FabSwingers.com forum: Lockdown Sadness

By *acktar74 OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

I heard the sadest thing ever yesterday.

My dad called me and asked if he could move in with me so he isnt alone at Christmas. Covid is being a shit.

All good though explained bubbles again and he is fine.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Ow, that is sad.

Pity that he will be all alone.

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By *acktar74 OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

"Ow, that is sad.

Pity that he will be all alone.

He wont i visit all the time and he will be with me at xmas.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Ow, that is sad.

Pity that he will be all alone.

He wont i visit all the time and he will be with me at xmas."

Sometimes I wish my parents are still around - but not during these terrible period though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear your story. There are so many others in similar situation.

I don’t have any parents or family so that’s one thing I don’t have to worry about.

Wish I had a family.

Prayers and best wishes to everyone out there.

Stay safe guys

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I heard the sadest thing ever yesterday.

My dad called me and asked if he could move in with me so he isnt alone at Christmas. Covid is being a shit.

All good though explained bubbles again and he is fine."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can he not move in with you op?????

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By *acktar74 OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m glad your dad isn’t going to be alone at Christmas.

Funnily enough, I absolutely love spending Christmas alone.

It’s lovely and relaxing being able to do what I want on the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

And that op is the saddest thing I’ve read in a long time.

I’d give my right or indeed left bollock to spend just an hour with my parents but each to their own I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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Lots of the no family near elderly around here are forming bubbles with their neighbours who are also on there own, great to see the friendships form

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Lost both my parents almost ten years ago. Dad was a pain in the arse we argued constantly. But what I would give to sit there bickering with him now. All I have now are his ashes on a window cill with a view..... Make the time

I wish I had

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I’m very lucky in that lockdown is ok for me. Understand how that’s very different for others.

However, I work in a field that involves helping people with Covid. Some of the stories are so sad, and it’s hard to keep it together.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

Possible not as independent as you think OP , he's reaching out to you.

He may be a pain in the arse but he's your dad .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a good un OP

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

It’s nice you visit him everyday.

My parents are in France. Really missing them now, couldn’t have them living with me either but desperately miss seeing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Felt really sad and sorry for you guys, till you called him a pain in the arse! Now just feel sorry for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home.

And that op is the saddest thing I’ve read in a long time.

I’d give my right or indeed left bollock to spend just an hour with my parents but each to their own I suppose.

My thoughts exactly ,I lost my Dad 6 years ago I would give anything to have him here with me,I'm sure I was a pain when growing up ,but unconditional love,means just that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad was the biggest pain in the arse in the whole world! I wish I could be with that "pain in the arse" for just one more minute, to be able to kiss his cheek and to tell him how much I miss his grump chops and that I love him so very much.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt really sad and sorry for you guys, till you called him a pain in the arse! Now just feel sorry for him! "

Exactly

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My dad lives with me.

Honestly it’s an endeavour that is very very difficult.

OP if it’s the right thing for you both carry on. Once they move in there’s no going back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Parental relationships can be complicated. There is no way I could live with mine again, it would cause more damage than good. I am the one daughter of 4 that makes an effort with my mum and it quite often comes at the price of my calm and emotional equilibrium.

So I actually think it's a bit harsh remarking on someone's personal choices supporting family in the best way they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Parental relationships can be complicated. There is no way I could live with mine again, it would cause more damage than good. I am the one daughter of 4 that makes an effort with my mum and it quite often comes at the price of my calm and emotional equilibrium.

So I actually think it's a bit harsh remarking on someone's personal choices supporting family in the best way they can. "

Totally agree.

You can still love someone and think they’re a pain in the arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend moving in and invited my mum too. Last lockdown was hard as we were all completely alone.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

So I actually think it's a bit harsh remarking on someone's personal choices supporting family in the best way they can. "

Totally agree - I love my parents and vice versa but we know living together or even extended times together can get fraught, we are very different people, we each have our own ways.

The OP is doing what is right for them, he sees his dad every day and will continue to do so, don’t understand why he is getting a bashing

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I have a friend moving in and invited my mum too. Last lockdown was hard as we were all completely alone. "

That will be good for all of you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

I hear ya'. I'm really lucky in that both my parents are still alive. Could I live with them? Only under the most extreme circumstances and none of us would be happy.

I do a lot for them willingly and happily, we have a great relationship but we could not live together.

keep up the good work op and I hope you and your dad have a good Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I actually think it's a bit harsh remarking on someone's personal choices supporting family in the best way they can. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m very lucky in that lockdown is ok for me. Understand how that’s very different for others.

However, I work in a field that involves helping people with Covid. Some of the stories are so sad, and it’s hard to keep it together."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So I actually think it's a bit harsh remarking on someone's personal choices supporting family in the best way they can.

Totally agree - I love my parents and vice versa but we know living together or even extended times together can get fraught, we are very different people, we each have our own ways.

