes!. Just need this lockdown to go away and I'm there, 100%
Made up for you!! X so am I in realy hope it works out the person is very lucky
They will!!!
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No fucking lamppost pissing, ya hear me??! hahahaaaa "who does that lol | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x" be brave xxx | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x be brave xxx" I was it rung out!  x | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x" This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x be brave xxx I was it rung out! x"dont worry he might be driving xxx I hope it all works out for you xxx | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day?" Get what u mean but I would rather that he was still alive and kicking! I could take the latter ok x | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day?" Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Get what u mean but I would rather that he was still alive and kicking! I could take the latter ok x" Yeah understand that. It’s really sad, I do feel like he’s passed though and sending him messages on kik like you would to update him on things going on is really nice. | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse "I could take the rejection ok I would rather know! But ty know what u mean! But think I know allready deep down x | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
I could take the rejection ok I would rather know! But ty know what u mean! But think I know allready deep down x"so so sorry cx | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
I could take the rejection ok I would rather know! But ty know what u mean! But think I know allready deep down x so so sorry cx"Ty! But it was one last try! I knew straight away really I have this weird knowledge like that as I spoke to u about few weeks ago remember? I just sometimes know stuff! Not allways wanting to x | |||
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"Yes it's hard not to especially if you both click,I'd never say anything though unless he told me,or hinted that he liked me or whatever "you should tell him you never ever know what might happen xx | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
I could take the rejection ok I would rather know! But ty know what u mean! But think I know allready deep down x so so sorry cx
Ty! But it was one last try! I knew straight away really I have this weird knowledge like that as I spoke to u about few weeks ago remember? I just sometimes know stuff! Not allways wanting to x "yes I remember our chat lol | |||
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"Yes it's hard not to especially if you both click,I'd never say anything though unless he told me,or hinted that he liked me or whatever you should tell him you never ever know what might happen xx "Well maybe I should lol xx | |||
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"Yes it's hard not to especially if you both click,I'd never say anything though unless he told me,or hinted that he liked me or whatever you should tell him you never ever know what might happen xx
Well maybe I should lol xx"younhave nothing to lose x | |||
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"Yes it's hard not to especially if you both click,I'd never say anything though unless he told me,or hinted that he liked me or whatever you should tell him you never ever know what might happen xx
Well maybe I should lol xx"Go on what's to loose?? X | |||
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"I happily met lots of guys and no "feels" which was perfect as it was the last thing i wanted, i just wanted nsa sex. It was great fun although many guys i met wanted more from me so i stopped seeing them. Then i met g, i knew from our messages that he was special, our first meet was a quick social and it was love and lust at first sight. I doubted he wanted more than nsa but eventually we both admitted our feelings and have been together 13 years
We still swing occasionally, together and apart."It’s mad how this is so common but confirms what I’ve been reading. When you didn’t want the guys for anything more than sex they wanted more from you. Shows that when women don’t get giddy and full of emotions, guys actually want relationships with them. | |||
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"Does "feels" mean more than just like on a superficial level, I'm so out of touch with what these things mean ?
If it does, no I don't.
There are people I enjoy interacting with more than others though "I think the feels are what I’ve always called infatuation. I have felt infatuated with someone I only met once for a social. It was just infatuation though and it started a few weeks before we met physically and intensified afterwards. I made a tit of myself because of it. | |||
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"You most certainly can. I did. Although it did feel like we had met in the flesh what with nightly video calls after work. I think that does add an extra depth because you CAN hear tone, not just perceive it. You CAN look into each others eyes, not just imagine in. However, there are many many cases worldwide where people are duped. Some make it their mission to snare others and take them for all of their life savings (very slowly over a long period of time). Family members warning them, begging them even not to continue with these "relationships" because they can sniff something isn't right, yet love is blind. So, so this!!! I know people who it's happened to. Until I'm at their house, in their bed, I wouldn't trust enough to have feelings. " I think my trust button is busted now.....kinda. I don't trust my gullible button not to get activated. So.... although some can be trusted and others can't, it's mostly me I don't trust not to feed myself to another wolf, or be super suspicious of a perfectly decent human who doesn't deserve my suspicion or doubt. Hence me steering clear of people and being a one woman band. | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious "Absolutely not. It takes weeks into a 'proper' relationship for me to get deep 'feels'. | |||
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"I had the ‘feels’ for Becky on our first date. It was like a sledgehammer blow to the heart. We’ve talked about it since, we carried on as we were for a while, both still swinging, but the meets got longer and more often. Turns out she had feels as well. Living together happily now. "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww | |||
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"I had the ‘feels’ for Becky on our first date. It was like a sledgehammer blow to the heart. We’ve talked about it since, we carried on as we were for a while, both still swinging, but the meets got longer and more often. Turns out she had feels as well. Living together happily now. "Nice happy ending!  X | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious "Sounds abit stalker ish to me  | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious
Sounds abit stalker ish to me " every step you take every move you make ill be watching youn | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious
Sounds abit stalker ish to me every step you take every move you make ill be watching youn "You singing again gorgeous XX | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious
Sounds abit stalker ish to me every step you take every move you make ill be watching youn
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others...." Emotions are a bad thing. We are always being told not to feel this or that.  | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious
Sounds abit stalker ish to me every step you take every move you make ill be watching youn
You singing again gorgeous XX yep it's the effect you have on me "I didn't want have that effect on. I wanted more of a up rising effect | |||
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others...." | |||
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"So does anyone ever feel they couldnhe getting the feels for another user on here even if you have never met them??? How do you deal with it and do you tell the other person. Ps I'm not saying I am I'm just curious
Sounds abit stalker ish to me every step you take every move you make ill be watching youn
You singing again gorgeous XX yep it's the effect you have on me
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I’m not knocking anyone who it’s worked out for but I really struggle to understand how you can develop feelings for someone you’ve never met.
