FabSwingers.com forum: Best 1st messages to a woman

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any one else have the trouble you message woman on hear but because they get 1000s of messages you don't get a look in ..or because men are creepy on hear they put you in that category and you never get a reply ..u got to message 50 woman (same people on hear) to get a reply of 1 that don't go no where ...so the question is what's the best 1st message that half ups your chances of getting a reply lol some don't even check your profile...

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

A profile pic would help, with that much choice im sure 99% of the ladies on here wouldn't be arsed to check a blank profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look it from the other side, your busy, have just ten mins to check and answer messages, buy youve got 60 to look at, guess which ones go straight in the bin?

its your first contact, make it count, you may not get another chance

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I find putting words into a sentence really helps

When you send a message, especially to a single woman, as they get so many, there’s (potentially) four things that they’ll take into account.

1) Your message - Is it interesting, is it different from the usual messages they receive. Does it show that you’ve read their profile.

2) Your pics - Are they interesting, do they reflect you, how much effort have you made, are they full of cock pics.

3) Your profile - do you say what you are after, what you can offer. Does it give an indication of your personality. Is it full of spelling mistakes, or abbreviations...so they feel they are on the same wavelength as you.

4) Green arrow - do your views reflect their views. Do they resonate with the things you say or are some things crass.

It’s like a house of cards, especially for the first 3....fail on 1 and it’ll come tumbling down, so you’ll likely receive no reply or you are reducing the likelihood of a reply.

Have the first 3, you’ll probably get a reply.

They like the first 3, you’ve got your foot in the door...they may then look at 4.

You are messaging someone who receives hundreds of messages a day...hundreds! So you have to give yourself the best opportunity that you stand out and be noticed. So don’t moan about not receiving a reply if you aren’t making an effort in the above areas.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Your guessed reasons that you don't get a response OP won't be the full story.

Everyone looks at the profile of the sender, typically before reading the message. If the person doesn't seem to match them, they'll move on. It's thus the profile and message contents that help us to filter out the unsuitable. See all the posts on having a suitable profile and contents.

Secondly, people haven't been meeting for months due to the pandemic. If you're asking to meet now, that would put you into the unsuitable category.

First message contents need to reflect you. If they're overly sexual, it will deter many. Added dick pics deter many too.

If a guy messages and introduces himself, includes why he's messaged and has interest in me - so it's not a copy and paste job - and includes pics that let me see fully how he looks, I'll be able to determine if he's got compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love it good advice people thanks might start getting me some haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, if find that just saying Hi never works lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Any one else have the trouble you message woman on hear but because they get 1000s of messages you don't get a look in ..or because men are creepy on hear they put you in that category and you never get a reply ..u got to message 50 woman (same people on hear) to get a reply of 1 that don't go no where ...so the question is what's the best 1st message that half ups your chances of getting a reply lol some don't even check your profile..."

One size does not fit all!

Most people check the profile before reading the message to see if there's compatibility. If there's no picture, scant information, text speak etc: turn off and message deleted.

No one has the will or inclination to pull teeth for a casual fuck. Instead of asking how to get a reply to a message, start by producing a profile women WANT to respond to. There are thousands, fit as fuck men with full profiles: as it stands your chances of a reply are slim to none!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Consistency is the key word to not only getting a reply but maintaining a conversation.

You can have all the pics you want and an excellent bio but if those don't reflect your true personality you will be found out very quickly.

Some guys love to be "all things to all men" and their messages are full of flattery and telling the woman what they think she wants to hear.

The problem with that is they can't maintain the charade.

Be consistent from the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Consistency is the key word to not only getting a reply but maintaining a conversation.

You can have all the pics you want and an excellent bio but if those don't reflect your true personality you will be found out very quickly.

Some guys love to be "all things to all men" and their messages are full of flattery and telling the woman what they think she wants to hear.

The problem with that is they can't maintain the charade.

Be consistent from the start."

This

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

My first sentence to a lady is normally ‘thank you for taking the time to contact me’.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Just scour the internet looking for the biggest... juiciest dick pic known to man!

and send that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find putting words into a sentence really helps

When you send a message, especially to a single woman, as they get so many, there’s (potentially) four things that they’ll take into account.

1) Your message - Is it interesting, is it different from the usual messages they receive. Does it show that you’ve read their profile.

2) Your pics - Are they interesting, do they reflect you, how much effort have you made, are they full of cock pics.

4) Green arrow - do your views reflect their views. Do they resonate with the things you say or are some things crass.

It’s like a house of cards, especially for the first 3....fail on 1 and it’ll come tumbling down, so you’ll likely receive no reply or you are reducing the likelihood of a reply.

Have the first 3, you’ll probably get a reply.

They like the first 3, you’ve got your foot in the door...they may then look at 4.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always start with 'i just wanked over your picture' or 'I'm going to ruin you'. Both are widely accepted by ladies and couples as standard 'Hi' and are always well received.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I always start with 'i just wanked over your picture' or 'I'm going to ruin you'. Both are widely accepted by ladies and couples as standard 'Hi' and are always well received.

He sends this ^^ to men as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love it good advice people thanks might start getting me some haha "

Some what?

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By *hilinWoman
over a year ago

north

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not gonna get anywhere without a picture.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

I always find a nice polite message with face pics just to say hi works a lot better then wading in with cock pics and fantasies of what you want to do to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always find a nice polite message with face pics just to say hi works a lot better then wading in with cock pics and fantasies of what you want to do to them

What was my opening message?

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By *onglegs888Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Slightly diff angle .... dint bother.

Like a few have said, wading through an inbox of nonsense and fakes becomes tiresome so quite a few ladies and couples just don’t bother. Our personal stance is we know what we want (particularly in renationalise to guys) so we do the looking as it’s in our terms. So with that in mind our advice is make your profile the best it can be. Pictures that grab attention (not graphic), a good bio and good verifications. Come across as a normal, decent human being first and foremost... then if the looker likes what they see let them message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't make any difference how good your first message is. Many Females will only remain interested if you can keep them chatting.

Certainly don't message them if clearly you're not what they're looking for.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"I always find a nice polite message with face pics just to say hi works a lot better then wading in with cock pics and fantasies of what you want to do to them

What was my opening message?"

You beat me to the first message by requesting me to sit on your face

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