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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

with someone in particular. I just want to fuck the living daylights out of a guy I work with. Problem is he's chronically shy except when he has drink in him. I know he wants me because he told me when we were last out. He is not taken. I did ask him if he remembered what he said while drinking and he said no he didn't. He changes the subject when I bring it up. I often catch him watching me when we are in work but as soon as I turn my head towards him he goes red and looks away. We are friends. How do I approach this? Concerned FWB scenario would ruin things as we are fond of one another, but he really turns me on!

Advice greatly appreciated

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Lucky him. I would just say think twice because you work with him or if you think it will work go out for one-to-one and tell him straight and then go back to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would maybe just each day talk bit more to him just build up a conversation ect. Then one day ask him to join you for lunch. Over time dropping little hint to him what you want. I done this with a friend and worked a treat.

Hope it helps xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just fucking come out with it and tell him you want to fuck him for fuck sake

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would ask him to go for dinner. Life is too short to play games. He will either say yes or say no but at least you will know where you stand.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"with someone in particular. I just want to fuck the living daylights out of a guy I work with. Problem is he's chronically shy except when he has drink in him. I know he wants me because he told me when we were last out. He is not taken. I did ask him if he remembered what he said while drinking and he said no he didn't. He changes the subject when I bring it up. I often catch him watching me when we are in work but as soon as I turn my head towards him he goes red and looks away. We are friends. How do I approach this? Concerned FWB scenario would ruin things as we are fond of one another, but he really turns me on!

Advice greatly appreciated"

Take him out for a drink, be honest and take him home a ride him till the sun comes up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Life really is too short, so go out there and get him. Sounds like you both want each other

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Just walk up

Slap him on the arse

Get your coat you’ve pulled darlin...

Works a treat!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do."

I would give up and find someone else who is more out going. He seems like hard work. Maybe he is gay and just wants you as a close friend.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do.

I would give up and find someone else who is more out going. He seems like hard work. Maybe he is gay and just wants you as a close friend."

And if he shys away when you flirt he will probably faint in the bedroom. I do not think you are suited for each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a difficult one with a work colleague.

For the best part of 2 years I fancied the physio guy that used to work in my building 3x a week. Whenever I was working and he came there he would talk to me between clients. Would ask me to scratch his back under his t shirt so I was scratching his actual skin.

On one works night out he bumped into some girls he went to school with and introduced me as his girlfriend, now I think he was saying that to give them the brush off but we would be all over each other on work nights out. Everyone in work was adamant we were fucking even though we never had. One evening we were dropped off in a taxi cos we live close to each other and I asked him if he wanted to come back and I’ve never seen a guy wrestle with a decision so much in his life, he said yeah and walked with me towards my house, then stopped and said no he can’t, then said yeah again, then stood with his both hands on my shoulders and said fuck! I can’t! He was single, I just think he was thinking about the repercussions cos he knows I’m bonkers.

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Honestly if you are so keen and you know he likes you but is just shy I think you just need to be really forward in this scenario. Like literally when yous are out for drinks just smack the lips on him. If he likes you he might pause for a second if at all but will kiss you back. Good luck. Life is for living. Just go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just ask him if you can suck his cock. Or make some kind of bet that results in some sexy situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is he has two options, 1) meet, fuck, date with a view to a relationship.

2) have some casual sex with an expiry date.

If he’s not looking for a relationship and just wants some casual sex, chances are he’s gonna have it with some random bird NOT someone he has to work with. It would create all kinds of awkwardness or hassle when the sex ends, especially if the other person doesn’t want the sex to end.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do."

I don't think he's interested in the same way you are. Time to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a short skirt and drop something, then bend over to pick it up and as you do that, look back at him and say.. Oops! I'm not wearing any panties.

That should have have an effect especially if you give him a view.

Mmm yes I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He likes boys perhaps?

You've not exactly been subtle with hints etc and I can't believe any guy is that shy that he wouldn't have made a move or let you make the move by now.

Get it out of your system by shagging a random Northern bloke instead.;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice greatly appreciated"

Just invite him over for a film/take away/water colouring..... what ever the fuck. As soon as he’s there just kiss him and work your way down! He might go red and shy, but lead from the front. One lucky bastard I might add...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t believe any guy is that shy. If they want something they’ll go after it one way or another.

If the op has asked him to do something outside of work and he doesn’t say yes then he’s not interested. He knows he has the green light to initiate something IF he wants to. Saying he’s shy is just avoiding the facts.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Maybe just ask him straight if he would ever be interested in anything? He may fancy you but also may not want to do anything with a work colleague. if thats the case then it would be time to move on

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

Advice greatly appreciated"

God I wish I was him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If was me I would probably get his number and then txt him and then take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice greatly appreciated

God I wish I was him "

What!? No you don’t. He could be 4’10, morbidly obese and working in a kitten drowning factory earning 60 pence an hour, yet you wish you were him because a faceless woman on the internet has expressed she wants to sleep with him!?

