FabSwingers.com forum: Lets Make Fab Better

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I have been a member for a couple of months and I have noticed 2 things. Couples/Females receive so many messages that the special one in the mail box may get missed during a mass delete. For men they moan about not getting any messages.

So Lets get the website to block any man from sending any wink/message/friends invites.

This will free up the others in the community here to review and select and give everyone some breathing space.

Good or bad idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here 2 months and knows it all already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t sound much fun for most of the fellas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 months in, he’s already jaded

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Women and couples can block men from messaging them if they wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know woman can put filters on to not receive mail from anyone. What needs to happen is everyone having the ability to read profiles. (I say everyone as it’s not just men!)

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

Haha someone’s trying to bag himself some brownie points with the whole of fab

Some of us good guys get just enough replies

If you’re not getting replies it’s not because their getting too many messages pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea. It would be a fun experiment.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

maybe it's best to just be concerned about yourself and let others play it their way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

Haha someone’s trying to bag himself some brownie points with the whole of fab

Some of us good guys get just enough replies

If you’re not getting replies it’s not because their getting too many messages pal

I’m not the one complaining

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Don’t worry the one decent message tends to shine like a beacon.

If a message doesn’t get a reply it isn’t always because it hasn’t been seen.

Women tend to self filter quite well.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

So men who pay the membership fee can't use all the features of the site like everyone else. Brilliant idea. That'll go far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

Haha someone’s trying to bag himself some brownie points with the whole of fab

Some of us good guys get just enough replies

If you’re not getting replies it’s not because their getting too many messages pal

I’m not the one complaining

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pal

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

"All I know is that I know nothing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha someone’s trying to bag himself some brownie points with the whole of fab

Some of us good guys get just enough replies

If you’re not getting replies it’s not because their getting too many messages pal

That's a bit unfair. You seem to be implying that the Op is not a good guy and by extension neither is any other man who rarely get replies.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

I do he messaged me earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the replies that matter. I even get the odd 1st message sent to me which is always nice. I like way it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

"All I know is that I know nothing"

At least you’re self aware

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

That's very weighted like it's a problem to solve a perceived problem for men though OP i.e. "My message isn't getting seen because of all the other messages ladies/couples get"

While it's true that some ladies get inundated with messages they have filters and other tools at their disposal to minimise that influx.

And men have everything at their disposal to make the best use of the site and get a positive experience from it, if they use the tools provided appropriately and in a way that works for them.

Your idea although a good one in principle wouldn't work for a couple of reasons - firstly some ladies like to be recipients rather than having to look for themselves, and secondly if you did that the forums would be awash with men moaning no-one ever messages them, or using the forums to try and attract attention, so you'd be shifting the "problem" from one place to another.

Now if it were a case that new male members can't message/wink etc for a period of time (say 2-4 weeks) then it might be workable.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

But what about the ladies that are too shy or don't like to send the first message? They'll never get any meets if they're looking for single guys.

And, it's really very easy to ignore/block/delete the numptybollocks messages, or to set your filters so that you don't receive them in the first place...I really don't see any reason to moan if you apply a bit of common sense to how you run your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As usual some very sarcastic replies just because somebody dares to have an opinion.

Personally I don't think it's a good idea OP, there is an option to be able to block certain groups from messaging you so if women or couples don't want to here from men for example they can block messages from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts on Connor mcgregors voice....

Have you seen this guy.....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think to the extent that changes like this might be suggested, I think they should be limited to newbies and not set across the board. Breathing room to get your head around the site if you don't realise you're going to be drowning in mail.

But the OP isn't to know this topic has been done to death

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Messages from single men to women can work OP . Some may well get bulk deleted but that usually means your choice of person is everybody else's choice and its not a reflection on yourself. I have been fortunate to see the messages single women receive daily and having done so you quickly realise how poor the quality can be.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

I do he messaged me earlier

Was it a faf message, or something more respectable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

I do he messaged me earlier

Was it a faf message, or something more respectable? "

We’re not allowed to discuss message content on open forum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

"All I know is that I know nothing"

At least you’re self aware

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you think couple profiles get bombarded with messages

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

I do he messaged me earlier

Was it a faf message, or something more respectable?

