FabSwingers.com forum: Attention

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most of us like attention in some shape or form, but what kind do you seek?

Drama - Where there is always something dramatic and you are at the center of it

Physical - Are you a touchy feely person who loves to snuggle and hold hands

Social - Are you the life and soul of the party? Do you like all eyes on you? The type that was the class clown at school

Media - You like Likes/retweets/fabs and to feel popular on media platforms

Constant - The kind that ALWAYS needs everything, the type that message incessantly, post millions of threads on here a day, beg for fabs, needs to be talking to someone at all times, can't bare to be alone for a second

Positive - The praise from friends and family for doing a good deed, like helping the homeless, or loves to win at things and get praise at how awesome they are

For me, I am a cross between media and physical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell me you fancy me and would like pumped!

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Socially physical for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical, for a short while then leave me the fuck alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just tell me you fancy me and would like pumped!

On that note, I will add another:

Sexual - You need to feel desired sexually and love all sexual attention, the flirting and the compliments keep you going from day to day

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

A cross between social and positive. I like making people laugh and raising the mood. I also like being praised on a job well done when I do that successfully, I t’s like crack to me

I’m a middle child so I imagine that plays a big part in this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive physical for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just tell me you fancy me and would like pumped!

On that note, I will add another:

Sexual - You need to feel desired sexually and love all sexual attention, the flirting and the compliments keep you going from day to day"

I was kidding but I'm all for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical,I'm a hopeless romantic?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm not much of a social media person. I have facefuck but rarely use it and mainly pop on to look at my memories from years ago.

Touchy feely.... depends who's there. I have work peeps I'm cuddly with and friends who's hands I'll hold.

I work better with positive reinforcement than criticism, however that positive reinforcement has to feel genuine, and I also need to feel myself that I've done a good job or I won't believe it.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Atm im happy with social, but my favourite is physical - i don't just mean sex - i mean the interaction and platonic friendships, like meeting in the pub, going to conventions, fundraisers.

I miss dressing up and making people smile.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Physical all day long

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Social 1000% but I don’t feel I’m an ‘all eyes on me’ person. I like all the group I’m with to be having a good time and take my pleasure from other people’s pleasure.

I also have a massive fear of missing out x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not much of a social media person. I have facefuck but rarely use it and mainly pop on to look at my memories from years ago.

Touchy feely.... depends who's there. I have work peeps I'm cuddly with and friends who's hands I'll hold.

I work better with positive reinforcement than criticism, however that positive reinforcement has to feel genuine, and I also need to feel myself that I've done a good job or I won't believe it.

You just need someone to appreciate you and a good snugglefuck.

Il be over as soon as allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going by your definitions I don't feel as though I fit in any of the categories.

If I post a thread and it gets comments then I like that but if it doesn't then so be it. But I don't feel the need to be popular. And I'm not on any other social media platform.

To get sexual attention is nice but it's not my be all and end all.

To get praise for something 'good' I've done is nice but I don't think 'how awesome am I?'.

I probably fall somewhere in the media/positive/sexual categories to a small degree.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'm not much of a social media person. I have facefuck but rarely use it and mainly pop on to look at my memories from years ago.

Touchy feely.... depends who's there. I have work peeps I'm cuddly with and friends who's hands I'll hold.

I work better with positive reinforcement than criticism, however that positive reinforcement has to feel genuine, and I also need to feel myself that I've done a good job or I won't believe it.

You just need someone to appreciate you and a good snugglefuck.

Il be over as soon as allowed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I rarely demand attention but I do like to be noticed by the people who are important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any would be nice

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

I would have said constant. But I change a lot. Over analyse most situations so I try and remain out of the attention. I was the class clown up till I was about 19 then I became slightly introvert.

Unless I’m with my group/family/certain colleagues. Then the class clown comes out. Such a quiet person in public until I’m either d*unk or comfortable with the surrounding people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to feel valued and appreciated for the things that matter to me. I don’t like to be taken fore-granted. Apart from that I don’t mind being relatively anonymous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care for drama or social media.

If I had a partner, I probably wouldn't even be on here.

I need intimacy, conversation and sex on a daily basis.

I want to give affection, kisses and massages and much more.

I'm going to say I'm Physical and Sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical.

Like holding hands walking talking.

All the good stuff. And browsing shops when they open

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m an only child so used to being queen bee.

But also hail from a single parent family with a physically abusive dad, so I’ve probably got a whole host of attention seeking qualities and abandonment issues but couldn’t give you specifics.

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

Oh and... aren’t all men Positive.

Once we’ve done a job at home, a simple pay on the back and we’re like a little dog off to sit in the corner with a massive grin and self satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical. That's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say positive. I love compliments for doing things right and even though it may seem small to the giver it means loads to me.

