FabSwingers.com forum: .The elusive connection

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think more talk is better, and I'd rather do without than proceed before I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you having a thread clear out ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately find that happens with some, it's difficult just now tho as all you can do it chat but yeah, know exactly what you mean

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I think i end up being 'friend zoned' by the person i chat to.

Unless they're into sexy chats and that's completely different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand this... it’s difficult to judge because sometimes the more you get to know someone the more intense the connection, other times the more you get to know someone the more you get put off!

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Definately find that happens with some, it's difficult just now tho as all you can do it chat but yeah, know exactly what you mean

Not just me then...I want to get to know people but there is a fine line for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be harder to keep a conversation going here than it would be face to face; there are no obvious emotions to play off, no visible cues, nothing happening around you to comment on, etc.

There’s a balance to strike, for sure; too little and people could get bored, too much and people could feel hounded (or bored!)

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

With good and sound experience i can tell you with 100% certainty this is almost everyone lol

I mean i get replies we are chatting next minute im left on read lol

And at that point what do you do? Msg them again and look like your pushing? Don't msg them and risk loosing the encounter??

I wish people would just make it clear if they have lost interest etc

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think i end up being 'friend zoned' by the person i chat to.

Unless they're into sexy chats and that's completely different.

Even some sexy chats for me..end up that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean.

It’s difficult currently but I’d like to think that the people I have connected with in the last few months will still want to meet me when it’s possible again.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

2 weeks of chatting is generally enough!

Anymore and I start to lose interest

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Are you having a thread clear out ?"

I might be

Let's talk about building a connection

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By *auti Lass and MoleCouple
over a year ago

Bicester

"I think i end up being 'friend zoned' by the person i chat to.

Unless they're into sexy chats and that's completely different.

Even some sexy chats for me..end up that way!"

As I kiss your neck and slowly undoing your bra, I whisper those magical words into your ear. "Fancy a cuppa? I'm parched"

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think i end up being 'friend zoned' by the person i chat to.

Unless they're into sexy chats and that's completely different.

Even some sexy chats for me..end up that way!

As I kiss your neck and slowly undoing your bra, I whisper those magical words into your ear. "Fancy a cuppa? I'm parched""

Sweet..you putting the kettle on?

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Yes has happened many times over the last 6 months and I’m probably to blame as not a great conversationalist over message, but I’m confident in knowing that those I wish to meet are happy with the occasional catch up and that it will happen when time allows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think i end up being 'friend zoned' by the person i chat to.

Unless they're into sexy chats and that's completely different.

Even some sexy chats for me..end up that way!"

It’s not just you that happens to. I find conversations seem to dry up on me a lot recently...

He we should message each other, maybe that way we can not talk to each other, ha ha

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?"

It’s tough to maintain when you can’t take the next step and meet. As long as you explain there will be bouts of being quiet and not read anything into it then when you do talk it feels more natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just given up chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More talk is better, but in these times it’s hard when you can’t put a date on the calendar.

People are wary of ping pong messaging going nowhere.

We’re (Hopefully) all in the same boat so it’s a good time to get creative with webcam, photo challenges or online scrabble

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"More talk is better, but in these times it’s hard when you can’t put a date on the calendar.

People are wary of ping pong messaging going nowhere.

We’re (Hopefully) all in the same boat so it’s a good time to get creative with webcam, photo challenges or online scrabble

Drabble sounds particularly good fun

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"It can be harder to keep a conversation going here than it would be face to face; there are no obvious emotions to play off, no visible cues, nothing happening around you to comment on, etc.

There’s a balance to strike, for sure; too little and people could get bored, too much and people could feel hounded (or bored!)"

This i kind of agree with, it's easier to keep things flowing if you have met

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I have just given up chatting

I sometimes don't start chatting because I kmow where it will end up...nowhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just given up chatting

I sometimes don't start chatting because I kmow where it will end up...nowhere!"

I haven't even chatted with you for ages, which is very rude of me.

I just feel I have little to offer a chat at the moment.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Most the guys we have met (although not many) we have chatted to for about a year before meeting, you would think they would say forget this but they don’t so we must be good at chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hush now OP and just perv our pics

Seriously though, I think I know the phenomena you speak of. It is hard to maintain a certain level of interest when it's impossible to arrange further physical meets to affirm the attraction.