Madness. Be you, yourself, your best authentic self.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

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God I wish I was him

Madness. Be you, yourself, your best authentic self. "

Get him told

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

This may be what you don't want to hear but from what you've said, he doesn't seem interested in anything more. You've given him opportunity and he hasn't made any moves. Maybe just accept the type of friendship you have already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As one other poster has suggested, why not just be up front and ask him if he wants anything to happen between the two of you?

The guy can have his reasons for not being interested or feeling conflicted without being either "gay" (as many kind homophobes have suggested here) or you resorting to a situation that might make him really uncomfortable.

Imagine if some of the suggestions put forward were the other way round and a male colleague forced a kiss on a female colleague or just randomly went down on them?

It would rightly be classed as sexual assault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez mate it was light hearted saying he may like boys.... not everyone is a homophobe!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do."

M used to have a female friend that he really fancied, but he convinced himself that if he was honest about how he felt he would lose the friendship with this girl. It is quite possible he has strong feelings for you. Best policy is be clear about what you want. If it is just sex, it may not be enough for him. If it is a relationship, he might be more up for it. Know what you want and then have a grown up chat with him.

Alternatively, get him d*unk before Thursday and stay shacked up for a month and see what happens!

Good luck either way

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

"Thing is he has two options, 1) meet, fuck, date with a view to a relationship.

2) have some casual sex with an expiry date.

Yes, that ^.

Depending on how close "works with" actually means (ie, is it a tiny office where you are forced in to close proximity, or are there a thousand people present and you could easily avoid him for the rest of your life) it could well be that casual sex isn't really on the cards here whether he's in to you or not, and indeed if that's the vibe you're giving off he may be avoiding it.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Just be honest with him.

Take him out somewhere neutral, explain to him that you’re attracted and that he’s shown attraction at times when he’s had some Dutch courage.

Ask him straight what he wants. Friendship? Romance?

Talk like adults. Not teenagers.

Hope it goes the way you want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like the only thing stopping you is him being a bit shy. If you're certain he's into you, there's no harm in being a little forward and asking to go for drinks/a bit to eat after work.

Obviously it's down to convenience seeing as we're heading into Lockdown 2: Electric Boogaloo, but there's never any harm in asking

I have asked him for lunch or after work drinks and he nearly always says yes. It just leads no where. I flirt outrageously with him but he always shys away when I do.

I would give up and find someone else who is more out going. He seems like hard work. Maybe he is gay and just wants you as a close friend.

And if he shys away when you flirt he will probably faint in the bedroom. I do not think you are suited for each other."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice guys. I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Spike his drinks and jump on him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spike his drinks and jump on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what’s next? Have you made a date?

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Spike his drinks and jump on him

Reverse that if it were a man taking about a woman.... consent

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Thanks for all the advice guys. I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same. "

Yay . Blossoming Romance Awww x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what’s next? Have you made a date?"

Well we are in lockdown here so makes it hard but we said we would do something at the weekend

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"So what’s next? Have you made a date?

Well we are in lockdown here so makes it hard but we said we would do something at the weekend "

Build up his confidence tell him you like him. Tell him he has a nice bum but slowly or he will run a mile. Also he might not be confident sexually so you might need to be gental or you will scare him off. It might be the subside you like the hunt the chase....

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By *ightowlingWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

"Thanks for all the advice guys. I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same. "

Yay!!! Well done!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the advice guys. I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same.

Yay!!! Well done!!

Thanks

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes get in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes get in

Gonna try anywau

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the advice guys. I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice greatly appreciated"

Fuck the living daylights out of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is far too short for fannying around.. Theres a few times I've looked back and tgought "Dickhead!"

Better to regret something you have done than haven't.. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice greatly appreciated"

This has happened to me once and I was the shy guy

It wasn't until after I left that workplace that I bumped into the woman in question. It had been a few weeks so we agreed on a catch up coffee later in the week.

We were both super well dressed for coffee and we knew were flirting

Long story short she invited me over for dinner the following weekend, and let's just say we had desert in bed

It didnt last much longer due to mutual reasons but the initial spark was fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are meeting tomorrow evening for coffee and chat and go from there. There's not much places to go with everywhere shut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are meeting tomorrow evening for coffee and chat and go from there. There's not much places to go with everywhere shut. "

Nice! It’s definitely a crap year for all things fun and romance, but I’m wishing you good luck

Keep an eye on how well he dresses, but don’t read into things too much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are meeting tomorrow evening for coffee and chat and go from there. There's not much places to go with everywhere shut.

Nice! It’s definitely a crap year for all things fun and romance, but I’m wishing you good luck

Keep an eye on how well he dresses, but don’t read into things too much

Oh I will do thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Date time

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good luck xx

Thanks

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