Unfortunately, it can leave me open to being taken advantage of because people think I can do anything for fear of not letting people down which I'm working hard to try and see through...

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

"I’m an only child so used to being queen bee.

But also hail from a single parent family with a physically abusive dad, so I’ve probably got a whole host of attention seeking qualities and abandonment issues but couldn’t give you specifics.

Sorry to hear. I know exactly home you feel.

Kinda attention seeking. But ready to cut people out at the drop of a hat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and... aren’t all men Positive.

Once we’ve done a job at home, a simple pay on the back and we’re like a little dog off to sit in the corner with a massive grin and self satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical and sexual for me

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You got my attention ivy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical and sexual

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By *ewsub4dommeMan
over a year ago

thirsk

Physical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A needy media type, I would say physical too but it's been a long time since I had that part in my life so these days it's not on my list anymore

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I would guess i straddle a few of these as I adore physical attention and not purely of the sexual kind either.

If I can snuggle up with someone I care for then I always will, I love holding hands and generally im touchy feely.

Sexually im a giver so a little pat on the back or a 'well done' really makes me feel good

Yeah when I post a pic it does feel good to get fabs on it from some quarters, mostly from people I know or admire in some way of my own too. Random bollocks is just people trying to get in my kickers, well there is only one penis getting in my knickers and thats mine

One thing I wont ever do is go out of my way to attention seek as it's purey desperate vanity, I dont ever do this and find it off-putting and desperate in others when it's overdone and constant there in your face.....bleurgh!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sexual, physical, intellectual, social. I'm going to try and describe the latter in the best possible way. I don't like people commenting on my posts because I want to be popular, I like it when they do because it can be a reinforcement for me being witty. I like people giving me positive compliments about what I've said, my knowledge etc. All of the aforementioned isn't something I need hourly or even daily but it's nice to recognised/feel attractive from those I like/admire/want to have all sorts of physical interactions with.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

*aren't not isn't. Edit one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any would be nice "

I see you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just here for the reply and quotes.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Class clown,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just here for the reply and quotes."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical and sexual. Unfortunately I always need reassurance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m just here for the reply and quotes.

This

Here you go

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Just physical for me

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Physical, social and positive for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical and social definitely.

Love having a cwtch and being close to someone.

Social, in school I was hilarious and always making people laugh, in parties and friends houses I’ll be up dancing or laughing my head off in a corner with people around me. I can be sitting outside having a puff on my vape people follow me, at the buffet looking for a pasty or some food that he sent been touched and people follow me. Having a dance on my own and people join me so very social in that respect.

I don’t post much on my Facebook or insta. I’d say this site is the only social media type thing I’m very active on.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Mainly physical, with a smidge of social in there

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I don't like attention i like atraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to hear I've made someone smile or lifted their mood

That feels good

As for myself, I tend to run a mile from attention of any type and prefer to blend in than stand out

I'd go as far to say I am not comfortable with attention, physical or social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above. They all provide different types of gratifications. Any attention is positive (providing its not negative lol!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive and Physical

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like physical affection but it many other way, too much attention gives me anxiety.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Searing lust & desire!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Sexual - You need to feel desired sexually and love all sexual attention, the flirting and the compliments keep you going from day to day"

This one. Nothing else even touches the sides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sple did mix of social and physical . I enjoy socials getting to know some one and having a jolly chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive, 100% I live for praise from those I care about.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Physical and social I suppose.

I don't feel the need to be the centre of attention though, and am not fazed by the fact that I tend to stand out.

I'm not keen on labelling people in this kind of way to be honest... we are individuals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Physical and social I suppose.

I don't feel the need to be the centre of attention though, and am not fazed by the fact that I tend to stand out.

I'm not keen on labelling people in this kind of way to be honest... we are individuals."

It was just a bit of fun

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

" I rarely demand attention but I do like to be noticed by the people who are important to me.

This really. I’m very affectionate - and sexual with someone I’m attracted to - and that’s been the worst part of lockdown for me - that and missing friends desperately - particularly those far away. At one time I enjoyed getting a lot of attention on fab/hot photos but grew bored with it.

So I guess I’m a mixture of social, affection and sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I rarely demand attention but I do like to be noticed by the people who are important to me.

So I guess I’m a mixture of social, affection and sexual. "

Sorry to hijack but I really really appreciate what you posted earlier. Was lovely peach thank you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't court being the centre of attention in any regard, in fact it makes me feel positively awkward - however I do enjoy and crave the intimacy of physical attention, those little things like holding hands, or subconscious touches, or that kiss "just because", things like that

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