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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

1 = shit

10 = fabdabadosey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a 7. Who can believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got one foot on a 7, one on an 8

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit brighter Queenie

Lu

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got one foot on a 7, one on an 8

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit brighter Queenie

Lu "

Glad you’re doing well!

I even went out on Wednesday and left Orian at home with C. First time I’ve EVER gone out without him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got one foot on a 7, one on an 8

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit brighter Queenie

Lu

Glad you’re doing well!

I even went out on Wednesday and left Orian at home with C. First time I’ve EVER gone out without him!"

I know what a huge thing that must've been for you, you're amazing y'know Queenie, that kid hit the jackpot when he got you for his mumma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been at -10 for the last few months but think now at a 3 or 4.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the minute, about a 4

Worries about the long term health of both my parents

Worries about work / job security

I stress eat so also put a few pounds on the last couple of months, which always affects me mentally

And... Just to top it off, a message last night telling me to self isolate for 9 days

Things aren't ideal, but I realise some people are affected much more badly by the current situation

I'm just having a self wallow / wobbly day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9. The 1 I am working on.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

I have a auto immune response to shitty mental health where my body prompts me to have a wank by giving me a massive awkward boner

It keeps me above a 5 at all times and with outside factors i can hit a good 9 on sunny days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 6 I would say .... more SAD (seasonal affective disorder) related than anything else. I detest dark evenings and cold weather ...

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

It is the Friday of a long and stressful week, I am down to probably 6 or 7. A good night sleep and a nice walk will bring me back to my usual 8 or 9.

I need a good vacation in a sunny place with a lot of sex to be fully recharged and reach a 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Today currently around a 6.5. But it can fluctuate.

Excerise definitely helps me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 it's pouring rain changing to snow.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I’m a 7. Who can believe it"

And that is very good to hear, Mrs Miggins

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Normally I am a 10 or more, super positive, right now 4 maybe 5 at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually 10 but I’ll give it an 8 as it’s half term!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

to everyone xx

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

8 I reckon. Be a 10 tonight and the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon at about a 7, but still positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of this week has been 4_5

Having serious choking episode while eating yesterday sent it to 2 _weird how scary something can be even if it's what you think you want

Hopefully six nations tomorrow will bring it up a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years. "

Simple solution to that mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate "

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

9

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate" "

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years. "

Do you expect me to wave my magic wand and make everyone okay?

This is a place to chat. To discuss. To vent. Funnily enough, I have a one year old that I’m running after all day, on top of my own mental health, so I can’t constantly be on fab to reply to everyone.

I try my hardest. I do. And I bloody care. But thanks for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread "

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Those below a 5 - do you have a good support system around you?

How long have you been feeling like this?

Have you spoke to a doctor?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

A 9. There is lots of things that could get me down but I’ve learnt not to think about them, don’t let them take control. Just deal with one day at a time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer "

He didn’t imply that whatsoever. Don’t even try and twist his words. He literally just explained that he meant ‘if you don’t like a thread, don’t comment’.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Generally about a 7, last couple of days probably 3 but in the past i have been at 1 and don't want to go there again, so i am trying hard not to worry about things i can do nothing about and concentrate on the things i can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer "

I don't think I did encourage that. You had a shitty rant about these types of threads. You didn't have to comment. I also just told you what I implied, just don't comment on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer "

That wasn’t what he was implying!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its been at -10 for the last few months but think now at a 3 or 4. "

I’m glad it’s gone up x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got one foot on a 7, one on an 8

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit brighter Queenie

Lu

Glad you’re doing well!

I even went out on Wednesday and left Orian at home with C. First time I’ve EVER gone out without him!

I know what a huge thing that must've been for you, you're amazing y'know Queenie, that kid hit the jackpot when he got you for his mumma "

Dinnnnnnnnny

I know I’m a fab mum, I try my best! love you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 all the time these days.

I’m retired and have got more into cycling and walking either on my own or with one particular friend (at a distance). The Spring and Summer were wonderful with plenty of days to get out and about. I’m still getting out for walks most days unless the rain and wind put me off.

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over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!"

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide. "

Well that’s now how I read it. And if you look there’s hundreds of mental health threads posted on here offering support. At one stage it was almost all there was! So I don’t think you can say people aren’t supportive on here at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide.

