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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m curious to see if there are other people on Fab who are here due to being in a sexless marriage and wanting to meet likeminded people for the physical side that they are missing/craving?

I have spoken with a few married people who still have sexy with their partners but say ‘they don’t do some things I like’.. that for me is not sexless marriage.

I’m currently in a sexless relationship where there is no sex whatsoever, so decided to join to see if there are others out there and here for the same reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there are.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I was and that's exactly how I started on here, at the suggestion of my wife at the time. We have since broken up. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's your wifes take on it?

These things can be changed but it needs both parties to be along for the ride

Fab is nothing more than a sticking plaster for something that may need stitches and a bandage x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was and that's exactly how I started on here, at the suggestion of my wife at the time. We have since broken up. Luke "

Did you meet anyone from here in a similar situation? So you have broken up now is there any kids involved between you two and what would u say was holding you together and why did u break up? Sorry if I’m being too nosy

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By *DCGUYMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Similar situation here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's your wifes take on it?

These things can be changed but it needs both parties to be along for the ride

Fab is nothing more than a sticking plaster for something that may need stitches and a bandage x"

We’re just holding it together for the kids but I guess when they get older there will be nothing holding it so I guess it’s just a matter of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your wifes take on it?

These things can be changed but it needs both parties to be along for the ride

Fab is nothing more than a sticking plaster for something that may need stitches and a bandage x

We’re just holding it together for the kids but I guess when they get older there will be nothing holding it so I guess it’s just a matter of time "

Sorry for you both

Please talk though - and more than once - if you both feel it is worth it

You seem sad and your post almost has a 'feeling guilty' taste to it

That's not the best platform for NSA, but that's just my opinion (others may feel differently)

I wish you both well x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I was and that's exactly how I started on here, at the suggestion of my wife at the time. We have since broken up. Luke

Did you meet anyone from here in a similar situation? So you have broken up now is there any kids involved between you two and what would u say was holding you together and why did u break up? Sorry if I’m being too nosy "

We broke up because she was abusive. Yes we do have children together.

I started out on my own and then I met a regular partner through a different web site. Her husband was in a wheelchair so they had an agreement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's your wifes take on it?

These things can be changed but it needs both parties to be along for the ride

Fab is nothing more than a sticking plaster for something that may need stitches and a bandage x

We’re just holding it together for the kids but I guess when they get older there will be nothing holding it so I guess it’s just a matter of time

Sorry for you both

Please talk though - and more than once - if you both feel it is worth it

You seem sad and your post almost has a 'feeling guilty' taste to it

That's not the best platform for NSA, but that's just my opinion (others may feel differently)

I wish you both well x"

Thank you for your thoughtful comments. Currently I’m hoping to chat/poss meet with someone in a similar situation looking for that missing physical touch.. and see where it goes.

To be honest I’m not sure what I’m feeling but I do know I’m lacking that physical side to things and rather than be on a dating side pretending to be single and deceiving some poor sod I’d rather be here, be honest and look to meet someone who understands and accepts why I’m here.

Well I hope so any way lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was and that's exactly how I started on here, at the suggestion of my wife at the time. We have since broken up. Luke

Did you meet anyone from here in a similar situation? So you have broken up now is there any kids involved between you two and what would u say was holding you together and why did u break up? Sorry if I’m being too nosy

We broke up because she was abusive. Yes we do have children together.

I started out on my own and then I met a regular partner through a different web site. Her husband was in a wheelchair so they had an agreement. "

Sorry to hear you went through an abusive relationship no body deserves that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexless due to my wife’s disabilities

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc? "

I guess it’s a bit of both.. but do miss the sex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc?

I guess it’s a bit of both.. but do miss the sex "

It must be lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY STAY?. when they are woman like me who enjoy sex but remain single?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"WHY STAY?. when they are woman like me who enjoy sex but remain single?"

I guess it’s because of the kids. But I know once they get older then there won’t be anything holding it together so it’s inevitable that we will split up and not worry that the kids will grow up in a broken home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc?

