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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very sorry to hear that. Have you thought about seeking professional help?

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

Stay strong brother. Seek help, from friends, family or professionals.

I find that talking helps a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this mate. Have you any friends to speak to? Worth speaking to your GP to be referred to the most appropriate service. The current climate places added pressure on our MH so it’s important to take one day at a time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this "

Ohhhh OP I'm sorry really sorry to hear this you come across as a very lovely thoughtful guy. Have you spoken to a professional about how you are feeling? My inbox is open if you wanna talk xx

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this "

Sorry you are feeling like this OP but please reach out to anyone who will listen, definitely see your GP if you haven’t already. Don’t be afraid to let your friends know how you are feeling, it’s the only way they will know and be able to help. I am sure you have plenty of people to chat with on here but if you need to chat feel free to message us.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sorry to hear OP.

If you need a listening ear try the Samaritans, you don't have to

be suicidal, you can speak to them when you need to vent.

The MIND website is very straightforward in terms of support and signposting also.

As others have said you could try your doctor.

If you can identify your triggers (ie maybe your parents today?)then that can be helpful as you know what to avoid (or address.)

It sounds like a cliche but its ok not to be ok.

And admitting you've got a problem is a brave thing, and the first step to addressing it.

Hug of support to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is always someone who will listen to you. Don't feel alone, try and talk to someone. Better help is good, you can call or text if it's easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear your struggling. What I've learnt about mental health is you never really fully recover, even though when things get better it feels like you have. It will always resurface again at some point and it will test you, especially in times we are living in now. You have to notice the triggers when they arise and just take it one day at a time to start to feel better again. Keep active, do mindfulness and most importantly talk to people. Don't suffer alone and just remember your stronger than you think you are. Hope you feel better soon x

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By *akbearMan
over a year ago

Newbury

Sorry to hear that OP.

Whilst we are all good at listening, please seek professional help.

Similar to the police, if cases aren't recorded funding isn't allocated and mental health support is made by underfunded and misunderstood as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this "

What is it about seeing your parents that has been the trigger?

What is it that you can't take much more of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind have a furom where people chat about their problems and support each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get on to your GP. It's never too early to start dealing with something like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire your honesty and openness OP. You've actually made the first step by admitting and disclosing how you feel.

This is a trying time for most, so hopefully you'll find comfort in knowing you're not the only one. Tell one trust worthy good friend and also tell them you're gonna need them now. Get out for that power walk etc... Nature is fabulous this time of year. A little advise also ... Do not resort to alcohol to escape...it will only make you worse...while you'll feel happy for the short term while being intoxicated...the come down is treble.

Best Of Luck OP, and don't forget to get your natural adrenalin buzz from outdoor exercise and also Google anti depressant foods, I'd avoid synthetic prescribed drugs if at all possible. I'm not an advocate of such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this "

Feel free to PM as I know what you are going through as I have bipolar.

If your parents are the alarm bells that have triggered this latest episode then step back from seeing them.

I know that sounds so harsh but you have to keep on getting better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang in there. I won't patronise. It's hard and often people put distance between you and them. Alot of people to pretend to care, but furtively actively avoid you like a typhoid Mary.

I'm on a huge downer too right now. All I know is that having a personal support network around you is key, many hands make light work and all that. What I have found is that coronavirus has shut people off and shut people out. Through fear mostly...which brings on anxiety. That helps no-one. These lockdowns are not helping. What I would give for some companionship. Social contact is important and if you live alone times are tough.

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By *roggrt1919Man
over a year ago

Barnsley


"Comes with a conclusion that my mental health is just getting worse every single day last year I thought to myself that I have cracked it and that thing is now can be a lot better in my life if that after going to see the parents today just making me realise I don't know how much more I can take of this "

Know the feeling going though rough time too if you ever want to chat. I'm here as are alot of people. Just remember there's always a way forward not always easy to see but there is one.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Get on to your GP. It's never too early to start dealing with something like this. "

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m never sure what to put on threads like this, but I didn’t want to read and run when you’re feeling down OP.

I hope there is someone you can chat to, and if you don’t have someone close, then please reach out to one of the mental health charities.

And please remember, you might feel awful and it might feel too much, but you have got past it once and you can do so again. Keep on keeping on x

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

You're certainly not alone in this thinking and by putting it out on here you've done something about it. It's difficult for us all but there's a lot to be grateful for and much to live for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Last year I was diagnosed with depression I had around about 16 to 17 weeks off from work and I really thought I got over it and try to look positive but what happened to my mate son a couple of weeks ago how he ended his life Reasons Unknown I just cannot see myself going forward I can't have any more time off from work otherwise I'll get sacked and it's like all I seem to do and this is even before the pandemic is literally work eat Sleep work repeat I've had this weekend off Saturday Sunday off from work and I in my head was like I've got a do stuff around the flat got to get rid of a lot of stuff and I couldn't even do it because all I've done is literally sleep sleep sleep

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

So sorry to read you're struggling. Maybe you need to have a chat with your GP.

Life can be a real struggle, just keep on moving forwards, a day at a time, an hour at a time when you are at your lowest. You can get better and there can be a brighter future for you. Please do talk to friends, family and professionals. Talking helps.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Take each day at a time. Don’t dwell on what needs to be done. Maybe write a list of things you need to do and tick them off as you do them so it’s not on your mind, but you have a visual reminder and can see your progress. Put it somewhere where it’s not glaring at you, but you can see it when you need to. Might feel less overwhelming.

There is nothing wrong with sleeping if you need to sleep, but try to do some personal care stuff. It feels like a chore but you feel better afterwards and it might help. A soak in a bubble bath listening to some music. Watch some favourite tv/films. Eat some veg and fruit, a bit of exercise, even if just a silly dance around your living room.

Are there specific things worrying you? Write them down in a journal - that way they aren’t bottled up, and reading it back in the future will act as a reminder of how you have felt and how you overcame. Like a mental pep talk sort of thing.

If your friends son’s death is playing on your mind then maybe look at some grief counselling vids online. Or maybe ring the Samaritans and chat to a trained counsellor.

Have you been in touch with GP? Are you on medication already? If so you might need to chat about dosage etc.

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