But surely if you've made a good enough connection, you're both able to "pick up where you left off" when the opportunity to reconnect and continue building that bond arises, albeit on line, no?

Fuzz

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Hush now OP and just perv our pics

Seriously though, I think I know the phenomena you speak of. It is hard to maintain a certain level of interest when it's impossible to arrange further physical meets to affirm the attraction.

But surely if you've made a good enough connection, you're both able to "pick up where you left off" when the opportunity to reconnect and continue building that bond arises, albeit on line, no?

Fuzz"

I'd hope so...I like your thinking.

And Fuzz..I often admire you and your pics

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m definitely getting a ‘ I’m bored wanna chat’ vibe and if you only want to talk ‘because you’re bored’ then don’t waste my time ...is my take on it.

Those who genuinely chat... it’s difficult to maintain the conversation / connection when there is no possibility of intention to meet

Tough times

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’m definitely getting a ‘ I’m bored wanna chat’ vibe and if you only want to talk ‘because you’re bored’ then don’t waste my time ...is my take on it.

Those who genuinely chat... it’s difficult to maintain the conversation / connection when there is no possibility of intention to meet

Tough times

Yes they really are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you chat with folks who are fairly local you can still meet them for a coffee and a chat at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m definitely getting a ‘ I’m bored wanna chat’ vibe and if you only want to talk ‘because you’re bored’ then don’t waste my time ...is my take on it.

Those who genuinely chat... it’s difficult to maintain the conversation / connection when there is no possibility of intention to meet

Tough times

Agreed! I’m starting to feel bad even sending an intro message to people I’m genuinely interested in chatting to.

I’d Like to suggest a coffee after a week or so of chatting but i feel bad dragging it out now!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Before C chats either flowed naturally and led to the next step or they didn’t and died away.

Since then, those I knew already it has continued to flow as if nothing has changed, I think that is because there is more there than just sex.

New people however you can have that chat for a while and then it’s a bit “no I’m not your quick fix as you’re bored” - maybe not their intention but it’s how I felt, so I let them naturally die away and it’s no fault that of theirs.

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Most the guys we have met (although not many) we have chatted to for about a year before meeting, you would think they would say forget this but they don’t so we must be good at chatting

WTF!!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We spoke for two months before we were able to meet and I think this really helped as the meet just flowed.

So much so that we then seen each other a few weeks later and then pretty much every week since....even spending 4 and 5 days together recently.

We developed a good close bond over the 2 months which has eventually resulted in us being a couple now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 weeks of chatting is generally enough!

Anymore and I start to lose interest"

This for me too. If we haven't met within 2 weeks then I won't ever be meeting them.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t really chat with getting jiggly at the forefront of my mind. Instead a switch has to go on in my head that makes me look at them sexually.

More often than not though, the switch remains in the off position. More to do with me than them.

I do prefer coolness and nonchalance in a man though. Get too keen and I’m off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m definitely getting a ‘ I’m bored wanna chat’ vibe and if you only want to talk ‘because you’re bored’ then don’t waste my time ...is my take on it.

Those who genuinely chat... it’s difficult to maintain the conversation / connection when there is no possibility of intention to meet

Tough times

This too

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I’m always trying to not get ahead of myself. But it tends to fizzle out. Maybe I’m too enthusiastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like maureen off the old BT adverts used to say...its good to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do sexy chats... Just go straight to friend zone

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?"

It because we all talk though our phones via text, social media which has become a 2m rule between all of us.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

I have been lucky and found some amazing sexual friend connections and our relationships have grown stronger over lockdown because we both want to meet each other and will wait till we can

I've not bothered making any new ones purely so I can concentrate on the ones that matter rather than unknown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?"

I'm terrible for this

It's been my downfall for years

As soon as I like someone as a person, the potential for sex just dissipates

I've never had a social that turned sexual, but I've had sexual meets with others and been both social & sexual with them after the initial meet

Hence why I have never found a sexual partner through The Forums

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

As smart and as sexy as us Fabbers like to think we are, it’s difficult to keep the interest and intrigue going. Especially if we’ve already looked at naked photos of each other and seen the list of sexual likes etc.

I really enjoyed the slower build during my dating years on POF just a few years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?"

I seem to have the ones who have very limited attention span and are off to better things it seems. They get the "ick" quicker and quicker these days, sigh!!

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

Annabelle21... your filter blocks me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat over PMs and can sometimes get a bit full-on to begin with.