Well that’s now how I read it. And if you look there’s hundreds of mental health threads posted on here offering support. At one stage it was almost all there was! So I don’t think you can say people aren’t supportive on here at all. "

*not how I read it I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide. "

I'll talk about mental health all day, my work is based around it for starters and is a close personal subject in my life also. I've spoken to quite a lot of people on here about mental health, but in private and not on the actual forums, so not really a badge of honour. I couldn't comment on fabs decline as you say, either way as have only been on here nearly a year. I'll maybe give you that, that my choice of words was maybe poor, but your first post did seem a bit shitty.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

4ish but i have had some sleep so thats good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide. "

Typed out a long reply but...bye

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"4ish but i have had some sleep so thats good"

I’m glad you’ve managed some sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we extend the scale to negative numbers??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit but being a single guy of a certain age it’s either man up or there’s a waiting list and you are bottom of the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make.

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over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide.

Typed out a long reply but...bye "

It's actually dropped mine to a 5 or a 6

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think I’m ok , 8 or 9 most days. Today I’m 11, my daughters come home & is taking me shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years. "

Hope who ever it was is ok.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make. "

Aren't there any men’s WhatsApp or telegram groups ? The women have loads...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make.

Aren't there any men’s WhatsApp or telegram groups ? The women have loads..."

Non that I’m aware of. Well not locally. Would be nice to have the opportunity to meet in a pub, God willing that Boris ever let’s us do that again.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make. "

Maybe check out Calm (Campaign against living miserably). They're quite male-focused and have 'collectives' - groups for people to hangout, talk football etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make.

Maybe check out Calm (Campaign against living miserably). They're quite male-focused and have 'collectives' - groups for people to hangout, talk football etc.

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Thank you. I wasn’t aware of them.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make.

Aren't there any men’s WhatsApp or telegram groups ? The women have loads...

Non that I’m aware of. Well not locally. Would be nice to have the opportunity to meet in a pub, God willing that Boris ever let’s us do that again. "

Set one up... be the change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Hope who ever it was is ok. "

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice


"Those below a 5 - do you have a good support system around you?

How long have you been feeling like this?

Have you spoke to a doctor?"

No because I am normally. Very positive person but right now watching my business that I have worked for 15 year on and that has grown every single one of those 15, slowly new destroyed by travel restrictions and the only thing Boris and Rishi want to do is save the pubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's low ish at the moment. I'm in a lot of pain nowadays and although i love my job generally, the clients are great, it's such a physical job and I'm struggling plus one member of staff is a nightmare.

I have the offer of a new job which is exactly what i had been thinking of doing but it's a massive change and scary because of that, so my MH is low at the moment. I have family problems too aswell as health and covid scares me and would probably kill me so i'm struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 6 today. That’s quite good, so many worries but I’m getting through the days x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Christ why do these threads always have to turn into a slanging match / bun fight / angsty anger

And from some of you who also post in the ‘be nice’ threads.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its been at -10 for the last few months but think now at a 3 or 4.

I’m glad it’s gone up x"

Thank you has taken some work, removing people I thought were friends from my life, learning to say no and been more selfish about my time too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m yo-yoing between about a 7 and 3. There doesn’t seem to be an in between. I don’t have any close friends locally and miss the platonic friendship of other men. It’s amazing the difference a beer and a banter can make.

Maybe check out Calm (Campaign against living miserably). They're quite male-focused and have 'collectives' - groups for people to hangout, talk football etc.

Thank you. I wasn’t aware of them. "

They’re great. My husband found them really useful. I hope things improve, although I know it’s not as easy as that

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

5 or 6 - pain.

I'll survive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now, around an 8-9 i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 but I’ll keep hiding it under just a nuisance

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

3/4, but it’s up from 1 so I’m not complaining.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've been a 5 for months now.

Heading towards a 6 as starting to feel slightly better.

Stay well OP .

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

My mental health, it's zinc lined ear drum flange, bongo nom nom.

