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Women, how low is the bar on here in regards to the standard of men who message ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!"

That is providing you have a profile that is visible for people to see OP!

If you keep it hidden like you have, how could you ever expect anything to come from it?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!

That is providing you have a profile that is visible for people to see OP!

If you keep it hidden like you have, how could you ever expect anything to come from it?

"

Yeah OP! No one will reply to all your thirsty messages with a hidden profile. Geez.

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By *k_guyMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I would say around 50% reply to my messages. I am always polite, and will always accept a rejection politely too. No point in being rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!

That is providing you have a profile that is visible for people to see OP!

If you keep it hidden like you have, how could you ever expect anything to come from it?

"

I’m not here to meet, but I still get messages when I’m hidden, it’s more a general observation about the lack of effort put into profiles on here. I’m always baffled how minimum effort is put in but maximum results are expected, but when they don’t get anywhere these men are baffled to why this is happening, it’s like have you actually looked at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!

That is providing you have a profile that is visible for people to see OP!

If you keep it hidden like you have, how could you ever expect anything to come from it?

Yeah OP! No one will reply to all your thirsty messages with a hidden profile. Geez. "

Totally and who can blame them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A very high percentage of men can manage it op.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is, there *is* no magic formula nor are there any guarantees - it doesn't come down to a specific profile, pics or message style - for any user (regardless of gender/category) it's about finding "their" specific approach to the site that works for them.

For many men though, they spend so much time trying to adopt a "one size fits all" approach and failing (because it doesn't work), and lose sight of finding what works for them.

IMHO, the five key things to Fab are:

Profile

Pics

Approach

Attitude

Expectations

Get them right and the site, experience and perception of it are positive. Get them wrong and it's the opposite - the key though is finding the ones that work for you as an individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!"

You're basically correct OP, and profile like the one you've described there would but you in the top 10-20% immediately.

I get 100+ messages a day. At least half are no/crap/dick pics, incomplete profile, and a stupid first message along the lines of "hi bbe wnta fuk tonight". Those are instant deletes! Then probably 20 that have written something passable but not great and have a semi complete profile with bad pics. Those might get a polite "no thanks" or a delete depending on the day. Another 20 are guys that just aren't my type and get the polite no thanks. And 5-10 I might reply to.

So I'd say 3/4 trash, some "alright" and probably only 1/10 decent. So the bars pretty low...

Xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Not sure I count as a woman anymore but my standards remain very high. I'm not taken in by a pick of someone's stomach or bell end or by any type of profile what so ever.......

Sucker for a nice smile, twinkly eyes, sense of humour and self respecting men tho ........ ooops.... think I felt a flutter then.

Any of those around ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

pic....... oh FUCK I was so concentrating on my clit I wrote the wrong word ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure I count as a woman anymore but my standards remain very high. I'm not taken in by a pick of someone's stomach or bell end or by any type of profile what so ever.......

Sucker for a nice smile, twinkly eyes, sense of humour and self respecting men tho ........ ooops.... think I felt a flutter then.

Any of those around ?"

I'm a total sucker for those twinkly eyes and a wonderful sense of humor. Those get me everytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of humour and banter goes long way and as long as you dont start the message with tada heres my dick, your winning

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You see it late at night (I work 6-2am) endless status saying something like ‘I’m leaving all the women on here are stuck up / ignorant etc..’ you have a look at their profiles and in some cases literally no photos or text.

In other cases you’ll see some effort but it will be a picture of their chest or different body part with text you see on a hundred other profiles.

This site wouldn’t be worth visiting without the Men, but the few who get the site, as perfectly summed up by Gemini Man, do well on here as their verifications back them up.

The majority of my verifications come from outside of the site, actually going out and meeting people at clubs. Admittedly that’s difficult these days but not impossible

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!"

I'm not bothered how others do their fab thing.

I concentrate on my efforts, I find that the best use of my time and energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon about 20% reply and about 50% dont even open them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My feelings is that basically you just need to be able to string a coherent sentence together, take a few half decent photos and write a passable bio and you are good to go, but a lot of men can’t manage that, am I right or am I right ?!

You're basically correct OP, and profile like the one you've described there would but you in the top 10-20% immediately.

I get 100+ messages a day. At least half are no/crap/dick pics, incomplete profile, and a stupid first message along the lines of "hi bbe wnta fuk tonight". Those are instant deletes! Then probably 20 that have written something passable but not great and have a semi complete profile with bad pics. Those might get a polite "no thanks" or a delete depending on the day. Another 20 are guys that just aren't my type and get the polite no thanks. And 5-10 I might reply to.

So I'd say 3/4 trash, some "alright" and probably only 1/10 decent. So the bars pretty low...

Xx"

I best send you a message then

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

I suppose it is the expectation of the first message... if it’s to just say how beautiful they look, say it if you mean it and don’t worry if they reply or not. If it’s to try and start a long term dialogue then put you personality in a message (hard sometimes) and have a profile that intrigues. If they like your first message o am sure the next thing they do is look at your profile... if they like that too I am sure they’ll reply. This place is like a virtual nightclub from the 80/90’s... some ignore you, some are friendly and not interested, some want something to develop long term and some want a knee trembler while waiting for a taxi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get roughly the same amount of interest when I hide my profile and have a silhouette picture as when I have pictures and profile text. It really makes little difference for me. They are probably more intrigued when the silhouette pic is there and my profile is hidden. Once the pics and the text are there they know they aren’t interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit of humour and banter goes long way and as long as you dont start the message with tada heres my dick, your winning "

Tada!! (cock)

*knickers fall off*

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've never had a problem with replies so clearly i've been doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s no correlation between someone who writes an informative profile to being someone engaging and funny in the flesh.

Well, that’s my opinion anyway.

I’ve met guys who’s profiles were very short but in real life they were very funny and chatty and others who’s profiles gave the impression they would be interesting to meet but in the flesh they were dull as ditch water.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit of humour and banter goes long way and as long as you dont start the message with tada heres my dick, your winning

Tada!! (cock)

*knickers fall off*

"

Hahaha

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