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By *mg 321 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Hi everyone long time reader first time poster!

I get that this is a woman’s market but honestly some of the profiles are borderline aggressive! A long list of rules, do’s and don’t’s, long rants about dick pics and how messages have to be unique and individual and carefully thought through.. it’s hard from a mans perspective.. do I dare put a dick pic on, should I spend 15 mins per message only for it to get deleted without being read? There’s some fantastic women on here and I love you all, but please won’t someone think of the men? After all without us this site wouldn’t be half as good. (For some of you anyway!) love and hugs x x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a filter. Read profiles, respect wishes, and if you don't like the profile, pass it by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a filter. Read profiles, respect wishes, and if you don't like the profile, pass it by."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums and your first thread If the profile doesn't appeal move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex sells dunno what i mean by that just thought it sounded cool

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By *anna Needs CockWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

The so called aggressive profiles are that way to put of the chancers, bullshitters and numpties. You do know its not compulsory to mail a profile you view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was probly rag week when she wrote it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex sells "

... but who's buying?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Was probly rag week when she wrote it "

No I'm just a moody bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab and the forums

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"It's a filter. Read profiles, respect wishes, and if you don't like the profile, pass it by."

This nobody tells you what to put on your profile, so if they’re more explicit and you don’t like it, look elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was probly rag week when she wrote it

No I'm just a moody bitch "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex sells

... but who's buying? "
the people of holbeck leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I agree. Once I see...Read the profile now I skip said profile. I’m bound not to be what they are looking for so on to the next which is usually the same

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I do understand the mans point but also understand the womens point where no matter what she puts on the profile 8 out of 10 times its not even read. So then you get messages that you reply to say no thank you when they've not bothered to read. Then they send abuse saying you're a timewaster etc because you don't want to meet them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand the mans point but also understand the womens point where no matter what she puts on the profile 8 out of 10 times its not even read. So then you get messages that you reply to say no thank you when they've not bothered to read. Then they send abuse saying you're a timewaster etc because you don't want to meet them!!

"

Tell them you was actually thinking about meeting them but the abuse changed your mind

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I do understand the mans point but also understand the womens point where no matter what she puts on the profile 8 out of 10 times its not even read. So then you get messages that you reply to say no thank you when they've not bothered to read. Then they send abuse saying you're a timewaster etc because you don't want to meet them!!

"

Yup

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I know that my profile is “demanding” but those wishes are what floats my boat .

By making any readers aware , I’m only trying to save their time ... oh and mine

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By *mg 321 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x "

If you use the quote button we'll know who you're talking to.

But everyone is allowed to be as demanding as we like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x "

Cheers mate

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

Cheers mate "

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By *mg 321 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

If you use the quote button we'll know who you're talking to.

But everyone is allowed to be as demanding as we like. "

Ah magic thank you! Well you obviously!! X x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

If you use the quote button we'll know who you're talking to.

But everyone is allowed to be as demanding as we like.

Ah magic thank you! Well you obviously!! X x "

I appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

If you use the quote button we'll know who you're talking to.

But everyone is allowed to be as demanding as we like.

Ah magic thank you! Well you obviously!! X x

I appreciate it "

I’ve never been brave enough to view your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile isn't like that at all

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Those profiles were once probably non aggressive and mega approachable sounding.

Inviting even.

And then comes the realisation that you're seen as fuck all more than a wet hole to many.

That despite you politely mentioning your preferences or whatnot, that well, it doesn't matter to many men folk. YOUR requests don't matter, you're not a human, you're a hole.

You must be a slag right, coz you're on here.

So then comes the defensive from the woman, then comes the standing the fuck up for the themselves at the first port of call and saying "NO, I will not accept any less than I deserve, not even as a woman..... but as fucking human"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Those profiles were once probably non aggressive and mega approachable sounding.

Inviting even.

And then comes the realisation that you're seen as fuck all more than a wet hole to many.

That despite you politely mentioning your preferences or whatnot, that well, it doesn't matter to many men folk. YOUR requests don't matter, you're not a human, you're a hole.

You must be a slag right, coz you're on here.

So then comes the defensive from the woman, then comes the standing the fuck up for the themselves at the first port of call and saying "NO, I will not accept any less than I deserve, not even as a woman..... but as fucking human"

"

Yeah. Very much. I've been there. I pulled back from it, but... sigh

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x "

Just to play devils advocate... Does that mean if someone is not in your opinion 'smokin' then they are not entitled to be demanding?

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

I wouldn’t let the demanding profiles put you off.

If you’re not what they’re looking for then move on.