But then I’m a bit of an ice queen and don’t feel anything deep even towards those I’ve met. | |||
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others.... "You'd think that to be true, but what I think is the true failure is being vilified for feeling a certain way about something. When people open up about feelings of jealousy = you shouldn't be here, there's no place for it it swinging. Where's the "you might think you're jealous, but actually jealousy is an umbrella term that covers many aspects and feelings. What's more likely to be the case is insecurity, so don't give up, don't feel wrong or weak. Maybe some research or self reflection, plus focusing on the actual feelings you feel rather than what you think you feel will help you find the answers" How many times as a child were you upset, and instead of showing comfort or offering solutions, our parents told us to stop being stupid, or that they'd give us something to REALLY cry about if we didn't shut up crying? When we feel blue, we get told we SHOULD be happy that we have X or Y, or that things could have been worse and we need to get over it. Oh that's great, nice one, any idea how? Then they offer some stupid fucking advice like "best way to get over someone you need to get under someone else" Oh fuck off ya clueless div, that's deflection and projection, NOT dealing with things in a positive and healthy way. We spend our lives getting scorned for showing emotion. We turn into adults who suppress things, or lash out because we, in truth, haven't the foggiest how to deal with them in a healthy way. | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Get what u mean but I would rather that he was still alive and kicking! I could take the latter ok x Yeah understand that. It’s really sad, I do feel like he’s passed though and sending him messages on kik like you would to update him on things going on is really nice. "Yes it helps and ty x | |||
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others...." This Guy said it perfectly. Emotions and feelings will always be a part of it when you meet someone who instantly inspires them. That is what makes us Human. | |||
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others....
You'd think that to be true, but what I think is the true failure is being vilified for feeling a certain way about something. When people open up about feelings of jealousy = you shouldn't be here, there's no place for it it swinging.
Where's the "you might think you're jealous, but actually jealousy is an umbrella term that covers many aspects and feelings. What's more likely to be the case is insecurity, so don't give up, don't feel wrong or weak. Maybe some research or self reflection, plus focusing on the actual feelings you feel rather than what you think you feel will help you find the answers"
How many times as a child were you upset, and instead of showing comfort or offering solutions, our parents told us to stop being stupid, or that they'd give us something to REALLY cry about if we didn't shut up crying?
When we feel blue, we get told we SHOULD be happy that we have X or Y, or that things could have been worse and we need to get over it. Oh that's great, nice one, any idea how? Then they offer some stupid fucking advice like "best way to get over someone you need to get under someone else"
Oh fuck off ya clueless div, that's deflection and projection, NOT dealing with things in a positive and healthy way.
We spend our lives getting scorned for showing emotion.
We turn into adults who suppress things, or lash out because we, in truth, haven't the foggiest how to deal with them in a healthy way.
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others....
You'd think that to be true, but what I think is the true failure is being vilified for feeling a certain way about something. When people open up about feelings of jealousy = you shouldn't be here, there's no place for it it swinging.
Where's the "you might think you're jealous, but actually jealousy is an umbrella term that covers many aspects and feelings. What's more likely to be the case is insecurity, so don't give up, don't feel wrong or weak. Maybe some research or self reflection, plus focusing on the actual feelings you feel rather than what you think you feel will help you find the answers"
How many times as a child were you upset, and instead of showing comfort or offering solutions, our parents told us to stop being stupid, or that they'd give us something to REALLY cry about if we didn't shut up crying?
When we feel blue, we get told we SHOULD be happy that we have X or Y, or that things could have been worse and we need to get over it. Oh that's great, nice one, any idea how? Then they offer some stupid fucking advice like "best way to get over someone you need to get under someone else"
Oh fuck off ya clueless div, that's deflection and projection, NOT dealing with things in a positive and healthy way.
We spend our lives getting scorned for showing emotion.
We turn into adults who suppress things, or lash out because we, in truth, haven't the foggiest how to deal with them in a healthy way.