Nough said really

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

Roughly, 3. Am supposed to be overseas, working on a job that would suit me perfectly. But, Covid came along and ruined that. Am also not getting out to speak to people, so the isolation is getting to me.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

3-4 but only because im poorly.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

5ish

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I've been hovering around 3 for a few years now, since my mum passed away and all sorts of family fall out. Friends have helped, and I've actually had a lot of support from some of the very good people of Fab. I do feel though that society as a whole has been getting worse - a massive rise in intolerance fed by trump, brexit, hostile money controlled media, russia - it kind of feels like one step forwards but two steps backwards. I keep taking the tablets, waiting for sunnier days, hoping that there will be chances again for physical and emotional closeness with dear friends.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

About 5 I would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2.tops..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean. I hope things get better for you. Just go one day at a time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10

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By *attM73Man
over a year ago

Oldham


"1 = shit

10 = fabdabadosey"
1, not good at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I'm about a 5, but i quite like that.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

5..meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Eh?"

Meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant what do you mean, not what did you say - you typed it quite clearly the first time y'know

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Hovered between 1-5 for pretty much the last 15 years

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I meant what do you mean, not what did you say - you typed it quite clearly the first time y'know"

I know, sweetie...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somewhere around - 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh ok. By the way, you never said what yours was....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meant what do you mean, not what did you say - you typed it quite clearly the first time y'know

I know, sweetie..."

Nice bum by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bouncing between a 4 and a 5 max , just a lot of shit happening which lockdown isn’t helping with unfort, very lucky to have a very supportive hubby else it would be lower still xx

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

10....

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

...9

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

...8

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I meant what do you mean, not what did you say - you typed it quite clearly the first time y'know

I know, sweetie...

Nice bum by the way. "

Thank you

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

...13

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a 10

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I'd say a 9.5 at the moment

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

A surprising 8 or 9 considering but am aware a dip is around the corner waiting somewhere, however I also know I have the right mindset and support network in place to get me through it when it comes

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

9 as perfection never really exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"9 as perfection never really exists "

How can you even say that when you’ve met me?!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"1 at the moment"

I hope this improves. I'm around a 4 but, trying to increase the score. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally a 5 due to ptsd

November and December it goes down hill

November is due to rememberance day and the events around it

And December is Christmas

Need to find a local fb to help me take my mind off it and cheer me up

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

Normally a 5, however lockdown coming will probably see Xmas cancelled, if I am put on unpaid leave because of lockdown, so a shake 3

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

1

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

-20

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

8

Despite all the pure sh!te I am going through at the mo.

Counselling helps.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ why do these threads always have to turn into a slanging match / bun fight / angsty anger

And from some of you who also post in the ‘be nice’ threads..... "

Agreed, seems 'be kind' only applies when it suits, not just on this thread but all over. Just a shame that someone came for support and got shot down I hope whoever that was is ok.

I rarely post or talk about my MH because everyone tries to counsel you, and also I can't stand false pretences or sentiments.

Not saying it happens but you often wonder at motives behind well wishing and sympathies sometimes, is it a genuine concern or a case of 'look at me being great' like I say, not saying that is the case, just my perception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a total pose and a load of crap. How's your mental health? and when people say crap not one word of encouragement or concern or asking people how they are. So anyone struggling at the moment is e erything OK can I help at all and keep going, just being here is success. Christ this scenes gone downhill over the years.

Simple solution to that mate

Simple solution to most stuff dude, if you're implying what I think you're implying, wouldnt take much, maybe you're on the wrong forum post "mate"

Yes, I was implying just don't comment if you don't like the thread

Encouraging suicide on a thread about mental health wow you're a diamond geezer

That wasn’t what he was implying!

Its certainly what it sounded like to me and the point I was making was you all wanna talk about mental health almost as a badge of honor but when someone says you know what yeah it's bad you totally ignore that person therefore creating more of the problem than there was. Over the years this scene has gone to pot it's more like Facebook for narcissistic people, the more young people that come into the scene a d I don't think they really understand it and can cause them problems. The scene used to give a shit about people and it was a friendly thing now a days just about the individual. And yes you cannot go onto a thread about mental health and talk about simple solution and not expect the subject to be suicide.

Typed out a long reply but...bye "

You said that to someone who mentioned suicide and was clearly not in a good place. Who was it?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour "

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve."