Whether it can maintain itself over the long term depends on the people involved. If I'm not getting much back then it will fizzle out (and I enjoy writing so can write quite lengthy messages sometimes). Which is not a bad thing.

And through text there can be misunderstandings of intent - especially at the moment when it's not possible to actually meet - and then it's best to actually talk it through and come to an agreement on whether it's worth continuing or not.

Breaks in the conversation - where the message is read but not replied to - would be natural as you wouldn't always be phoning or communicating everyday anyway. But it can be picked up by you or the other person a few days later.

If both of you are interested in maintaining an ongoing conversation then a 'connection' can be made and, hopefully, that will lead to meeting up at sometime in the future.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Is this thread still going on... I’m bored and need to friend zone it

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By *reddy fMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

My problem is i talk to them and they realise what a dick i actually am...

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Is this thread still going on... I’m bored and need to friend zone it

Well...you can't have too many friends

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"Is this thread still going on... I’m bored and need to friend zone it

Well...you can't have too many friends

Very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this totally...

I like to be sociable and chat to new people that I'd like to meet but it is so hard to keep it going when you don't know exactly when you can meet so things do end up fizzing out.

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By *ice_Guy_CorkMan
over a year ago

Cork

I'm chatting to someone who might friend zone me...or might not even be really interested in me...but in my eyes I could never friend zone her...the more I chat the more I like her.

But then again...I'm a soppy got...lol

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I love the chatting, the getting to know soneone, the building that elusive connection, the anticipation of finding a message in your inbox. Sadly, sometimes this can end up being one sided and you're the only one feeling this, and suddenly it all stops and you're clueless why.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'm chatting to someone who might friend zone me...or might not even be really interested in me...but in my eyes I could never friend zone her...the more I chat the more I like her.

But then again...I'm a soppy got...lol"

I hope it works out for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just given up chatting

I sometimes don't start chatting because I kmow where it will end up...nowhere!"

What a shame.... Someone has let someone like you down in the past!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My problem is i talk to them and they realise what a dick i actually am..."

Me too

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I have just given up chatting

I sometimes don't start chatting because I kmow where it will end up...nowhere!

What a shame.... Someone has let someone like you down in the past!"

No..not realy. I just know myself, and don't want to lead anyone on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We spoke for two months before we were able to meet and I think this really helped as the meet just flowed.

So much so that we then seen each other a few weeks later and then pretty much every week since....even spending 4 and 5 days together recently.

We developed a good close bond over the 2 months which has eventually resulted in us being a couple now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?"

I so feel this! Due to a bit of a let down I impulsively met a man, 2 hours later we were in bed. We are now a glorious couple and long may it stay that way

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"We spoke for two months before we were able to meet and I think this really helped as the meet just flowed.

So much so that we then seen each other a few weeks later and then pretty much every week since....even spending 4 and 5 days together recently.

We developed a good close bond over the 2 months which has eventually resulted in us being a couple now...

I didn't see this...that's realy lovely x

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Is it just me who finds it hard to maintain?

You start chatting and you are really interested.

I mean so interested that if they were stood before

You, you wouldn't waste a minute getting to know them intimately.

Especially, during these uncertain times when meeting is off the cards do you lose the momentum?

Can you talk too much and up friend zoning them?

Is less talk better?

I so feel this! Due to a bit of a let down I impulsively met a man, 2 hours later we were in bed. We are now a glorious couple and long may it stay that way "

Congrats to you x

there may be hope for me yet x

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By *ice_Guy_CorkMan
over a year ago

Cork

"I'm chatting to someone who might friend zone me...or might not even be really interested in me...but in my eyes I could never friend zone her...the more I chat the more I like her.

But then again...I'm a soppy got...lol

I hope it works out for you x"

I have no doubt it won't...lol

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I didn't used to do the chatting thing, but over lockdown I've seen the error of my ways

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I definitely think that you can talk too much. This has happened with us and a few people. We chat and then get past that 'red hot passionate moment' and end up in the friends zone.

It's finding the happy medium as we do like to chat, but not too much.

Hmmmmmm, a tricky one.