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others.... This Guy said it perfectly. Emotions and feelings will always be a part of it when you meet someone who instantly inspires them. That is what makes us Human. "I'm breaking into song again lol... I'm only human after all dont put the blame on me | |||
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"These type of threads always leave me a bit confused. We are human not robots. That means we come, usually, with the full set of human emotions in all their forms. When we ignore what is a normal part of our humanity don't we fail ourselves and others.... This Guy said it perfectly. Emotions and feelings will always be a part of it when you meet someone who instantly inspires them. That is what makes us Human. I'm breaking into song again lol... I'm only human after all dont put the blame on me "Well since you are I will break into song to... How about the classic "I'm only Human " By the Human League 
I'm only Human
Of flesh and blood I'm made
Human
Born to make mistakes ...
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse "Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here | |||
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"I fell for someone last year who I had only ever spoken with via messages and over the phone. There was just an instant connection between us both and she felt the same way too! We were both a little freaked out by this as we hadn't actually met but it felt nice. It ended up getting too much for her though and she disappeared for a while. I was devastated! She has very recently turned up again and we are chatting again but we both have our guards up this time.....me especially. "This is what I mean. Ive had it happen to me, so my guard is always up now. Until we meet, in the flesh & BOTH acknowledge it's more than sex, I will not allow string feelings to develop. Not worth the heartache | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here"And me! Didn't even know he was married. People can say anything on the interweb | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here
And me! Didn't even know he was married. People can say anything on the interweb "Yep. I knew mine was married but assured it was a technicality and they'd been separated for years. They weren't separated at all, and took last lockdown to expose it for what it was. | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here"Ha ha my kids said this! I feel I knew him well enough to know he wasent married! U know the signs of them being married I'd like to think at my age! But never say never x | |||
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"I got the feels for a fabber from just chatting in the chat rooms and messaging. Fortunately he caught them too! We’ve been living together for nearly 4 years and married 5 years" Aww that's nice congrats x | |||
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"I got the feels for a fabber from just chatting in the chat rooms and messaging. Fortunately he caught them too! We’ve been living together for nearly 4 years and married 5 years" So adorable.  | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here
And me! Didn't even know he was married. People can say anything on the interweb "Been there and earnt the tshirt. He broke me so I am far more cautious with the 'feels' now x | |||
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"I happily met lots of guys and no "feels" which was perfect as it was the last thing i wanted, i just wanted nsa sex. It was great fun although many guys i met wanted more from me so i stopped seeing them. Then i met g, i knew from our messages that he was special, our first meet was a quick social and it was love and lust at first sight. I doubted he wanted more than nsa but eventually we both admitted our feelings and have been together 13 years
We still swing occasionally, together and apart.
It’s mad how this is so common but confirms what I’ve been reading.
When you didn’t want the guys for anything more than sex they wanted more from you. Shows that when women don’t get giddy and full of emotions, guys actually want relationships with them.
"I think it's more to do with the fact that i enjoyed sex and wanted to do it more often than their wives lol also it was sex without all the hassles of a mortgage, kids, general everyday life. Most guys werent swingers (i am) they were happy getting sex, however they didnt like me meeting other guys and wanted me to be with them. | |||
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"I happily met lots of guys and no "feels" which was perfect as it was the last thing i wanted, i just wanted nsa sex. It was great fun although many guys i met wanted more from me so i stopped seeing them. Then i met g, i knew from our messages that he was special, our first meet was a quick social and it was love and lust at first sight. I doubted he wanted more than nsa but eventually we both admitted our feelings and have been together 13 years
We still swing occasionally, together and apart.
It’s mad how this is so common but confirms what I’ve been reading.
When you didn’t want the guys for anything more than sex they wanted more from you. Shows that when women don’t get giddy and full of emotions, guys actually want relationships with them.
"I do agree though that because there was no pressure from me for a relationship of any kind then they probably felt i was an easy person to live with and who had an active sex life and they wanted me for that lol | |||
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"Omg! Someone pm me and made a suggestion dont know why I didnt think of this I have found his phone number I just need the courage to ring it x This is like Schrödinger's cat. What would serve you better, him being passed away (I know this is extreme) but knowing that your time spent chatting was lovely or finding out he is alive and well living his best life just decided to stop speaking to you one day? Yes. I think I'd leave it. Could end up worse
Maybe his wife found out. These things happen. Happened to me on here
And me! Didn't even know he was married. People can say anything on the interweb
Yep.
I knew mine was married but assured it was a technicality and they'd been separated for years. They weren't separated at all, and took last lockdown to expose it for what it was."Yes, I think I remember you posted something about it. Some people are gearless bastards! Xx | |||
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"I got the feels for a fabber from just chatting in the chat rooms and messaging. Fortunately he caught them too! We’ve been living together for nearly 4 years and married 5 years" Doh fat fingers! Living together 6 years | |||
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