I guess it’s a bit of both.. but do miss the sex

It must be lonely."

It’s is unfortunately but I guess I’m loving it for the kids

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By *eorgesdad69Man
over a year ago

nottingham

I have sucked off several married men on here who are getting nothing at home! Good for both of us

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By *ob longMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Yes same here. Separately different beds. That's why I wake early for porn hub and on here so frustrating

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By *ob longMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Need to pay for it I think Asian hooker would be nice

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

What seems a good idea is sometimes in reality a very bad idea, all can be well for nsa up to actually getting to the act and all of his emotions can stop sex.

Even though some have had permission to play, all they actually want is intimacy with their wife and anything else seems rather hollow, leaves a bitter taste for both people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in a sexless marriage, I wouldn't remain married.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

yes and hence the reason we opened up our marriage. I ended up in swinging clubs and here, he ended up in a fetish site as our way of sexual pleasures are evolved and changed.

Eventhough this decision made our relationship stronger and saved our marriage, you loose that sexual intimacy between eachother unfortunately. Which is the down part and you don’t know whether it will come back or not. Regardless being sexless in a marriage , we don’t see as an issue anymore while so many other factors simply make perfect in our life.

Good luck

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p that's a shame about your situation. How are things outside of the bedroom? Usually that's a good place to start...sit down and talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes and hence the reason we opened up our marriage. I ended up in swinging clubs and here, he ended up in a fetish site as our way of sexual pleasures are evolved and changed.

Eventhough this decision made our relationship stronger and saved our marriage, you loose that sexual intimacy between eachother unfortunately. Which is the down part and you don’t know whether it will come back or not. Regardless being sexless in a marriage , we don’t see as an issue anymore while so many other factors simply make perfect in our life.

Good luck "

I don't understand that...you have a good relationship, both of you still enjoy sex, but just don't do it with each other?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"yes and hence the reason we opened up our marriage. I ended up in swinging clubs and here, he ended up in a fetish site as our way of sexual pleasures are evolved and changed.

Eventhough this decision made our relationship stronger and saved our marriage, you loose that sexual intimacy between eachother unfortunately. Which is the down part and you don’t know whether it will come back or not. Regardless being sexless in a marriage , we don’t see as an issue anymore while so many other factors simply make perfect in our life.

Good luck

I don't understand that...you have a good relationship, both of you still enjoy sex, but just don't do it with each other? "

I think it's that they don't enjoy sex in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc? "

An important question. As is what do you think will be the result of meeting a woman who is similarly craving intimacy and closeness? A sexless marriage rarely just happens overnight, it builds - often over years - a bit like the proverbial boiling a frog, dump a frog in hot water and it'll jump straight out, slowly raise the temp and it sits there and boils. How do you think you'll feel once someone gives you what you crave and makes you realise just how uncomfortably hot your water is?

I did that and the answer to those questions was have a breakdown. Good luck OP.

Mr

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By *astyfella999Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I’m the same. My wife was once great with sex. But once as she became a grandmother at the young age of 60. Sex stopped. I’m now gagging for it

Now thinking should I go pay for it

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

This is exactly my position OP.

The frustrating part is, we still love each other, and get on really well. I'm allowed to have a feel of her now and again, but only her nipples and toes (I have a foot fetish!).

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Loads of people in your position op.

Is it sex you miss or the intimacy that goes with it? The hand holding, kissing etc?

An important question. As is what do you think will be the result of meeting a woman who is similarly craving intimacy and closeness? A sexless marriage rarely just happens overnight, it builds - often over years - a bit like the proverbial boiling a frog, dump a frog in hot water and it'll jump straight out, slowly raise the temp and it sits there and boils. How do you think you'll feel once someone gives you what you crave and makes you realise just how uncomfortably hot your water is?

I did that and the answer to those questions was have a breakdown. Good luck OP.

Mr"

Well put, a sad story though. I think a lot of people confuse sex with intimacy, if it's the latter you really need I don't think nsa sex will cut it and you're putting a foot on a tricky path.

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