The OP is doing what is right for them, he sees his dad every day and will continue to do so, don’t understand why he is getting a bashing"

Neither do I. Its very unfair.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Op its sad hes asked, i wish i could spend another christmas with me dad. Glad you aint gonna leave him al9ne and that you see him as much as you can mate

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We go to my parents on Christmas eve. We used to go on Christmas day but my mum started asking us to leave by a certain time because we were interfering with her watching the telly

If anybody asks her if we're going round she'll look all sad and say on a martyred tone "no, they all lead such busy lives"

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home.

I hear ya'. I'm really lucky in that both my parents are still alive. Could I live with them? Only under the most extreme circumstances and none of us would be happy.

I do a lot for them willingly and happily, we have a great relationship but we could not live together.

keep up the good work op and I hope you and your dad have a good Christmas

This applies to me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We go to my parents on Christmas eve. We used to go on Christmas day but my mum started asking us to leave by a certain time because we were interfering with her watching the telly

If anybody asks her if we're going round she'll look all sad and say on a martyred tone "no, they all lead such busy lives"

Then people probably think you're awful for leaving early or not going on certain days. Can't win.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home.

I hear ya'. I'm really lucky in that both my parents are still alive. Could I live with them? Only under the most extreme circumstances and none of us would be happy.

I do a lot for them willingly and happily, we have a great relationship but we could not live together.

keep up the good work op and I hope you and your dad have a good Christmas

This applies to me too

None of us would see our parents lonely or suffering

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We go to my parents on Christmas eve. We used to go on Christmas day but my mum started asking us to leave by a certain time because we were interfering with her watching the telly

If anybody asks her if we're going round she'll look all sad and say on a martyred tone "no, they all lead such busy lives"

Then people probably think you're awful for leaving early or not going on certain days. Can't win.

Stopped trying years ago

. My mother is a master of manipulation. I expect there are a lot of people who think I'm an evil daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's nice OP

I'd give anything to have my parents back

But I can't imagine them moving in with me

Reassuring your dad that he wouldn't be alone was the best thing you could do x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I lost my mum nearly a decade ago, and I haven't been able to see my dad for over a year now because of the virus.

Sad times.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

"I heard the sadest thing ever yesterday.

My dad called me and asked if he could move in with me so he isnt alone at Christmas. Covid is being a shit.

All good though explained bubbles again and he is fine."

Oh I want to hug him x

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By *acktar74 OP Man
over a year ago

leeds

Love how the keyboard warriors are out in force without asking me but judging me none the less.

A pain in the arse he may be. Do I love him any the less no. Anyone asked me how often I see him. Nope but everyday. I complete a 40 mile round trip to spend at least 3 hours a day with him. Let alone weekends.

He is a pain in the arse as we would just clash all the time.

Is he happy now he understand this lock down more yes. Does he realise he will still see me yes. Does he spend xmas with me yes.

So for all those that judged there you go yet again the forum breeds the contempt from people whk fact and opinion form on very little basis.

To those who offered well wishes I thank you.

But to everyone I wish you all well strong mental health and that you do what is right all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't think you need to explain yourself to anyone OP. My dad was the biggest pain in the arse going, did I love him? Of course I did! Do I miss him like fucking mad? Yep! I wish he was here to be a pain in the arse again but I also know full well that if he was, I couldn't live with him again. I could move back in with my mum I do wanted to but guess what, she's a pain in the arse too! She's also one of my best friends and I love her with all my heart. Family's can be complicated and it doesn't mean we love them any less.

You do you

And I think it's great that he knows he won't be alone as Xmas.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"don't think you need to explain yourself to anyone OP. My dad was the biggest pain in the arse going, did I love him? Of course I did! Do I miss him like fucking mad? Yep! I wish he was here to be a pain in the arse again but I also know full well that if he was, I couldn't live with him again. I could move back in with my mum I do wanted to but guess what, she's a pain in the arse too! She's also one of my best friends and I love her with all my heart. Family's can be complicated and it doesn't mean we love them any less.

You do you

And I think it's great that he knows he won't be alone as Xmas."
This

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By *ake The Rooster CrowMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I think we all need to think about people at this time of year family friends and neighbours and isolate as much as possible then just maybe things can relax fir xmas.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Why can he not move in with you op?????

Because he is a pain in the arse and independant to be honest. If he moved in we would fall out. Its easier for me to visit everyday. Plus im working from home."

I so, so understand this. You're doing the right thing.

These relationships are difficult to navigate. Hard to balance dignity and independence as relationships and power dynamics shift.

It's stuff I navigate in my community work. Some of them are... challenging to deal with. I find a way to engage and hopefully balance their happiness and safety. (Not family relationships so, a bit different, although I do sass the ones who respond well to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats sad... maybe video call him regularly? Take afew beers pre lockdown so you can have a beer together via vid chat

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