We’re not allowed to discuss message content on open forum. "

Thanks Rachel...I was only kidding

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"But the OP isn't to know this topic has been done to death"

As have many others over the years, we were all newbies once

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"But the OP isn't to know this topic has been done to death

As have many others over the years, we were all newbies once

Absolutely

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I haven't read the entire thread so may be repeating others...

I think that it would be helpful, if when opened all accounts defaulted to everyone blocked from messaging and a reminder being sent after a couple of weeks about changing settings.

I also think that it would be good, if you aren't allowed to message for at least the first 2 weeks after joining.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Been here 2 months and knows it all already

I've been on here for nearly 15 years and I don't know Jack!

I do he messaged me earlier

Was it a faf message, or something more respectable?

We’re not allowed to discuss message content on open forum. "

I didn't expect her to post explicit details

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I haven't read the entire thread so may be repeating others...

I think that it would be helpful, if when opened all accounts defaulted to everyone blocked from messaging and a reminder being sent after a couple of weeks about changing settings.

I also think that it would be good, if you aren't allowed to message for at least the first 2 weeks after joining."

Yes. And that female and MF couples at least are told not just that filters exist if you get a lot of mail, but that you're likely to get a lot of mail.

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By *hocosexy60Man
over a year ago

cardiff

You ve only been on the site 2 months so what gives you the right to come up with that idea?People can select their own filters to screen for what they re looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't read the entire thread so may be repeating others...

I think that it would be helpful, if when opened all accounts defaulted to everyone blocked from messaging and a reminder being sent after a couple of weeks about changing settings.

I also think that it would be good, if you aren't allowed to message for at least the first 2 weeks after joining.

Yes. And that female and MF couples at least are told not just that filters exist if you get a lot of mail, but that you're likely to get a lot of mail."

Perhaps filters should be set to ‘on’ and you have to chose to open that gates.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You ve only been on the site 2 months so what gives you the right to come up with that idea?People can select their own filters to screen for what they re looking for!"

Everyone can express a view...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You ve only been on the site 2 months so what gives you the right to come up with that idea?People can select their own filters to screen for what they re looking for!"

It does not matter how long somebody has been here. The OP has every right to post this thread.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I haven't read the entire thread so may be repeating others...

I think that it would be helpful, if when opened all accounts defaulted to everyone blocked from messaging and a reminder being sent after a couple of weeks about changing settings.

I also think that it would be good, if you aren't allowed to message for at least the first 2 weeks after joining.

Yes. And that female and MF couples at least are told not just that filters exist if you get a lot of mail, but that you're likely to get a lot of mail.

Perhaps filters should be set to ‘on’ and you have to chose to open that gates. "

I remember thinking "naah, I won't get a lot of mail"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts on Connor mcgregors voice....

Have you seen this guy.....

Say something else in that voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But the OP isn't to know this topic has been done to death

As have many others over the years, we were all newbies once

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Maybe there should be more of a tombola style system...?

...with a weekly draw?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe there should be more of a tombola style system...?

...with a weekly draw?

That sounds fun.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I remember thinking "naah, I won't get a lot of mail"

You need a new Postman, ma mate's called Pat if that's any good

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"You ve only been on the site 2 months so what gives you the right to come up with that idea?People can select their own filters to screen for what they re looking for!"

he has the same rights as everyone else to comment on the forum and make suggestion, the length of time he's been here is irrelevant.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"he has the same rights as everyone else to comment on the forum and make suggestion, the length of time he's been here is irrelevant. "

Quite a few other people have sort of said that as well, it's just a shame some folk get lambasted on here for asking a perfectly reasonable question.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Maybe there should be more of a tombola style system...?

...with a weekly draw?

How about something more hunger games style?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I don't think it's a good idea to treat any group of people differently to another.

Advice about filters when joining may be useful.

I think everyone just have the same access to the facilities of the site.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"he has the same rights as everyone else to comment on the forum and make suggestion, the length of time he's been here is irrelevant.

Quite a few other people have sort of said that as well, it's just a shame some folk get lambasted on here for asking a perfectly reasonable question."

yes they have and it is a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's a good idea to treat any group of people differently to another.

Advice about filters when joining may be useful.

I think everyone just have the same access to the facilities of the site."

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sure thing OP, I don’t, ahem, need a hand!

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Maybe there should be more of a tombola style system...?

...with a weekly draw?

How about something more hunger games style?"

The feeble getting out competed by more competitive peers...???

Some might say we already have that system!

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