That’s what I do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

Just to play devils advocate... Does that mean if someone is not in your opinion 'smokin' then they are not entitled to be demanding? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here as different reincarnations of DisneyFuckingCharachters for a erm .. while

And I can share some wisdom.

It REALLY doesn't matter what I put on my profile.

The messages are the same.

I had a profile that simply said

' Bollox' once.

Same messages.

I feel so special

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've been here as different reincarnations of DisneyFuckingCharachters for a erm .. while

And I can share some wisdom.

It REALLY doesn't matter what I put on my profile.

The messages are the same.

I had a profile that simply said

' Bollox' once.

Same messages.

I feel so special

"

I loved being the hottest woman in the whole of the north west when my only "picture" was the default avatar

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Hopefully i do not come across as demanding but i do make a point of saying what i want. I have seen very aggressive profiles from females and most have hot alot of veris so guess it works for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been here as different reincarnations of DisneyFuckingCharachters for a erm .. while

And I can share some wisdom.

It REALLY doesn't matter what I put on my profile.

The messages are the same.

I had a profile that simply said

' Bollox' once.

Same messages.

I feel so special

I loved being the hottest woman in the whole of the north west when my only "picture" was the default avatar "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hopefully i do not come across as demanding but i do make a point of saying what i want. I have seen very aggressive profiles from females and most have hot alot of veris so guess it works for them."

They have an available wet hole.

That's what's working for them.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock


"Hi everyone long time reader first time poster!

I get that this is a woman’s market but honestly some of the profiles are borderline aggressive! A long list of rules, do’s and don’t’s, long rants about dick pics and how messages have to be unique and individual and carefully thought through.. it’s hard from a mans perspective.. do I dare put a dick pic on, should I spend 15 mins per message only for it to get deleted without being read? There’s some fantastic women on here and I love you all, but please won’t someone think of the men? After all without us this site wouldn’t be half as good. (For some of you anyway!) love and hugs x x "

If you don't like the profile then don't message them. Surely you aren't so desperate as to need to message women you don't like?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I guess it depends whether you choose to view such profiles as being "demanding" or "giving you clear indications of what they're looking for so you have something to work with if you think you match up" OP.

Ultimately though why worry about how others have laid out their profile? You basically have two choices, find them appealing, comply with their wishes or find them unappealing and move on to one that is more appealing to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh some ppl are picky and that's just life, you scroll and move on. In terms of individual msgs, I have a standard introduction message. But yea, just see which profiles suit you and thus take it from there I guess and follow the rules of the profile.

Fair enough OP?

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Some of the demanding profiles I've come across do make me laugh.

As previously mentioned by the OP, you get the huge list of what Greek God like beings the profile is looking for but the profile photo's completely contradict what she seeks.

Always find that amusing

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone long time reader first time poster!

I get that this is a woman’s market but honestly some of the profiles are borderline aggressive! A long list of rules, do’s and don’t’s, long rants about dick pics and how messages have to be unique and individual and carefully thought through.. it’s hard from a mans perspective.. do I dare put a dick pic on, should I spend 15 mins per message only for it to get deleted without being read? There’s some fantastic women on here and I love you all, but please won’t someone think of the men? After all without us this site wouldn’t be half as good. (For some of you anyway!) love and hugs x x "

Would you really want to meet a ranty aggressive woman? Doesn't sound like much fun.

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By *mg 321 OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x

Just to play devils advocate... Does that mean if someone is not in your opinion 'smokin' then they are not entitled to be demanding? "

No of course not, it was only meant as a light hearted compliment. As I said I love all the beautiful women on here, big, small, black, white, doesn’t matter to me. X x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own and everyone has there own reasons and differences in what there looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hope that my profile comes across as being up front and honest

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Quick nosy at your profile and pics, you are entitled to be as demanding as you like! Smokin! X x "

So only hot people are allowed standards, or boundaries?

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Those profiles were once probably non aggressive and mega approachable sounding.

Inviting even.

And then comes the realisation that you're seen as fuck all more than a wet hole to many.

That despite you politely mentioning your preferences or whatnot, that well, it doesn't matter to many men folk. YOUR requests don't matter, you're not a human, you're a hole.

You must be a slag right, coz you're on here.

So then comes the defensive from the woman, then comes the standing the fuck up for the themselves at the first port of call and saying "NO, I will not accept any less than I deserve, not even as a woman..... but as fucking human"

"

Nailed it. That’s exactly what happened with me, and every single bad meet or shitty experience has added to it. However, none of it is unreasonable and decent people won’t find it hard at all. Also, if people read through the “aggressive”, “demanding” part, they’ll get to the friendly, approachable part.

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