You did, and yes they were a very poor choice of words given the topic and open to much ambiguity, but the damage was done by that point.

Everyone posting on here has been/is clearly affected by mental health, me included, and what do you feel when someone ignores your plea? Depression certainly feeds on negativity imho.

Choose your words more carefully and be kinder, its not a lot to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has people no one in the past I have always suffered with mental health and depression ever since an early age. People know that I went to a funeral yesterday for one of my mates son's funeral he was only 13 and how he died was something that I could never ever imagine how is family must be feeling... knowing that they couldn't help him.

After the funeral took place I stayed in my car for half an hour I couldn't move my legs felt like jelly and that was all down to tothe nerves so as I keep telling people please be kind to one another

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Has people no one in the past I have always suffered with mental health and depression ever since an early age. People know that I went to a funeral yesterday for one of my mates son's funeral he was only 13 and how he died was something that I could never ever imagine how is family must be feeling... knowing that they couldn't help him.

After the funeral took place I stayed in my car for half an hour I couldn't move my legs felt like jelly and that was all down to tothe nerves so as I keep telling people please be kind to one another"

After being to far too many funerals in the last year I know where you’re coming from somewhat... Hope you and your friends are ok

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford


"1 at the moment"

Virtual hugs from us all. Stay safe

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Personally today I’m maybe a 7?... Lockdown here in Wales isn’t helping but I’m lucky enough to still be working.

If anyone is struggling I’m willing to offer a friendly ear to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are 4 or below, please don't think showing your cocks and fannies to strangers will make you feel better - it won't, and will add to the baggage you are already carrying.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

Virtual hugs to you all

I’m in the 3 to 7 range on any given moment, any given day. Certainly averaging well below where I would like to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve.

You did, and yes they were a very poor choice of words given the topic and open to much ambiguity, but the damage was done by that point.

Everyone posting on here has been/is clearly affected by mental health, me included, and what do you feel when someone ignores your plea? Depression certainly feeds on negativity imho.

Choose your words more carefully and be kinder, its not a lot to ask"

Yes, I agree, damage was probably done by that point. And I do get that many people on forums/these threads suffer from some form of MH issues. Believe me, I know what can result in ignored pleas. I have already said two or three times now it was a poor choice of words, probably a bit flippant but cannot take it back.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Pretty good so far today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a long long time of being a 2/3 I’d now say I’m up there at a 7/8 now and maintaining that level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve."

Looks like you did exactly that so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself . Its only by reading back through the thread that you pick up his initial comment about being at level 1 which then puts some context into the conversation. I've been in a long term relationship with a person with severe mental health issues and spent massive amounts of time walking on eggshells. Its hard enough when you can look into their eyes never mind from a single digit on a chat forum.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath


"1 = shit

10 = fabdabadosey"

My friends say im around a 3!!

But i just feel like im just me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 but it’s a daily struggle that’s for sure getting worse by the day

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve.

Looks like you did exactly that so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself . Its only by reading back through the thread that you pick up his initial comment about being at level 1 which then puts some context into the conversation. I've been in a long term relationship with a person with severe mental health issues and spent massive amounts of time walking on eggshells. Its hard enough when you can look into their eyes never mind from a single digit on a chat forum."

Oh, I'm not being too overly harsh on myself, but I do feel shitty about it all the same. If I knew about first post, I most definitely wouldn't have made any comment like I did. But it's done.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Currently a 7.

I’ve spent long periods at 1 though, with 0 being.....well, you know.

At times, I never thought I could be anything other than a 1, but it did improve eventually. I only mention it in the hope it encourages others.

Best wishes to those struggling - I know how hard it can be. Happy to offer support/virtual cwtches if it helps .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bang on 10 plus

Worlds a great place every day a new day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its been at -10 for the last few months but think now at a 3 or 4. "

Pleased to hear things are improving

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Wow! Was the person who got angry and left the same person who posted their level was 1 a few messages prior? I can understand their point if so. Those arguing with him should be ashamed. He reached out and hes gone because of it! Appalling behaviour

I am not sure if that was the same person or not, I didn't see the the first post, only the angry one after mine. Further on I did say my first choice of words to him was probably a poor choice of phrase, wasn't arguing with him though. Just thought it was a shitty rant about forums and mental health threads, which yes probably hit a nerve."

