FabSwingers.com forum: Waning mojo

By *wistedbambi69 OP Woman
over a year ago

Somerset

I know a lot of people are in the same boat as me, with the way things are at the moment, but I can feel my mojo slipping away.

I don't know if it's just lockdown, or whether the assholes who have messed me around in the past have played a part in it...all the timewasters and liars I've stupidly been attracted to.

I am struggling to feel any kind of initial attraction to people, people that I would have done a year or so ago. I'm not talking just physical attraction, as this is usually secondary for me, I mean that spark when you first start to message someone new.

Is anyone else feeling like this, or maybe felt like this previously? Do you have any tips on how you managed to pull yourself out of your funk and kick start your mojo back into action?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I can't give any pointers I'm afraid.

I'm hoping time and healing is the answer.

I do know for me I don't want to feel vulnerable, or leave myself vulnerable so I think my mind is definitely impacting my mojo gland and putting the blockers on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looking at your pics has done it for me

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

I feel the same. As a single male on this site I am used to get less attention and response, Corona and lockdown reduced it to a minimum.

At the same time that forced isolation has the side effect that I am desperate for a human contact and gentle touch at the same time there is the hidden fear of getting infected.

I hope that the vaccine is getting available soon, so at least the fear of infection is being addressed and we can return to normal life.

Then I have to address my natural shyness, get rid of the pandemic pounds and get my Mojo working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a lot of people are in the same boat as me, with the way things are at the moment, but I can feel my mojo slipping away.

I don't know if it's just lockdown, or whether the assholes who have messed me around in the past have played a part in it...all the timewasters and liars I've stupidly been attracted to.

Is anyone else feeling like this, or maybe felt like this previously? Do you have any tips on how you managed to pull yourself out of your funk and kick start your mojo back into action? "

I feel these frustration sometimes. I've learned to take a day or two or three to just recharge.

Get enough sleep, eat healthy, exercise.

I think you can figure out what your body needs. Let us know if you figure it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have lost their spark. So when 2 people chat there's no spark because they both deep down feel a bit crap with 2020.

Why not enjoy some 'me' time for the rest of this year. Take all the emphasis off looking for a connection until next year when things should be brighter.

The collective joy at being 'free' again should set off some sparks I think.

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

And to quote Muddy Waters

Got my mojo working but it just won't work on you

I want to love you so bad I don't know what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when you feel like that you just need to step away from everything and give yourself time without pressure

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By *eavertrackerMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater

I deff still have my mojo...and I am still full of gusto and umph

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Hey, S here. We've not been on fab for long but I'm finding that I'm feeling quite similar at the moment. I don't know what the answer is though. I'm hoping once covid/lockdown eases I'll feel a bit more in control of life in general which will help.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I think a lot of people get a “dip” in autumn/winter time. But this site does seem to be exceptionally difficult to make friends on, and that can also amplify the feeling that your mojo is slipping away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of people get a “dip” in autumn/winter time. But this site does seem to be exceptionally difficult to make friends on, and that can also amplify the feeling that your mojo is slipping away."

Good point about winter too. It's nearly dark here at the garden centre already.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I know a lot of people are in the same boat as me, with the way things are at the moment, but I can feel my mojo slipping away.

I don't know if it's just lockdown, or whether the assholes who have messed me around in the past have played a part in it...all the timewasters and liars I've stupidly been attracted to.

Is anyone else feeling like this, or maybe felt like this previously? Do you have any tips on how you managed to pull yourself out of your funk and kick start your mojo back into action? "

This year my mojo has definitely slid down to the "Not Interested" end of the slide...

I'm normally so horny.. I could have sex so many times a day. I would get so horny just thinking of the slightest thing..

Just not as bothered right now. I'm actually missing my FB hugs more than anything which surprises me because he's absolutely FAF. I saw him this am when he came to fix the garden plug socket & I cried when he left as we couldn't have a cuddle :!

What's all that about!!

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By *wistedbambi69 OP Woman
over a year ago

Somerset

There has been some good advice already and I think what Outsider says is true...it's difficult to find a spark between you, when neither of you have one of your own.

Let's hope things start to look up in the new year and everyone finds their mojo again, me included.

I hope this thread can help people in some way, with either tips for self care or just knowing they aren't alone in feeling this way

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By *un KnightsCouple
over a year ago

South West

It is only natural after the year we have had to not feel the way you would normally expect to.

Not only are we facing uncertainty in work and family life but we are bombarded by the news and it's repetitive negativity on all subjects.

For those who suffer SAD the shorter darker days do not help.

We have tended to reduce the interaction with those prone to looking on the dark side as they will drag you down. Turn the news off and read a book, listen to music or watch a film.

Chat to those who can lift your spirits and mood and remember good times. They will return as we are an adaptable species.

You can always go out on a bike ride, just make sure its got an engine and not pedals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Resonates definitely, not so much now but earlier this year.

I think it can also be quite hard on here when it takes a while to get to know anybody on here at times, let alone during a pandemic.

But rest assured, we will get through this! And none of us are alone - we should reach out to each other more as well!

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