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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As many of you know all I posted this morning about going to a funeral and and well this is where I am now in the Dilemma I haven't got a black suit I am basically dressed all in grey now I'm not going to the crematorium I will be standing outside the crematorium well it still be ok to wear my grey suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course! Maybe a white shirt and black tie with it but that’s not important, everyone being there is.

Sending my thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think black is traditional, but I think your attendance and show of respect is much more important than what you wear

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. A show of respect is the most important thing. For my most recent not funeral people wore bright colours.

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By *riendly older leggy wifeCouple
over a year ago

london

Grey will be fine

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By *ordo320Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

I’d agree with others that attendance is the most important thing. As long as the colours are muted and somber you’ll be fine. Unless bright colours have been requested! Black is a bit old fashioned these days. But I’d stick to the black tie if possible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Grey is fine. .

Hope it all goes well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have posted the picture on my profile so you can see if I am over doing it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have posted the picture on my profile so you can see if I am over doing it"

Seems very suitable to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss OP

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have posted the picture on my profile so you can see if I am over doing it"

Remember to take the price tag off

Hope it goes as well as it can for all concerned x

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Grey is good. Been fortunate in my time and not had to attend many. That’s changing now though.

Two to attend in next two weeks. I’m determined never to buy a black tie. So, dark grey suit over a black tee shirt. Black coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grey suit is fine in my opinion (I usually pair it with a black shirt, I don't do ties)

Take care pal ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember,

it's a celebration of their time on this Plain, not a mourning of their passing onto another one.

Time for reflection, time for smiles and memories and a time to think how they touched your life personally. it's a time to set a place at the table, never to be filled again, but to be reminisced over, to raise a glass at the person they were (and still are... Just not in the physical sense) and a time to reflect on what us, as an individual, can do to make a difference as to their cause. We are there to carry on their purpose, we have that choice.

I believe we are all here for a purpose. Once that is achieved, we dance our way across the rainbow bridge, to a land that needs us....

Always remember that last smile they gave! That's the memory you want and the one to call upon when things get tough

Snuggles xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"As many of you know all I posted this morning about going to a funeral and and well this is where I am now in the Dilemma I haven't got a black suit I am basically dressed all in grey now I'm not going to the crematorium I will be standing outside the crematorium well it still be ok to wear my grey suit"

Yes I think thats ok, and I hope it goes well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss.

Don't worry about what you're wearing...as someone else already said, you being there is the main thing.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

You may want to check the dress code.

A black tie is the 'norm', not the black suit.

But I've been to funerals where the deceased want people to dress casual or brightly - to show a celebration of life.

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I hope it goes as well as possible. Big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember,

it's a celebration of their time on this Plain, not a mourning of their passing onto another one.

Time for reflection, time for smiles and memories and a time to think how they touched your life personally. it's a time to set a place at the table, never to be filled again, but to be reminisced over, to raise a glass at the person they were (and still are... Just not in the physical sense) and a time to reflect on what us, as an individual, can do to make a difference as to their cause. We are there to carry on their purpose, we have that choice.

I believe we are all here for a purpose. Once that is achieved, we dance our way across the rainbow bridge, to a land that needs us....

Always remember that last smile they gave! That's the memory you want and the one to call upon when things get tough

Snuggles xx"

Unless you are famous or millionaires people just wear what they choose to funerals and weddings now.

The last funeral I went to was for my best friend and I wore a turquoise Indian dress as she had lived in India for a while when her husband was in the Army and loved it there.

The important thing is to be there to allow yourself to grieve and say goodbye.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I have posted the picture on my profile so you can see if I am over doing it"

I am going to go against the grain and say I think the shirt isn't the right look

However, I don't know who's funeral you are going to and whether they would appreciate that shirt or not

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

To be honest i hate black at funerals. They should be a celebration of life and i prefer bright colours to be worn.

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

I think a word of condolence would show that there is some humanity left in this godless socitey

Or is wearing black the only impprtant tradition left

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