It isn't a shitty rant really though as he thought him or someone else ( can't tell if it was him who posted he was at number 1 ) was being ignored on a thread about MH

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ok if people are going to do these threads, can we have some inclusive answers and not just for yourself or regular posters

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Well my 5-6 is dropping rapidly won’t the leaked news that we are probably going into a second lockdown, may as well just close the doors for good now, 15 years and fucked Up by a government who want o save the pubs and don’t see any other business as viable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are the new buzzwords of the day - "mental health". I actually feel very sorry for those with genuine mental health issues. The rest are just trivialising a serious issue e.g. by putting on a bloody swinging forum "how's your mental health today?" Quite pathetic in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good how's your mental health everyone.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"They are the new buzzwords of the day - "mental health". I actually feel very sorry for those with genuine mental health issues. The rest are just trivialising a serious issue e.g. by putting on a bloody swinging forum "how's your mental health today?" Quite pathetic in my book.

"

Unfortunately people self diagnose or just feel a bit down for a week and declare that they suffer from depression when the rest of the time they are absolutely fine. Romanticising mental health issues is a seriously bad thing to do as it trivialises those that actually suffer from issue and makes people not take then seriously. I cant say how many times ive been circling the drain and you get responses like 'you just need to relax and cheer up'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are the new buzzwords of the day - "mental health". I actually feel very sorry for those with genuine mental health issues. The rest are just trivialising a serious issue e.g. by putting on a bloody swinging forum "how's your mental health today?" Quite pathetic in my book.

"

Man up lad

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

10++ but sexual frustration is on the increase!

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By *olinservingMan
over a year ago

wallasey

0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8

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By *otSoNewAnymoreMan
over a year ago

North East

10, same as every day. Top tip for people - stop watching the news.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok if people are going to do these threads, can we have some inclusive answers and not just for yourself or regular posters"

I literally can’t reply to everyone or I’ll be spamming the thread. I’ve messaged people. I physically couldn’t message him, then I went offline. Came back on, had a not so nice message that I ignored. Then he was gone.

Wish I hadn’t bothered. I didn’t make this thread so I could solve everyone’s problems, counsel people on issues I have no idea about. It was a thread for people to talk to each other, join in, communicate.

I’m always here for a chat if anyone needs a chat, or just a rant. I’ve made that clear.

Wasn’t my intention at all to make anyone feel shit. Obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They are the new buzzwords of the day - "mental health". I actually feel very sorry for those with genuine mental health issues. The rest are just trivialising a serious issue e.g. by putting on a bloody swinging forum "how's your mental health today?" Quite pathetic in my book.

"

Thank you, I’ll tell my psychologist and psychiatrist that I no longer need to see either of them. Fuck continuing with my CBT, no need to seek treatment for my anxiety, post natal depression and bipolar.

Just fancied using the buzzwords, ya know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ken what, absolutely no need for me to be here anymore.

Try my hardest but it’s never enough.

I’ll go find somewhere else to be miserable, to piss people off for asking how they are.

Cheerio

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

What a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicely done everyone. One person that actually gave a shit and she gets bullied in to deleting her account! Hope your happy with yourselves

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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Ok if people are going to do these threads, can we have some inclusive answers and not just for yourself or regular posters

I literally can’t reply to everyone or I’ll be spamming the thread. I’ve messaged people. I physically couldn’t message him, then I went offline. Came back on, had a not so nice message that I ignored. Then he was gone.

Wish I hadn’t bothered. I didn’t make this thread so I could solve everyone’s problems, counsel people on issues I have no idea about. It was a thread for people to talk to each other, join in, communicate.

I’m always here for a chat if anyone needs a chat, or just a rant. I’ve made that clear.

Wasn’t my intention at all to make anyone feel shit. Obviously. "

To be clear, I didn't mention any one person but now you have mentioned it your replies were not very friendly to the man either.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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A regular throws a strop and everyone else gets blamed.

Stop abusing people on the forum or you could end up with a ban

Can we remember the forum is for all not just the few, if people don't want to be friendly then they need to accept others will call them out on it, which a few people did.

Time to close

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