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By *nique_78Woman
over a year ago

Home, somewhere in Norfolk

Talking cuts down on time wasters and those with 'the any hole will do' attitude in my opinion - roll on roll of has never been something that attracts me but I have respect for those that it does!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally find it's the other way around. Because we wont meet people as quickly as they want. They just vanish. We need to know someone first. Unless it's a club thing.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The way I've always looked at it - if chat on here becomes "hard to maintain" to the point where you have to think of something to say just to maintain contact, then it wasn't meant to be.

It's when the conversation just flows naturally and instinctively back and forth that you know it was meant to be - even if there's a break in conversation it gets picked up again at a later point without feeling forced.

Sometimes conversations and connections do just fizzle naturally - no-one's fault specifically it's just as natural as when they flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking cuts down on time wasters and those with 'the any hole will do' attitude in my opinion - roll on roll of has never been something that attracts me but I have respect for those that it does! "

Hear Hear.

(A little time and effort getting to know someone, and their likes and desires with a little erotic literary ping pong......CAN ONLY BUT ENHANCE A MEET .....SURELY?)

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

There does come a point where you either need to meet in person or both agree that things are happy to go on hold just as they are until such time as you can meet.

All too often continuing to just chat about 'how is your day going can let that spark you had slip and things just fizzle out.

Its not about losing interest in the other person, sometimes its the opposite and you just chat for the sake of it and the hope that they don't forget about you and move on to the next person.

Covid has a lot to answer for for a lot of people in this regard I think, it certainly has for me and working shifts when most work a normal 9-5 job also limits things too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do sexy chats... Just go straight to friend zone

I don't do that sexting shite either, a great way to find out if a guy is genuinly interested or just wants to scratch an itch.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, it's not just you. I'm not really looking for anything with anyone now but I can be right a 'mare to talk to. I can be really interested in getting to know someone and I'll send witty and engaging messages, hoping to find answers to sate my curiosity and pique my passion and I'm thrilled whenever I see a message from them pop up. But then, for a myriad of reasons the interest wanes; they've opened up too much and I view them as a friend, I think they are sniffing around every woman on the fora, the conversation doesn't quite do it for me in the same way etc.

Maybe less talk is better but there's a real rush in that initial getting to know someone phase that I love, even if it does burn out quickly. Besides, there's nothing wrong with having more friends (for me anyway).

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I rarely message anyone. There's one or two ladies I'd like to chat with, but just never got around to doing so. It's not as if I'm a shy person - far from it. Probably because I've only been here just over a year and think myself still a bit of a newbie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me if I’m into someone then I enjoy talking to them a lot

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Friend zoned, left on read or blocked seems to be my track record on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friend zoned, left on read or blocked seems to be my track record on here

I get that too. There are a few exceptions though and I'm so glad of that.

I'm managing to keep talking to some and yes, we have become friends, but there's still that sexy talk sometimes that keeps that side going too. I love how it's going with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All too often continuing to just chat about 'how is your day going can let that spark you had slip and things just fizzle out.

I quite enjoy chatting about normal every day things. I actually find people's normal 'boring' life stuff quite interesting and for me it, possibly, shows interest beyond just a Fab leg-over meet.

And, like a 'relationship', maintaining long-term messaging requires some sort of effort from both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All too often continuing to just chat about 'how is your day going can let that spark you had slip and things just fizzle out.

I quite enjoy chatting about normal every day things. I actually find people's normal 'boring' life stuff quite interesting and for me it, possibly, shows interest beyond just a Fab leg-over meet.

And, like a 'relationship', maintaining long-term messaging requires some sort of effort from both parties."

I like that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't even maintain a conversation, let alone a connection.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I can't even maintain a conversation, let alone a connection. "

That's a whole new issue...I hope you get to chat and build a connection x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be really interested in getting to know someone and I'll send witty and engaging messages, hoping to find answers to sate my curiosity and pique my passion and I'm thrilled whenever I see a message from them pop up. But then, for a myriad of reasons the interest wanes.

Maybe less talk is better but there's a real rush in that initial getting to know someone phase that I love, even if it does burn out quickly."

I am guilty of the full-on 'I'm really interested in you' initial excitement of someone new and then that interest burning out. And it can also put some people off as it can be too intense for them.

But then communication is key - and I have said to some what I can be like and to tell me to back off if it's too much.

Finding that balance of being interested but not too interested is a bit of a tightrope for me and I do have to really resist the urge, sometimes, not to splurge with the messages.

As long as I'm still getting that slight thrill when a new message pops up from someone then I know I'm still maintaining my interest in them.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I've lost connection.

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