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By *ayB321 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

“I’m looking For a woman who is open and free and intelligent and sexual to have ongoing fun with and explore the world of swinging and build up the relationships with other people of similar mind, but also be able converse about anything, in between all the sex and orgasms life is all about pleasure and connections. Thoughts?”

This is what I’ve said to a few women who I liked and have had not many replies so either I’m less attractive than I imagine myself to be, (definitely a possibility) or what I’m saying is not what people on here are looking for. I know that many men and women will be just looking for a fuck and that’s fantastic, it’s all about saying what I want, but if anyone on here wants to build up a community of naked sexy people but also that you can have your hedonistic pleasure and then chat to someone after, let me know....it probably exists I’m just not invited

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Do you just copy and paste your message? If you do, that would be part of the reason you are not getting many replies. It would by like trying to get a girlfriend by printing up some leaflets and putting them through letterboxes.

What you have written is OK but if you just send it like that then there is no reason for a recipient to think you are actually interested in them.

It would be as personal as a cold caller asking about the car accident you had in the last three years that wasn't your fault.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're asking for quite a lot from a person. I'm not sure anybody can say for sure that they fit the bill. I never know what being of a like mind really means when you don't know the other person's mind yet.

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By *ayB321 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

No I don’t normally, I have a couple of time’s but i know what you’re saying, it’s about connections and not generic messages. I always read the profiles and I normally augment my reply, what ive posted here is just the core of what I’m looking for but it feels too touchy feely for the vibe I get here. The vibe I get is I should be saying how big my cock is and how I’ll fuck you. It’s 7.5 inches and 7 ways from Sunday ...but anyway, maybe I’m on the wrong site

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By *ayB321 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

I’m being open about ultimately what I want. I respect every persons desire on here, that’s why I think this site is fantastic. I’m just trying to reach out to those who want orgies who don’t normally get invited to orgies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is out there, OP.

Patience is the key

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic? "

Have you?

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you? "

Just did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you?

Just did! "

Did it work?

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you?

Just did!

Did it work? "

Definitely worked!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you?

Just did!

Did it work?

Definitely worked!! "

Look again

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you?

Just did!

Did it work?

Definitely worked!!

Look again "

I already had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comes across a bit full on... if that’s your opening gambit?

Have you tried “fancy a fuck?” with an accompanying dick pic?

Have you?

Just did!

Did it work?

Definitely worked!!

Look again

I already had! "

Well I said no, thanks so stopp fibbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as intelligent. I'm sexual with the right chemistry but I'm in no way looking to explore the world of swinging.

I want intense chemistry, passion and sensuality with one person.

Having found it and lost it, I fear no one else will ever compare.

I'm sure though that there are many women out there OP, who possibly will tick all of your boxes. However, it's unlikely you're going to know that right away or from exchanging an initial couple of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe elaborate on your profile a bit more and keep a message lighthearted and complimentry about something you have read on her profile.

Lure her in with charm, a compliment and something funny. Dont go in all guns blazing perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do I see myself?

Mirrors and selfies mainly

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I think there are people on here seeking the same as you OP but fabs a big place, you just haven’t found them yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it sounds like you're looking for the utopian ideal.

I would say Fab is already a community of 'naked sexy people' and anyone is welcome to join.

If you want chat then hang out posting in the forums (although I'm not sure you'll find one person who can literally chat about anything).

There are all sorts here all looking for different things but the core of your message feels as though you are trying to cover all the bases. It feels too broad and generic.

You're looking to start a conversation and get to know someone so perhaps simplify you're opening message.

I am presuming you message after reading a profile and that profile appeals to you (thus covering your 'core' message bit). Just send a message with the bits which are specific to that person.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i read the OP's message, I'd just have an 'oh ok' response... There is no incentive for me to reply... Its not really an open conversation starter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a rather embarrassing and genetic first message, not at all personal to the woman you’ve sent it to, it’s humourless, women will know it’s a copy and paste job and sent out in bulk, no wonder it hasn’t got any replies.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I'm sure there are lots of women on here looking for a similar thing, but that sort of relationship develops over time.

Nothing wrong with wanting that at all, if I was single it is definitely something I would be attracted to, but if you say that I'm a first message it could maybe make a few people back away. Keep it light hearted and see how things develop.

Good luck in your search.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the nicest possible way, as I say this for sincere feedback OP, your post is all about you in that format. It just lists everything you want and doesn’t do much to engage the reader if you’re using it as an opening message. You mention augmenting it, but I think the context could still be taken as a bit ‘me, me’ if that’s the primary text.

It might be ideal to drop in some way on in a conversation; once you’re at the point of mutually discussing why you’re here.....for that, it’s pretty good because that’s when you need to be clear and open as to what you’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a rather embarrassing and genetic first message, not at all personal to the woman you’ve sent it to, it’s humourless, women will know it’s a copy and paste job and sent out in bulk, no wonder it hasn’t got any replies."

It is completely humourless and generic - I wouldn't reply to it as it's all about you.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I don’t see what you can bring to the table from your profile to be honest so maybe add your thread introduction here to your bio instead of the current one and give it a try

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your message is about what you want... not about what you can offer them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say what you want but what are you looking for?

It reads to me like you want to build up a harem and fulfil a fantasy. What does the woman get from it?

I would feel like a pawn in a game tbh

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